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Ifemide123:
I had to create this account today for this. It's really eating me up and I am tired.
I am 24, will be 25 soon. I am this indoor person and so I hardly meet people. My first relationship ended like two years back and I haven't been in a reasonable one since then.
I meet people online cos I don't get to meet them offline, most of the guys I meet are based in different state from mine and they don't mind me visiting, but once I tell them I live with my parents and would need their permission to come visit, they just stop getting in touch. I have lost over 5 potential partners because of this, they all feel we should be comfortable with ourselves first before putting parents matter into it. Some don't see it as a big deal living with my parents, they just find it funny that they wouldn't allow me go visit my boyfriend(note that they wouldn't know him bfr I go visit)
I can't even think logically anymore that's why I am here to ask Wether the problem is with me or them. The only one I met that has travelled to come visit me is verbally abusive. He met my mum and wants things done the proper way.
I am really exhausted. I guess gone are those days where you have to meet your potential wife in her father's house.
I told my mum I want to start attending youth church and she object to it saying I can only change church after I get married.
My sisters are lucky tho, they got a job outside our state and moved out of the house

talk to them and let them know how worried u are about it.

Ifemide123:
But why are these kind of guys scarce in reality? They are making me feel like being a good lady doesn't hold water. One ended whatever we were trying to build with that line "you're a good girl..."

Sweetheart don't trade your value or virtue for any guy who won't respect your personality. At the appropriate time you will meet that destined guy meant for you trust me.

Your parents are protective, I married from such family and I can relatively notice the impact from my wife's life. I would prefer you look into another aspect other than boy friend. Time shall come when you will be tired of relationship, be it marriage or boy friend tinz

This person is trolling.

ornicus:
Chai - you took me down memory lane. Good times.

We know how it goes.

ednut1:
na kitty dey scratch this babe lol. But her parents no dey try

Chick needs to get laid quick and proper or she will 'disappear' for two weeks and her parents will blow up the internet until she is found helpless in another state.

We will see the story on FP

Ifemide123:
I had to create this account today for this. It's really eating me up and I am tired.
I am 24, will be 25 soon. I am this indoor person and so I hardly meet people. My first relationship ended like two years back and I haven't been in a reasonable one since then.
I meet people online cos I don't get to meet them offline, most of the guys I meet are based in different state from mine and they don't mind me visiting, but once I tell them I live with my parents and would need their permission to come visit, they just stop getting in touch. I have lost over 5 potential partners because of this, they all feel we should be comfortable with ourselves first before putting parents matter into it. Some don't see it as a big deal living with my parents, they just find it funny that they wouldn't allow me go visit my boyfriend(note that they wouldn't know him bfr I go visit)
I can't even think logically anymore that's why I am here to ask Wether the problem is with me or them. The only one I met that has travelled to come visit me is verbally abusive. He met my mum and wants things done the proper way.
I am really exhausted. I guess gone are those days where you have to meet your potential wife in her father's house.
I told my mum I want to start attending youth church and she object to it saying I can only change church after I get married.
My sisters are lucky tho, they got a job outside our state and moved out of the house

To Bleep dey hungry you....that's the truth.....punna dey scratch you.

It's simple.....get a good guy in your church and start something nice.

Must you do distance or online relationship.

I should have been available for you baby, but I still love and cherish my freedom.

Cheers on your endeavors

PLAN B


Find one better guy to help you get pregnant.. this is the only solution to free from your parents....

Ifemide123:
I meet people online cos I don't get to meet them offline, most of the guys I meet are based in different state from mine and they don't mind me visiting, but once I tell them I live with my parents and would need their permission to come visit, they just stop getting in touch.

I have lost over 5 potential partners because of this, they all feel we should be comfortable with ourselves first before putting parents matter into it.

1. Refer to bolded #1; it's normal to ask your parents. Is their answer Always a No? If yes, they are being over protective or maybe its an extreme religious thingy. If No, you are a baby in relationships cos they know you'll definitely ask if it's the first time.

2 Refer to bolded #2; you haven't lost anything, they were not meant to be. A person that loves you will try and assess your state and work in solving any problems with you.

