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lilwetdick:
as usual one of the loser and fanboys, will always show his face by proving what he is not..he cant even get a job and wants to give another man who owns his shit together job...most guys that are employers of labour, are their own men, they dont follow people's opinion, they have balls and wont indulge themselves in time wasting stuff of how to behave infront of women.

Mr Know-it-all. Express your opinion without criticising individuals . Having checked your opinions with latest facts and age long history, it's the dumbest I've ever read on Nairaland. You should be willing to learn about creatures you see everyday. New things about your business and your job. If you're a professional, you're definitely more knowledgeable than those that are not in your field (if you merit it). I don't think you've specialized on this subject for you to declare that he shouldn't be followed. At least profer something better. A real man wouldn't call those of us reading ops write up, men without balls. Some of us can feed you till you... Sit your... down and learn, holding your lips and childish urge to type gibberish. Thanks for your matured cooperation in advance.

ubunja:
How To Choose A Girl.


BUILDING ON SAND.
If you see a girl that you like and you make up your mind to approach her for a relationship because she's exactly what you want in a woman; you've already lost the game before the game even started.

Going up to her, telling her how beautiful she is and how you'd be honored if she accepted you. Its the epitome of weakness.

That's not how you get and keep a girl.

Already you're chasing. Already she's the Prize. Already she has more power than you and should you date, the power difference will only increase.

BUILDING ON A ROCK.
The only way you start at the top with women, having all the advantage, holding all the cards, from the word go, is to do things the opposite way. The way that appears wrong but is actually the right way: instead of searching for a woman who fits your ideal, You should be a man who fits the woman's ideal. You should be what a woman wants. it must be about fulfilling the woman's expectation not yours. Desire must flow from the girl to you. It must not flow from you to the girl. Attraction must start in the heart of the female, not in your heart.

That's the secret to happiness. That's how you build a relationship on a foundation of rock: You make sure the woman loves you more than you love her. You must be the guy she feels she "can't live without". But She must not be the girl you feel you "cant live without". Be her fantasy don't Iet her be your fantasy. Let her chase the fantasy, but keep your feet firmly in reality.

That female who's "everything you ever dreamed of in a woman", that chick who's the "girl of your dreams", that one must be dealt with only on a lust level. As a short term fantasy. A pump and dump. Dick her, don't Heart her. Ejaculate and evacuate. Don't invest any emotion in her. No matter how beautiful. No matter how delicious.

You can not afford to love the girl that you want. You dare not chase the fantasy. Loving the girl your heart chooses is a luxury you just can't afford. Not if you value your happiness and peace of mind. If your goal is romantic success, your woman must be more invested in the romance than you. She must be the biggest shareholder in the company. She must be the one in love with you, not the other way round.

POWER DYNAMICS.
For the one who loves less is actually the one with all the power, holding all the cards and having all the advantage. The one who loves more, the one more committed, holds less of everything.

If a house is burning, the one who bought the most property cries the most. And so they're the one most concerned about preventing fires. In other words, the party most invested, most loving and most committed in the romance is the party that begs the most, compromises the most and sacrifices the most to make sure the romance stays on course.

The one who invests less of everything holds all the power for the simple reason that they can walk away any time. Never be involved in something you can't walk away from without losing gallons of tears. Women have been loving the right way since forever. When was the last time you saw a girl cry tears over a boy? Between men and women who commits suicide more over breakups? Of course the men. Because they don't know how to love properly.

HOW GIRLS LOVE.
Guys need to learn to love the way girls love.

When a girl enters into a relationship with you she's happy when you're the one that loves her not the other way around. That way she has more power in the relationship. But if it happens that she's the one that falls harder and deeper for you, she'll do the next best thing to retain some measure of power: she'll HIDE THE INTENSITY of her love for you.

A girl will love you with all her heart and be crazy for you, BUT SHE'LL NEVER SHOW IT. The girl you love never shows you the full height, depth and breadth of her love. She never lets you know the maximum temperature of her passion.

You give her your photo, she goes home and goes crazy OVER THAT PHOTO. She sleeps with it next to her heart, kisses it, even shed tears of love over the image of you. She keeps it safe and spends hours on end just looking at it, lost in adoration.

But when you come in person to see her she puts the photo away and she wears her "game face". The face you see is not going to be the face your photo saw. Gone is the dreamy look of complete total love. Gone are the tears of love. She looks at you like one who never missed you one second. Like you were not even on her mind.

