Hello everyone,
it's really my first time to ask for help here.

I will be 35 20 days from today and I intend to get married very soon, but after a bitter break up more than 1 year ago, I finally make up my mind to love again but I am caught up in between two lovely women.

Note: I am not dating any of this girls but they are my friends and wonderful people character wise.

I have known the first one since childhood, she has turn out to be an amazing young girl always supportive when I need her, living with her I know I will definitely be very happy in my marriage but she is less of a goal oriented person, which means I will have to work more, she is more of an extrovert also very loyal.

The second girl is very okay character wise, very submissive and is great goal getter, marrying her means I will do less for us to achieve our goals but she is more of an introvert, she is this kind of girl that can keep to her self, and she very loyal too

both of them outwardly does not carry the body I would like but inwardly they are amazing people. both of them support my vision in life so well.

Please marriage expert in the house help me, as I don't want to make mistake in my marriage. I am still praying but I feel I need to also find a way out.

which of this girls would you chose to marry and why?

matured advice are welcome.

thanks

If you can't make up your mind (at 35yrs old) about which one you desire more to marry then I am sorry to say that you have no business thinking of getting married to ANYONE.

idom101:
Hello everyone,
it's really my first time to ask for help here.

I will be 35 20 days from today and I intend to get married very soon, but after a bitter break up more than 1 year ago, I finally make up my mind to love again but I am caught up in between two lovely women.

Note: I am not dating any of this girls but they are my friends and wonderful people character wise.

I have known the first one since childhood, she has turn out to be an amazing young girl always supportive when I need her, living with her I know I will definitely be very happy in my marriage but she is less of a goal oriented person, which means I will have to work more, she is more of an extrovert also very loyal.

The second girl is very okay character wise, very submissive and is great goal getter, marrying her means I will do less for us to achieve our goals but she is more of an introvert, she is this kind of girl that can keep to her self, and she very loyal too

both of them outwardly does not carry the body I would like but inwardly they are amazing people. both of them support my vision in life so well.

Please marriage expert in the house help me, as I don't want to make mistake in my marriage. I am still praying but I feel I need to also find a way out.

which of this girls would you chose to marry and why?

matured advice are welcome.

thanks

LOL, boss at 35 hope you are very rich o.

Why will you be so childish to speak of body assets when money can do it.

Anyway, even after sex and pregnancy the body shape can be changed.

So stop making a life decision on a temporary matter.

You need to also pray because marriage is spiritual, you need to know that you will only have a good marriage if you are you marry a lady for who she will be and not for who she currently is.


People change ooo.

It's well with you

What's the guarantee that you'll be happy if you marry the first one? Like, why are you just so sure that she'll give you happiness? Because she's your childhood friend?

Never you for any reason think that relationship of friendship is same as that of marriage. Never!

Check the kind of person you are and weigh the kind of girl you think you'll be okay with you between them. Simple!

Ladylite:


LOL, boss at 35 hope you are very rich o.

Why will you be so childish to speak of body assets when money can do it.

Anyway, even after sex and pregnancy the body shape can be changed.

So stop making a life decision on a temporary matter.

You need to also pray because marriage is spiritual, you need to know that you will only have a good marriage if you are you marry a lady for who she will be and not for who she currently is.


People change ooo.

It's well with you

I don't have a problem with the body, I know too well the most important part of this is within. so the body is not my priority at all

You are 35years old and you think you can wake up one day and marry a girl you didn't date simply because your English is good enough to analyse them.

You don't know that no one fully understands women because they are like a giant enclopaedia with several torn pages.

If a man who dated his wife for 9 years before marrying her still doesn't understand her, imagine what it will be for a person whose only knowledge of his wife is from a brotherzone distance.

You don't even know if her 'down-below' smells,
You don't know if hairs grow inside her nostrils,
You don't know if she wears padded bra

The good thing is that you know that they are not your 'spec' but you are willing to endure.

My only advice.
Just pick one of them and marry. Life expectancy in Nigeria is 53years, so your time is ticking away.
But get ready for another bitter breakup; this time, in marriage.

Because you didn't learn anything.

MrBrownJay1:
If you can't make up your mind (at 35yrs old) about which one you desire more to marry then I am sorry to say that you have no business thinking of getting married to ANYONE.

Bro the fact is everyone can't be you, and you can't be me, I ask for a simple advice not to be bash

I have seen people married and separated, I don't want same that why i seek genuine advice. Leave the age out if it, if you can't help then don't worry. Thank you

donstan18:
What's the guarantee that you'll be happy if you marry the first one? Like, why are you just so sure that she'll give you happiness? Because she's your childhood friend?

Never you for any reason think that relationship of friendship is same as that of marriage. Never!

Check the kind of person you are and weigh the kind of girl you think you'll be okay with you between them. Simple!

Thank you for your advice. In our dealings daily she is someone who is not disturbed by anything.
she is very jovial and lively too.

idom101:

Bro the fact is everyone can't be you, and you can't be me, I ask for a simple advice not to be bash

I have seen people married and separated, I don't want same that why i seek genuine advice. Leave the age out if it, if you can't help then don't worry. Thank you

Bro that WAS my help... you are not mature enough to enter marriage, if you can't take such a simple decision at 35yrs old. Marriage is about REAL connection with your partner and not just paper mathematics. You should feel in your heart who you want to spend the rest of your natural life with, and if you don't feel it, then you shouldn't marry anyone as it will simply be a waste of time.