I will reserve the remaining comments for the relationship experts

GraGra247:
Did you even listen to me. The guy has no business coming to see your mom till he's ready to start the marriage process.

He should get himself a hotel room in town to spend his nights. You only go to see him at an eatery around your area and discuss with him and find out everything about him.

The rest other discussions can be on whatsapp chat till he's ready to bring his people and come and officially see your parents.

The only avenue he has to physically meet with you is in an eatry till he sees your parents with his family members and formalize his intent.

LOL is this one talk

Ladylite:
Why not LIE that you got a job, and come to where your sisters are at, why not lie with proof of employment and escape. Inbox me, I can help

Don't ever lie. It is deplorable. If you need to stand up to your parents, do so in a polite but firm way. However, I don't think serious minded young men will be put off by the fact that you still live with your parents. I met my husband while living in my parents home and got married from there. Persevere, the right man will come and when he does, he won't let flimsy reasons stand in his way.

Many girls don't value the protection being rendered to them by their parents, until they fall prey to wolves in sheep's clothing! For now, you should be preoccupied with how to: procure admission into a tertiary institution of learning, Learn a vocation; get a stable means of livelihood! Then, by default, other things will follow suit. Your mom was once your age: she has more experience about life than you do! My humble piece of advice!

GraGra247:
Did you even listen to me. The guy has no business coming to see your mom till he's ready to start the marriage process.

He should get himself a hotel room in town to spend his nights. You only go to see him at an eatery around your area and discuss with him and find out everything about him.

The rest other discussions can be on whatsapp chat till he's ready to bring his people and come and officially see your parents.

The only avenue he has to physically meet with you is in an eatry till he sees your parents with his family members and formalize his intent.

Lol, very funny. So she should meet her spouse just once the rest should be done on WhatsApp. Any lies she's being told online, she has to believe.

Young lady living with your parents house cannot stop you from getting married don’t be deceived.

Why are all your potential boyfriends outside the state? Why can’t search for one in the same state?

Try to go out more, make friends and if any guy really likes you they won’t mind that you’re still in your parent’s house and they won’t mind letting your parents know them.

Ifemide123:
I had to create this account today for this. It's really eating me up and I am tired.
I am 24, will be 25 soon. I am this indoor person and so I hardly meet people. My first relationship ended like two years back and I haven't been in a reasonable one since then.
I meet people online cos I don't get to meet them offline, most of the guys I meet are based in different state from mine and they don't mind me visiting, but once I tell them I live with my parents and would need their permission to come visit, they just stop getting in touch. I have lost over 5 potential partners because of this, they all feel we should be comfortable with ourselves first before putting parents matter into it. Some don't see it as a big deal living with my parents, they just find it funny that they wouldn't allow me go visit my boyfriend(note that they wouldn't know him bfr I go visit)
I can't even think logically anymore that's why I am here to ask Wether the problem is with me or them. The only one I met that has travelled to come visit me is verbally abusive. He met my mum and wants things done the proper way.
I am really exhausted. I guess gone are those days where you have to meet your potential wife in her father's house.
I told my mum I want to start attending youth church and she object to it saying I can only change church after I get married.
My sisters are lucky tho, they got a job outside our state and moved out of the house

Your parents are not totally wrong in their approach towards you. Except they have certain misgivings and distrust about your person. It's advisable one socializes especially when in a social environment like school, but some will remain enclosed in classrooms chasing Gp and forming too holy. You seriously need a man now but your choice is not forthcoming. unfortunately, it's weird to express yourself towards a man you possibly like because of its un-Africaness.

Online can not give you a responsible man either. In all, be polite always.

