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Offpoint:
It seems Nigerians guys are born complainers. 95% of thread in Romance section is of guys complaining and nagging.

If I don't like sokoto, I'll stop visiting sokoto instead of complaining about sokoto always.


I don't like complains, I got my bathroom filled up with soap and Vaselines.

Soap and vasline won't keep you warm at night.

MedicH:
There's great poverty and misery in the land oga.

Yeah. People are soo poor they can now collectively afford to spend half a billion dollars voting for people that will never ever influence their lives in anyway. Oh, what a poor country.

Anyway that's how their brains are wired

MiztaYouneek:
There are over a million decent girls in Nigeria that don't need your money and won't ask for it but just expect you as a man to show care and love.
If you keep meeting these hungry girls all the time then I think you should change the kind of places you look for girls. Probably try somewhere different. What baffles me is how much we have all lost focus of the exact way one can actually build or grow a good relationship into marriage.

First of all, how can one pass through secondary school and I didn't find one decent girl to just be grooming small small. Enter university still didn't find and then nysc still didn't have a serious relationship then now working and feels its now the right time to find a woman.

This is why some people have issues in marriage because by the time they get to this stage, its only a matter of luck to find a perfect soul mate because you end up meeting people who will hide certain things from you just to get married and few years into the marriage those hiden characters or things will definitely start coming out.

Very true words.

Ahmed0336:
My brother, na how goat stand for market dem dey price am.

oil dey ya head... You are blessed

daddycee91:
Met this girl on FB some days ago and she said she has a job which I was cool with...we kept chatting and getting to know each other & all of a sudden..gbam!! She lost her job, she needs this, she needs that..oh God!! Someone I'm just getting to know?

It's a format bro. Same way g boys doing dating whatever operate.

AfroKnight:
Lol. What a narrow, rigid and amusing line of thought!




There is no guarantee that the girl(s) you meet/date (or in your words, groom) in high school and university would marry you. As long as they have minds of their own, like normal human beings, they are capable of choosing whom they would marry. And you might not be on that list.

Perhaps you would drag them to the altar To fulfil your proper, calculated arrangement for marriage.

People change. Mindsets evolve. A down to earth girl who wasn’t materialistic years ago can become extremely materialistic tomorrow and still down to earth, to boot. Whose fault?

If you think long courtship/friendship is the key to lasting marriage, then you have a rude awakening awaiting you.

Sometimes, all it takes for a person to have a paradigm shift in values is a triggering event. One eureka moment and boom, “bad bîtch” level is unlocked!


The best advice I can give anyone is “marry a kind person, who actually likes you and wants you too.”

You've said it all, bar man give this young man a bottle of chilled Gulder.
The only thing that is constant in life is change for someone to say groom a girl from high school, university blah blah shows how myopic thinks

And they are not always loyal....

For the ladies .......

If you be girl in this present generation,,and you re having 2 to 3 and above fiance's or boyfriends,,,,,,,forget ,no matter how you want to change it ,call it or play smart,it doesn't change the fact dat you are a runs girl (ashawo).........

Ahmed0336:
My brother, na how goat stand for market dem dey price am.

Na only elders fit yearn this oh. I hail u Sir, Agba awo .

2SWT:
You have to pay registration fee na, Nigerian babes aren't cheap

If you don't pay it in form of house rent, you have to buy a phone or just something significant

Meaning that those of you girls that do that are certified prostitutes cos you will eventually give out your pussy in return. If guys chop the cookie tire and turn you to borehole, you go come dey cry to church if they no marry you and start to they curse men since one Omo boy chop him own and flees to marry one decent young girl

bukatyne:
If you are really observant, you would notice it is a Nigerian thing.

You are afraid to ask people how they are when you do not have the ability to meet their financial needs and wants

Deep. I can relate.

luvyaself95:
See them

See who

sinceraconcept:
Meaning that those of you girls that do that are certified prostitutes cos you will eventually give out your pussy in return. If guys chop the cookie tire and turn you to borehole, you go come dey cry to church if they no marry you and start to they curse men since one Omo boy chop him own and flees to marry one decent young girl

What of the ones who give it to you for free? What do you call them?

AfroKnight:
OP, naija girls are products of the situation in the country. If you stumble upon someone who isn’t that materialistic, you might not be interested in her. She might not be in the package you prefer. That’s life.