NwaAmaikpe:




You are 35years old and you think you can wake up one day and marry a girl you didn't date simply because your English is good enough to analyse them.

You don't know that women are like a giant enclopaedia with several torn pages.
No one fully understands them.

If a man who dated his wife for 9 years before marrying her still doesn't understand her, imagine what it will be for a person whose only knowledge of his wife is from a brotherzone distance.

My only advice.
Just pick one of them and marry. Life expectancy iin Nigeria is 53years, so your time is ticking away...but get ready for another bitter breakup; this time, in marriage.

Because you didn't learn anything.

that's hardcore but thanks

MrBrownJay1:


Bro that WAS my help... you are not mature enough to enter marriage, if you can't take such a simple decision at 35yrs old. Marriage is about REAL connection with your partner and not just paper mathematics. You should feel in your heart who you want to spend the rest of your natural life with, and if you don't feel it, then you shouldn't marry anyone as it will simply be a waste of time.

Thank you. I appreciate

Hmmmm.

How can we choose just by what you wrote here?

It is a whole lot deeper than that.

Baba no matter the advice we give you here, last last you'd still settle for the one with the biggest boobs

.

You can marry both.

African tradition supports polygamy

Marital happiness trumps it all. With happiness and peace of mind, success will follow. But if u marry for success and there's no happiness, ur life span go shorten.
Married folks here that aint happy in their marriages will understand me better.

P.s I didn't read the content of the content of the topic o

Love is deeper than any ocean can ever be.. We are not marrying the girls for you so ask yourself this question; which of them do I really love to spend a lifetime with? Though a major concern would be what your definition of love is...

Following

Last last na 43 years you go marry. We know your type

ednut1:
Last last na 43 years you go marry. We know your type

You get sharp mouth sha

Ok ooh.

I will advice you to go for anyone that you always feel free with... Like the one which you open up to freely and she also open up to you as well.

Marriage is not an easy stuff sha... You can never find a woman who is 100% Perfect.. Its your duty to try as much as possible tO make her on a ride to perfection.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Marital happiness trumps it all. With happiness and peace of mind, success will follow. But if u marry for success and there's no happiness, ur life span go shorten.
Married folks here that aint happy in their marriages will understand me better.

P.s I didn't read the content of the content of the topic o

yen yen yen. Marital happiness wey na only u dey hustle means u go die quick na. Marriage is more than happiness

NwaAmaikpe:




You are 35years old and you think you can wake up one day and marry a girl you didn't date simply because your English is good enough to analyse them.

You don't know that no one fully understands women because they are like a giant enclopaedia with several torn pages.

If a man who dated his wife for 9 years before marrying her still doesn't understand her, imagine what it will be for a person whose only knowledge of his wife is from a brotherzone distance.

You don't even know if her 'down-below' smells,
You don't know if hairs grow inside her nostrils,
You don't know if she wears padded bra

The good thing is that you know that they are not your 'spec' but you are willing to endure.

My only advice.
Just pick one of them and marry. Life expectancy in Nigeria is 53years, so your time is ticking away.
But get ready for another bitter breakup; this time, in marriage.

Because you didn't learn anything.

So from giving advice you subtly insulted the guy... Viper...

Take it to God in prayers. You can also take this qstn to more spiritual people that u trust n believe, let them help u pray about it. God will never give u the wrong lady.

AwkaetitiBabe:
You get sharp mouth sha

35 still dey confused. Nawa

Why will you ask such question? I guess you don't value your peace and happiness but for the sake of your unborn children kindly marry the lady that is career oriented . Financial success is one gigantic factor that contribute to love in marriage .

adeyemi91:
Take it to God in prayers. You can also take this qstn to more spiritual people that u trust n believe, let them help u pray about it. God will never give u the wrong lady.

false. Pastors chris oyakilome and his wife were born again . How market today Okotie and iginla nko. God give u wife my foot. The bible says he who finds a wife. Its ur job to find wife not spiritual pple

None of the above. Marry for companionship. You can't be happy everytime when the reality of life turns savage in marriage. And you can be successful with the other goal getter girl and still find another woman out there whom you find companionship with.

Current world richest man (Jeff Benzo) wrecked his marriage with his co-successful wife to find companionship elsewhere. He didn't mind splitting his wealth with his ex-wife, provided he is free to stay whom he found companionship with.

idom101:
Hello everyone,
it's really my first time to ask for help here.

I will be 35 20 days from today and I intend to get married very soon, but after a bitter break up more than 1 year ago, I finally make up my mind to love again but I am caught up in between two lovely women.

Note: I am not dating any of this girls but they are my friends and wonderful people character wise.

I have known the first one since childhood, she has turn out to be an amazing young girl always supportive when I need her, living with her I know I will definitely be very happy in my marriage but she is less of a goal oriented person, which means I will have to work more, she is more of an extrovert also very loyal.

The second girl is very okay character wise, very submissive and is great goal getter, marrying her means I will do less for us to achieve our goals but she is more of an introvert, she is this kind of girl that can keep to her self, and she very loyal too

both of them outwardly does not carry the body I would like but inwardly they are amazing people. both of them support my vision in life so well.

Please marriage expert in the house help me, as I don't want to make mistake in my marriage. I am still praying but I feel I need to also find a way out.

which of this girls would you chose to marry and why?

matured advice are welcome.

thanks

Marry both....one will eventually let you down.

AntiBrutus:
Hmmmm.

How can we choose just by what you wrote here?

It is a whole lot deeper than that.

Very true...