A girl shows you less of the love she has for you as a strategy: TO PROTECT HERSELF. If she was truthful and did show you how deep her love for you is YOU WILL TAKE ADVANTAGE. You'll use it against her. You'll demand crazy things from her. You'll cheat on her. And because her love for you runs deep, she will find it hard to leave and easy to forgive.

So to stop you from having that power over her, she hides the true extent of her love. And because you have no idea how crazy she is for you, you never fully exploit her.

That's why girls have DIARIES. They pour their heart, soul and mind on the pages of that little book. They confess their loves, hopes and fears on it's pages. Not to the BF. And when a girl loses her diary or when another person reads it, she freaks out. Because she feels exposed.

Many a girlfriend that plays it cool before her guy is mad crazy for him in his absence. Why do you think when guys screwup, girls always say, "If only you knew how much I loved you".? It's because the girl knows the love she's been expressing is not the complete love she's been feeling. She loved the guy more than he knew and because he's leaving he'll never really know he's lost a diamond.

Men need to learn that lesson: Be crazy and drunk in love all you want, worship the very ground your woman walks on if you wish, be batshit mad for her - but whatever you choose to do DO NOT DO IT IN FRONT OF HER. When you meet her, put your "game face" on. Your poker face. Conceal your desperation. Let her be forever guessing how deep your love for her runs. Do not worship her to her face. You give her too much power over you, power she'll unfailingly use against you.

LOVE AND HAPPINESS.
The key to love and happiness is to Learn to love the one who loves you. Never try to make someone who doesn't love you love you.

That's how you lose.

That's how you spend 12 months chasing a girl who has her own eye on another dude all the while your stupid self thinking she's playing hard to get. That's how you buy a girl shoes and phones that she'll proceed to use to impress the guy her own eye is on. That's how a girl, during sex, ends up whispering another dude's name to your ear, because it's him her mind is on. Why? Because you're forcing yourself into her heart. But her heart is already occupied by another guy.

Now here is the girl you must occupy yourself with:

That girl who's crazy for you for no reason and blushes everytime she sees you. That girl who always makes excuses to hang around you. That girl always offering to do stuff for you. That girl always eager to be part of whatever you're part of. LOVE THAT ONE. She's CHASING you. You're on her mind and in her heart as we speak. She likes you already.

The women you yourself like, just pump and dump them. They're as useless as chaff. And will be as troublesome as the weeds.

Keep the women you like for LUST, but the women who like you, keep them for LOVE. A girl who likes you is a precious stone that you take and polish and adorn yourself with. But a girl you like is a common stone, one of thousands you lust after day in day out:

You take a corner you see a girl you like. You open your window you see a girl you like pass by. You enter the bus, there, sitting in the front seat, is a girl you like. You go to town you see 20 girls you like. At your school there must be 50 of these girls. At work almost every department has a girl you like. The girl you like is EVERYWHERE and what's everywhere HAS NO VALUE.

But that girl out of hundreds, who looks at you the way you have been looking at hundreds of girls, that one chick who becomes as stupid and as dumb infront of you as you become infront of the girls that you like, that girl is THE ONE for you.

You can never go wrong learning to love that one. Don't trouble yourself with the girl you like. Why? Because already HER HEART IS SET ON ANOTHER MAN. look for the one who likes you, for her heart is set on you. Such a girl's heart you don't have to win, because already its yours.

Girls are choosy as hell. But a girl who has already chosen you is a Penalty Kick you've been given, without the goalkeeper, without even the goal posts. You can't miss even if your eyes were closed.

And NO, a girl who chooses you is not cheap. A girl who's cheap is the girl you fvck for the price of a loaf of bread. That is a cheap girl. You can fvck her for a penny, even for free. But guess what? So will the next guy. And the next. And the next. On the other hand, A girl who chooses you will be easy BUT ONLY FOR YOU. She'll be cheap BUT ONLY FOR YOU. She'll be willing BUT ONLY FOR YOU. You see the difference? It's all about YOU sir.


If a girl doesn't look at you twice, there's no reason to look at her twice. Attraction is zero. The spark failed. A female knows with one look if she'll sleep with you or not. If she doesn't double check you, if her eyes don't linger, if her gaze doesn't keep coming back to you; KEEP IT MOVING. Forget her.

