₦airaland Forum

LilMissFavvy:
Get lost......don't let that be your business.

PerfectMatchNG:
Dear single ladies, u don't have any spiritual problem.Many BACHELORS r Jobless & The Economy is BAD.They can't Marry Now.

LillyVal:

PerfectMatchNG:
Yes

LillyVal:
Some are village people o

ImaIma1:
Funny thing is that things don't always happen in a particular order. 35 year old ladies still marry in their age range. My cousin that I mentioned that is getting married is over 40 and the guy is younger. Everyone has their own story and eventuality.

Besides, not all ladies are unmarried because of their wild ways or the "hot akara syndrome". Some were just unfortunate with wrong guys, too focused on work or career, too introverted,etc. But people are quick to conclude and label older single ladies.

Still, everyone should make hay while the sun shines, not only ladies. Because even for men, they lose their youthfulness as they age. Not only women age.

Fourwinds:
i no say you must include men... For your m8nd.. A guy fit dey poor reach 45years unmarried but the moment he hammer pay, na young kpekus of 22years he go go for.. Heeheheheeere.. Like Dino Melaye

victorian:
Even at my age, they are stil trooping like bees on honey.

So dont get it twisted dear.

Moreover i have chosen someone already . So relax on my matter

Anglojosite7:
The question is, has he chosen you?

victorian:
Why do u ask?

Anglojosite7:
Because u cannot be singing his song, while he is singing that of another lady.

victorian:
Interesting.


Do you per chance know the guy wooing me, personally?

carter009:
Lolz, are you confused....

victorian:
I'm not confused, anglojosite7 is chatting like he knows my man which I doubt.

So I want him to clear the air, if my man has confessed to him he doesn't want me and prefers another lady. Cause I know our communication is on point

It's simple.

BigDick70inch:
Lol..
The best bet a lady above 30 can get is getting married to a older widower or someone with kids already maam..
No young or single guy who wanna get settled will ever think of going for a girl of 30 years or else he just wanna maga the woman..

BigDick70inch:
Well..congrats to yo sister..
Not everyone will ever get that same opportunity..
Lemme say that rarely happen okay??like say 2 out of 20 ..
And..truth be told she married the least guy she love cos of her tickling biological time as a lady..not what she would have wanted..

BigDick70inch:
Lol..
I pray you get married early and never wgen u r 30 or above..

See..u might think your sister had the guy as the best suitor then tho..
But..deep down in yo sister's heart that husband is not the best guy shehas ever hoped for..

Maybe..those she considered her best left her or werent serious with her and probably the last guy she was in relationship with then too..was beginning to Bleep up and ended up falling back on this her present husband..as she realise time is no longer on her side who knows??

If..she cud turn back hand of time ehn..i'm she wouldnt still consider..this her husband first cos she h only see him as an option not her charming prince..

Thanks..

BigDick70inch:
Lillyval.. U know the truth already.. Dont let this girl mislead u okay?? Hold on tight to u bobo..

LilMissFavvy:
the gibberish he wrote actually threw me into laughter. There are people you rather ignore, rather than waste your time chatting with, that's why I ignored him.

carter009:
OK dear, hope your guy is not cheating on you.

LillyVal:
FOR THE LADIES

During your 20's, men are trooping and everyone wants to marry you. They are all over you. Your WhatsApp doesn’t rest. Your messenger is filled up. If you breath on Facebook, you will get 400 likes and 350 comments.

You can’t walk on the street without ssshhh ssshhh. Your breasts are very comely at this time. Your lips are succulent and your legs are smooth. Even if you are ugly, it doesn’t show much at this level of your life because everything is still standing tall. The backside is still very nicely shaped and bouncing properly.

Now, the mistake most of the ladies make is this:

1. At this level, you easily dump guys in relationship. Any little thing, you break up. In your mind, there are many fishes in the ocean. Over 20 other guys are bothering you for relationship, so you can easily hook up with another guy. After six months, you break up again and start another one. You are like hot akara. You cannot bend down and build a solid relationship nor learn how to tolerate a man and work on your own self. At this age, feminism dey shack you well. You no send anybody. You no wan hear advice at all. For your mind, this kind post na rubbish.

2. At this level, some ladies want to show everything: the boobs are still standing, so she can snap to show it. The buttocks are nice, so she can display it anyhow. You sell the romantic skin like akara. Every guy in the neighborhood is coming to take his own share. Even married men are collecting their own. Everyone is collecting and walking away. For your mind, marriage no go hard.

