Greatzeus:
In Nigeria, Everybody wants to make money at the slightest opportunity even if it means cheating others
Children lie about money they were asked to pay in school.
Students lie about school fees and project cost
Employees pocket part of sales money they made
Lecturers sell outdated handouts to exhort students.
Student leaders exhort other students
Wives exhort husbands by inflating soup money
Agbero exhort drivers
Politicians exhort the masses

Yet we keep shouting and pointing fingers at those in government for corrupt practices while the major problem lies with us Nigerians.

The very fabric of the Nigerian society sinks of corruption, from top to bottom. Yet we expect Baba Ruga to come perform magic and cleanse the Nigerian system of corruption.

Smh!

Logobenz4:
We are the same sort of just that I am a little extreme than you are because I won't even bother coming in the first place.
If you invite me for any wedding,gathering,funeral etc that I have no interest in,I won't come.
Then I also don't buy aso ebi but could support with cash if you are of value to me.

your last sentence said it all

Greatzeus:
In Nigeria, Everybody wants to make money at the slightest opportunity even if it means cheating others
Children lie about money they were asked to pay in school.
Students lie about school fees and project cost
Employees pocket part of sales money they made
Lecturers sell outdated handouts to exhort students.
Student leaders exhort other students
Wives exhort husbands by inflating soup money
Agbero exhort drivers
Politicians exhort the masses

The thing is too much. How can the Nation be ever good with all these?

truthsayer009:
Sir, Please stand your ground. Last last your wife will not give you any Sex for few weeks due to anger.

You go do soapy. Marlians.

My niggar

wwwkaycom:
What is this thing about clothing for ceremonies. I don't buy aso ebi, in fact I hate it. I will wear whatever dress I have to attend your function.

But there come instances when you just have to buy. My brother in-law got married late last year and I had to join them in buying their aso ebi only to discover that the dress they sold for 7.5k is just 3k in the market and the dress faded on first wash. I told my wife that she forced me to buy it. That one is gone.

Now, they are planning a funeral programme again and my wife is telling me I must buy their clothing material again. The dress, mine and hers will cost 29k, I got small sample of the material (for male and female), gave it to my textile dealer friend and she told me four trouser length of the male material will cost 6k, while the one for women (wrapper and head tie inclusive) will cost 13k making a total of 19k. I told my wife I'm not buying but she has been on my neck since two days now.

How can someone be extorting me just because they wanted to do funeral? What kind of family thing is this? I'll cough out 29k in this Baba's economy and still give financial assistance to the woman whose father died o.

Why are our people like this?

Still standing my ground while my wife is still insisting I must pay even till now. The funeral comes up first weekend in October.

I resolved few months ago that I will not buy aso ebi again. Thank God my wife does not like it. For our wedding, we did not sell aso ebi.
Op,maintain your stand,do not buy. but if not buying it will lead to serious problem in your marriage,pay for it,but do not sew it. You can send it as a gift to someone. Then,any aso ebi I did not like will be used to sew dress for my mother. i cannot waste money in sewing cloth i do not like. You do not loose in two ways For sake of your family, attend the programme and if you insist on not attending,find good excuse and send a gift to the celebrant. Personally,It is either i attend a ceremony or send gift in most times,not both. I can only give you my time or money not both because time is money.

What I learnt on this thread... It's Sweet To Spend Other People's MONEY.

truthsayer009:
Sir, Please stand your ground. Last last your wife will not give you any Sex for few weeks due to anger.

You go do soapy. Marlians.

soapy for where,side chick full ground!

StrikeBack:
I wear anything I have for any event.
Plain white native for any occasion

My wedding day is close. Everyone is invited!! Wear what you like

how much do u have that u re inviting all of us? Can u feed 2.5 million nairalanders? Am not coming to avoid rice don finish

Ishilove:
Nobody kuku can force me to buy asoebi. The last time I bought aso ebi was for an annual church program two years and it was sold for almost triple the amount. The following year I locked up and refused to buy the aso ebi. I and my mum were the only people in church who didn't buy and we stuck out like white people among negroes. Wetin consine me? I chop the rice well and danced like dancing was going out of style. I REFUSE to be extorted.

