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Help! My Child Is Giving Me Anxiety....... / How Do I Cope With Anxiety / How Do I Get Rid Of This Anxiety With My Siblings (2) (3) (4)
. by Nobody: 9:33am On Jun 15, 2019 |
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Re: . by Nobody: 9:36am On Jun 15, 2019 |
Re: . by Kaceman(m): 9:59am On Jun 15, 2019 |
Start with your coworkers mehn it will help also wen u get home try and leave the house go watch a match wen argument start put mouth for dere 1 Like |
Re: . by DeeMain(m): 10:13am On Jun 15, 2019 |
There are things/experiences/events in your past that have ingrained fear into your life. You may have had a dysfunctional childhood or had childhood experiences that were painful, traumatic and frightening. Read childhood as from your conception to age 12. Or something traumatic may have happened in your adolescence. So what's your story? You must have a story. Note that you may or may not be aware of this story as you may have been too young but your parents might know. There are other things but this is a good start to get to the roots of your problem. Without getting to the roots and uprooting the things that are triggering fear in you any solution you get will be like applying band aid to an open wound. Waiting for your response. Best wishes 2 Likes |
Re: . by Agrostyles: 10:44am On Jun 15, 2019 |
Nothing is really wrong with you. Its just your mind playing trick on you. I was once like this before, so let me tell you how I overcome mine. 1. I determined Its time I overcome this ish. 2. I watched self motivation videos on youtube on how to control anxiety. 3. I noticed all the videos i watched have something in common, which is " you gotta be willing make the effort repeatedly" until you are better. So first of all, during my nysc I make sure I stood up to contribute my own quota during discussion, I made sure I got involved enough to be elected the president of my CDI. So, first huddle overcomed. Now I have to be the one to anchor the meeting weekly. I remember my first time the LGI called on me to give a brief talk to all the CDI combined. It was my first time ever to face such crowd. So imagine the horror i felt. Mehn! It felt like my collar was shrinking and I was gonna be choked to death. I couldn't breath and i was fidgeting and shaking uncontrollably. But it get easier from hereon. Standing before my own CDI corpers seems like the longest 2 hrs of my life at the beginning. But with time I got better. I got more than better. Few people that noticed my Bleep up while i was addressing the whole corpers actually commended me later on.. They were like who knew u could talk like this or be this funny. So in the long run I was able to face them and I noticed my heart don't beat as hard as it used to before. To further eliminate the ish, After NYSC, I specifically looked for a teaching job so I could get involve with my peers ( the teachers) and also be able to interact with small crowd. I ensure I anchor most programmes such as debates sessions, assembly etc. After about six month of doing this I noticed I have overcome the ish, at least to a non significant level. I quit the job, used my newly found confidence to seek other job and I always perform fantastic at interviews. I have since gotten over three offers since then. Lets I forget, I'm a bit of stammerer also, so if i can overcome anxiety issue as a stammerer, then bro I assure you, you can to. You just need to put in the effort. One thing I noticed is that no matter how many time the likes of me and you messed up publicly, the world seems to move on faster and no one takes it to heart. So forgive urself and forge ahead asap. 14 Likes |
Re: . by lilmax(m): 10:57am On Jun 15, 2019 |
locking yourself up is not the problem you overanalyze you don't laugh at your fck up you're are not perfect you take nairaland seriously I was like you 20 years ago,so trust me 1 Like |
Re: . by Obaakran: 3:35pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
see a therapist 2 Likes |
Re: . by Richy4(m): 5:35pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
Oh!! I feel really sad reading this and I also feel sorry for those two friends of yours.. This is because as u know, no one is perfect. If they unintentionally offends you, u will be shattered like glasses.. no one might even pick the pieces..I guess they have to tiptoe around u when the subject of going out comes up... I would have asked you how you managed to pass through an interview phase and got for yourself a job.. if you were not chewed during the interview, then trust yourself that u can overcome the anxiety... I want you to know that no one was looking at you during the church gathering.. your mindset wants u to believe that people were judging u which is lies.. I will suggest that you u ask your friend to take u there again and again... it is called meeting your demons eyeball to eyeball.. Confront your fears because all fears wanted was for you to do what you have done which was to go home and cry.. tell yourself U don't wanna do that again... and mean it... U have taken the baby step by going the first time to meet with people..it was not successful but remember babies while walking tends to fall but they usually try again and again... please try again and again just like babies do while trying to walk.. 4 Likes |
Re: . by mcdokwe(m): 5:53pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
Imogenn:no sweetheart, your life is not ruined. I understand you are someone who enjoys her space alone. It is not a crime, neither is it awkward to want it like that You want to make a change, not because you really need to, but because you want to. So don't push your self too hard. It might serve you well to start enjoying the company of understanding friends in a very little number, say three or four at a time, it may grow from there. There's no need for pressure, absolutely no need. Grace. 1 Like |
Re: . by LilMissFavvy(f): 6:30pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
