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I have been married for about 3 years. Unfortunately, my marriage isn't bliss like I planned. I saw the signs but too weak to renege on my promise for marriage at the time. My marriage is plagued with these behavior from my partner:

1. Intensity
2. Isolation
3. Extreme Jealousy, Possessiveness and Mistrust
4. Belittling
5. Volatility

What do I do?

I just looked through your posts and in the thread below you said
"My entire nuclear family didn't attend mine [wedding] including parents and siblings. None did...".
by Kessykelly: 11:53pm On Apr 21

https://www.nairaland.com/5146299/father-refused-attend-wedding/1#77745065


Why didn't anyone in your family attend the wedding?

Break down these grammars for us in details biko
Intensity could be good thing you know,kindly explain.
Isolation,we get that one, probably there's lack of proper communication
Belittling? How
Volatility? Chai
Could it be the problem in your marriage is using unnecessary grammars when simple words could suffice? Just saying

theButterfly:
I just looked through your posts and in the thread below you said
"My entire nuclear family didn't attend mine [wedding] including parents and siblings. None did...".
by Kessykelly: 11:53pm On Apr 21

https://www.nairaland.com/5146299/father-refused-attend-wedding/1#77745065

Why didn't anyone in your family attend the wedding?

Story for another day. Wedding is different from marriage!

Greatzeus:
Break down these grammars for us in details biko
Intensity could be good thing you know,kindly explain.
Isolation,we get that one, probably there's lack of proper communication
Belittling? How
Volatility? Chai
Could it be the problem in your marriage is using unnecessary grammars wen simple words could suffice? Just saying

Lol. If you know you know o, I no fit shout!

We need more details.

Are you female or male sef?

thorpido:
Are you female or male sef?

If you know you know.

Kessykelly:
Story for another day. Wedding is different from marriage!

You don't sound like someone that is in urgent need of advice that will salvage your marriage going by your replies on the thread to people who asked you genuine question to know the beginning of your problems. The excuses you made up there is so vague nothing to it again.
Which one is IF YOU KNOW YOU KNOW

Kessykelly:
Story for another day. Wedding is different from marriage!

I wonder why you created a thread if you're not willing to give some honest background information for people to advice you accordingly. But it looks like you're not really looking for advice.

virgoquin:
You don't sound like someone that is in urgent need of advice that will salvage your marriage going by your replies on the thread to people who asked you genuine question to know the beginning of your problems. The excuses you made up there is so vague nothing to it again.
Which one is IF YOU KNOW YOU KNOW

I guess you are not married because if you are, you won't probe further! Anyway, I have already gotten the answer I sought.

I am married and all I can see on this thread is someone who most definitely is not really looking for advice. More like someone who wants to troll nairaland.

LewsTherin:
I am married and all I can see on this thread is someone who most definitely is not really looking for advice. More like someone who wants to troll nairaland.

I feel same too, which one is if you know you know? Well he said he has gotin a solution already, lol.

This one open thread to troll.

Oshisko

Biglittlelois:
I feel same too, which one is if you know you know? Well she said she has gotin a solution already, lol.

How did you conclude its a she?

You have stereotyped men as the ones always giving problems in marriage hence it has to be a she?

Kessykelly:
I have been married for about 3 years. Unfortunately, my marriage isn't bliss like I planned. I saw the signs but too weak to renege on my promise for marriage at the time. My marriage is plagued with these behavior from my partner:

1. Intensity
2. Isolation
3. Extreme Jealousy, Possessiveness and Mistrust
4. Belittling
5. Volatility

What do I do?

These words however discrete, could have different meaning to different individuals based on learning and experience.

I can see that you have not come here for solution.

Rather you came to add to people's problems with that ambiguous list

Chai...your English self is plenty. Just be patient and talk to your partner. How to do this?

Get her a nice gift, get on your knees and say..."baby, please help me. I need you to be my peace. Stop being
1. Intensity
2. Isolation
3. Extreme Jealousy, Possessiveness and Mistrust
4. Belittling
5. Volatility"

If she were me, na laugh you go first laugh before we begin the talk . Good luck.

sisisioge:
Chai...your English self is plenty. Just be patient and talk to your partner. How to do this?

Get her a nice gift, get on your knees and say..."baby, please help me. I need you to be my peace. Stop being
1. Intensity
2. Isolation
3. Extreme Jealousy, Possessiveness and Mistrust
4. Belittling
5. Volatility"

If she were me, na laugh you go first laugh before we begin the talk . Good luck.

Greatzeus:
Break down these grammars for us in details biko
Intensity could be good thing you know,kindly explain.
Isolation,we get that one, probably there's lack of proper communication
Belittling? How
Volatility? Chai
Could it be the problem in your marriage is using unnecessary grammars when simple words could suffice? Just saying

Hahahah

You are funny but true.

breezy147:
How did you conclude its a she?

You have stereotyped men as the ones always giving problems in marriage hence it has to be a she?

I didn't stereotype, I actually thought wrong, my bad, I'll modify.

Greatzeus:
Break down these grammars for us in details biko
Intensity could be good thing you know,kindly explain.
Isolation,we get that one, probably there's lack of proper communication
Belittling? How
Volatility? Chai
Could it be the problem in your marriage is using unnecessary grammars when simple words could suffice? Just saying

check your dictionary

This thread needs to be erased

Ganjafama:
This thread needs to be erased

Honestly, closing it doesn't do it justice.

Erase is the word.

Thank you all for your various advice and comments. I wanted to cross check on the next step with someone who will be objective because she/he is not involved and I have gotten the answer. Again, thank you. If you still want to say something, please feel free but so far, I have gotten the answer that I want.

Kessykelly:
Lol. If you know you know o, I no fit shout!

You posted dis in romanceland
From your response here it's either you are not married at all you just want to post a story, or you are the problem in your marriage
Unseriousnes everywhere

LewsTherin:
I am married and all I can see on this thread is someone who most definitely is not really looking for advice. More like someone who wants to troll nairaland.

Exactly

GennyCheta:
You posted dis in romanceland
From your response here it's either you are not married at all you just want to post a story, or you are the problem in your marriage
Unseriousnes everywhere

Kessykelly:
Thank you all for your various advice and comments. I wanted to cross check on the next step with someone who will be objective because she/he is not involved and I have gotten the answer. Again, thank you. If you still want to say something, please feel free but so far, I have gotten the answer that I want.

No further comments.

GennyCheta:
You posted dis in romanceland
From your response here it's either you are not married at all you just want to post a story, or you are the problem in your marriage
Unseriousnes everywhere

Couldn't agree more.