KPOM!


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TheMan17:
Bro....i am a married man. I dont give this chances. You neeed to stand your ground in your home. As much as a wife should be respected and cared for, your case is different. She has chosen a path of destruction. Be strong, take care of your kids. Call her, talk to her( dont shout at her oh, do it calmly), let her see reasons, if y0ur guts tells you she is cheating, be calm, be a husband in the house, tail her discreetlly, make sure yu catch her red handed.

Be smart n fast about it. A cheating woman is liable kill her husband.

Oga, you married a slayqueen and expect her to be virtuous? Jesus!

Your Una wife has seen how weak you are that she feels she can do as she pleases and YOU WON'T DO NADA.

I will advice that you withdrawn all privileges from her and send her back to her family as she is beyond redemption. Focus on your kids and your life.

I wish you well

Based on the information provided, you seem to be insecure for one reason; You are way too older than her and you're scared of not being able to keep up with her and eventually losing her to a younger guy. That's life.

Is ur wife a Taurus?

truthsayer009:
OP, if i get married and have what you have right now I would totally be happy.

10 years of marriage and your wife still looks really good to 100% is rare. You need to ask God for forgiveness because you dont deserve what you have.

Even if your wife wants to play around or go back in shape, it should motivate you to join her in the Gym, get yourself in shape too. Go out with her to events, look like a power couple.

You guys always admire Beyonce when you see her. You think it was by Juju she maintained her figure after 2 kids, imagine if she was with Men like you?

What makes you think she doesnt want to take care of your children.

why don't you join her in looking good?

See me see trouble o. Lol
Someone is complaining about his wife behaving like a wayward woman just because she has a good and young look, you're saying he should join her at the gym. I don't even understand why he let's her move around with those types of friends

Better dont listen to anyones advise to divorce.

Marriage is not about divorcing.
You have to endure.


I know of a couple that are going to 60 years in Marriage.
The woman lived with the man being a cheat.
But she never backed out.
She fought For her home even when slay queens wanted to ruin It.

If You are thinking about divorce It shows your immatured.
And consider your children.
Children from broken homes suffer a lot.

If You think she goes to party.
Then try to attend with her.
You are the one being boring in the relationship.
The more You go in a Marriage the more You spice up things.

I know also of a couple every saturday And sunday they go to the bar to chill.
And during some special occassions they go to the club.
Why dont You start being free.


For the text messages its normal.
Most women Just love when some unknown guy calls them sweet names espically If your not used to that.
But If You think she is cheating.
Talk to her And to the elders in her family.
Most women in her case do this For fun not actually to cheat
Because from your post It seems your not this kind of social man.
And its not cool.


Even my dad tooo isnt social.
And that some of the problems my mum is facing.
He doesnt go to party. I mean wedding parties, birthday parties, And other stuffs.


That Why mum tells us to marry a social man.
Because a man that is social spices the home And It becomes Better If the woman is tooo.
You end up spicing your sex life, You spice up your romance, And even in the family You would want the best For them.
And when You dress You become a killer in fashion.

So thats my point.
But my advice is that dont divorce
It will only make things worst.
Nothing is peaceful or good about separating.
Even now You have kids.
If You do this.
Your children will never respect You.

You can try And look For other ways to sought the Marriage out.
Besides only a wise man.
Endures to the end.
And only a real man knows how to make the home shake.

So think wise
Bye.

Samolaogun:
So I got married to my wife 10 years ago. She was 24 at the time and now we are blessed with 2 kids. My wife has always been one of those self centred all about her looks type of person but I just ignored it and saw the good side of it. After two kids and at 34 my wife still looks very good, I guess that’s one of the perks of marrying young.

But one thing I noticed is that when she was pregnant with our first son all she ever talked about from day one was getting back in shape and losing weight, she was never excited about being a mother or bringing life into the world. Well She’s maintained her shape and when you look at her you will think she’s 25/26. I’m grateful for that however

Now the downside of this is that she gets a lot of Male attention which she entertains and I’m not comfortable with. On her instagram she’s following a lot of males which I’m not comfortable with.

I addressed it to her and she complains I’m being paranoid that they are school friends. When she goes out with her friends she’s always over dressing and looking seductive almost like a single lady looking for toasters.