It is funny how these ladies are confident enough to demand stuff or beg guys they just met.

You just met a guy and you’re asking for cash or call credit. Shame no dey catch you?

Asides shame...I think for some of them it’s their new way of sending a guy they don’t like away......I’ve met enuf girls in my life time.... and I can say 100% women are very reserved when they like u, they are so careful they don’t wanna ruin what Eva it is they gat going on with you...

2SWT:
What of the ones who give it to you for free? What do you call them?

U give it out for free ..Still a bitchh, u can’t please a guy....do ur thing and live with the consequences....if it’s the money u came for...get it and get out....if it’s the dic, get it and get out too

2SWT:
What of the ones who give it to you for free? What do you call them?

those ones are sluts and y'all are prosti.tutes. Honestly,women are worth nothing these days,when I get married,the only women I wouldn't cheat on are those I married as virgins but if I meet your pussy used, I go just dey Bleep outside dey go without remorse ni and don't dare blame me since I'm the bread winner and If you try it,you're out. Most men share this same mentality and that's why we cheat a lot. If we marry a wayward woman, we won't have any iota of respect and trust for her,there is nothing like past is past tense, we just pretend as if we've forgiven the past,it's always too hard to swallow, marry us and you go see our true colour,we go use your dirty past react to you and a woman's dirty past is her sexcapade. That's why Kanye decided to make a sextape with a Kim look alike after their marriage and Kim no blame am nor talk. We men are just wired somehow. Even notice those amugbos and irresponsible guys, they usually respect good girls.

You Nigerian men have no one else to blame for this but yourselves. Some of you think it's your responsibility to be doing this and that for a girl you're dating b/c you want to prove you've money. I don't think I can ask a man I'm dating for money or for whatever. If he's my husband, then that's a different story.

1StopRudeness:
U give it out for free ..Still a bitchh, u can’t please a guy....do ur thing and live with the consequences....if it’s the money u came for...get it and get out....if it’s the dic, get it and get out too

Thanks dear, this should be the standard. Women should be free to do whatever they want with their body

sinceraconcept:
those ones are sluts and y'all are prosti.tutes. Honestly,women are worth nothing these days,when I get married,the only women I wouldn't cheat on are those I married as virgins but if I meet your pussy used, I go just dey Bleep outside dey go without remorse ni and don't dare blame me since I'm the bread winner and If you try it,you're out. Most men share this same mentality and that's why we cheat a lot. If we marry a wayward woman, we won't have any iota of respect and trust for her,there is nothing like past is past tense, we just pretend as if we've forgiven the past,it's always too hard to swallow, marry us and you go see our true colour,we go use your dirty past react to you and a woman's dirty past is her sexcapade. That's why Kanye decided to make a sextape with a Kim look alike after their marriage and Kim no blame am nor talk. We men are just wired somehow. Even notice those amugbos and irresponsible guys, they usually respect good girls.

Says someone who has no idea of civilization. You still expect to marry a woman who will be totally dependent on you then you will in turn treat her like trash. I pity any woman who will fall into your trap

2SWT:
You have to pay registration fee na, Nigerian babes aren't cheap

If you don't pay it in form of house rent, you have to buy a phone or just something significant

Na so. After screaming strong independent woman.

MiztaYouneek:
There are over a million decent girls in Nigeria that don't need your money and won't ask for it but just expect you as a man to show care and love.
If you keep meeting these hungry girls all the time then I think you should change the kind of places you look for girls. Probably try somewhere different. What baffles me is how much we have all lost focus of the exact way one can actually build or grow a good relationship into marriage.

First of all, how can one pass through secondary school and I didn't find one decent girl to just be grooming small small. Enter university still didn't find and then nysc still didn't have a serious relationship then now working and feels its now the right time to find a woman.

This is why some people have issues in marriage because by the time they get to this stage, its only a matter of luck to find a perfect soul mate because you end up meeting people who will hide certain things from you just to get married and few years into the marriage those hiden characters or things will definitely start coming out.

There's no such thing as the perfect soulmate. If you're lucky, you'll just get someone you can tolerate.

2SWT:
See who

You still dey ask me.

Csami:
There's no such thing as the perfect soulmate. If you're lucky, you'll just get someone you can tolerate.