I think you should get involved in social activities that would help u meet people.. Religious activities, further studies, skill acquisition/training etc that’s ur escape, its not a good idea to go visiting an internet lover in another town, its dangerous. husband no easy to find o.. however u have to hustle wisely

Ifemide123:
I had to create this account today for this. It's really eating me up and I am tired.
I am 24, will be 25 soon. I am this indoor person and so I hardly meet people. My first relationship ended like two years back and I haven't been in a reasonable one since then.
I meet people online cos I don't get to meet them offline, most of the guys I meet are based in different state from mine and they don't mind me visiting, but once I tell them I live with my parents and would need their permission to come visit, they just stop getting in touch. I have lost over 5 potential partners because of this, they all feel we should be comfortable with ourselves first before putting parents matter into it. Some don't see it as a big deal living with my parents, they just find it funny that they wouldn't allow me go visit my boyfriend(note that they wouldn't know him bfr I go visit)
I can't even think logically anymore that's why I am here to ask Wether the problem is with me or them. The only one I met that has travelled to come visit me is verbally abusive. He met my mum and wants things done the proper way.
I am really exhausted. I guess gone are those days where you have to meet your potential wife in her father's house.
I told my mum I want to start attending youth church and she object to it saying I can only change church after I get married.
My sisters are lucky tho, they got a job outside our state and moved out of the house

I see you don't have a social life and always doing online dating which is not helping. I for one don't like distance dating. The only immediate help you can get now, is to be a dedicated & committed member of a very big church. Attend all church service as a serious member , meet new people and make friends. It works like magic

markdonpuzo:
Boss. Make sure she cum insyde her house back on time. I don't want to hear raw stories on Nairaland oooo

you guys no go kill person here!

markdonpuzo:
Boss. Make sure she cum insyde her house back on time. I don't want to hear raw stories on Nairaland oooo

you guys no go kill person here!

Ifemide123:
I had to create this account today for this. It's really eating me up and I am tired.
I am 24, will be 25 soon. I am this indoor person and so I hardly meet people. My first relationship ended like two years back and I haven't been in a reasonable one since then.
I meet people online cos I don't get to meet them offline, most of the guys I meet are based in different state from mine and they don't mind me visiting, but once I tell them I live with my parents and would need their permission to come visit, they just stop getting in touch. I have lost over 5 potential partners because of this, they all feel we should be comfortable with ourselves first before putting parents matter into it. Some don't see it as a big deal living with my parents, they just find it funny that they wouldn't allow me go visit my boyfriend(note that they wouldn't know him bfr I go visit)
I can't even think logically anymore that's why I am here to ask Wether the problem is with me or them. The only one I met that has travelled to come visit me is verbally abusive. He met my mum and wants things done the proper way.
I am really exhausted. I guess gone are those days where you have to meet your potential wife in her father's house.
I told my mum I want to start attending youth church and she object to it saying I can only change church after I get married.
My sisters are lucky tho, they got a job outside our state and moved out of the house

why are u so much in a haste to move out of ur parent's house or rather why are u so desperate for a relationship? u better focus on getting urself a job or acquire a skill for now, relationship will come later...... focus on developing urself, that is all i have to tell u

Ifemide123

Forget about those animals that run from you when you tell them you live with your parents. Those are not men or humans. They are demented, destructive beasts. You are far off better without them.

Yes, the curfew given by your parents is right on track. If you had friends ( friends in the realest sense) your parents knew well and trust, they would have allowed you spend a night at their place. But you say you are an introvert so I don't know how that's going to happen.

My advice for you is to try and put yourself out there. Any one you meet online must meet you at a public place and not private. Be careful with online peeps though....socialise with sense. Don't be desperate.

Above all, use your time now to huzzle and get that cool cash to be financially independent and travel out because trust me, these same parents you say are overprotective will one day want you out of the house.

You can worry about man when the opportunity arises and you meet a decent man/human being (with brain nuts tightly screwed) that won't be afraid of meeting your parents regardless of where you live.