BUT REAL MEN DO THE CHASING??
When females chase you does it make you less manly? Less Alpha?

It does not. Don't you get jealous when women throw their panties and bras at celebs during concerts? I know you do. Do you want a girl to throw you her panties to show you she wants you? Yes? But then you'll call her a Slut! That's why she'll settle for throwing you a smile.

OK! BUT ONLY LOW QUALITY GIRLS SEEM INTERESTED IN ME!!!
If the girls whose eyes linger and whose smiles you keep getting are not of the class you want, that's an honest indicator of where you are in the Sexual Market. That's your level. You attract your class.

To get better, better yourself. To see an improvement improve yourself. To see an upgrade in the quality of girls that give you "the look", upgrade yourself. The women you attract are the women at your level. Go up a level, and the quality of females you attract will also go up a level. Simple as that.

And how do you do that?

Dress better. Walk better. Speak better.

Do everything better than you've been doing.

To top it, go get a better body. Look, You can't change your face or your height but you can very well change your body. Which is all good, for when it comes to sex, your body IS your face. Women don't lust after a handsome face. It's that 6pack and those biceps that make the vagina tingle. Why do you think women love watching Wrestling on TV?

So, hit the gym.

LET HER CHOOSE.
Letting a girl choose is how you choose a girl.

That way girls chase You. You don't chase girls. That way You play hard to get. You don't have girls playing hard to get to you. Players are Players because every girl who chooses them they accept even though they've a girl already. And girls who date Players can't easily walk away from the fvckery of it all because they fell in love first. They're invested.

That's the blueprint of dealing with women. Play the game this way and you'll be surprised how far you can go with women WITHOUT spending money. Love is free. If you do it right.

When you let girls choose you become the Prize. The Chosen. And a girl who chooses you will make it EASY for you because she wants you to win. She'll test you Yes, because she needs to assess your masculinity, but she'll root for you. She'll be lenient and give you more opportunities than you deserve. And that's very important for your chances with her.

So how do you choose a girl? By letting a girl choose you. Ignore the ones who ignore you. Pay attention only to those who pay you attention. Remember every girl wants your attention, but not every girl will give you attention. So save your attention for the girls who are prepared to give you theirs.

Your attention is free but it means a lot to women. The compliments you give willy-nilly are oxygen to their self-esteem. Your drooling looks are the validation they can't breathe without. So make sure you don't give them out freely. Be stingy with.

-------------------------------------------------------------------
This writeup lays the groundwork for the longer and more indepth "Approaching Girls With Minimum Risk Of Rejection"

# TheRedPill
# MGTOW

CC:
emmy2807
SOFTDRINK
justiniyke29
RipMorosini
reservd
Aiziko
Avedonn
kkins25
BossDante
Imoh555

Ubunja well done...
You have not said anything wrong... After 25+ years of my life i have finally found out i was right all along but was to scared to prove it cos i did not want to be that very good bad guy...
You have not said anything wrong but just broken some chains because most girls get into power dynamics faster than guys so they you use it to their advantange by playing hard to get when like and will play victims when the guy moves on forgetting they cause it... Making it a guy like me confused on the next line of action... "It more like the love and the beloved". Thanks man you have reduced a ton of troubles for me.

ubunja:
How To Choose A Girl.


BUILDING ON SAND.
If you see a girl that you like and you make up your mind to approach her for a relationship because she's exactly what you want in a woman; you've already lost the game before the game even started.

Going up to her, telling her how beautiful she is and how you'd be honored if she accepted you. Its the epitome of weakness.

That's not how you get and keep a girl.

Already you're chasing. Already she's the Prize. Already she has more power than you and should you date, the power difference will only increase.

BUILDING ON A ROCK.
The only way you start at the top with women, having all the advantage, holding all the cards, from the word go, is to do things the opposite way. The way that appears wrong but is actually the right way: instead of searching for a woman who fits your ideal, You should be a man who fits the woman's ideal. You should be what a woman wants. it must be about fulfilling the woman's expectation not yours. Desire must flow from the girl to you. It must not flow from you to the girl. Attraction must start in the heart of the female, not in your heart.

That's the secret to happiness. That's how you build a relationship on a foundation of rock: You make sure the woman loves you more than you love her. You must be the guy she feels she "can't live without". But She must not be the girl you feel you "cant live without". Be her fantasy don't Iet her be your fantasy. Let her chase the fantasy, but keep your feet firmly in reality.

