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LastSurvivor11:
Very soon you will hear “COZA gateman speaks on rape”

Expect anything from nairaland

Jayslicky:
Nonsense and gibberish, if a person tries to rape you and you can't scream or fight such person without been threatened with a weapon then it is obvious you wanted it except you were drugged.

Life has a way to prove you wrong with personal reality. Only a matter of time... you will remember your words when the victim is either a close relative ...or yourself.

Jayslicky:
Nonsense and gibberish, if a person tries to rape you and you can't scream or fight such person without been threatened with a weapon then it is obvious you wanted it except you were drugged.

You really don’t understand the meaning of the word “consent”.

Xda59:
And not one of the over 30 victims could scream, fight or go to the police. This is more than just coincidence. This morally bankrupt celebrities without integrity think we all are fools. If you were not overpowered, held at gun point or drugged then forcefully penetrated, then that is no rape period!

Look at it from the victims point of view

1.You are in a depressed state, and you want to go and tell the police about what happened to you? A group of strangers, even though they are trying to help you?

2.You have to go to a hospital to get a doctor's report. And the doctor has to examine you. At the spot where you were raped. While your psyche is still messed up from the rape.

3.Society is going to blame you for the rape. Your marriage chances diminish. If you are married, your husband won't touch you again. And so on.

4.take the case to court, means exposure of your story to the press and the public. Means that you would be shamed the more. And additionally, the rapist family will come after you with threats and pressure.

See why cases get reported late

Dailyhappenings:
The Nigerian Film maker, Kemi Adetiba in a tweet educates Nigerians on the different behaviours of rape victims.

she wrote...

"This is a reminder to those that do not know or aren't sure - a victim of RAPE can go for decades without confronting her truth. Another reminder - not all rape victims SCREAM and FIGHT. This is not the movies, and there's is no one way react to shock or survive trauma."

Source: https://www.musictori.com/2019/06/kemi-adetiba-educates-nigerians-on-how.html

it then means it's not rape. Otherwise how did she deny the assistant her consent. Busola should have just consulted hee lawyer before making her story public.

plaetton:
With so many mo.rons like you, Nigeria has serious problems.

Yes and with many mo.rons like you that swallow sillly stories without using your brains for a second

Nigeria has failed

cococandy:
They live in a society that condones and pats them on the back

I'm beyond shocked at this point.
The bullshit I've seen since yesterday, I really can't believe it.

They are fuçking bold
These rapists and their apologists are not hiding or trying to be sly, they are coming out in full force typing trash without shame.

I don't even know where to start from with cancelling comments and cursing out these rapists and their apologists.
Their comments are just too many.

You're right.
The society is really messed up,.
Saddening and maddening.
I'm beyond incensed

Jayslicky:
Nonsense and gibberish, if a person tries to rape you and you can't scream or fight such person without been threatened with a weapon then it is obvious you wanted it except you were drugged.

by law, non consensual sex is termed rape regardless of whether the victim screamed or not, many times people use their position to influence or subject others to do something that is against their wish and the victim out of fear may decide not to scream to save themselves from injury or even death.

cococandy:
They live in a society that condones and pats them on the back

Exactly. They dont know

LastSurvivor11:
Very soon you will hear “COZA gateman speaks on rape”

Remember say Ned Nwoko and Regina Neva react.

Jayslicky:
Nonsense and gibberish, if a person tries to rape you and you can't scream or fight such person without been threatened with a weapon then it is obvious you wanted it except you were drugged.

I was told Nairaland is filled with children and adults that think like children but I never believed it, until this scandal. You are not a very smart person Jayslicky, as a matter of fact you have not even the slightest hint of what it means to be smart.

That was a dumb and stupid post you just made, and if not that you are living the life of a privileged male you will never spew such rubbish.

For the people saying why didn't she scream, she obviously said she tried to scream, and he covered her mouth. Also, she was in shock. You know how people put Pastors on a pedestal like demigods...imagine how shocked the 17 year old girl would have been to see her intermediary to God on earth pull out his dicck to rape her.

ALAGOGO007:
, IN ASA VOICE, " let he who is without sin be the first to cast the stone" Everybody is now a rape specialist and counselor

Oga so because we all sin we should call out rape when we see it.