Chuks9000:
Something

�. Wetin person nor go see for nairaland

Ifemide123:
I had to create this account today for this. It's really eating me up and I am tired.
I am 24, will be 25 soon. I am this indoor person and so I hardly meet people. My first relationship ended like two years back and I haven't been in a reasonable one since then.
I meet people online cos I don't get to meet them offline, most of the guys I meet are based in different state from mine and they don't mind me visiting, but once I tell them I live with my parents and would need their permission to come visit, they just stop getting in touch. I have lost over 5 potential partners because of this, they all feel we should be comfortable with ourselves first before putting parents matter into it. Some don't see it as a big deal living with my parents, they just find it funny that they wouldn't allow me go visit my boyfriend(note that they wouldn't know him bfr I go visit)
I can't even think logically anymore that's why I am here to ask Wether the problem is with me or them. The only one I met that has travelled to come visit me is verbally abusive. He met my mum and wants things done the proper way.
I am really exhausted. I guess gone are those days where you have to meet your potential wife in her father's house.
I told my mum I want to start attending youth church and she object to it saying I can only change church after I get married.
My sisters are lucky tho, they got a job outside our state and moved out of the house

you better use your head. Your parent will not carry the shame of being single at 30 with you.

I know a lady with similar trait who is 35 now and not married. This attitude of not going out and her choice of dating cause her to be in such situation.

Mind you she is a good wife material and pretty but the world has rule you must abide by, no matter how good you are.

That is why bad girls get married faster these days.

Ifemide123:
I had to create this account today for this. It's really eating me up and I am tired.
I am 24, will be 25 soon. I am this indoor person and so I hardly meet people. My first relationship ended like two years back and I haven't been in a reasonable one since then.
I meet people online cos I don't get to meet them offline, most of the guys I meet are based in different state from mine and they don't mind me visiting, but once I tell them I live with my parents and would need their permission to come visit, they just stop getting in touch. I have lost over 5 potential partners because of this, they all feel we should be comfortable with ourselves first before putting parents matter into it. Some don't see it as a big deal living with my parents, they just find it funny that they wouldn't allow me go visit my boyfriend(note that they wouldn't know him bfr I go visit)
I can't even think logically anymore that's why I am here to ask Wether the problem is with me or them. The only one I met that has travelled to come visit me is verbally abusive. He met my mum and wants things done the proper way.
I am really exhausted. I guess gone are those days where you have to meet your potential wife in her father's house.
I told my mum I want to start attending youth church and she object to it saying I can only change church after I get married.
My sisters are lucky tho, they got a job outside our state and moved out of the house

Babe u want to visit a guy u met online , just like that ? It seems u don’t read news of people disappearing , any guy that leaves u because u stay in ur fathers hus, is a fool and doesn’t deserve u. Personally I met a girl online, I flew several times from lag to enugu to see her, before even telling her to come visit me. Be careful all u see in social media anit same oo

Ifemide123:
I had to create this account today for this. It's really eating me up and I am tired.
I am 24, will be 25 soon. I am this indoor person and so I hardly meet people. My first relationship ended like two years back and I haven't been in a reasonable one since then.
I meet people online cos I don't get to meet them offline, most of the guys I meet are based in different state from mine and they don't mind me visiting, but once I tell them I live with my parents and would need their permission to come visit, they just stop getting in touch. I have lost over 5 potential partners because of this, they all feel we should be comfortable with ourselves first before putting parents matter into it. Some don't see it as a big deal living with my parents, they just find it funny that they wouldn't allow me go visit my boyfriend(note that they wouldn't know him bfr I go visit)
I can't even think logically anymore that's why I am here to ask Wether the problem is with me or them. The only one I met that has travelled to come visit me is verbally abusive. He met my mum and wants things done the proper way.
I am really exhausted. I guess gone are those days where you have to meet your potential wife in her father's house.
I told my mum I want to start attending youth church and she object to it saying I can only change church after I get married.
My sisters are lucky tho, they got a job outside our state and moved out of the house

Get a job outside the state and move out of your house, na you go tire for man

Trust me

Ladylite:
Why not LIE that you got a job, and come to where your sisters are at, why not lie with proof of employment and escape. Inbox me, I can help