That female who's "everything you ever dreamed of in a woman", that chick who's the "girl of your dreams", that one must be dealt with only on a lust level. As a short term fantasy. A pump and dump. Dick her, don't Heart her. Ejaculate and evacuate. Don't invest any emotion in her. No matter how beautiful. No matter how delicious.

You can not afford to love the girl that you want. You dare not chase the fantasy. Loving the girl your heart chooses is a luxury you just can't afford. Not if you value your happiness and peace of mind. If your goal is romantic success, your woman must be more invested in the romance than you. She must be the biggest shareholder in the company. She must be the one in love with you, not the other way round.

POWER DYNAMICS.
For the one who loves less is actually the one with all the power, holding all the cards and having all the advantage. The one who loves more, the one more committed, holds less of everything.

If a house is burning, the one who bought the most property cries the most. And so they're the one most concerned about preventing fires. In other words, the party most invested, most loving and most committed in the romance is the party that begs the most, compromises the most and sacrifices the most to make sure the romance stays on course.

The one who invests less of everything holds all the power for the simple reason that they can walk away any time. Never be involved in something you can't walk away from without losing gallons of tears. Women have been loving the right way since forever. When was the last time you saw a girl cry tears over a boy? Between men and women who commits suicide more over breakups? Of course the men. Because they don't know how to love properly.

HOW GIRLS LOVE.
Guys need to learn to love the way girls love.

When a girl enters into a relationship with you she's happy when you're the one that loves her not the other way around. That way she has more power in the relationship. But if it happens that she's the one that falls harder and deeper for you, she'll do the next best thing to retain some measure of power: she'll HIDE THE INTENSITY of her love for you.

A girl will love you with all her heart and be crazy for you, BUT SHE'LL NEVER SHOW IT. The girl you love never shows you the full height, depth and breadth of her love. She never lets you know the maximum temperature of her passion.

You give her your photo, she goes home and goes crazy OVER THAT PHOTO. She sleeps with it next to her heart, kisses it, even shed tears of love over the image of you. She keeps it safe and spends hours on end just looking at it, lost in adoration.

But when you come in person to see her she puts the photo away and she wears her "game face". The face you see is not going to be the face your photo saw. Gone is the dreamy look of complete total love. Gone are the tears of love. She looks at you like one who never missed you one second. Like you were not even on her mind.

A girl shows you less of the love she has for you as a strategy: TO PROTECT HERSELF. If she was truthful and did show you how deep her love for you is YOU WILL TAKE ADVANTAGE. You'll use it against her. You'll demand crazy things from her. You'll cheat on her. And because her love for you runs deep, she will find it hard to leave and easy to forgive.

So to stop you from having that power over her, she hides the true extent of her love. And because you have no idea how crazy she is for you, you never fully exploit her.

That's why girls have DIARIES. They pour their heart, soul and mind on the pages of that little book. They confess their loves, hopes and fears on it's pages. Not to the BF. And when a girl loses her diary or when another person reads it, she freaks out. Because she feels exposed.

Many a girlfriend that plays it cool before her guy is mad crazy for him in his absence. Why do you think when guys screwup, girls always say, "If only you knew how much I loved you".? It's because the girl knows the love she's been expressing is not the complete love she's been feeling. She loved the guy more than he knew and because he's leaving he'll never really know he's lost a diamond.

Men need to learn that lesson: Be crazy and drunk in love all you want, worship the very ground your woman walks on if you wish, be batshit mad for her - but whatever you choose to do DO NOT DO IT IN FRONT OF HER. When you meet her, put your "game face" on. Your poker face. Conceal your desperation. Let her be forever guessing how deep your love for her runs. Do not worship her to her face. You give her too much power over you, power she'll unfailingly use against you.

LOVE AND HAPPINESS.
The key to love and happiness is to Learn to love the one who loves you. Never try to make someone who doesn't love you love you.

That's how you lose.

That's how you spend 12 months chasing a girl who has her own eye on another dude all the while your stupid self thinking she's playing hard to get. That's how you buy a girl shoes and phones that she'll proceed to use to impress the guy her own eye is on. That's how a girl, during sex, ends up whispering another dude's name to your ear, because it's him her mind is on. Why? Because you're forcing yourself into her heart. But her heart is already occupied by another guy.