She’s that over friendly type of woman, always on her phone, likes to do too much shakara and it’s just starting to irritate me. I checked her phone last week and theres one guy that keeps on addressing her as ‘love’. I’ve not addressed it to her yet because I’m waiting to catch her red handed so she will not be able to come up with any flimsy excuse.

One day when her and her friends came to my house to meet up for a birthday party, they all dressed like a bunch of ashewos. The following day we got into a huge argument because I warned her to never try that again.

She is still stubborn and she hasn’t changed. Im fed up of her attitude I’m thinking of separating from this woman before she gives me high blood pressure. She’s not a homely wife at all. All she wanna do is go out, to even attend to the kids effectively is now becoming a problem. I’m tired.

This is a case of a responsible man married to an overzealous slay queen, you married her out of lust, because of her nice physique which made you never to waist time in marrying her, the kind of friends she mingles with would have given you the foreknowledge before paying her bride price, well i wont advice you to divorce her but endure to the end because you took an oath with her which states for better for worse, you are only experiencing the worst part of her now, but dont wait for death to do you part with her. Talk things with her and also slay like a young handsome dude to put back her heart towards you.

sinaj:
Lwkmd

Isnt this what some men are praying for? To get a wife that will remain sexy and goodlooking after child birth.
If it was the opposite you would have still opened a thread too.
One man meat is another's poison sha

Oga work on your insecurities jore or better still wait till you catch her redhanded before you give yourself hbp.

sdfp

donstan18:
This is insecurity at its peak since you're yet to catch her.

Or maybe, just maybe, you have very good reason to think and feel the way you are feeling because there are some flirty activities that is expected of a married Nigerian to quit or reduce.


But in my opinion bruv, I'll advice you to reduce the way you stalk her phone and life and focus on how to train your kids, before you die of HBP, because you never complained of her inability to contribute on the welfare of your kids, you are just uncomfortable with her Slaying life . Stop stalking her so that you don't find out what you've been longing to see. If possible; Start slaying too.

Not all women are ready to turn to an old mgbeke because of marriage, some like looking good and you should be happy you have one because they are few.

You are senseless.

Reading through this thread and laff don kee me, people saying the OP is insecure but non of you said anything about guys calling a married woman "LOVE" if i call any of una mama "LOVE' which of una go like am ? which of una papa go like am ? Come on no dignity among women again. Chai.

sinaj:
Lwkmd

Isnt this what some men are praying for? To get a wife that will remain sexy and goodlooking after child birth.
If it was the opposite you would have still opened a thread too.
One man meat is another's poison sha

Oga work on your insecurities jore or better still wait till you catch her redhanded before you give yourself hbp.

How do you feel now that you've spat this rubbish?

What's the relationship between a sexily good-looking woman and a flirty woman?

Samolaogun:
So I got married to my wife 10 years ago. She was 24 at the time and now we are blessed with 2 kids. My wife has always been one of those self centred all about her looks type of person but I just ignored it and saw the good side of it. After two kids and at 34 my wife still looks very good, I guess that’s one of the perks of marrying young.

But one thing I noticed is that when she was pregnant with our first son all she ever talked about from day one was getting back in shape and losing weight, she was never excited about being a mother or bringing life into the world. Well She’s maintained her shape and when you look at her you will think she’s 25/26. I’m grateful for that however

Now the downside of this is that she gets a lot of Male attention which she entertains and I’m not comfortable with. On her instagram she’s following a lot of males which I’m not comfortable with.

I addressed it to her and she complains I’m being paranoid that they are school friends. When she goes out with her friends she’s always over dressing and looking seductive almost like a single lady looking for toasters.

She’s that over friendly type of woman, always on her phone, likes to do too much shakara and it’s just starting to irritate me. I checked her phone last week and theres one guy that keeps on addressing her as ‘love’. I’ve not addressed it to her yet because I’m waiting to catch her red handed so she will not be able to come up with any flimsy excuse.

One day when her and her friends came to my house to meet up for a birthday party, they all dressed like a bunch of ashewos. The following day we got into a huge argument because I warned her to never try that again.

She is still stubborn and she hasn’t changed. Im fed up of her attitude I’m thinking of separating from this woman before she gives me high blood pressure. She’s not a homely wife at all. All she wanna do is go out, to even attend to the kids effectively is now becoming a problem. I’m tired.

I am not married but i can relate with you.

Do you have access to her phone? As a married couple, you need to have access to each other's phone or you have to have access to her phone. That is the first thing i will do when i get married. She should not be hiding anything from you.