There is bro, just say you haven't met yours.

theButterfly:
You Nigerian men have no one else to blame for this but yourselves. Some of you think it's your responsibility to be doing this and that for a girl you're dating b/c you want to prove you've money. I don't think I can ask a man I'm dating for money or for this and that. If he's my husband, then that's a different story.

Wait! Seems I'm not current o


Do Nigerian men still give money to women these days ??


And op, simply shift gear if she's placing her financial problems on you , simple!

Don't ask about her welfare
Don't ask if she has eaten
Don't ask about her job

Avoid these questions and you will be fine !

It's that simple .

pharrell8:
Bro urs is even beta met a gal collected her noba didn't call her DAT day had to wait till d next day to call all she could tell was DAT she has not eating, I should send her money for her to buy food even if it 5H.. I asked her if I was her Dad and if I didn't call won't she find a way to eat...

Bros, you should have been more diplomatic about it since you're not giving her the 5H... That's quite harsh
No be say she dey ask for phone nah

2SWT:
Says someone who has no idea of civilization. You still expect to marry a woman who will be totally dependent on you then you will in turn treat her like trash. I pity any woman who will fall into your trap

There is no how a woman wouldn't depend on a man. It might not be 100% but it wouldn't be less than 70%. Compare the number of women that are richer than there husbands with the reverse being the case, their percentage is very very low. Men in general usually earn more than women,how many women is on Forbes 100 richest men on earth. Look around your home town, your city, your state, your local government,your village, your street, your family, your house, your flat. The richest people on average are the men. So, how wouldn't you depend on us? Even woman go dey earn much and still dey depend on man, there is nothing you can do about that folk,women will always depend on men. Even in the most civilized climes, men rule women, men are the shot callers. No woman has ever became a president in America,your supposed "most civilised nation" o. Even your civilized Americans prefer a douchebag talkative womanizer like Donald Trump to an Intelligent,diplomatic,well behaved,scandal-free Hilary. That's the world we live in folk, you just have to depend on men like your civilized American women depended on an immoral crazy braggadocio and misogynist like Donald Trump to come and rule them. Same goes to other great nations in the world. Even if custom demands a woman to rule,she's still going to need a man. In civilized climes, The ratio of women that have ruled compared to men isn't up to 2:100. Men are highly depended on and women vote a lot but they vote for men cos they depend on them. Even your weave on, sanitary pads, make ups,hijabs,panties,etc are made by man,how wouldn't you depend on men? It's like that all over the world and will be like that forever. Civilized Bill Clinton cheated serially and good mannered Hilary forgave him and couldn't do the same to retaliate even though she's more feminist than you. It's because she's wise enough to see her man as her boss, her leader and shot caller, she's not a zombie and a very educated lady who's more educated, smarter and more civilised than you but she kept it cool with her husband but I'm sure you wouldn't keep it cool since you think you're civilized and can't but you're wrong. I've hardly seen anything invented by a woman,how wouldn't you depend on men? If you were born in Middle East, your husband will marry 2nd,3rd or 4th wife and there is nothing you can do about it. Are you as civilised as these Arabian ladies? But they know it's a man's world and they have to keep it cool. Polygamy isn't my thing but a lot of civilised women are dealing with it and keep it cool since they know it's the world we live in.

2SWT:
You have to pay registration fee na, Nigerian babes aren't cheap

If you don't pay it in form of house rent, you have to buy a phone or just something significant

LMAO, are you saying they're commodities? Like no difference from an average nigerian girl and a prostitute.

No wonder guys keep treating y'all as an object.

boomssey:
words of wisdom.

Words of wisdom ko! Words of antelope ni!


Secondary school children should not face their studies and start grooming a girl up and down.


What the op is saying is true Joor!


Either university days or service days, almost all Nigerian babe's first love is money

Akious2k2:
Bros, you should have been more diplomatic about it since you're not giving her the 5H... That's quite harsh
No be say she dey ask for phone nah

Is Baba diplomatic

pharrell8:
Is Baba diplomatic

Considering what you narrated, she sounds like one who truly needs help... I'm not castigating you for not helping her, but you should have been nice about it... Even the amount she needed is not exurbitant (Talking about 5H)... At least, she's not a member of the "I need I-phone" gang

Fortune109:
Words of wisdom ko! Words of antelope ni!


Secondary school children should not face their studies and start grooming a girl up and down.


What the op is saying is true Joor!


Either university days or service days, almost all Nigerian babe's first love is money

why don't you speak for yourself.