Now here is the girl you must occupy yourself with:

That girl who's crazy for you for no reason and blushes everytime she sees you. That girl who always makes excuses to hang around you. That girl always offering to do stuff for you. That girl always eager to be part of whatever you're part of. LOVE THAT ONE. She's CHASING you. You're on her mind and in her heart as we speak. She likes you already.

The women you yourself like, just pump and dump them. They're as useless as chaff. And will be as troublesome as the weeds.

Keep the women you like for LUST, but the women who like you, keep them for LOVE. A girl who likes you is a precious stone that you take and polish and adorn yourself with. But a girl you like is a common stone, one of thousands you lust after day in day out:

You take a corner you see a girl you like. You open your window you see a girl you like pass by. You enter the bus, there, sitting in the front seat, is a girl you like. You go to town you see 20 girls you like. At your school there must be 50 of these girls. At work almost every department has a girl you like. The girl you like is EVERYWHERE and what's everywhere HAS NO VALUE.

But that girl out of hundreds, who looks at you the way you have been looking at hundreds of girls, that one chick who becomes as stupid and as dumb infront of you as you become infront of the girls that you like, that girl is THE ONE for you.

You can never go wrong learning to love that one. Don't trouble yourself with the girl you like. Why? Because already HER HEART IS SET ON ANOTHER MAN. look for the one who likes you, for her heart is set on you. Such a girl's heart you don't have to win, because already its yours.

Girls are choosy as hell. But a girl who has already chosen you is a Penalty Kick you've been given, without the goalkeeper, without even the goal posts. You can't miss even if your eyes were closed.

And NO, a girl who chooses you is not cheap. A girl who's cheap is the girl you fvck for the price of a loaf of bread. That is a cheap girl. You can fvck her for a penny, even for free. But guess what? So will the next guy. And the next. And the next. On the other hand, A girl who chooses you will be easy BUT ONLY FOR YOU. She'll be cheap BUT ONLY FOR YOU. She'll be willing BUT ONLY FOR YOU. You see the difference? It's all about YOU sir.


If a girl doesn't look at you twice, there's no reason to look at her twice. Attraction is zero. The spark failed. A female knows with one look if she'll sleep with you or not. If she doesn't double check you, if her eyes don't linger, if her gaze doesn't keep coming back to you; KEEP IT MOVING. Forget her.

BUT REAL MEN DO THE CHASING??
When females chase you does it make you less manly? Less Alpha?

It does not. Don't you get jealous when women throw their panties and bras at celebs during concerts? I know you do. Do you want a girl to throw you her panties to show you she wants you? Yes? But then you'll call her a Slut! That's why she'll settle for throwing you a smile.

OK! BUT ONLY LOW QUALITY GIRLS SEEM INTERESTED IN ME!!!
If the girls whose eyes linger and whose smiles you keep getting are not of the class you want, that's an honest indicator of where you are in the Sexual Market. That's your level. You attract your class.

To get better, better yourself. To see an improvement improve yourself. To see an upgrade in the quality of girls that give you "the look", upgrade yourself. The women you attract are the women at your level. Go up a level, and the quality of females you attract will also go up a level. Simple as that.

And how do you do that?

Dress better. Walk better. Speak better.

Do everything better than you've been doing.

To top it, go get a better body. Look, You can't change your face or your height but you can very well change your body. Which is all good, for when it comes to sex, your body IS your face. Women don't lust after a handsome face. It's that 6pack and those biceps that make the vagina tingle. Why do you think women love watching Wrestling on TV?

So, hit the gym.

LET HER CHOOSE.
Letting a girl choose is how you choose a girl.

That way girls chase You. You don't chase girls. That way You play hard to get. You don't have girls playing hard to get to you. Players are Players because every girl who chooses them they accept even though they've a girl already. And girls who date Players can't easily walk away from the fvckery of it all because they fell in love first. They're invested.

That's the blueprint of dealing with women. Play the game this way and you'll be surprised how far you can go with women WITHOUT spending money. Love is free. If you do it right.

When you let girls choose you become the Prize. The Chosen. And a girl who chooses you will make it EASY for you because she wants you to win. She'll test you Yes, because she needs to assess your masculinity, but she'll root for you. She'll be lenient and give you more opportunities than you deserve. And that's very important for your chances with her.

