idom101:
Hello everyone,
it's really my first time to ask for help here.

I will be 35 20 days from today and I intend to get married very soon, but after a bitter break up more than 1 year ago, I finally make up my mind to love again but I am caught up in between two lovely women.

Note: I am not dating any of this girls but they are my friends and wonderful people character wise.

I have known the first one since childhood, she has turn out to be an amazing young girl always supportive when I need her, living with her I know I will definitely be very happy in my marriage but she is less of a goal oriented person, which means I will have to work more, she is more of an extrovert also very loyal.

The second girl is very okay character wise, very submissive and is great goal getter, marrying her means I will do less for us to achieve our goals but she is more of an introvert, she is this kind of girl that can keep to her self, and she very loyal too

both of them outwardly does not carry the body I would like but inwardly they are amazing people. both of them support my vision in life so well.

Please marriage expert in the house help me, as I don't want to make mistake in my marriage. I am still praying but I feel I need to also find a way out.

which of this girls would you chose to marry and why?

matured advice are welcome.

thanks

Always choose happiness over success. Success without happiness is a failure. When you are happy, you are fulfilled, and will succeed with time.

idom101:


I don't have a problem with the body, I know too well the most important part of this is within. so the body is not my priority at all

Oga, go and toast them first f they accept you, we can advice you.

NwaAmaikpe:




You are 35years old and you think you can wake up one day and marry a girl you didn't date simply because your English is good enough to analyse them.

You don't know that no one fully understands women because they are like a giant enclopaedia with several torn pages.

If a man who dated his wife for 9 years before marrying her still doesn't understand her, imagine what it will be for a person whose only knowledge of his wife is from a brotherzone distance.

You don't even know if her 'down-below' smells,
You don't know if hairs grow inside her nostrils,
You don't know if she wears padded bra

The good thing is that you know that they are not your 'spec' but you are willing to endure.

My only advice.
Just pick one of them and marry. Life expectancy in Nigeria is 53years, so your time is ticking away.
But get ready for another bitter breakup; this time, in marriage.

Because you didn't learn anything.

For the first time you insultingly made sense.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Marital happiness trumps it all. With happiness and peace of mind, success will follow. But if u marry for success and there's no happiness, ur life span go shorten.
Married folks here that aint happy in their marriages will understand me better.

P.s I didn't read the content of the content of the topic o

thanks so much, this is cool

deltateam:
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If you can't offer any solution to the issue then I am sorry you have no business commenting. Now crawl back to your hole.

Use what you have between your ears and learn some English.... so that you can understand that this was my solution to his problem.

PureGoldh:
Ok ooh.

I will advice you to go for anyone that you always feel free with... Like the one which you open up to freely and she also open up to you as well.

Marriage is not an easy stuff sha... You can never find a woman who is 100% Perfect.. Its your duty to try as much as possible tO make her on a ride to perfection.

I am not seeking a perfect woman

franchasng:
lol, at your age, you ought to have lots of sweet ladies waiting and praying for you to pick them as wife.


You guys surprise me a lot. How can you be 35yrs and not have like 3 - 5 gorgeous ladies you are dating seriously to pick a wife from, na wa oh.


Unless things aren't going well financially which if that's the case I pray for God to bless your endeavor.

But if things are going on well with you financially and you are not dating at least 3 super gorgeous ladies u can pick a wife from, then something is definitely wrong with you.


Lastly, don't marry any lady you didn't date intimately for at least 2 years in today world to avoid marrying another guy's fuckmate, you better grow up!!

How can you even think of marrying a lady u have not bleeped or attempted to Bleep and maybe discovered that she is confirmed virgin with hymen in tact and she didn't stop u but you decided to stop as a way of respecting her dignity

Don't make mistake of marrying any non virgin lady u didn't Bleep, if she says she is a virgin, to show her loyalty and passion for u, she must submit herself to u to see the hymen with your two eyes, if not, don't marry..stop allowing ladies to be using u guy's head

thanks for your advice, I am not interested in sex before marriage, I made that decision very long ago, also because I presented this two does not mean there are no other ladies, they are, but truth is I see that most of them love me for my achievement and successes and not genuine.

Wealthoptulent:





Well my bro, 1st seek Gods advise n choice.
Marriage is diff from friendship, i married my best friend of 9yrs bt since we married over a year ago its bn up n down we temporarily separated fr a month now due to life threatening . Its by God grace they really change after i do activities ooo. Wedding party sweets pass the marriage nowadays oo . If u want more can chat request fr chat up and give u experience n knowledge abt whole thing, u older than me in age bt with my experience i can say am matured to take u on this.

thanks bro, I am sending the chat request ASAP

Wai1:
I will suggest you take your time study both of them carefully. For the fact that they good friends doesn't make them good wife's. There are some basic test you must carry out on them,pls not sexuall test ooo. If u are really serious about it u can talk to me . i'll give u my little advice.

thank you, I will send a mail

idom101:


thanks so much, this is cool

non problemo

kenchizzy:


The only thing I can tell you is to find a girlfriend
You are too young to be scam because of p****y

Hehehehe i be old man o, just say pussy de make man misbehave

idom101:


Thank you for your advice. In our dealings daily she is someone who is not disturbed by anything.
she is very jovial and lively too.

There's no commitment between you two yet so her expectations are nil.
Wait till you enter committed relationship

MrBrownJay1:
If you can't make up your mind (at 35yrs old) about which one you desire more to marry then I am sorry to say that you have no business thinking of getting married to ANYONE.

.. Exactly op is not okay upstairs.....

franchasng:
lol, at your age, you ought to have lots of sweet ladies waiting and praying for you to pick them as wife.


You guys surprise me a lot. How can you be 35yrs and not have like 3 - 5 gorgeous ladies you are dating seriously to pick a wife from, na wa oh.


Unless things aren't going well financially which if that's the case I pray for God to bless your endeavor.

But if things are going on well with you financially and you are not dating at least 3 super gorgeous ladies u can pick a wife from, then something is definitely wrong with you.


Lastly, don't marry any lady you didn't date intimately for at least 2 years in today world to avoid marrying another guy's fuckmate, you better grow up!!

How can you even think of marrying a lady u have not bleeped or attempted to Bleep and maybe discovered that she is confirmed virgin with hymen in tact and she didn't stop u but you decided to stop as a way of respecting her dignity

Don't make mistake of marrying any non virgin lady u didn't Bleep, if she says she is a virgin, to show her loyalty and passion for u, she must submit herself to u to see the hymen with your two eyes, if not, don't marry..stop allowing ladies to be using u guy's head

Tester and inspector

DameB:


Tester and inspector