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Magnoliaa:
"Never hurt a man's ego."

"The male ego is the most fragile thing ... ."

"Never belittle a man, insult him, or make him feel less of a man . . ."

"Be submissive, not seek to be domineering and flaunting your achievements, wealth . . . ."

"Never raise your voice/hand back at/on him."

" 'Cover him up, and don't expose his weaknesses, to men, people.' "

"Learn to understand his mood, what ticks him off and try to avoid doing them."

"Men are like babies, wants to be pampered and learning to tend to their ego, nurturing it is key to unlocking their best selves."

"A man wants to be in the lead, be first, provide, and do all for a woman."

"Something in him seeks to do, to be needed, and not be led . . ."

So many things has been said it, described and told to women to heed, take note of. An undefined, complex, and obscure thing that everybody refers to and pass comment about.

What is it exactly?

Is it (something) in a man? And how does it affect his behavior, in every area of his life? Or It's just a general thing, common to males and females, but the male's has been misrepresented? Changed into what it is not?

Is it psychological, an entirely different 'make' of ego compared to a female's, or it is exclusive to men alone?

If there's something like that, could it be because of culture (societal expectations and gender roles), resulting in a particular mentality: one of taking up responsibilities, desiring to lead, being compelled to sacrifice, etc, for a woman?

What do you think of it?
What do you understand about it?
What's the male ego?

lilbest4:
men are naturally viewed as expendable, the highest thing you can at least do for a man as a woman is to make him feel his sacrifices are appreciated.

LillyVal:
The male ego is driven by recognition, attention, and action. Men are assumed to be more active beings who do important things (such as political leaders, soldiers, scientists, etc.) and who are deserving of attention by others. In this vision of the male ego, men are driven by their physical strength, sex drive, and evolutionary biology as competitors for female attention to be competitive, to strive for greatness and power, and to avoid showing any emotion and weakness. For example, in most Nigeria communities, the male gender role is typically understood and described in active as opposed to passive terms. Men are courageous, strong, competitive, independent, and stable (in contrast, women are passive, emotional, weak, and more socially-oriented). To give another example, men in many communities in Nigeria are expected to avoid showing emotion. Remember the old saying "boys don't cry?" Instead, men are supposed to be macho and strong in the face of personal challenges, such as loss, grief, and sadness

Magnoliaa:
This is interesting and enlightening...

Thank you for sharing.

Pascopele:
In my opinion, "the male ego" determines the degree of power a man perceives and believes himself to possess. If he has a strong ego--he sees himself as strong and powerful. Conversely, if he has a weak ego, he sees himself as weak and powerless.

I have learned that there are Five Basic Needs all males must have continuously "reinforced" in order to feel powerful:

1) the need to be recognized as a special person.
2) the need to "travel light" without feeling a loss of personal freedom.
3) the need for loyalty from others.
4) the need to be close emotionally with satisfying sexual unions.
5) the need to work successfully-- since the male's personal identity is directly tied to the occupation he chooses for himself.

I learned about these basic needs through long years of reading, observation, education, experience, trial and error. And I've noticed many examples of widely spread social problems resulting from weak male egos.

I was enlightened by a very astute and honest male friend who told me during an internet chat one evening that all men measure themselves through the eyes, smiles, and words of the women they know and/or love. He said, "We are what you believe us to be. Men are made by women."

And, interestingly, after learning these simple truths about the male ego's basic needs, it occurred to me that I had these same needs, too. I discovered that "the ego" is gender neutral and directly attributed to one's self-image as a strong or weak person. Males and females are different in many ways biologically--but the same in mind and soul. That old cliché, "What's good for the gander is good for the goose" is very true, in my 66 years of human experience.

meobizy:
“There are many men but few husbands”. “Many men can bear children but only few are fathers.”. Any woman looking for something serious does not view her selected male as expendable.

Magnoliaa:
So it all comes down to how they've been raised and taught?