If I hear you say peem about corrupt politicians or SARS I will show you this comment. Se you're also with sin now, so you have no right to call them out.

Daeylar:
I'm beyond shocked at this point.
The bullshit I've seen since yesterday, I really can't believe it.

They are fuçking bold
These rapists and their apologists are not hiding or trying to be sly, they are coming out in full force typing trash without shame.

I don't even know where to start from with cancelling comments and cursing out these rapists and their apologists.
Their comments are just too many.

You're right.
The society is really messed up,.
Saddening and maddening.
I'm beyond incensed at this point.

you probably won't get it while viewing the perspective from a lady's point of view.

It's a strange world

But las las she enjoyed that dick

Jayslicky:
Nonsense and gibberish, if a person tries to rape you and you can't scream or fight such person without been threatened with a weapon then it is obvious you wanted it except you were drugged.

Spoken like a qualified idiot.

A strong person can overpower another person easily without weapons or drugs and can keep that person down with threats of violence.

Dailyhappenings:
The Nigerian Film maker, Kemi Adetiba in a tweet educates Nigerians on the different behaviours of rape victims.

she wrote...

"This is a reminder to those that do not know or aren't sure - a victim of RAPE can go for decades without confronting her truth. Another reminder - not all rape victims SCREAM and FIGHT. This is not the movies, and there's is no one way react to shock or survive trauma."

Source: https://www.musictori.com/2019/06/kemi-adetiba-educates-nigerians-on-how.html

I totally agree with the second point but I don't know about the first

tactius:
Look at it from the victims point of view

1.You are in a depressed state, and you want to go and tell the police about what happened to you? A group of strangers, even though they are trying to help you?

2.You have to go to a hospital to get a doctor's report. And the doctor has to examine you. At the spot where you were raped. While your psyche is still messed up from the rape.

3.Society is going to blame you for the rape. Your marriage chances diminish. If you are married, your husband won't touch you again. And so on.

4.take the case to court, means exposure of your story to the press and the public. Means that you would be shamed the more. And additionally, the rapist family will come after you with threats and pressure.

See why cases get reported late

I kinda love your insight and would love to buttress.

When a lady is raped, even if by another someone in her age group. She feels worthless and a lot starts running through her mind. The confusion will make her believe she is safer if she does not share as only her and the rapist are aware.

Now the rapist haven known this, will now capitalise on that fact and take you in turns cos he is now certain you cant talk and the victim is already mentally unstable and does not even know anylonger whats going on. She becomes a sex slave.

I laugh when people say t happened several times like they have not heard on this same Nairaland where fathers rape their daughters for years before all hell is let lose.

All this antagonist dont know the play. They just ranting from the outside. You can be raped over and over again. You already broken and it takes only a miracle to get you out o the hands of such rapist.

kay29000:
For the people saying why didn't she scream, she obviously said she tried to scream, and he covered her mouth. Also, she was in shock. You know how people put Pastors on a pedestal like demigods...imagine how shocked the 17 year old girl would have been to see her intermediary to God on earth pull out his dicck to rape her.

Even if she was born and bred in a Coventry with a horrifying looking abyss she'll be able to scream

She said he cover her mouth, lol wetin man no go hear

kay29000:
For the people saying why didn't she scream, she obviously said she tried to scream, and he covered her mouth. Also, she was in shock. You know how people put Pastors on a pedestal like demigods...imagine how shocked the 17 year old girl would have been to see her intermediary to God on earth pull out his dicck to rape her.

I can bet my neck that most persons here speaking against her haven't watched the interview. I myself was skeptical about the while thing, until I and my bro watched the whole thing, and then I knew that there must be some element (if not total) of truth in that story.

tactius:
Look at it from the victims point of view

1.You are in a depressed state, and you want to go and tell the police about what happened to you? A group of strangers, even though they are trying to help you?

2.You have to go to a hospital to get a doctor's report. And the doctor has to examine you. At the spot where you were raped. While your psyche is still messed up from the rape.

3.Society is going to blame you for the rape. Your marriage chances diminish. If you are married, your husband won't touch you again. And so on.

4.take the case to court, means exposure of your story to the press and the public. Means that you would be shamed the more. And additionally, the rapist family will come after you with threats and pressure.

See why cases get reported late

No one is disputing all these. What sensible people are asking is should mere accusations on social media be enough to give a guilty verdict to the accused?