You are the husband, you have to have a say on your wife.

Your wife is a slay queen as they said, party type, over fashionable, want to compete with friends, want to have likes on instagram, want men attention. Let me tell you, even if she is a faithful and has pure intention, one day or some time, she wouldn't know when she will fall to someone or more, she will cheat. I have been there before.

Word!


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healthserve:
Thrash. Ignore anyone that describes your needs as insecurities. In marriage, every spouse male or female should have what is called an emotional safety net/nest.

Your home should be your nest from the worries of this life and its the duty of your wife to create such an harmonious home. Its what my Italian friends would say give them a finger, they'll ask for the hand.

People take liberty too lightly. What an absolute nonsense. You need to communicate your needs about what you're not comfortable with without feeling shunned or damned. I see no insecurities in this


She has abandoned your emotional needs in chase of God knows what frivolous adventures of Tom Sawyer she's chasing at 94.


She's on a slippery path to destruction. I don't need a magician to foretell a bad end on this path. Its either by communication or another means, but find way to bring her back. She has drifted the course. Stop waiting for the bad to happen to say I was tight, rather fight to grown your relationship.


Have someone she respects talk to her, that her present actions is a threat to the marital union and depriving you of peace.


All this autonomous entities within marriages these days sef

Where is MissJoy29 and Aweleawkaetiti


H one last truth , she has finished seeing you and you don't have anything in stock she hasnt seen. She don see you ffinish. To beat her at this game is to psychologically defeat her in the matrix. I'll be brief on this though there's a lot to say here. Behave differently , not your predictable self as you've lost this angle. If a woman can fully predict a man, he loses the edge.



MIND YOU ALL THIS EPISTLE IS BASED ON THE ASSUMPYIONS YOUR CLAIM ARE 100% AND AS THIUGH YOUR WIFE DOESNT DISAGREE WITH ALL YOU TYPED HERE. AS PEOPLE CAN OBSCURE TRUTH TO LOOK GOOD TO PEOPLE

Icon79:
What insecurities BS upon BS!!!

A married woman ought to dress and act like a married woman. A married woman should respect her husband and her marriage. I am of the school of thoughts that a married woman should NOT maintain close male friends. A married woman should go around exchanging phone numbers with any guys who ask for her number. If you're bored with your marriage then quit the marriage and go run the street


O pari

Gbam!

The OP married a slayqueen and he is paying the price.

He cannot say he didn't see these signs from dating stage, neither will he say she suddenly changed to this.

She has zero regard for him.neither does she has atom of virtue in her.

He either divorces her or die in silence

Women seems to stay with those men that maltreat them.
Most of the beautiful ladies that behave well do get some bad treatment from their husband and yet ignore it and pretend all is well.
If you treat some women like Queen, they'll turn the husband to Cinderella.

donstan18:
This is insecurity at its peak since you're yet to catch her.

Or maybe, just maybe, you have very good reason to think and feel the way you are feeling because there are some flirty activities that is expected of a married Nigerian to quit or reduce.


But in my opinion bruv, I'll advice you to reduce the way you stalk her phone and life and focus on how to train your kids, before you die of HBP, because you never complained of her inability to contribute on the welfare of your kids, you are just uncomfortable with her Slaying life . Stop stalking her so that you don't find out what you've been longing to see. If possible; Start slaying too.

Not all women are ready to turn to an old mgbeke because of marriage, some like looking good and you should be happy you have one because they are few.

I bet you typed this in a rush to have a meaningful first-comment but sorry, you've typed rubbish.

If your wife hasn’t started cheating, it’s just a matter of time. Forget all these people telling you that you’re insecure, you’re not. Your instinct is telling you that something is wrong and your instinct can never fail you so, listen to it and act. You’re the head of the house and whatever rule you make should be obeyed by everyone in the house, who is not ready to do that should get out. Even the Bible says that if your wife won’t do as you say, divorce her.. that’s if you’re a Christian.

A man said another man is referring to his wife as "love" and some are saying he is insecure... op, ppl will say rubbish but when such things happen to them, you will see how weak they are....
meanwhile woman are so unpredictable, you can't just conclud.. it your wife not your girlfriend, so check her phone, in fact if need be hire ppl to watch her for you, but do make sure you know thr fact before the take any action...


a wife that any other man is fuckin not worth calling a wife

LordKO:
@OP

It's obvious that you married another man's wife/the wrong woman. A true wife's invaluableness (to her husband, a sane husband of course) lies in the attributes of selflessness, meekness and sweetness - unfortunately she possesses only sweetness which isn't enough to guarantee you peace of mind. And a virtuous woman knows the difference between dressing classy and dressing slutty. So, I support your decision.