So how do you choose a girl? By letting a girl choose you. Ignore the ones who ignore you. Pay attention only to those who pay you attention. Remember every girl wants your attention, but not every girl will give you attention. So save your attention for the girls who are prepared to give you theirs.

Your attention is free but it means a lot to women. The compliments you give willy-nilly are oxygen to their self-esteem. Your drooling looks are the validation they can't breathe without. So make sure you don't give them out freely. Be stingy with.

-------------------------------------------------------------------
This writeup lays the groundwork for the longer and more indepth "Approaching Girls With Minimum Risk Of Rejection"

# TheRedPill
# MGTOW

CC:
emmy2807
SOFTDRINK
justiniyke29
RipMorosini
reservd
Aiziko
Avedonn
kkins25
BossDante
Imoh555

I'm deeply hurt and depressed right now. A girl I loved and have dated for about 3 years with our marriage plans this December just left me for another man. infact she got engaged with the man about 5 month ago without my knowledge.
I feel like commiting suicide right now because I couldn't believe what has happened to me.
your write up has exposed my pit falls even as the pain of her leaving is still with me even as I type this

pussyluvdick:
I'm deeply hurt and depressed right now. A girl I loved and have dated for about 3 years with our marriage plans this December just left me for another man. infact she got engaged with the man about 5 month ago without my knowledge.
I feel like commiting suicide right now because I couldn't believe what has happened to me.
your write up has exposed my pit falls even as the pain of her leaving is still with me even as I type this

so sorry to hear about your situation bro. I can't even begin to imagine your pain.

Hope you find healing and a way forward. Give life another chance. Don't end everything yet.

Truly truly, I have them chasing me, as much as I chase some other too. Equation balance. No girl can use me to do shakara in this life.

drealcivilceno:
Ubunja well done...
You have not said anything wrong... After 25+ years of my life i have finally found out i was right all along but was to scared to prove it cos i did not want to be that very good bad guy...
You have not said anything wrong but just broken some chains because most girls get into power dynamics faster than guys so they you use it to their advantange by playing hard to get when like them and victims when the guy moves on forgetting they cause it... Making it a guy like me confused on the next line of action... "It more like the love and the beloved". Thanks man you have reduced a ton of troubles for me.

Ceno women are generally 10 steps ahead in love. They're natural masters at this Game.

I can only hope guys learn and also up their game. It's about time.

ubunja:
dude you just said it yourself.

you don't have game. you have money. and if you have money it's your money that attracts women. and at the end she loves your money not you.

you are just gameless. the women you get via cash, I teach men to get via understanding woman nature. you just levels down.

but ubunja u said gold diggers are the best why now criticize getting girl with money

Savagethe21st:
but ubunja u said gold diggers are the best why now criticize getting girl with money

that "with" is the reason of the confusion

A girl with money. As in "using" money. Not with Game.

As in:

ubunja:
you got your wife while in the UK, that's Money Game and at the end it's USELESS. you can't talk about lyrically getting women when you got wifey through money. that discussion you can't be a part of

ubunja:
that "with" is the reason of the confusion

A girl with money. As in "using" money. Not with Game.

As in:

sir u said sumtin about real game is about how to get girls as a broke nigga without money incentives ...so how do u mean,physical attraction like handsomeness? Or what else can we offer

BLUEJAYY:
And now my age-long, reliable and successful strategy is exposed.

I figured out quite early during my teenage years that it was a lot easier when the girls do the loving and chasing stuff. I realized that I got a ton of the attraction from girls in my school due to my academic success and charisma and ever since, I've grown up with that mentality and expertise of getting women attracted to me and it's been so successful.

I still see women I'd like to have but they are no different from the ones at my beck and call, so I don't really see the need to chase. Also, I'm not used to chasing so it seems like a lot of work and stupidity for me, trying to get a girl to love me.

I've got a lot of good women who love me genuinely and would do anything in the world for my happiness. I really like these women and we're great friends and I have the utmost respect for them all but unfortunately I'm non-committal. But no matter how much I fvcked up so badly they'd still stick around and pray for me to change.

It made me so sad for them that I couldn't be the committed person that they've always wanted. I feel bad for them but I always wish they get to find a good man who'd reciprocate their love and be true to them.