I could as well come right here and scream oh Tactius is a criminal and expect everyone to label you a criminal, just because I SAID it.

Even here on nairaland in the Business board you have accusations flying left and right, mods ask for PROOFS before flagging the account of the accused.

Hallelujah ooooo. They can’t make much noise. Their pastor don hammer.

She makes a good point.

Iyajelili:
What she said is actually true especially in Africa where the victim (female) have to live with the shame if the rape comes to light. This is the major reason why victims don't talk out or go to court because no one would believe you and you'd be left to bear the shame alone.
I know a rape victim that even her family didn't believe her story not until after some years. No she has trust issue even with her family members

Itfdem don use force knack you. you better talk now. it automatically turns u into a celebrity

JJOF:
I can bet my neck that most persons here speaking against her haven't watched the interview. I myself was skeptical about the while thing, until I and my bro watched the whole thing, and then I knew that there must be some element (if not total) of truth in that story.

Exactly

PlanetOfApes:
I’m yet to see any robust reply from Fat Oyinbo but I have my own robust reply here.
Fat Oyinbo is indisputably a fuc boy perhaps one with such skills and tools that can melt the brain.
I guess he has been aware of his strength as a talented fuc boy way back and also knows the weakness of his victims. He is always guilty as charged so I believe things said about him are true, not just slanders or blackmail.
However one thing that always confuses me is that those who always claim to be the victims of his randiness are always the accomplices too, who always ensure he successfully carried out his misbehaviours on them. Victims and accomplices I say.
The case of Ese Walter for instance, if I remember what she said then correctly, their sexcapade happened outside Nigeria. She can’t call that a rape or say he coerced her but let’s just say he took advantage of her psychologically. It’s easy for him to take advantage of you the first time, perhaps the second time too but how can you claim someone took advantage of you for over a week. That’s over 7 fvcking days! 7 days make a week. Perhaps they did it for 10 or 14 days.
I’m not acquitting Fat Oyinbo as being innocent but still, some of these ladies shouldn’t make him look like a devil while they try to make themselves look like saints. You can’t put all the blame on him. How will a mature lady who knows her left hand from right pretend to be so vulnerable after enjoying the whole thing. I hate that shiiit.
He took advantage of you the first day, the second day, the third day too you already knew his intentions but instead of kicking against it this time, you allowed him, enjoyed every bit of what he was doing to you until it happened for over a week. People are quick to get sentimental and support the so called victims in situations like this since they are women but I can’t be fooled. There are genuine cases but there are also cases of women who take advantage of situations. They try to eat the cake and also have it. They perfectly enjoy any opportunity of such sexcapades, at the same time will want to look like saints and put all the blame on men. I only think some of these girls open up eventually when they no longer have any other opportunity for the sexcapades anymore. They miss the whole thing and so are pained only to change their pain into blackmailing the man involved.
If you are not held at gun point, coerced, overpowered by a gang or one powerful body builder or someone much powerful than you, if it’s just an ordinary guy; then bite his nose off, hit him on the head, defend yourself, no mature adult lady should come later to be claiming rape victim when you were the accomplice of the whole thing.
I know that there will be other ladies already admiring the man looking for opportunities with him or some who are already in sexual adventure with him but would not say anything now until when they no longer have such opportunities again.
Smart women always taking advantages of situation, especially when the guy is rich or famous or if such ladies want public sympathy or attention. The likes of Kim Kardashian, Sola Fapson or whatever she calls herself. Not every rape or abuse allegation is genuine.
Monica Lewinsky almost wrecked the life of Bill Clinton with her scandal only for the bitch to confess recently after spoiling his reputation that she was the one who intentionally seduced the poor man.
I wouldn’t support a genuine abuse or rape case but I’m not part of the general public who are unnecessarily sentimental and biased with everything a woman says just because she’s a woman.

well said my brother, you're one of those who thinks with their head and not their pennis.

Jayslicky:
Nonsense and gibberish, if a person tries to rape you and you can't scream or fight such person without been threatened with a weapon then it is obvious you wanted it except you were drugged.

I had to reread again. It was pure NONSENSE. A weapon has to be involved to validate the rape abi? You shud av just ended it at THREATENED

That Busola is too fine for a man of God to be ignored. Also the man of God is too handsome to be denied...

dazzlingd:
Absolutely correct.....its a psychological torment to be raped..