Op let your madam buy the aso ebi with her money. Like someone said here, to spend someone else's money dey sweet.

White people among black negroes lolzzz

I once had this discussion with a friend and she thought i was being a miser. Many people's wardrobe is filled with asoebi like wtf!, to those people i ask,what is your purpose in life?.

There is even a subtle bully tactics guilt shaming people into parting with their money.i kuku would rather stay in my house. Or if i buy asoebi it automatically means no gift for you.

apotek:

You are stingy! With that your big yansh

stingy as as how? Are u from mali?

It is not extortion

Biglittlelois:
Funny thread

Are you involved and guilty of the aso ebi extortion scam

alphaNomega:
It is not extortion

So what is it please


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Greatzeus:
In Nigeria, Everybody wants to make money at the slightest opportunity even if it means cheating others
Children lie about money they were asked to pay in school.
Students lie about school fees and project cost
Employees pocket part of sales money they made
Lecturers sell outdated handouts to exhort students.
Student leaders exhort other students
Wives exhort husbands by inflating soup money
Agbero exhort drivers
Politicians exhort the masses

The masses collect money to vote in politicians.

Remember one colleague, she sold her cloth for 6k. Na once I wear am wey he tear, cotton began to loose. She was even ashame at work that she sold us something so inferior that the value in market was not more than 1500 in balgon market.

beresponsible:
All these nairaland ladies advising this bro to fashi. When his wife kuku run marriage because of 29k, shey when he posts next say wifey don run i hope you people will also offer to go over and rub his mike.

You obviously live in a society where Aso ebi is a social norm. My guy buy the cloth. What's 29k to make the lady happy. Remember where una for start. I bet she worth more than 29k to you. No matter how many times you're taken don't worry. Aso ebi is a legitimate scam, it's like taxes.

this is nonsense

wwwkaycom:
What is this thing about clothing for ceremonies. I don't buy aso ebi, in fact I hate it. I will wear whatever dress I have to attend your function.

But there come instances when you just have to buy. My brother in-law got married late last year and I had to join them in buying their aso ebi only to discover that the dress they sold for 7.5k is just 3k in the market and the dress faded on first wash. I told my wife that she forced me to buy it. That one is gone.

Now, they are planning a funeral programme again and my wife is telling me I must buy their clothing material again. The dress, mine and hers will cost 29k, I got small sample of the material (for male and female), gave it to my textile dealer friend and she told me four trouser length of the male material will cost 6k, while the one for women (wrapper and head tie inclusive) will cost 13k making a total of 19k. I told my wife I'm not buying but she has been on my neck since two days now.

How can someone be extorting me just because they wanted to do funeral? What kind of family thing is this? I'll cough out 29k in this Baba's economy and still give financial assistance to the woman whose father died o.

Why are our people like this?

Still standing my ground while my wife is still insisting I must pay even till now. The funeral comes up first weekend in October.

what u need is a divorce. u married a gold digger. i swear if you go broke she will leave you for the next available preek

On my wedding day, there was no aso ebi. I just dropped colour for the occassion. My groomsmen wore white native with red cap on the reception. Traditional day, i told them to wear anything. Shebi wedding don pass and we have been happily martied for more than one year now. Nobody will come to your aid when you have problems. Stand your ground and let your wife understand why you dont want to buy. That thing is pure robbery. I dont even like anko sef talk more of uniform that you will see anyhow people wear everywhere. White native sure pass with cap of your choice. Pele my brother. I feel your pain.

is good having aso ebi but the moment you are imposing it on people and at higher price is a NO. The funniest thing is that they turned it to business.

Aso ebi is just to raise funds for an occasion or also an identity and I see nothing wrong with it. Most people sell pinups, cakes , sweets etc a little extra than the usual price which helps make food and logistics available.

Things are tough which tend to make people now prudent but don’t sound pious abeg and eliminate the real essence of the thing and if you won’t buy abeg support the family. I buy and a lot of it and haven’t sewn them.

Of course I admit someone can take it to the extreme an example is an aso ebi for N100,000

Abeyjide:
is good having aso ebi but the moment you are imposing it on people and at higher price is a NO. The funniest thing is that they turned it to business.