LilMissFavvy:
You wrote to support the men, only for it to backfire. Be wiser next time.

LilMissFavvy:
You wrote to support the men, only for it to backfire. Be wiser next time.

lilbest4:
all husband are men first. for any society to survive the harshness of the world it had to treat men as expendable, it has to be ready to sacrifice the lives of men to protect and provide for women and children. All men are expendable, it is a harsh truth but it's the truth. You will understand this during war or when you want to board emergency live boat

lilbest4:
men are naturally viewed as expendable, the highest thing you can at least do for a man as a woman is to make him feel his sacrifices are appreciated.

lilbest4:
for humanity to survive in a naturally hostile earth, every society needed to be ready to sacrifice the lives of its men to protect and provide for
women and children. There is necessarily no reason for a man to want to do that so men were bribed and deceived with things like statue, glory, heroes(by dying in a war), status and bravery. Men started measuring their worth with these bribes which served as a source of self esteem derived from making yourself disposable and believing it's for the good of humanity. Without the male ego we'll all still be living in jungles

GeniusDavid:
Unlike a woman who simply is, a man must become. And every man thinks of himself as the perfect embodiment of the term "man". It's what makes him wake up and ready to slay dragons. It is his primary source of motivation.

"The male ego" is simply the intrinsic need to feel like kings (even if he's not) and hurting a man's ego is simply reminding him that he is no king (that they're greater men) and denying him recognition for his achievements in turn starving him of the highest validation he needs.

If he can't be recognised for being "THE MAN". Then he is no man at all.

Pascopele:
In my opinion, "the male ego" determines the degree of power a man perceives and believes himself to possess. If he has a strong ego--he sees himself as strong and powerful. Conversely, if he has a weak ego, he sees himself as weak and powerless.

I have learned that there are Five Basic Needs all males must have continuously "reinforced" in order to feel powerful:

1) the need to be recognized as a special person.
2) the need to "travel light" without feeling a loss of personal freedom.
3) the need for loyalty from others.
4) the need to be close emotionally with satisfying sexual unions.
5) the need to work successfully-- since the male's personal identity is directly tied to the occupation he chooses for himself.

I learned about these basic needs through long years of reading, observation, education, experience, trial and error. And I've noticed many examples of widely spread social problems resulting from weak male egos.

I was enlightened by a very astute and honest male friend who told me during an internet chat one evening that all men measure themselves through the eyes, smiles, and words of the women they know and/or love. He said, "We are what you believe us to be. Men are made by women."

And, interestingly, after learning these simple truths about the male ego's basic needs, it occurred to me that I had these same needs, too. I discovered that "the ego" is gender neutral and directly attributed to one's self-image as a strong or weak person. Males and females are different in many ways biologically--but the same in mind and soul. That old cliché, "What's good for the gander is good for the goose" is very true, in my 66 years of human experience.

LilMissFavvy:
You wrote to support the men, only for it to backfire. Be wiser next time.

LilMissFavvy:
You dick-brained vacuous buffon.......Bastard .......I hate giving you attention because I hate childish fools who interact with memes. When you are ready to manage a sane debate without the use of pictures.....let me know.

LillyVal:
The male ego is driven by recognition, attention, and action. Men are assumed to be more active beings who do important things (such as political leaders, soldiers, scientists, etc.) and who are deserving of attention by others. In this vision of the male ego, men are driven by their physical strength, sex drive, and evolutionary biology as competitors for female attention to be competitive, to strive for greatness and power, and to avoid showing any emotion and weakness. For example, in most Nigeria communities, the male gender role is typically understood and described in active as opposed to passive terms. Men are courageous, strong, competitive, independent, and stable (in contrast, women are passive, emotional, weak, and more socially-oriented). To give another example, men in many communities in Nigeria are expected to avoid showing emotion. Remember the old saying "boys don't cry?" Instead, men are supposed to be macho and strong in the face of personal challenges, such as loss, grief, and sadness

ThierryJay:
No ma'am. Although I suspect this is your own conclusion. However, the fact is that the male ego is a natural instinct. Just as a male lion that conquers another male lion tries to assert its dominance by killing off the conquered male's offspring, to put the females on heat. It's a natural order that is not based on how the lions were nurtured. Countless examples abound in the higher animal kingdom where the male species need to put in some sort of competitive performance to win over female mates. It's all natural.

