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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by luvyaself95(m): 11:05pm On Oct 09, 2019
Pettyprincess:

We see once in a blue moon because he is not living in Africa
He is also helping me me in every possible way
Nd he doesn't pressure me for sex because he want me as partner nd mould me fully.
Moreover why the rush?not every guy has Nigerian mentality!!

what do you mean by Nigeria mentality you're really sick for saying that.
You girls are deceitful and guys are tricky so what wrong with that.

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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by Nobody: 11:06pm On Oct 09, 2019
donstan18:
You are still a small girl in her Hoe-Phase.

Ask the nearest unmarried aged ladies around you, with time, reality and body go start to dey tell you, after the non-Nigerian guy is done with you.

He might even be the person behind the white guy's account.
Dude really? This the best you could come up with? Why do we concentrate on the negatives though
Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by Xpol: 11:06pm On Oct 09, 2019
Love/falling in love is overrated. Simple as ABC
Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by MrSly(m): 11:06pm On Oct 09, 2019
Pettyprincess:
There is this guy i met on 2go long time ago when i was fourteen years old, we exchanged contact and since then we have been talking and he did usually call me everyday just to hear my voice,he is way older than i am.

After sometime we lost contact, and we reconnected back on facebook and we started talking since then, he has always told me he likes me blah blah but still waiting till i am mature enough.

So when i clocked 18, he told us to meet which i agreed and we actually met at a bar and he finally told me about his feelings physically and said he would love us to date but i declined because i actually had no feelings whatsoever for him but i said we can be friends.

So since then he has been calling me every single day, everyone in my family knows him because of his constant call and one day he told me he is at our area that he would love to see me i actually agreed even if i never wanted because people at my area will think i am dating this guy and i know he is not my type moreover after my first (unserious) bf that cheated on me because i didn't give him chochie grin i decided never to date Nigerian guy no more, but this guy that is crushing on me will not let me go.

After that first visit he now wants to turn to it to routine to always visit me whenever he is in Lagos which i am not comfortable with but i dont know how to tell him because he is really nice caring and has been there for me financially when i needed him but still it doesn't change my feelings.

Nw i gat a serious bf, although he is not Nigerian but he is also caring, honest, nice, very handsome and very tall and those are the features i like a guy to possess, especially I love when a guy is very tall because i am petite AKA portable grin
ND this non Nigerian guy has already talked to my mum and my mum seems to like him a lot although they couldn't speak well because my mum not so fluent in English.

So this guy crushing on me still wants to be visiting me again after i told him i have gotten a boyfriend but he insisted that he will still visit me which i told him okay.

So later he called me that he is almost at my area but b4 he could call me later i quickly blocked his number, he has probably called me many times with his number but later he called me with another number but the moment i had his voice i pretended as if the connection was really bad and we actually didn't see that day.

I know what i did was bad which i have been feeling quilty of bt i dnt wanna give him false hope that we can still date.

So later he sent me a message on whatsapp asking if i blocked his number which i deny because he would be really hurt if i had told him the truth.

Even after denying i blocked his number he has been calling me with another number and my boyfriend got to know this guy nd told me to tell him the truth bt i can't because i know it will very hurtful for him.

Nw i need advice on how i can let this guy to know my bf doesn't want him to be disturbing me with calls or try to visit me no more without his feelings getting hurt.

I only need mature advice!!!
Lol. Some girls shsg. Remember to keep us updated on what happens five years from now.

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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by Mariangeles(f): 11:07pm On Oct 09, 2019
Pettyprincess:

We see once in a blue moon because he is not living in Africa
He is also helping me me in every possible way
Nd he doesn't pressure me for sex because he want me as partner nd mould me fully.
Moreover why the rush?not every guy has Nigerian mentality!!
You're living in a fantasy world !
Careful, lest it turns into a nightmare

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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by Lamanii22(f): 11:08pm On Oct 09, 2019
Pettyprincess:

Anyone could be killer irrespective of their race
I hope you have also read news of about some Nigerian men that murdered their wifes?

Right... Not disputing... That's why I ended my opinion saying "if you trust him fine and then pray about it" ...