I agree

Last asoebi i bought 22k [sup][/sup]

Take this simple solution to the problem of ashebi. 1. Manage and cough out money for iether her own alone or for both of you this time. 2. Sit down together with her and tell her how much you hate ashebi and equally tell her that every matter concerning ashebi is dead and buried in your house from today. 3. Tell her (if you want to accommodate her a little) that if she want ashebi again that she should foot the bill for her own 100%. Bro., as for for me, I have a long time marked it bad. I cannot even wear it even if my father dies. It's equally a borrowed culture. If not for fun fare I do not see the value it adds. As we talk, I have tutored my wife on how bad I hate it and so it's no longer a discussion between us. She herself these days has equally become is selective. She now sow on her own anyone that is so dear to her.

mysticgal:


This is what I learnt from my friend who got married.

Shey you said you saw the material at a cheaper rate somewhere else, buy that cheap one and sew it if you want to, it’s the same material for God’s sake and if she wants to buy from her brethren, by all means, she should go ahead . At this point, it is very inconsiderate of your wife to want you to spend money frivolously in order to please some people who wouldn’t come to your aid in time of need.

If she doesn’t hear this, even me as a lady, I will not go for the burial finally oh. Before, no be bible talk say “let the dead bury the dead?”

Do what is good and will save your marriage .

You will expect people to come when you want to bury your aged, right?

don4real18:

You will expect people to come when you want to bury your aged, right?

That’s what’s wrong with this country, you want extra largesse thing. If I or my parents want an extra large ceremony, they(I) can do well and keep money for it. Weddings, burials or child ceremonies, are to be within family not the whole community.

Keep killing your self for people who will only laugh and mourn you only when they are seen or even for people who are only there to eat, shishi, gift, they no go give

favourite787899:
I think your wife is just being interested in what people will say if she doesn't buy. But for someone like me I don't care. That was how one of my relatives brought Asoebi for me to buy for her wedding. How much she said 25k and I told her bluntly that I can't afford it cuz I just finished my own wedding then and my own Asoebi was 2k. In fact I never wanted it at all but my mum was saying how it will look beautiful. Even my hubby was willing to pay but for me I refused cuz I felt it was a total waste of fund so no need. Till today she doesn't talk to me and me no send.

Your hubby go like your way well well, he may pretend but inside him, he is happy. So, if any of those financial disturbia shows up, he will just direct them to you and case will be closed immidiately and anyone you approve he will know it's genuine. My wife acts the same way too, I like it.

well its an afonja thing and it looks beautiful.

Mac2016:

Am even an extreme version of you. I hate parties mostly. If am doing mine don't even come. I no know it doesn't get to me at all

Lol.....I think I'm like you also. I hate social gathering

paris10:
Aso-ebi is what it is. It's an opportunity for the ladies to recuperate what they've spent or intend to spend on the party they're organizing. Some spend close to a million, others more. The food, hall, drinks, gifts and other rentages cost a lot you know.

As a form of appreciation, they want you the guest to be blessed too. So, bringing aso-ebi into the fold settles it. You wouldn't expect them to buy such huge yards of clothing with their own money, and still sell it to you at the market base price! They put in efforts into research, transports, and other communication related stuff just to get the best outfit for the event. Those don't come in cheap.

Be realistic, women don't do free stuff. Just buy the cloth having it in mind that you're also blessing the organizer with the extra money they put on top of the aso-ebi. Don't be cheap.

Buy it and save yourself and family the embarrassment.

Enjoy.

Nothing beats being a non-comformist and living in the midst of non-comformists. Your post defines some of the causes of depression and suicide in the society today: the need to impress people and belong to a social class.

If aso-ebi is the only way to get supports from friends and relatives, then something is terribly wrong with us as a people.

And if my failure to buy your aso-ebi is the reason I can't attend your wedding, then that makes it just perfect, I barely want to attend social gatherings in the first place

I have only 3 "must-attend" weddings in this life. I've been to the first and second and both didn't sell aso-ebi. The third is MY wedding and when the time comes, I won't sell aso-ebi to anyone either. Any other wedding aside these three will be attended on my own terms.