It's no different in humans. The fact that males naturally have a higher level of testosterone makes them genetically wired to be physically stronger, more confident, more adventurous, than their female counterparts. It's these attributes that have helped shape the progression of the world for thousand of years through wars, inventions, expeditions, etc. By being naturally stronger and domineering, it's only natural that men would be in charge of the decision making processes in most societies, giving them that upper hand in representation at the global stage.

Of course, this also comes into play when relating with females. Men are generally fiercely competitive when trying to woo a woman, and would try to employ the very best methods that would demonstrate their manhood to win a lady. Females too overtime have come to reward men (accepting proposals) that exhibit the very best traits of manliness which spur men to aspire to attain higher levels of male supremacy.

In summary, the essence of the male ego is firstly natural, consequently it becomes evident, and then finally becomes cemented through societal values.

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Mordecai:
As emotions are to women, what territorial behavior is to wolves, what protective behavior is to a German Shepherd dog, as herding behavior is to a border collie, such is ego to a man.

It can be used for good, or for evil. It can drive achievement, it can also drive envy and wickedness.

It can inspire commitment and responsibility, it can also inspire controlling behavior and abuse.

Mryacks:
Makes sense, your view.

healthserve:
Stop making a fool of yourself. You know your own underlying motives here

friendlyadvice:
Ask your father

Magnoliaa:
Thanks for that friendly suggestion.

Idsoft ... so there's nothing then like, a domineering man/animal and a weak one in nature?


ClintonNzedimma .... Testosterone, an hormone? What is that saying about the topic?

meobizy:
The male ego is pride, end of story. There is nothing magical about it. Women are told to stay cautious and protect their man’s ego because in a serious relationship a man is actually the chooser not the woman. As such do not get on his bad side because he can easily reject you. Every action you take registers in his mind as a reward vs cost balance. If the costs of keeping you outweigh the rewards he’ll cut you off without a second thought.

From experience even the most rude of females enters into a relationship being humble. They instinctively know keeping a man happy/content keeps her around longer. A female uninterested in a man or inexperienced in relationships crushes a man’s ego without a care. However on meeting a man she desires adjusts her character to suit him.

ThierryJay:
No ma'am. Although I suspect this is your own conclusion. However, the fact is that the male ego is a natural instinct. Just as a male lion that conquers another male lion tries to assert its dominance by killing off the conquered male's offspring, to put the females on heat. It's a natural order that is not based on how the lions were nurtured. Countless examples abound in the higher animal kingdom where the male species need to put in some sort of competitive performance to win over female mates. It's all natural.

It's no different in humans. The fact that males naturally have a higher level of testosterone makes them genetically wired to be physically stronger, more confident, more adventurous, than their female counterparts. It's these attributes that have helped shape the progression of the world for thousand of years through wars, inventions, expeditions, etc. By being naturally stronger and domineering, it's only natural that men would be in charge of the decision making processes in most societies, giving them that upper hand in representation at the global stage.

Of course, this also comes into play when relating with females. Men are generally fiercely competitive when trying to woo a woman, and would try to employ the very best methods that would demonstrate their manhood to win a lady. Females too overtime have come to reward men (accepting proposals) that exhibit the very best traits of manliness which spur men to aspire to attain higher levels of male supremacy.

In summary, the essence of the male ego is firstly natural, consequently it becomes evident, and then finally becomes cemented through societal values.

AstroG:
Both the Topic and the Contents of the thread are INCONCLUSIVE

I have nothing to say