Michellekabod2:

This is so kind,you didn't wish his daughter the injustice towards ladies he propagates as his karma

Michellekabod2:

So if the marriage is not by Religion nko? Is the man still head?

i already know the gender of buda

Michellekabod2:

Maybe or maybe not

Michellekabod2:

https://www.nairaland.com/5246156/idea-feminism

Inspectorsuga22:


Don't mind the old witch...
Beyond every reasonable doubt, that old hagg have never bn shown love by any man and the thing is paining her soul.
Let them be deceiving the gullible ones, thank God I married a good woman who despite her social status, recognizes her position in my home n respect that. That is a virtues woman whom I never let smiles lack in her face.
Many of these women are deprived n most of them are in serious need of psychological help like this old witch following me upandan....

Raydans:


I have gone through all her comments on this thread and also the previous one. I have realized that she is actually one of those man haters the OP highlighted.

A close examination reveals her disguise of hatred under feminism towards the male gender.

Her own point of view is parochial, sentimental, manipulative and doesn't define the True feminism the OP is referring to.

A one sided entitled feminism at that

Colonelswitz101:

That lady budaatim or whatever she is called is really in severe pain

Oluromantic:

Went through it. As a matter fact, those conditions are not realistic anywhere. They look right and fair but unrealistic and are pretences to worse events. Even in d Western world where feminism is practiced, the men endure and the ladies enjoy.. it's not equal at all. Covetousness is in every lady by nature, give them an inch, they'll go a mile. You know how many men are in life-term jail for false rape alarm? How many men went into crime cus over half thier wages are given out to a woman they have nothing to do with anymore who probably planned marriage with him cus of his money, how many men are homeless cus they had to leave the home they bought with thier own money.

There was a video that made fp sometime ago where a white marriage psychologist woman confirmed that women cheat more than men but men are easily caught because the society believes it's thier way, while women conceal theirs taking advantage seeing probing men as non-respecters of women. The law in these feminism practicing nation's says "respect a woman" but scrapped out respect for men. And respect is what a man needs naturally to flourish through life just as women need care, yet they're deprived of it.

They started as you did stating these fair-looking statements but ended up taking advantages over men.

I have 2 conclusions to make.

-In a country like Nigeria where according to UNESCO (2014), 65% of the population are illiterates, every family has a huge mass of illiterates at least in d village, there's almost nothing that can be done to affirm feminism here. It's in families where everyone is educated and are almost all exposed elites that such laws can be understood and practiced. But what we see instead is even fellow women in most families who shd advocate for feminism, themselves are upholders of the old status quo. Or how will you describe a mother in-law who detest seeing her son washing for his wife. Women are the problem of themselves. So if you must achieve ur goal at all, solicite first for massive and free education of d masses(men and women) so your plight can be well comprehended. Nelson Mandela said, education is d best weapon to broaden the mind.

-Preach God's rules to the masses. A Nation that uphold God's statutes always progresses. I don't want to say preach the gospel. But God's word which He never jokes with says Men love ur wives. Wives submit to your husbands. Nothing prospers a society more than these. People are just behaving as though they know better than the creator of Earth Himself. The creator of us all has given us the precepts to follow for peace, we know it yet we are against it. This feminism of a case is a problem among Christian's. Muslims would rather uphold Allah's laws than their own ideas. It baffles me as a Christian.

Raydans:

As long you're a christian/muslim the Man is the head when it comes to Marriage (Religion in general) Except if you're deceiving yourself

According to Traditional marriages. The man still remains the head. A typical example is when the woman bows for the man to serve him palmwine and kolanut, Or when she places the cap on his head to identify him as the king and stuffs. I'm sure you know the nigerian culture

And for Marriage by Law. You can refer to the Nigerian Constitution under the marriage act to enlighten yourself. If you have been to the registry before. From the preparation to the counselling of the couples etc before the actual marriage. You will have an idea that the man remains the HEAD

ubunja:
cause they getting men to pay for the goods. It is the ugly ones that shout feminism.

budaatum:

Look at you! Weak man! Suppressing the great helper with whom he can build a great home by making her submissive! I'm going to put it down to your misunderstanding or I'd have just called you a pig!

