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My Little Oddness by Nobody: 8:49am On Apr 23, 2021 |
I hate bringing my personal issues out to the sun but I have been thinking about my oddness lately. It's even earned me a lot of new enemies lately amongst pals and family alike(couldn't be bothered though). Well, I think I have a problem(well... I wouldn't really call it a problem). But I think that there is something not totally right about me. Something that actually makes me kind of odd amongst the greater percentage of humans and here it goes: 1. I get informed that someone has just 'given birth' and I see everyone jumping and celebrating and partying all over the bloody place and I just stand and stare at the 'nonsense' because I still can't understand what the excitement is all about(it's just another human to the already overpopulated earth, right?) In such cases, I would often offer a feeble 'congratulations' to the celebrants in order not to appear odd and then walk away to get other things done. In fact, it took me ages to visit a cousin when she gave birth to her first child last year because I just couldn't be bothered... Note: I have absolutely nothing against her or the sprog. I don't just get excited about things like that. Simple. 2. You call me or walk into a room and inform me that someone has just died/passed away/kicked the bucket whatever... and I just look at you and utter a feeble 'accept my sympathy' or I end up just saying nothing at all... my mind is absolutely calm as though nothing ever happened. As a matter of fact, I don't feel a pang of sorrow no matter how close the deceased is to me. I would never as much as shed a bloody tear because it is absolutely impossible and I just can't fake it no matter how hard I try. Worse still, I attend the funeral and I don't feel a thing. Absolutely nothing. Sometimes, I don't even feel the urge to attend any obsequies. Now, I know I am sort of 'different' but is it possible that there might be something 'odd/wrong' with me as an individual and is it possible that there might be others like me out there? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Little Oddness by iampeterben(m): 8:52am On Apr 23, 2021 |
Kindly see a psychologist okay and mind expert, I think they can help you okay. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Little Oddness by PoliteActivist: 9:12am On Apr 23, 2021 |
You probably can also kill without feeling anything. Such a person is called a psychopath or sociopath or alexithymiac 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Little Oddness by Nobody: 9:18am On Apr 23, 2021 |
PoliteActivist: But I can't hurt a fly. |
Re: My Little Oddness by PoliteActivist: 9:20am On Apr 23, 2021 |
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Re: My Little Oddness by Nobody: 9:26am On Apr 23, 2021 |
You're okay bro. I think it's just a phase, your "emotion glands" is empty at the moment. Itwould be filled up with fuel again. Shiiit, my neighbor gave birth, i was like what's the essence of going to greet them? I only did so on the naming day. She had a miscarriage too recently and till this moment, I haven't gone to offer condolences. I'm like; must i go ? Arghhhhh! Don't see any useless psychologist. They'll take your money and fucck with your head. You'll be alright las las. Ciao. |
Re: My Little Oddness by Mindlog: 9:43am On Apr 23, 2021 |
@mansakhalifa, do some reading and watch youtube videos on schizoid personality disorder (Cluster A). 1 Like |
Re: My Little Oddness by The5DME(m): 10:53am On Apr 23, 2021 |
mansakhalifa:I'm kinda similar to you. But mine is i find to hard to express love. It's like i'm cold on the inside. Though I've never lost anyone in my family before sha so I don't really know how I'd feel when I finally do. We're all built differently sha. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Little Oddness by ogub(m): 11:12am On Apr 23, 2021 |
cchub:someone had miscarriage and you don't see any reason to at least empathise with them and you think it's ok abi? Continue |
Re: My Little Oddness by Raalsalghul: 11:21am On Apr 23, 2021 |
mansakhalifa: I don't think there's anything wrong with you. |
Re: My Little Oddness by bestabigaelever(f): 11:46am On Apr 23, 2021 |
Have you always been like that? Like since you were born? |
Re: My Little Oddness by Nobody: 1:24pm On Apr 23, 2021 |
OP nothing is wrong with you. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Most Nigerians are pretenders. Some merry with but not happy inside them Others cry with you but happy inside. I’m even worse than you. 3 Likes |
Re: My Little Oddness by Nobody: 2:12pm On Apr 23, 2021 |
cchub: Almost exactly the way I react to such things. |
Re: My Little Oddness by Nobody: 2:14pm On Apr 23, 2021 |
Carchoice: Very true. The funny part is we are usually labelled as the 'bad guys' for failing to' be/act like the others'. |
Re: My Little Oddness by Nobody: 2:15pm On Apr 23, 2021 |
bestabigaelever: Yeah. But it got even stronger as I grew. |
Re: My Little Oddness by Nobody: 2:17pm On Apr 23, 2021 |
Raalsalghul: But people around me or those who know me would often disagree. |
Re: My Little Oddness by Nobody: 2:22pm On Apr 23, 2021 |
The5DME: Let me get this straight: You find it very difficult to tell someone that you love that person or even try to show it, right? I hope my question is clear enough... |
Re: My Little Oddness by Nobody: 2:22pm On Apr 23, 2021 |
Mindlog: OK, I will try. |
Re: My Little Oddness by zabimaru: 2:25pm On Apr 23, 2021 |
in summary you have become insensitive right? very simple solution, find someone and consciously love the person. go out more often and increase the time spent in social interactions. In summary, socialize more. 2 Likes |
Re: My Little Oddness by The5DME(m): 2:34pm On Apr 23, 2021 |
mansakhalifa:I find it hard to express love. You could say I'm cold hearted. Well, it's mainly due to the way I was raised sha. All the crazy life experiences my little teenage brain has been through: the broken family, the emotional turmoils, etc. I think I like it that way though. |
Re: My Little Oddness by Nobody: 2:45pm On Apr 23, 2021 |
The5DME: Well... I have a similar quirk too and it also has to do with the sort of set-up I was raised in. My father wanted me to grow into a clod of stone for some reason. So, I think I understand what it means to be influenced by growing pains/experiences. It's actually crazy, man. I tell you. |
Re: My Little Oddness by The5DME(m): 2:48pm On Apr 23, 2021 |
mansakhalifa: Yeah. But I don't think there's anything wrong with you though. |
Re: My Little Oddness by Nobody: 2:49pm On Apr 23, 2021 |
zabimaru: The bolded is almost impossible. Well, I go out a lot and I try as much as possible to interact/socialize but I often tend to withdraw when people try to get too close. Don't ask for my number, don't ask for details of any sort. I even cut contacts with a number of my old friends recently. They got way too close for my comfort. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Little Oddness by Nobody: 2:52pm On Apr 23, 2021 |
The5DME: Well, technically, there is now. I am almost pariah to many out there. But like I said, most of the time, I don't just give a hoot. 1 Like |
Re: My Little Oddness by zabimaru: 3:05pm On Apr 23, 2021 |
mansakhalifa: trust me, you can and should find love. |
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