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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by VicM6: 11:08pm On Oct 09, 2019
After reading ur article, i just smile.
you want an outsider right?... you don't want to date any Nigeria guys.
This is just the part 1.

wen the part 2 will start now, u will open another acct and come here lamenting trash to us abt how ur relationship is....


you don't have feelings for him but u have feelings for his money bah... continue you hear, God will judge u.

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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by Rosella1: 11:09pm On Oct 09, 2019
Fascinating how Nairalanders are wasting their precious time. There's nothing you'll tell this child that she'll accept... Person wey don already dey anticipate the mixed breed she go produce after them mate.

The mod that moved this to FP just wants us to take note of the hole of foolishness she has decided to crawl into! undecided

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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by YorubaNinja: 11:09pm On Oct 09, 2019
Pettyprincess:

We see once in a blue moon because he is not living in Africa
He is also helping me me in every possible way
Nd he doesn't pressure me for sex because he want me as partner nd mould me fully.
Moreover why the rush?not every guy has Nigerian mentality!!

Abegiii... SHARRAP! Imagine eja gbigbe (stock fish) like you still dey form. No be ur fault na... na some men wey no get eyes I go blame, I swear. angry

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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by olurili(m): 11:10pm On Oct 09, 2019
Stupid 2go experience i have with esther that year
Pettyprincess:
There is this guy i met on 2go long time ago when i was fourteen years old, we exchanged contact and since then we have been talking and he did usually call me everyday just to hear my voice,he is way older than i am.

After sometime we lost contact, and we reconnected back on facebook and we started talking since then, he has always told me he likes me blah blah but still waiting till i am mature enough.

So when i clocked 18, he told us to meet which i agreed and we actually met at a bar and he finally told me about his feelings physically and said he would love us to date but i declined because i actually had no feelings whatsoever for him but i said we can be friends.

So since then he has been calling me every single day, everyone in my family knows him because of his constant call and one day he told me he is at our area that he would love to see me i actually agreed even if i never wanted because people at my area will think i am dating this guy and i know he is not my type moreover after my first (unserious) bf that cheated on me because i didn't give him chochie grin i decided never to date Nigerian guy no more, but this guy that is crushing on me will not let me go.

After that first visit he now wants to turn to it to routine to always visit me whenever he is in Lagos which i am not comfortable with but i dont know how to tell him because he is really nice caring and has been there for me financially when i needed him but still it doesn't change my feelings.

Nw i gat a serious bf, although he is not Nigerian but he is also caring, honest, nice, very handsome and very tall and those are the features i like a guy to possess, especially I love when a guy is very tall because i am petite AKA portable grin
ND this non Nigerian guy has already talked to my mum and my mum seems to like him a lot although they couldn't speak well because my mum not so fluent in English.

So this guy crushing on me still wants to be visiting me again after i told him i have gotten a boyfriend but he insisted that he will still visit me which i told him okay.

So later he called me that he is almost at my area but b4 he could call me later i quickly blocked his number, he has probably called me many times with his number but later he called me with another number but the moment i had his voice i pretended as if the connection was really bad and we actually didn't see that day.

I know what i did was bad which i have been feeling quilty of bt i dnt wanna give him false hope that we can still date.

So later he sent me a message on whatsapp asking if i blocked his number which i deny because he would be really hurt if i had told him the truth.

Even after denying i blocked his number he has been calling me with another number and my boyfriend got to know this guy nd told me to tell him the truth bt i can't because i know it will very hurtful for him.

Nw i need advice on how i can let this guy to know my bf doesn't want him to be disturbing me with calls or try to visit me no more without his feelings getting hurt.

I only need mature advice!!!

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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by ideatoprince18(m): 11:10pm On Oct 09, 2019
Pettyprincess:

I gave me willingly,nd i asked because i was broke nd had no boyfriend then
But since then i never collected anything from him no more,my bf do usually send me money nw.
.....

I just pity thee stupid guy who didn't have one atom of sense as matured as he is!!!!

Thanks to Ubunja for opening guys eyes on this forum...... I remember when I was a teenager, some of my bigger bros gave me a resounding advice on relationship

1)never love with your brain.... reserve your brain for thinking.


2)Always equate money to sex in any relationship you are in Unless your girlfriend unbalance the equation by spending same amount of money you spend on her also.