Some people react immediately, cry, fight and spill out the anger..
Some keep it deep down and it torments them for life..

No rapist should go unpunished, all rapists must perish!!!! Biodun Fatoyinbo is a serial womanizer, those who know him knows hes nothing but shiiit, a monster.....he will not go unpunished inshallah

you want to cause Star Wars abi God's Wars?? Why u go wan use allah attack jesus anointed son??


Don't the earth already have enough of problems??

Abeg leave Allah and God out of this... Fight the people annoying u ursef.. U know where they live.

Zombiekiller010:
Have been wrongly accused of rape.

Let me share my story here.

When i was in my final semester in sch, there is one
ND1 pretty endowed lady(big ass) that used to catch my attention , i collected her number and we started talking and she accepted to date me, not up to a week, she came to know my hostel, i also went to visit her to know where she live outside campus, everything was going smoothly ,on my 2nd visitation to her, we smooch ,she is a churchy type (SU) telling me she is a virgin and not ready for premarital sex, been a guy with OT , i expressed my love to her and the reason why she need to open legs for me to boost our love, she lost herself in romance and we had our first sex ,no drop of blood, thou she is tight, on my 2nd visitation to her in the evening, it was already late and she told me to sleep over, we had our 2nd sex , we both enjoyed it and she told me how she has loved me more, on my 3rd visitation to her, i went with my 2 friends, she welcome us ,play and i took her out to buy her provisions, so the following week, i started writing my final semester exam, no time to call her like b4 and to visit her, she sent me messages expressing how much she miss me and needs to see me, shorty after i finished my exam for that day, i & my friend went to visit that my new endowed girlfriend , my friend went back to the hostel leaving me at my girlfriends place, after joking, lots to talks and romance, we had our 3rd sex, i went back to my hostel that evening relaxing outside on a bench, not up to 30min i got home,

I heard, this is the guy, a hot slap hit on my ear and push me down from bench, b4 i know whats happening, many guys has been beating me and stripped me to my boxer, i hold my balls and dick to protect it from getting hit and i was shouting for help cus i dont know those guys beating me ,i dont know what i did, many people gathered to watch , it was some elderly people in that street that came to rescue me from those guys , when one of those guys beating me switch on torch light to look at my face, he happens to be the guy i know and i do give him little change in street( he is a well know thug) . everybody was eager to know what have done to deserve the beating, those guys said it was a church brother to that my endowed girlfriend that raised alarm to them that i raped Bunmi, at this point,i was like which Bunmi, she stare at me and said i raped her, some guys started hitting me again, i was giving opportunity to talk, i showed them messages that Bunmi sent to me that same day expressing her love to me , i showed them proof that have once slept over at her room and this is our 3rd sex, Bunmi couldn't denied it cuz of the text messages i showed as evidence that we were dating, those thugs slapped her, hit and and tore her clothe, they started apologising to me and everybody that came to watch that scene started raising curse on Bunmi for accusing me wrongly, i know you'll want to know her reasons for accusing me of rapping her.

She said she felt bad for opening legs for me within 3 weeks that we meet , i also think she was dating her church member and they haven't had sex prior to the time i asked her out, seems they had issues while b4 i met her and that reconcile on my 3rd visitation to her place , maybe she narrated her sex life with me to her church boyfriend , you know ladies always hide under rape to make them looks like they didn't consent to sex, Bunmi and her foolish sympathiser left in shame, police station is Opp her house, they asked her why she didn't went to report to police, as a poor boy be then, no means to take up the matter legally but

Am still waiting for the best time to revenge.

Bunmi 2018 set, OND @ the polytechnic Ibadan,living at Oluyole medical laboratory building sango ibadan opp police barack

back to the Issue of Fatoyinbo, he may truly had sex with Busola,been a married man and a Pastor, he is wrong if he is guilty,as for Busola Dakolo, you cant tell me a 17 years old girl is too young to resist sex back then, its like saying regina Daniel should come out in the next 10 years for accuse Ned Nwoko or raping her and forcefully marrying her if Ned later divorce her.

Timi Dakolo had issues with that pastor and want to use her wife as a tool to bring tarnish his image.

On your personal story, pls don't revenge