3. At this point, you don’t lack anything. Men are giving you all you need. You’re not working but your airtime is never below 10k on the phone. Shoes and classic clothes are unaccountable in your wardrobe, yet you are not doing any job. Life is beautiful and that’s exactly how your life is depreciating with speed.

A time will finally come when your age has really increased very well. The boobs are needing pillar support and the buttocks are no longer comely anymore but rather ‘loosing’, the face has a lot of pimples and holes. Many things have gone wrong. The tummy is out by the day, your local government is beginning to have some kind of mature odour and the armpits are darker. The waist tires are forming with speed.

At this point, days turn to months and month turn to years. It will always look nearly, but something will just happen, the guy will disappear. You will start following another guy with hope for marriage, like play like play, that one go just chop you run away.

The fear and worry of menopause will even make you age faster. By this time, all the multiple guys you slept with both the ones from a cursed family and the ones from ancestral curses, when you were lifting your legs to the ceiling and twisting your body like snake in bed. All those things that make guys rush after you are gone like a movie. At this time, you become emergency Christian. All your posts are about Jesus and church things. Any comment you make, Jesus must enter. Even when football is being discussed you must find a way to add Jesus to it. For your mind, you dey deceive guys abi? You want them to see wife material in you. Suddenly you learn manners, all the multiple people you had relations with, the battle is now more spiritual than physical. All the curses married women were laying on you for sleeping with their husbands are now controlling your life. Not even Mary Kay can remove all that mess!

At 40, a guy is still young but a lady of 35 is more like a “Christian mother.”

What is my point? Make haste while the sun shines to avoid had I known. Don’t while away your time playing games with men. I am not saying a lady cannot marry at 35 neither am I saying one should rush into marriage neither am I mocking those who are above 30 and still single, I still am not saying only those who marry at 25 have the best marriages. I am only saying, don’t waste your time sleeping around when you should accept a man and settle down.

Imagine you are around 30-35 years, at this point, only men of older age like 40-45 will come to marry you because young guys of 30-35 won’t like to marry a lady of 30-35 but unfortunately, those guys of 40-45, most of them are married. They even married girls of 22-27. They will still look so young at 40 but a lady of 35 will look like their senior sister. Ladies age faster. That’s why a girl of 16 can be looking so mature, guys would be wooing her but a guy of 18 would still be looking like 13 years old boy. It also applies to old age.

This might not actually be applicable in all cases, not all single ladies at 30's were slay queens, but the message remains, “make hay while the sun shines".

victorian:
Nigerians sef.

So. I should quit my job or closed down my business and start following my man everywhere he goes. I'm not that jobless o.

Moreover I'm not a monitoring spirit that follows him everywhere he goes to monitor if he cheats on me?

My dear I have a life and career that needs my attention. I can't place all my life round the neck of my man to know if he's cheating or not.

My life does not revolve round my man.


Lemme ask you, hope your woman is not cheating on you?
Seems u have all day and night monitoring her.

carter009:
Lol, I don't have any woman for now, but there's no way I will be monitoring my girlfriend, that's childish, even when I was dating my ex, she was the one monitoring me,
she has trust issues and it pisses me off.

victorian:
Oh okay.
So u can see it's childish. For me it's insane monitoring ones man or woman.
I don't subscribe to such obsessive attitude one bit.
I love my mind to be free in anything I do or in any relationship I'm into.

Good morning.

carter009:
Morning dear, hope your night was okay?

ImaIma1:
Stop this ignorance. You think all the ladies that you see getting married to young single guys are all below 30? When next you attend a wedding, go and ask for the lady's birth certificate. I married above 30 and I am so glad I waited. My close friend got married at 34(a virgin) to a single guy. Infact many of my friends married at over 30 to single guys in their age range.

I don't know why you are making myopic baseless assertions. If you can't marry a lady above 30, no problem but don't speak for everyone.

This kind of restricted and shallow mentality is peculiar to Nigerian men... mostly the unexposed ones who still think traditionally and inside a box. I would rather marry at 40 than marry a man with such mentality.

Marriage is not a prize, an achievement or a race to be run; first to get there gets a prize. You can rush in and rush out or stay and suffer because of how people like you think.

This prejudice against single ladies needs to stop. At least I know for sure that there are many men out there with a liberal and healthy mindset. It's only in the Nairaland world that these nonsense talk happens because it is filled with myopic, unexposed and self absorbed men.

victorian:
Night was great yesterday and tonight is going perfectly well.

Getting my stuffs ready for church tingz tomorrow.

I love worship and praise sessions.

How's the weekend going

carter009:
Good to hear,, my weekend is going really fine ...