J111333:
Who is this proud baboon?

gracegrace668:
Uninvited guests will show up and get upset when you don't seem excited to see them. They are usually the first to ask "what did you cook, is there cold drink in the fridge?"

As for me, I just lock my gate from outside and switch off my phone when I sight them.

Danwakae:




U are very stingy, and u also visit those higher than u too....according to Christian's , it is more blessed to give than to received, be happy to give because u get more when u give twice what u gave...givers never lack...That's how u will lock ur gate at somebody sent to come deliver ur multi million dollars contracts u ve applied for yrs back just for being selfish...sip it.

VRDroid:
Pride goes before a fall.....

Lugianostar:
You don't make any point at all

Look at a terrible flop talking with mouth open like wetin i know No

Little wonders they say "Birds of the same feathers flocks together"

You + El - rufai = confusion

Chekwube1989:
Stupid woman just like her useless husband

NiggasInParis:


Which side in Wuye abeg

post=81264963:

So it is not only our Yoruba friends, neighbors, colleagues, staff and customers that love this food they specially call ABULA
A food they made us fall in love with also?!
Even other non-yorubas love it?!

Wow........we must go get some plates for all of us @ at WHITE HOUSE, Yaba
OR AMALA SHITTA, Surulere this weekend o.
Been a while.

ABULA of life....

Who else can relate please!?

abdeiz:
She knows what she's saying. If you've live in the house of an influential person you'd understand. They hardly have time for themselves.

dangotesmummy:
that is not pride that is taking charge of your space and setting boundaries.if you have scheduled what you will do today and someone came uninvited to interrupt your schedule, how will you feel?

There was a Saturday a friend came to my house unexpectedly.i had plans going to the salon after doing the dishes,she met me cooking and when I asked her why she came she said she came to invite me to a wedding party.1st of all I don't know the couple who's getting married,you didn't inform me of your visit before Saturday and you expect me to follow you and live my own plans for the day.of course I told her that I will soon be going out and I will appreciate if she leaves.that was the last day she was in my house.she resents me for it till today but I don't give a fok because it's those who are offended when you set boundaries are exactly the people you don't need in your life.people that cannot respect the space of others

dangotesmummy:
why are you upset she is telling you the rules of how coming to her home operates?

post=81264963:

So it is not only our Yoruba friends, neighbors, colleagues, staff and customers that love this food they specially call ABULA
A food they made us fall in love with also?!
Even other non-yorubas love it?!

Wow........we must go get some plates for all of us @ at WHITE HOUSE, Yaba
OR AMALA SHITTA, Surulere this weekend o.
Been a while.

ABULA of life....

Who else can relate please!?

post=81264963:

So it is not only our Yoruba friends, neighbors, colleagues, staff and customers that love this food they specially call ABULA
A food they made us fall in love with also?!
Even other non-yorubas love it?!

Wow........we must go get some plates for all of us @ at WHITE HOUSE, Yaba
OR AMALA SHITTA, Surulere this weekend o.
Been a while.

ABULA of life....

Who else can relate please!?

IamSoProlific:


Where in wuye please, fcda don pursue my spot for wuse....

Lugianostar:


Will never have any second thought in planing to visit her after all.

Thanks

VRDroid:


True, Personally, it is the reason I motorized my Gate and no matter how anyone knocks and stands there, if I did not permit anyone coming and if the person did not call to say he or she is coming, I might just be looking at CCTV and ignoring, cos mostly I am not ready to sit down with anyone and discuss anything at all. Mostly reclusive here.

But that being said; When one decides to become 'public' figure, then one has automatically ceased to remain private. Private Citizens can stop intrusions, but public citizens are what they are; Public. And must entertain all baggage associated with 'earning public money'.

I just see the El Rufais as highly repugnant, egoistic and outrightly proud. From El-Rufai, to his Wife and of course his Son who insults people and make crazy utterances.

Apple does not fall far from the tree. We must decide if to be Private or Public Citizens and set our boundaries based on that.