You are still in your Hoe phase

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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by jimcaddy(m): 11:11pm On Oct 09, 2019
This is the best comment I have read in a while. Good response
donstan18:
You are still a small girl in her Hoe-Phase.

Ask the nearest unmarried aged ladies around you, with time, reality and body go start to dey tell you, after the non-Nigerian guy is done with you.

He might even be the person behind the white guy's account.

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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by VicM6: 11:11pm On Oct 09, 2019
Fountainofyouth:



grin I don't think he's a mature guy, if he is then she did right by blocking him, I have no patience for people who replies me with "k".
Tor, e don finish......na B i go dey use reply people now, mk K go rest small. grin

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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by zicoraads: 11:12pm On Oct 09, 2019
This one is still a teen. grin cheesy

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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by Eberex(m): 11:12pm On Oct 09, 2019
2go? Mhen this gal must have been 14year old when they met on 2go. She must be fine looking too. My guy is the type who like them young and reserved, probably knows she is a virgin too. And maybe a good girl in terms of behaviour.

I'll advice she let him know. Rather that making him think there is hope.

But las las......the gal is about to make a huge mistake.

Juvenile character.

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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by Talkwisdom(m): 11:13pm On Oct 09, 2019
Don't take people like OP serious,
Her DP is a clear case of confusional conference.

*Peace*

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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by dominique(f): 11:13pm On Oct 09, 2019
Pained guys everywhere with bruised egos. A person should have the rights to reject the advances of someone they're not attracted to without getting shamed. When a guy broke up with his girlfriend because of big brother Naija, you people were hailing him. Now a lady wants to turn down a guy she's not interested in, you're heaping curses on her. Bunch of hypocrites.

You go shaming ladies at every opportunity you get, open female bashing threads on a daily basis. Now the females you love to hate are finding love in other countries yet you're still pained. Shouldn't you be happy that they're leaving you alone for foreigners? Oh! I forgot. They're the only ones that can stomach your bullshits, them and the obese, one foot in the grave foreign women that show interest in you.

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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by Mateen1000: 11:13pm On Oct 09, 2019
Pettyprincess:

No he never asked of any of my nudes
Most white guys i gave talked with they ask me of my nude the very beginning of our chat bt he never did nd we together for a year now
Infact he told me girls that send him nude are
whores nd used hoes
We actually planning to be together fully next year by applying for student visa
He has really helped me alot both financially nd mentally
Bt because he is white people think his intentions are not pure.
Ode Omo, Continue
You are about to be sex trafficated
Your mates plenty for Italy, Poland, France etc
So for your mind, He go process your traveling to his place for you to get married, I laff for ur matter

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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by WriterX(m): 11:14pm On Oct 09, 2019
Pettyprincess:
There is this guy i met on 2go long time ago when i was fourteen years old, we exchanged contact and since then we have been talking and he did usually call me everyday just to hear my voice,he is way older than i am.

After sometime we lost contact, and we reconnected back on facebook and we started talking since then, he has always told me he likes me blah blah but still waiting till i am mature enough.

So when i clocked 18, he told us to meet which i agreed and we actually met at a bar and he finally told me about his feelings physically and said he would love us to date but i declined because i actually had no feelings whatsoever for him but i said we can be friends.

So since then he has been calling me every single day, everyone in my family knows him because of his constant call and one day he told me he is at our area that he would love to see me i actually agreed even if i never wanted because people at my area will think i am dating this guy and i know he is not my type moreover after my first (unserious) bf that cheated on me because i didn't give him chochie grin i decided never to date Nigerian guy no more, but this guy that is crushing on me will not let me go.

After that first visit he now wants to turn to it to routine to always visit me whenever he is in Lagos which i am not comfortable with but i dont know how to tell him because he is really nice caring and has been there for me financially when i needed him but still it doesn't change my feelings.

Nw i gat a serious bf, although he is not Nigerian but he is also caring, honest, nice, very handsome and very tall and those are the features i like a guy to possess, especially I love when a guy is very tall because i am petite AKA portable grin
ND this non Nigerian guy has already talked to my mum and my mum seems to like him a lot although they couldn't speak well because my mum not so fluent in English.

So this guy crushing on me still wants to be visiting me again after i told him i have gotten a boyfriend but he insisted that he will still visit me which i told him okay.