Why should she submit to you? Can you not be equal and respect each other, or is it that you think you are superior and must be submitted to?

Michellekabod2:
if I do so is it not the same guys that will call me a LovePeddler?if I sleep with a guy for money will you guys not still deem me unfit for marriage and marry virgins?

Michellekabod2:

Lol...so only Christians/Muslims exist in naija?how about atheists? Does it apply to them?

Lemme do a research on marriage by court in naija

lilbest4:
No we cannot be equal kill yourself if don't like it

Colonelswitz101:

That lady budaatim or whatever she is called is really in severe pain

Truthsbitter:

You don't have to live your life in conformity to the opinions of men...
at least no one is forcing you, just build a good character for yourself. it is to your own advantage, as long as you're sincere with yourself

Michellekabod2:

Maybe or maybe not

budaatum:

O, but it's not up to you lol. And no, we will not be equal. Being equal to you is a lowering of the standard so think, superior!

lilbest4:

LOL this one no get single sense sef. so why are fools like you all over the streets with placards shouting and demanding equality when you know you're superior?
That means you are just a jobless frustrated bunch lmao

Michellekabod2:
Many people are congratulating me for leaving feminism. I never stopped being a feminist and never will! I only stopped advocating for women to be feminists(except they chose to) since most of them don't understand the concept.
I , personally am a feminist (one who believes in equality of both genders) but henceforth will stop speaking up about it....

Although wicked humans like Ubunja deserve to be called out for what they are,I will be stop canvassing for equality as it's giving ladies the leverage to be male haters and not serving it's purpose which is equality of both men and women.

lilbest4:

LOL this one no get single sense sef. so why are fools like you all over the streets with placards shouting and demanding equality when you know you're superior?
That means you are just a jobless frustrated bunch lmao

Raydans:

You catch the drift!!! So funny

Abeg. Ignore her. The hate is so obvious.
Her own feminism is to be superior to a man

budaatum:

Superior to you, at least. You are obviously way too low for one to aspire to.

Raydans:

Good luck with that. May you find peace in your disturbed heart

WisdomHunter:


Who cares if you like be a feminister dumbass

Michellekabod2:

Make me understand the bolded

budaatum:

Pig! Too hard for you to imagine a woman getting everything she works for with her brain and mind.

Magnoliaa:


lol these guys. And they still complain when women sleep around and take no action in/for the relationship.

They want the best of both sides--CEO Woman and Subservient; Unexposed and yet Chiccy, Elegant; Girl from Village but looking like VS Model; Sexually free but 'Modest'; Spend very little but should look 'wawing', wearing the latest and fashionable accessories and so on...

MariaLavina:
Lol, I will rather you do not operate under an umbrella a stained one at that.Attaching oneself to a tag means you are in support of whatever goes on in it. Fighting for human rights, elevating or empowering one goes beyond names, association or movement.Tags are cages used to direct and control simple minded beings.

To me, I prefer to be a lone wolf who is free to fight for and support whoever is in need irrespective of gender. I am human first before being a female, every lives matters. Be wise.

Magnoliaa:



CEO Woman and Subservient; Unexposed and yet Chiccy, Elegant; Girl from Village but looking like VS Model; Sexually free but 'Modest'; Spend very little but should look 'wawing', wearing the latest and fashionable accessories and so on...

missjo:
This was so beautiful to read.

Inspectorsuga22:
I'm glad u realized the misconception bn planted n nurtured into the heads of many shallow minded ladies who believe ur feminism movement is a call to arms against men.
There are some aspects of gender equality that I am not against, which includes employment discrimination, inheritance and some other inhuman treatments women pass through cos of their gender. But wat I will NEVER compromise is the aspect of husband and wife equality cos that will definitely bring an end to d marriage institution. I am not against a woman bn my boss in the office buh I also expect her to also give her husband his due respect not minding she have lots men beneath her rank in the office... Same way I will fight for my wife to even become the president of this country if thats her dream buh will also expect her to do her duties to me as her husband,most importantly bn submissive not minding her position or status