Although something may have happened during your childhood, which is responsible for your current anxiety issue, am sure it's not a big deal. You can get out of it with patience. You need to stop the ''from work to my room'' routine. Mingle with people, take yourself out for a treat, a show, a concert, etc, go alone, repeat it often, till you are used to mixing up in large crowds. When you are out alone, and someone says hello, or chats you up, respond accordingly, by the time you keep mixing with people, you will gradually get to the stage where you can go out with your friends and be able to handle self introduction, proper eye contacts, etc. Like you mentioned that ''yesterday you decided to challenge yourself and went to a church gathering'', you feel bad that you didn't introduce yourself properly, or maintain good conversations, but how can you achieve these if you do not first of all ''get used to mixing up with people'' ''crowds'', '' conversations with strangers'', etc, before you get enough social skills to achieve a good self introduction when on an outing with friends? My point is, although yesterday went bad according to you, continue to go out, continue to mix with people, go on outings alone, go on outings with friends, stop isolating yourself, as time goes on, you will get better. |
Re: . by Deepfeel(m): 6:41pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
A lot of kids who grew up in fenced house not allowed to go out and associate with other kids become this way in adulthood 7 Likes |
Re: . by Uyi168: 6:49pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
Seeing a therapist is a sure way to go. .. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: . by Misspure(f): 7:04pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
My dear, I was like u b4 but now people are saying I talk too much. I encourage u not to stop d challenge u have started u will get there soon |
Re: . by Mizwisdom(f): 7:30pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
Trust me, you're over exaggerating people's reactions towards you. It seems your mind is suggesting all these lies to you because of your negativity. Now, you need a therapist that will help you control your thinking 1 Like |
Re: . by ichidodo: 8:34pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
Yours is even small... I have been diagnosed with Antisocial anxiety disorder,General anxiety disorder and MDD (major depressive disorder) by a reputable psychiatric hospital and I genuinely empathize with you that is why you have got to be told of on how its gonna be....but as I beat my demons,I believe you can beat yours in order to live your life. First of,speaking from experience, don't fight it especially when you feel the tide coming and the panic mode setting. Just flow with it because the more you fight the anxiety,the more you begin to freak out and so the vicious cycle continues until you look like the mad woman on the street and being traumatised in the process. "Flowing with it" means succumbing to the anxiety or stop resisting the panic mode so as to break that vicious cycle i.e taking it easy with yourself,set small goals for you to achieve, letting those you genuinely trust know your mental struggles, avoid pushing yourself too much or feeling guilty or ashamed because it is perfectly normal. Seek help, psychological help...take medications (antidepressants ) when you feel overwhelmed (but try to avoid addiction). Do things you enjoy doing and avoid to much worries....in a nutshell, when you live your life anticipate the worst that can happen but HOPE for the best. Las las you go dey alright. 2 Likes |
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Re: . by Bestboy11513(m): 11:13pm On Jun 15, 2019 |
I feel your pain, try to relax and take a breath whenever you're in such situations, you don't owe anyone perfection. You're too hard on yourself. 1 Like |
Re: . by IghravweIG(m): 12:25pm On Jun 28, 2019 |
ichidodo:Bro i have also been diagnosed with depression and general anxiety disorder. How do you cope with yours? |
Re: . by ichidodo: 12:36pm On Jun 28, 2019 |
IghravweIG:You basically let go of yourself and not to take things too seriously. Understand what makes you boil over and work around it. And if it feels you are being overwhelmed, talk to someone or a psychologist and take antidepressants. |
Re: . by IghravweIG(m): 2:04pm On Jun 28, 2019 |
ichidodo:Thanks. I'm currently on propanolol and Lorazepam. This stuff is terrible bro. You will feel like your reality is fading before your very eyes |
Re: . by ichidodo: 2:17pm On Jun 28, 2019 |
IghravweIG:Yeah..I've been there, in fact,still currently there. But you have to take it easy on the drugs because of addiction. The drugs help you to stay in control in the short term, but you have to be in control without any aid in the long term. Understanding you trigger points and working around them is a good start. Mine is panic attacks. ...When I get those attacks. General anti-social anxiety and the worst kind of anxiety creeps in and then after which I slide into deep depression and not just any kind of depression but terminal depression. So I learnt via my psychiatrist to understand the pattern and break it. So when I feel the trigger setting in, I do something different like abruptly taking a long walk, reading a book,change my thought process or maybe change my environment.Try to find your pattern and then break it. 4 Likes |
Re: . by IghravweIG(m): 2:52pm On Jun 28, 2019 |
ichidodo:Thanks for this. I suspect one of the triggers for me is stress and being alone. I will try to work on this aspect and see how things turn out. 1 Like |
Re: . by ichidodo: 3:03pm On Jun 28, 2019 |
IghravweIG:Alright...Stay safe bro. 2 Likes |
Re: . by izzimus: 9:26pm On Jul 13, 2019 |
ichidodo: Please what antidepressants did you take, I went to see a doctor for depression and was given fluoxetine but it did nothing What drugs did you use and how did they make you feel? Thanks |
Re: . by ichidodo: 1:22am On Jul 14, 2019 |
izzimus:Sertraline...also know as Zoloft. Mehn that sh*t will knock you out.It is best you take it with doctor'a prescription or if you can, take one tablet the first day..then two tablets subsequently for the next two weeks. Watch out for side effects like light headedness, nausea,slight headaches and my favourite, prolonged ejaculation..lol |
Re: . by izzimus: 1:34am On Jul 14, 2019 |
ichidodo: Thank you. I dont mind the side effects as long as it works. |
Re: . by ichidodo: 1:37am On Jul 14, 2019 |
izzimus:Alright bro..Stay safe. 1 Like |
Re: . by izzimus: 1:41am On Jul 14, 2019 |
ichidodo: Sorry for asking but did depression affect your memory? I don't know if it's a normal thing but I had his tendency to easily forget things and get distracted easily |
Re: . by ichidodo: 1:49am On Jul 14, 2019 |
izzimus:Yeah it does...sometimes it delays your reaction to things and you might find it hard to think constructively thus weaning you off the probability of falling into intense anxiety or deep depression. If you try to worry too much,it knocks you off to sleep that is why you shouldn't handle machinery or drive when you're on medications. |
Re: . by izzimus: 2:04am On Jul 14, 2019 |
ichidodo:That's good to know, thanks 1 Like |
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