Xisnin:

Education is also a sham to unemployed and unemployable graduates.


Are you really free since everything you do is dictated by your white masters who can't
handle their domestic affairs?



The same way many employers have been pushed into hiring bad candidates. What poor employers!
Given that it is Nigerian men who seek out and proposed to women, I don't think you are worth engaging
much further.


Of course, some women would be pushed into what they don't want


Yes. You are a product of the sham even if your parents were not married
because they benefited from a society that values marriage.

You are just like a nudist who complains about people wearing cloth without
understanding the need for clothes in the first place.

I have assumed that you are a single guy who is not interested in any relationship
now or in the future. But it will be too bad if you happen to be those who have a long-term relationship
or even cohabitating where the relationship is run just like married people while claiming not to be married.

Ryan03:
then it should work with the right lady

Ryan03:
nobody marries the whole family unless he chooses to. Even as a single guy, family members do call me for money, if I have, I give, if I don't I tell you I don't. If I have and don't feel like giving, I won't. Its the same when you get married, nobody will put a gun to your head

Offpoint:

Searching for such a lady is like searching for a drop of water in the ocean.

Ikem11:
Lol op this more reason I married a white lady. For past 6 years I been with her not even a day I paid for her mama or papa things... Na them they join come give me sef as someone married to their daughter.

African mentality is so bad. My wedding was paid by my father in-law cos am not allowed to since am getting married to his daughter (not like I can't afford it they know very well I can)

Ugosample:


are you sure you are an igbo man?

we know where the shoe pinches

Ryan03:
nop, I'm from south-south

Ryan03:
so because you FIL paid for the wedding it makes it the best and other weddings paid for by the groom rubbish? Do you know how many in-laws harvest crops from their farm and take to their married children in the city? That is what they can afford.

CHoccolaTE:
Another idiotic thread for small boys with no life experience to whine on. If you hate marriage so much then don'tget married. Simple.

And it's very funny you men think you are the only ones who carry financial burdens in marriage when many women are working like dogs to support lazy or jobless husbands. They don't announce it to outsiders because they are ashamed and they dont want to be mocked.

The only problem men have with marriage is the fact that they have to spend on the woman they married. You want to be leaders and superior to everybody but you don't want respnsibilities. If women start listing all the problems they face from disrespect to neglect to catching stds from men who got married but want to like single guys to countess other family issues your thread will not have space left.

Naggers and complainers. Men these days just have nagging problem. Always complaining but never doing anything to solve problems.

Xclusiveme:
Africa Tradition just tire me
A Wedding must be grand in every way. Some even borrow just to make the people pleased.
A Burial Ceremony is always the talk of the town. The lavish spending on the dead shows that Africa needs to dumb their rubbish tradition and implement d western's.

Africa has made it so that if you don't have money, you cannot marry. And if u didn't spend much they call u stingy or broke. What a crazy way of life

Ugosample:


that id why you are talking like this

There is a reason Mrs is called Oriaku in igbo language

she (and her familyby extension) have come to rie aku

hahahahahaha

condemn:


Shutup, married women don't stay out late at night. Over sabi nai go make you remain single for life.

Ryan03:
lol, what does that mean?

CHoccolaTE:
Another idiotic thread for small boys with no life experience to whine on. If you hate marriage so much then don'tget married. Simple.

And it's very funny you men think you are the only ones who carry financial burdens in marriage when many women are working like dogs to support lazy or jobless husbands. They don't announce it to outsiders because they are ashamed and they dont want to be mocked.

The only problem men have with marriage is the fact that they have to spend on the woman they married. You want to be leaders and superior to everybody but you don't want respnsibilities. If women start listing all the problems they face from disrespect to neglect to catching stds from men who got married but want to like single guys to countess other family issues your thread will not have space left.

Naggers and complainers. Men these days just have nagging problem. Always complaining but never doing anything to solve problems.

Ryan03:
but married men stay out late? You stupid o

Kapeter:
you lied. Marriage isn't hard, Africans made it so with their barbaric reasoning. Many women don't want to leave abusive marriage because the society would look down on them, the youths don't wanna go into marriage not because they can't take care of themselves and their respective wives buh because they can't at the same time take care of extended families of their partners.

Same girls many guys are with right now can easily be married off by them buh they can't not because they can't feed them but because what tradition would request them to bring before they can officially hand over same girls to them, because extended family will never stop coming and then because many of these girls also only want the marriage because they are tired of fending for themselves.

Go to many western word and see how easy marriage is really is.

Offpoint:

Coming home early is also characteristics of responsible man?

khiaa:


LMAO That's sweet. How old are they?

khiaa:

So in other words, Africans have less divorces because the wife is totally dependent on the husband and can't provide for the kids and herself so she remains in a unhappy miserable marriage.

