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A Nigerian lecturer's comparison of marriage in Europe and Africa will have you thinking

My obs & gyn lecturer. I’ll never forget his infertility lecture. Opened with “in Europe, a couple meet, fall in love & marry. In the process they may or may not have children. Here in Africa, couples marry to have children. In the process, they may or may not fall in love...”

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Society looks down on childless married couples and the stigma is worse for the women

drips8:
Society looks down on childless married couples and the stigma is worse for the women

Africans and their mentality is just savage

Balderdash. Generalization is the mother of all nonsense. In fact, the way most of you glorify everything West, a naive person would think that they're all aristocrats or of diplomatic ethical leanings, whereas reverse is almost the case. Small-mindedness/toxicity knows no race or gender or background.

Small-minded acts are very prevalent in the West, just like in the Black/developing/third world countries, the only difference being that, while they always perpetrate their shenanigans as predators, our representatives (in this regard) do perpetrate theirs as leeches.

You can only know how small-minded/toxic a typical Westerner is if you relate with them from an aristocratic/diplomatic position.

Somehow true.

True........ Europeans marry for love, yet their divorce rate is out of this world

He is right to some extent but I think this lecture needs to update himself with the happenings in his environment because that's some 80's /90's thing he blew off there.



Yea marriages may be money/sex based these days but not children anymore.

drips8:
Society looks down on childless married couples and the stigma is worse for the women

Forgetting that it could be the man that is impotent

It's very hard to decipher if love is a responsibility impressed upon us by nature , but giving birth, procreation, is in indeed a responsibility bestowed upon us by nature.

UniversalDove 2014

UniversalDove:
I am of the opinion that the African conception of marriage, is much more valid even though I believe, some would still advocate adoption. You can adopt a million kids if you won't to but, something would still be missing in you.

Well, it is the truth. The western world view procreation different from us here. It is a stigma for a couple to be childless in Africa and a thing of choice for the westerners. Simple.

sisisioge:
Well, it is the truth. The western world view procreation different from us here. It is a stigma for a couple to be childless in Africa and a thing of choice for the westerners. Simple.

Yet, all the technology for assisted conception came from the West.

Where technology doesn't work, they designed surrogacy to ensure every woman who desires can have her child.

Don't let the minute few advertised deceive you.

Those of them who are very conservative are worse off than Nigerians.

bukatyne:
Yet, all the technology for assisted conception came from the West.

Where technology doesn't work, they designed surrogacy to ensure every woman who desires can have her child.

Don't let the minute few advertised deceive you.

Those of them who are very conservative are worse off than Nigerians.

What are you saying? The fact still remains that procreation is a choice with them, it is not an expected occurrence from the society like is obtainable here. All you typed only point to another fact that where a woman/couple have chosen to procreate but nature is against them, they go to any length to actualize their dreams

sisisioge:
What are you saying? The fact still remains that procreation is a choice with them, it is not an expected occurrence from the society like is obtainable here. All you typed only point to another fact that where a woman/couple have chosen to procreate but nature is against them, they go to any length to actualize their dreams

It is also an excepted occurrence over there that's why the few who choose otherwise have to explain themselves.

We are all humans first.