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I'm confused with myself. With some people, I can talk to them easily and I can joke around and all that. I'm almost a different person when I'm around some other persons. But I feel like it doesn't get me anywhere. It's the same process everyday.

And then the people I really want to talk to, I can't. I get so nervous and my stomach drops. I just think of the worst scenarios possible, and it's not healthy, and no matter how hard I try, I just have so much trouble with certain human interactions. It just makes me frustrated, sad, and confused.

The only thing I hate about myself is not impregnating my landlord daughter's Amina before I left Lagos...

One of my regrettable moment.

I find it difficult to talk to adults too. Making conversation when I’m with an older person in a room or during a drive or just in a gathering is always difficult for me

Tela101:
I'm confused with myself. With some people, I can talk to them easily and I can joke around and all that. I'm almost a different person when I'm around some other persons. But I feel like it doesn't get me anywhere. It's the same process everyday.

And then the people I really want to talk to, I can't. I get so nervous and my stomach drops. I just think of the worst scenarios possible, and it's not healthy, and no matter how hard I try, I just have so much trouble with certain human interactions. It just makes me frustrated, sad, and confused.

yeah.i feel this same sh*t too

Tela101 :

We are facing the same challenges o. I am suffering from the same issue you av stated. But i don't know how to deal with it yet, it has cost me potential girlfriends, or even friends

Alexaonfleek:
yeah.i feel this same sh*t too

I think this problem has to do with certain level of confidence and better exposure when you were still a kid.....


But i usually think that ladies are better equipped at handling interactions bcus they are the ones answering questions instead of asking.(from observation)

ya'all know less... know more and become bold.

chenzen:
ya'all know less... know more and become bold.

I don't understand

Below is what i hate about myself. I need serious help.

#InsideLife

Assuming too much

The thing I hate about myself the most are:

I am easily sympathetic towards people's plight , I tend to overthink, I have serious impostor syndrome and I tend to be highly pessimistic because of life experience. That's all

NGRsenate:
I find it difficult to talk to adults too. Making conversation when I’m with an older person in a room or during a drive or just in a gathering is always difficult for me

I can easily have a conversation with and make friends easily with adults. To talk to people my age on the other hand, is difficult.

NGRsenate:
I find it difficult to talk to adults too. Making conversation when I’m with an older person in a room or during a drive or just in a gathering is always difficult for me

So u can't address a crowd of senior men?

theButterfly:
I can easily have a conversation with and make friends easily with adults. To talk to people my age on the other hand, is difficult.

same here. I feel more comfortable being around older men.

Bruno3000:
So u can't address a crowd of senior men?

If they’re within my age group, sure!

But addressing considerably older men is usually difficult for me

theButterfly:
I can easily have a conversation with and make friends easily with adults. To talk to people my age on the other hand, is difficult.

Lol it’s the opposite for me

I am not alone finally.....


So, brothers and sisters how do we tackle this?

I'm easily sympathetic because I hate to see people around me lacking or suffering.

I'm too expressive and I want to start reducing that. I want to be a bit taciturn

Lastly, I'm a very generous person but I really don't know if I should call it my weakness

tosyne2much:
I'm easily sympathetic because I hate to see people around me lacking or suffering

I'm too expressive and I want to start reducing that

Lastly, I'm a very generous person but I really don't know if I should call it my weakness

Same here

My number one problem is talking too much

Nothing. i love me so so so much

I care alot too much for others.

I displease myself to please others..

I tend to act like a good person in order not to be labeled bad...

I hate the fact that I can't stand my ground and tell people NO even when I know that I can't provide for that at the moment....


I can't open to the people I love, gently telling them how their behaviour sucks except when they push me to the wall...

starbuck:
I care alot too much for others.

I displease myself to please others..

I tend to act like a good person in order not to be labeled bad...

I hate the fact that I can't stand my ground and tell people NO even when I know that I can't provide for that at the moment....


I can't open to the people I love, gently telling them how their behaviour sucks except when they push me to the wall...

Also happens to me alot

Offpoint:
The only thing I hate about myself is not impregnating my landlord daughter's Amina before I left Lagos...

One of my regrettable moment.

Madddd

Pessimism and overthinking things even on normal situation, assuming things wrongly, not able to speak in public trying to kill that shit