Recently, one got a new fiance and told me about him and I'm really happy for her.

this comment cld easily b mine..We've had very similar experiences it's almost uncanny..
I'm almost 26yrs and I've neva asked a girl out..Bt ive had a steady stream of gals..

that guilt of not being able to reciprocate their love bites sumtyms..especailly in doz moments wen dey do sth really crazy 4 u..like embark on a 6hr trip to come be wit u jst cos u said u not feelin too ok..

Sumtyms i pray dey get d guys to love them d way dey love me..

BLUEJAYY:
And now my age-long, reliable and successful strategy is exposed.

I figured out quite early during my teenage years that it was a lot easier when the girls do the loving and chasing stuff. I realized that I got a ton of the attraction from girls in my school due to my academic success and charisma and ever since, I've grown up with that mentality and expertise of getting women attracted to me and it's been so successful.

I still see women I'd like to have but they are no different from the ones at my beck and call, so I don't really see the need to chase. Also, I'm not used to chasing so it seems like a lot of work and stupidity for me, trying to get a girl to love me.

I've got a lot of good women who love me genuinely and would do anything in the world for my happiness. I really like these women and we're great friends and I have the utmost respect for them all but unfortunately I'm non-committal. But no matter how much I fvcked up so badly they'd still stick around and pray for me to change.

It made me so sad for them that I couldn't be the committed person that they've always wanted. I feel bad for them but I always wish they get to find a good man who'd reciprocate their love and be true to them.

Recently, one got a new fiance and told me about him and I'm really happy for her.

So true. One even threatened me recently that she will start messing around and anything that happens to her is my fault.

JhyMedex:
this comment cld easily b mine..We've had very similar experiences it's almost uncanny..
I'm almost 26yrs and I've neva asked a girl out..Bt ive had a steady stream of gals..

that guilt of not being able to reciprocate their love bites sumtyms..especailly in doz moments wen dey do sth really crazy 4 u..like embark on a 6hr trip to come be wit u jst cos u said u not feelin too ok..

Sumtyms i pray dey get d guys to love them d way dey love me..

when girls chase, miracles happen. Dating is only hard because men do a simple thing in a hard way.

scaramucci:
So true. One even threatened me recently that she will start messing around and anything that happened to her is my fault.

lmfao. She was blackmailing you.
Girls tho

lilwetdick:
[b]Another trash for weak men and losers who are looking impress a girl

They say a man job is to pursue and get what he wants out of life not to wait for a women to smile at him before he can feel he is man.

Who are the "They" that said it and did they mentioned women as part of it?

ubunja:
lmfao. She was blackmailing you.
Girls tho

Aren't they just wonderful? Little do they know that their gimmicks adds to the fun.

scaramucci:
Aren't they just wonderful? Little do they know that their gimmicks adds to the fun.

I sometimes act dumb just to see the craziness.

ubunja:
I sometimes act dumb just to see the craziness.

True. I told her to hold on and gimme time. I want to negotiate.

scaramucci:
True. I told her to hold on and gimme time. I want to negotiate.

all the while you're pounding that pussy.

ubunja:
all the while you're pounding that pussy.

It is neccessary to maintain the peace.

scaramucci:
It is neccessary to maintain the peace.

mah niggah

ubunja:
glad we're together on this one. it's one of the most basic concepts guys miss. and going forward things just go from bad to worse. unending headaches.

I observed that non of the girls that I refused to spend money on actually left me. Some men have this erroneous idea that giving women money keeps them around. Well, it does to some extent but also not giving them money won't drive them away.

ubunja:
mah niggah

You get to a point that you mostly do it for ladies. It is not too much to appreciate their love.

OPTIMUSPRIME08:
Wow you said it all.
Your first post am applauding to all its content kuddos but you also forgot to add that girls chasing you does not necesaary mean they are down for you, some are after your pocket, what they tend to gain and can also walk away any time it suits thier desire to.
The button line to this girls and relationship is to pull your sense at the front war and your emotion at your back door.

Like Ubunja, I also agree with you. It is not a good idea to assume 100% guarantees. I had this girl who was suddenly all over me and almost killed me with sex. I thought she really liked me. I came to realize that she never liked me one bit. One day she told me that she has finished with me, that she just did it to deal with me for being a stingy guy who doesn't like spending money on women. I felt used but had to accept it in good faith.

scaramucci:
So true. One even threatened me recently that she will start messing around and anything that happens to her is my fault.