Kapeter:
I don't know what the problem with African is though buh it seems it's not God that created others that also create us sha cuz in everything we are totally different and it's obvious.

A case study of Mercy conversation with Ike on the bbn recently telling him 'He can't take care of her and her family'. It's obvious this is the mentality of most African women. I was on a dead thread recently and i saw a lady on that thread telling the op to forget(leave) her boyfriend and start seraching for men over 30 years instead cuz a 26 year old man can still not feed himself not to talk of feeding the op and her family. What an advice.

18 years is world standard age of freedom, right? This means at 18 years, a man is free off his family and can as well start his own family if he so wish, ain't it so how come a man 8 years older than 18 is deemed not to be fit for marriage? Well, cuz he won't only be carying his own burden anymore, he'll also be carrying that of the wife and the wifes' extended family, but why exactly? And they wonder why African men don't settle down early.

This story has to change, it was never mandated in any religion book(for religious people) that a partner is to carry the others burden just because they are married. Infact the bible made us realize a woman is meant or created to be an helpmate to a man and not a burden buh reverse is the case in the world we live in now.

First from the unnecessary troubles you make them go through all in the name of wedding, make them spend all savings they could have also invest which will in turn help the marriage in the long run, same wedding you could have just take your immediately family only, with that of your partner, go to any court, get it done, wear your wedding dress and take photos(for future sake) and return home as husband and wife buh no, sunny ade must come to play, all extended family we've not seen for past 15 years must all gather while we call on feast for everyone even if we have to borrow money to host them and such still paying loan even after 10 years in marriage while the people we hosted are all in their homes living their life wit no concern of how new couple are fairing...

khiaa:


A nice wedding do not have to be expensive, it's only expensive when you are trying to show out and impress others. Honestly it would be wiser to invest that money into your marriage not a one day affair like a wedding. Use that saved money to build a house, preparing for your first child, or saving for financial security.

edward1984:



I don't have an identity,? So it's in our culture for a man to misbehave in a marriage or have a side chick while society tells the woman to bare and be prayerful, it's in our culture for a woman to be in an abusive relationship while she stay and just pray? I'm a Nigerian and I'm not saying anything against our culture, I just mention I have a friend that got married with this amount, same can be applied in Nigeria for couples with very low income, instead of trying to satisfy according to you,, "the society or culture" sorry but the truth hurts and you sound bitter...

Ugosample:


just so you know


apart from that illusion of Elevated status of being a "Mrs"

there isn't much in marriage to enjoy for a lot of women back in Nigeria
its one frustration to the next

So it actually goes two ways.

And not every one complaining here is a child

some are just sick of the excessive foolishness out there

like myself for example

all those being giddy and excited about getting hitched in contemporary Nigeria
You schmucks don't know what's about to hit you


You missed the point big time

Ryan03:
so because you FIL paid for the wedding it makes it the best and other weddings paid for by the groom rubbish? Do you know how many in-laws harvest crops from their farm and take to their married children in the city? That is what they can afford.

Ryan03:
did you see "girls afternoon and she goes with the kids"?

BRATISLAVA:

Same white u adore charge ppl 2 enter dia weddings. Just bcuz 2 strange ppl married in 20 euro don't mean anytin. Mins ntn @ all. Dey hv all sort just like Nigeria hv all sort. U act as if only dia way is 2 gud, but u cnt evn b submissive 2 ur woman as dey r 2 dias. Wen ppl r broke dey begin 2 admire strange tins dt even d foreigners find fulish.

Ugosample:


don't mind them

when you call out the uselessness of the system run in Africa
they will open their mouth and try bringing in western countries into it....


The marriage scam in western countries come in a different dimension from the sham in Africa
the difference is that while they over there are having frank discussions about it, Nigger Africans are still burying their head in the sand, and in love with their chains


Damn it


hahahahahahaha

khiaa:


Where in the west do they charge people to enter a wedding?

BRATISLAVA:

Same white u adore charge ppl 2 enter dia weddings. Just bcuz 2 strange ppl married in 20 euro don't mean anytin. Mins ntn @ all. Dey hv all sort just like Nigeria hv all sort. U act as if only dia way is 2 gud, but u cnt evn b submissive 2 ur woman as dey r 2 dias. Wen ppl r broke dey begin 2 admire strange tins dt even d foreigners find fulish.

BRATISLAVA:

U hv Neva seen such wedding b4? There r such. Very common

khiaa:


I live in the west, the U.S. which specific country are you talking about because I have never heard of such a thing?