Ignore anyone who'll tell you that insecurity is worrying you.

Your brain they gbe wella

Good advice. God bless you

sanusi44z:
I am not married but i can relate with you.

Do you have access to her phone? As a married couple, you need to have access to each other's phone or you have to have access to her phone. That is the first thing i will do when i get married. She should not be hiding anything from you.

You are the husband, you have to have a say on your wife.

Your wife is a slay queen as they said, party type, over fashionable, want to compete with friends, want to have likes on instagram, want men attention. Let me tell you, even if she is a faithful and honest one with pure intention, one day or some time, she wouldn't know when she will fall to someone or more, she will cheat. I have been there before.

You must have unrestricted access to her phone FROM the first day of dating... Don't wait till marriage

Are you also à good husband ? And sure you are a good husband ? Then you should not fear, because she know if she lose you to another women she Will regret it, Do you have good looking ? You too start and dress up, roll your life leave her alone dont talk to her about her dressing about her social life, you too start to dress like correct Guy man with enogh efizi you know alway smell good before You leave House and always ask her How you look like before you leave House even if she dont talk just smile and walk away, and alway keep quite about and behave like man when you return back home, dont talk too much and dont eat too much and dont sleep too much always press your phone in her present, trust me she Will start to confuse about What is goin on. You know What women brain always think about negative than positive, she Will start to think négative about your movement, and she Will always get jealous and agressive, once you notice that just have time to have talk with her and calm her down, you know What women hate ? Women dont like thire husband to dress too atcrative to other women, but always dress like u never Marry and look Good always, i tell u she Will nearly have bp, but make sure you are a resonsible man ooo, if you are not responsable she wont care How you look like, but as for me i dont care Who my wife friand is How she dress, but What am sure about is if she lose me she May not get someone to replace me back. And if my wife always' ignore my talk ï Will abandon her, let her live her life make i leave mine. Or we just seperate simple

truthsayer009:
OP, if i get married and have what you have right now I would totally be happy.

10 years of marriage and your wife still looks really good to 100% is rare. You need to ask God for forgiveness because you dont deserve what you have.

Even if your wife wants to play around or go back in shape, it should motivate you to join her in the Gym, get yourself in shape too. Go out with her to events, look like a power couple.

You guys always admire Beyonce when you see her. You think it was by Juju she maintained her figure after 2 kids, imagine if she was with Men like you?

What makes you think she doesnt want to take care of your children.

why don't you join her in looking good?

Wait until you get married and you can then count yourself lucky for a woman like that..

Like someone said up there,never underestimate the power of your gut feelings..

If it squawks like a Duck and waddles like a Duck,be sure it ain't nothing but a Duck..

The Guy has enough reasons to suspect the wife and until his suspicions are proven to be untrue,he has every reason to be wary..

The responses are funny though. A lot of guys are under the illusion that women are pikins they can just boss around. I forbid you from browsing Instagram, I will take away your privileges. I will check your phone. How?

I know she is an Imo lady ,guy better wise up ,otherwise she will kill you one day

You marry slay queen , she go slay till she die , my prayer for you is not to turn to slain queen

My brother, A lot of people here are inexperience, therefore, know the advise you take.

It is completely improper for a married woman to have very close male friends who can even refer to her as "my love". whoever says that is alright is either inexperience or ignorant.

Marriage require lots of sacrifice from both partners, always put yourself in your partner's shoe. Ask yourself "if my partner behaves this way or relate with opposite sex this way, will I be comfortable? and if the answer is no, know that acting/behaving that way will hurt your partner as well.

Married people should know that when u have decide to get married, there are lot of lifestyle that require adjustment.

There are dressing that's not fitting for married people, for instance a married man sagging his trousers, a married woman dressing inappropriately is completely wrong. people should understanding that you must not dress inappropriately before you look hot and sexy. you can dress appropriately and still be hot and sexy.

Tbh, so many people in marriage today has no business being married, either there are not ready or there are not matured enough.

Note that the maturity am referring to is not age. I mean mental maturity. Marriage require lots of mental maturity.