Yeah right? I get that too.

JhyMedex:
this comment cld easily b mine..We've had very similar experiences it's almost uncanny..
I'm almost 26yrs and I've neva asked a girl out..Bt ive had a steady stream of gals..

that guilt of not being able to reciprocate their love bites sumtyms..especailly in doz moments wen dey do sth really crazy 4 u..like embark on a 6hr trip to come be wit u jst cos u said u not feelin too ok..

Sumtyms i pray dey get d guys to love them d way dey love me..

The guilt!!!
It kills me. Sometimes I get to reject gifts and cash because of the guilt. I know they're trynna bait me with those and I know I don't wanna owe anyone anything.

You know, I try. God knows and Jesus knows I try so hard to reciprocate! but, but give it a week and I'm back to my don't-give-a-Bleep self. Then they start complaining again.

I wanna love them back, but I just can't. I do everything to help them but I won't give them the love and attention they need.

TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN:
Hello. If you're reading this just know I'm working on being a changed man. Just give me a little time okay?

BLUEJAYY:
The guilt!!!
It kills me. Sometimes I get to reject gifts and cash because of the guilt. I know they're trynna bait me with those and I know I don't wanna owe anyone anything.

You know, I try. God knows and Jesus knows I try so hard to reciprocate! but, but give it a week and I'm back to my don't-give-a-Bleep self. Then they start complaining again.

I wanna love them back, but I just can't. I do everything to help them but I won't give them the love and attention they need.

TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN:
Hello. If you're reading this just know I'm working on being a changed man. Just give me a little time okay?

Lol...u r my evil twin...
Dem don preach 4 me tire ..
I hardly call and like u i aint into all doz lovey dovey stuff...
One of em says shes gon change me..(Babe is hard-core into PDA) So i got my fingers crossed..

ubunja:
when girls chase, miracles happen. Dating is only hard because men do a simple thing in a hard way.

Dress better. Walk better. Speak better.
Do everything better than you've been doing.

Best Quote from ur post..

If guys will stop the chase and do this instead..the dating landscape go change majorly ...
Most girls can't do without attention.. Starve dem of dt n see dem follow u like obedient puppies..

UniQue84:
Hey Ubunja this was indeed a great write up I must confess, you indeed hit the nail on the head...nice one bro

That said, there is one thing about Ubunja's write up if you smart and intelligent, as you are reading you start to relate it to your everyday life, you begin to see were you got it all wrong from your past relationships or a girl that would have been yours easily if you actually followed the rules, it also helps you to evaluate your present relationship if you are doing the right thing and also for future cases. It unravels the practicality in the dating world. I have indeed learnt alot and applied so many and it just work with relative ease ..


For the individuals who share otherwise views especially guyz well I would tell you to take your minds of his private life & throw the hate away, sit down and put your mind into these writings ( the ones that suits you ) and put them to work ( cos there lies the result ) and see if it will work for you instead of hating, if you don't want them stop opening the thread simple . Even certain ladies seems to agree to some extent with what this genius is saying ...imagine a lady and a guy is just hating ...I personally feel is becos of Jealousy, a renowned singer Ednar Ogoli once said that "Jealousy is the root of hatred".

These things work I personally demanded for the PDF copy of the Bang rule as well as Advanced bang rule by Charles Ineji and I must confess it worked like magic when applied .

Keep up with the nice work ubunja, am a FAN.

Please I also need the PDF

Smh. This guy is a case

ubunja:
they tell each other men must get used to rejection blah blah blah. I say why even put yourself In a situation where you will be rejected?

just be the best version of yourself and watch who takes note then harvest her.

Hey bro,I want to chat you privately.... Lost your contact with my previous phone. Nice job thou it can only get better.

goldenboyofpsy:
Hey bro,I want to chat you privately.... Lost your contact with my previous phone. Nice job thou it can only get better.

i will put my number on my profile later on today

If you see a girl that you like and you make up your mind to approach her for a relationship because she's exactly what you want in a woman; you've already lost the game before the game even started.

Going up to her, telling her how beautiful she is and how you'd be honored if she accepted you. Its the epitome of weakness.

That's not how you get and keep a girl.

Already you're chasing. Already she's the Prize. Already she has more power than you and should you date, the power difference will only increase.

Issorite