You are a bad shildren

Ifemide123:
I had to create this account today for this. It's really eating me up and I am tired.
I am 24, will be 25 soon. I am this indoor person and so I hardly meet people. My first relationship ended like two years back and I haven't been in a reasonable one since then.
I meet people online cos I don't get to meet them offline, most of the guys I meet are based in different state from mine and they don't mind me visiting, but once I tell them I live with my parents and would need their permission to come visit, they just stop getting in touch. I have lost over 5 potential partners because of this, they all feel we should be comfortable with ourselves first before putting parents matter into it. Some don't see it as a big deal living with my parents, they just find it funny that they wouldn't allow me go visit my boyfriend(note that they wouldn't know him bfr I go visit)
I can't even think logically anymore that's why I am here to ask Wether the problem is with me or them. The only one I met that has travelled to come visit me is verbally abusive. He met my mum and wants things done the proper way.
I am really exhausted. I guess gone are those days where you have to meet your potential wife in her father's house.
I told my mum I want to start attending youth church and she object to it saying I can only change church after I get married.
My sisters are lucky tho, they got a job outside our state and moved out of the house

A lot of youths are facing same predicament as you are, my advise is look at it in a positive ways i.e make sure u graduated with a very good certificate, learn a skill also, dont waste your precious time on Girls most of them are like wolves.
No matter how wealthy your parents are there will be a day which you will be on you own and with hundred of responsibilities on your shoulder.
I was once in your shoes until i lost my beloved father, Now I possess with skills that allowed me mingle with so many people.
I usually associate with people on professional capacities otherwise and at home with my family.

Ifemide123:
I had to create this account today for this. It's really eating me up and I am tired.
I am 24, will be 25 soon. I am this indoor person and so I hardly meet people. My first relationship ended like two years back and I haven't been in a reasonable one since then.
I meet people online cos I don't get to meet them offline, most of the guys I meet are based in different state from mine and they don't mind me visiting, but once I tell them I live with my parents and would need their permission to come visit, they just stop getting in touch. I have lost over 5 potential partners because of this, they all feel we should be comfortable with ourselves first before putting parents matter into it. Some don't see it as a big deal living with my parents, they just find it funny that they wouldn't allow me go visit my boyfriend(note that they wouldn't know him bfr I go visit)
I can't even think logically anymore that's why I am here to ask Wether the problem is with me or them. The only one I met that has travelled to come visit me is verbally abusive. He met my mum and wants things done the proper way.
I am really exhausted. I guess gone are those days where you have to meet your potential wife in her father's house.
I told my mum I want to start attending youth church and she object to it saying I can only change church after I get married.
My sisters are lucky tho, they got a job outside our state and moved out of the house

Let me speak from a guy angle.
Firstly, they only retreated because their plans wouldn't work with your parents knowing your whereabout.
Secondly, I'm not in a school of thought that says " introduce your gf/bf you just met to your parents and siblings" that should be done when you are such he is the one.

Matured guys who actually ready for marriage are looking for your type of girl but young folks who wants to just have fun wouldn't buy the idea of you being with your parents. Just remain in your parent's house the right one will show up eventually.

Hey don't let that bother you! Living with you parents isn't a bad thing.. Although I know how parents can be, especially when you are in the same house with them. But the fact is that, any guy who stops communication with you cos you still live with your parents or because you need their permission to go out does not have good intentions for you.

Every reasonable person should understand that parents will always be protective of their children no matter their age.

So my advice to you is to take it easy on yourself, don't get angry or hate your parents... Just do your thing and one day you'll have a good reason to leave the house. Maybe via school, work or something... Just remain positive.

Cheers

Sleevia:
you better use your head. Your parent will not carry the shame of being single at 30 with you.

I know a lady with similar trait who is 35 now and not married. This attitude of not going out and her choice of dating cause her to be in such situation.

Mind you she is a good wife material but the world has rule you must abide by, no matter how good you are.

That is why bad girls get married faster these days .

So a girl that is free to leave her house regularly is a bad girl? Nigerian train of thought

Your bases of moving out is not concrete..

If it was about having freedom for something better now,I for say something but its not...

smartoliver:
�. Wetin person nor go see for nairaland

She said "say 'something'", a said "something"!
I do that to my children alot. When I need them to express themselves properly.
Just have a good time at the thread then sa