Those things she is doing, she is way pass that lifestyle, she is now a woman, kids are looking up to her as role model. I will suggest you sit her down and school her, if she is teachable and she has the ability to unlearn, teach her with love I believe she will see reason to change her ways for good and know she is a married woman.

Oga give am belle no time

Samolaogun:
So I got married to my wife 10 years ago. She was 24 at the time and now we are blessed with 2 kids. My wife has always been one of those self centred all about her looks type of person but I just ignored it and saw the good side of it. After two kids and at 34 my wife still looks very good, I guess that’s one of the perks of marrying young.

But one thing I noticed is that when she was pregnant with our first son all she ever talked about from day one was getting back in shape and losing weight, she was never excited about being a mother or bringing life into the world. Well She’s maintained her shape and when you look at her you will think she’s 25/26. I’m grateful for that however

Now the downside of this is that she gets a lot of Male attention which she entertains and I’m not comfortable with. On her instagram she’s following a lot of males which I’m not comfortable with.

I addressed it to her and she complains I’m being paranoid that they are school friends. When she goes out with her friends she’s always over dressing and looking seductive almost like a single lady looking for toasters.

She’s that over friendly type of woman, always on her phone, likes to do too much shakara and it’s just starting to irritate me. I checked her phone last week and theres one guy that keeps on addressing her as ‘love’. I’ve not addressed it to her yet because I’m waiting to catch her red handed so she will not be able to come up with any flimsy excuse.

One day when her and her friends came to my house to meet up for a birthday party, they all dressed like a bunch of ashewos. The following day we got into a huge argument because I warned her to never try that again.

She is still stubborn and she hasn’t changed. Im fed up of her attitude I’m thinking of separating from this woman before she gives me high blood pressure. She’s not a homely wife at all. All she wanna do is go out, to even attend to the kids effectively is now becoming a problem. I’m tired.

LordKO:
@OP

It's obvious that you married another man's wife/the wrong woman. A true wife's invaluableness (to her husband, a sane husband of course) lies in the attributes of selflessness, meekness and sweetness - unfortunately she possesses only sweetness which isn't enough to guarantee you peace of mind. And a virtuous woman knows the difference between dressing classy and dressing slutty. So, I support your decision.

Ignore anyone who'll tell you that insecurity is worrying you.

Coming from a man, you deserve a hug.

Icon79:
Word!


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EMA bi nu. O ba mi lo ji ji ni. O ka mi Lara ga an

Enemyofpeace:
i dey suspect you with the babe. I don see her with you for inside toilet about 5 times now

Abeg no tell anybody?!!!

Princedapace:


This is not really about being hot dear..
She flirts and guys know that she is available, that is why they call her pet names like love, my love. There are elegant married women u can't even dare call such name because they will send fire to visit u. She has presented her self as ever ready seductive woman online and men are bidding for her.

She rarely takes care of her kids, she leaves them with her mom only to go partying. While partying, she dresses seductively. She is hardly around, she jumps from one place to another. All these are what the OP pointed out.

The world has gone crazy and we kind of praise stupidity like we praise bbn. There is difference between dressing well and wearing stuff to seduce other men. Ladies who are still looking for men, single or ashawos can dress like that. But for a married woman, dressing like that for events her husband is not even with her means she is calling for male attendants. I know her type.

I can't force anyone to change. I can't advice anyone to do same. She can't change. That is who she is. She falls in the class of our female celebrities. Some ladies are like that. Some men are like that too.

He should leave her to live her life. He should divorce her. I feel for the kids too. They will suffer more from this. From the OP accounts, the woman doesn't even have value for kids.

I am not supporting her indecency. We're even saying the same thing. If a certain lifestyle of your proposed other half is one you can't deal with, why go ahead to still be with them? Different people have different lifestyles. The onus is on you to find that which you can live with. Don't settle for one you'd normally not like and hope for a change which most times, never comes.
Sadly, this attitude towards her marriage would affect the poor kids who'd suffer from all of it if the marriage is dissolved.

sinaj:
Oga work on your insecurities jore or better still wait till you catch her redhanded before you give yourself hbp.

donstan18:
This is insecurity at its peak since you're yet to catch her.

Somebody's wife has turned into a slay queen and you all are yarning insecurity up and down. As a man and husband, I can't even stand my wife having bunch of nuisances as friends and following one another up and down