Most importantly, irrespective of our feelings, we must remain diplomatic in utterances. We can not always tell people what we feel all the time. There is a better way to communicate it than stating if you are reading a book or eating, you will not entertain anyone who did not get an appointment for a visit. It will sound better saying 'Please get an appointment before showing up as you have so much visitors and even personal family issues to handle at certain times. It is called Allocation of Resources such as Time.

dangotesmummy:
do you know how many times she will have warned people not to come to her house uninvited.even me that I'm not a politician or politicians wife I know how people still come to my house uninvited even after several kind warnings no to do that e.g kemi kemi,my friend my friend,thanks for coming but if you come like this again and you didn't tell me you might not meet me at home o.but still they won't hear word.but when you are firm about it, everybody will know their place

Infact I usually find it funny and ridiculous when Nigerians get offended the moment you decide not to allow any garbage into your house,space or even at work.immediately it will be interpreted as PRIDE

dangotesmummy:
yinmu.thats why you should be allowing any deek and Harry to enter your house till armed robbers enter

Decency, decorum, self-respect and respect for others demand that you call before going.if they say I'm around, you can come, that's different.

Danwakae:



It's not about Dencency or self respect, its about prior notice. for somebody u know ....that's complete pride...we know the El Rufai's for that, it's runs in their blood...I pray not to have anything to do with such people...that's y some of u when your people come visiting without prior notice , u snub and lock them out...change please !!!!, welcoming them it's not a crime and doesn't mean it's an everyday issue, there are mature way of treating people even if u see dem as nothing and stands to gain nothing from them. If u don't treat them well, ur superior in general will also do the same to u...chikena!!

VRDroid:


You are not a public servant but a private host. But Rufai's wife is a Servant, a public servant and must serve the public as their servant.

Nigerians have forgotten the meaning of words. She is a servant

dangotesmummy:
.she is a human being first before a public servant.a public servant too deserve some space.meanwhile Nigerians seem to misconstrue the word public servant.a public servant is not there to entertain every of your whims and caprices.a distant relation of mine occupied a public post some time back.he was a chairman of xyz local government and when he finished we met at a function (owanmbe) and then he was complaining about how some people will come and knock at his door uninvited as early as 4am in the morning.no appointment,no call, nothing and when the househelp knocks on the bedroom door saying someone is asking after you and he decides to give that person audience,the person will find out that the person came to beg for money for school fees for his son.imagine the irrational Behaviour.a person that had a stressful day at work and you won't let him rest in his house because he is a public official? Does that make sense?

I understand what Mrs elrufai is saying and can relate.

dangotesmummy:
here we go again.seems you haven't gotten my point.its extremely disrespectful to Go to someone's house without letting them know that you are coming.whoever they maybe.secondly for example assuming we were friends and you come to my house without letting me know you will go back to where you are coming from without regrets.if you like don't talk to me again.thats not my BUISNESS but if you tell me you are coming if you ask for meat I can give you cow head because even me myself call people on phone a week ahead that I'm coming to their house for abcd and it becomes their prerogative whether they're comfortable with me coming over to their house or we meet elsewhere.

It's lousy behaviours like this that make in-laws have the audacity to come to your house uninvited and start dictating what goes on in your home

iCauseTrouble:
That Amala and Ewedu got me...... She sabi better thing.
Must visit Amala Place in Wuye tomorrow cos of this

IamSoProlific:


That's towards that jahi na, along same road with banex junction?

iCauseTrouble:
That Amala and Ewedu got me...... She sabi better thing.
Must visit Amala Place in Wuye tomorrow cos of this

pcicero:


Too much bile in one person You might need to detoxify.

Danwakae:


You sound strict and mean...

Nobody is saying someone should come dictate to u in your house...but atleast welcome them(People u know) without prior notice. There is always that question of " Ah!, You didn't inform me that you are coming, what happened" to ask them, that's where to starts and conclude....it's not a crime... If u r my friend and while driving by, I decided to say hi after some long time, and u snubbed me for no prior notice of visit...I will not take offense, but, I will never never visit u again, it would just be transit greetings and hello and if u come visit anytime, I will welcome u...NB: I don't mean for Opposite sex friends.

VRDroid:


As long as they serve the public and are paid for being servants of the public, they should not complain. But as a private citizen you are accountable to no one and can shut your gate at anyone, but a public servant is paid with public funds to serve the public. And it they do not serve well, they are forced to resign, so they deserve what they get. it is the reason many of us refuse to be public servants, it comes with baggages.