So later he called me that he is almost at my area but b4 he could call me later i quickly blocked his number, he has probably called me many times with his number but later he called me with another number but the moment i had his voice i pretended as if the connection was really bad and we actually didn't see that day.

I know what i did was bad which i have been feeling quilty of bt i dnt wanna give him false hope that we can still date.

So later he sent me a message on whatsapp asking if i blocked his number which i deny because he would be really hurt if i had told him the truth.

Even after denying i blocked his number he has been calling me with another number and my boyfriend got to know this guy nd told me to tell him the truth bt i can't because i know it will very hurtful for him.

Nw i need advice on how i can let this guy to know my bf doesn't want him to be disturbing me with calls or try to visit me no more without his feelings getting hurt.

I only need mature advice!!!



hey if you are reading this, am gonna just give you a hint and let you know 65% of the comments on your thread are gonna be about your perceived arrogance in respect to your age and your past encounters and your decision not to date a Nigerian again.

lol it was gonna happen, evidently like I say always people can only advice you from their own experience ,if they had bitter experiences they will give you bitter advices, if they had sour experiences they will give you sour advices thats how it works, I must commend your steadfast belief and conscience in letting off the Nigeria guy in a manner that won't hurt him.


clearly he likes you alot , age is not a strong point for relationships and Iove if they think you're too young to start thinking of finding and believing in love let them be, just be you and do your thing.

I feel for the guy but if you want to drop him off then do it slowly, listen I know somewhere you may still adore him as a good friend but in my experience honestly you can't hold on to him as a friend because he won't take you that way and that's alot of hurt on your conscience and to his emotions so reduce your communication with him, less calls, less texting, it was good to deny him from seeing you I know it's harsh the way I say it but trust me he is getting the idea already.


and please be careful okay we tend to act and do crazy stuff over girls when we feel rejected , so please be careful, you must understand there is no easy way to let go or let off someone.

my mom says it's like cutting off the placenta off a baby once it's out, you don't drag it or pray or wait for it to fall off you just cut it, the longer you delay the inevitable the much pain you are inflicting on the poor guy,okay am sorry but you are not a kid anymore this is your responsibility now.

once again I hope you find true love wherever your heart is.

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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by shinarlaura(f): 11:15pm On Oct 09, 2019
sonofanarchy:
You are a witch..how witch dey behave pass this one...

grin grin grin grin
Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by VicM6: 11:15pm On Oct 09, 2019
pharrell8:
Telll him ur getting married soon... Hope u did not collect any money from him
HOPE YOU DID NOT COLLECT ANY MONEY FROM HIM.... Nawa o, you dey ask question wey obasanjo ask Muritala. M.

when d orobo girl talk say d guy dey assit her financially but na white kpomo she want

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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by Nobody: 11:16pm On Oct 09, 2019
I don't know you're boyfriend, but the one disturbing you since seems like the one you should be dating. Your still very young, that your boyfriend appears unreal in my opinion, what do I know.

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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by Nobody: 11:16pm On Oct 09, 2019
You decided never to date Nigerian guy no more

Is GrammarNazil on vacation

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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by emydnobl: 11:16pm On Oct 09, 2019
oshe11:
So You actually Blocked my number n denied it?shocked


Did I do any rong by lovin u?

Na Luv I Luv u, I no rape person

So you're the ex she talks about....

Please, let her be her heart has already traveled overseas for Oyibo love.....

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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by jimcaddy(m): 11:17pm On Oct 09, 2019
These small small girls sef. They just dey annoy me. You are still in your hoe phase. So keep hoeing around. A woman's marriageable life span is so short. You think a white guy will love you. Women don't know what they want.

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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by totosucker(m): 11:17pm On Oct 09, 2019
This girl's mind is made up. Advising her is a waste of time. You guys should let her be. Lobatan

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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by Ndipe(m): 11:18pm On Oct 09, 2019
Pettyprincess:
There is this guy i met on 2go long time ago when i was fourteen years old, we exchanged contact and since then we have been talking and he did usually call me everyday just to hear my voice,he is way older than i am.

After sometime we lost contact, and we reconnected back on facebook and we started talking since then, he has always told me he likes me blah blah but still waiting till i am mature enough.

So when i clocked 18, he told us to meet which i agreed and we actually met at a bar and he finally told me about his feelings physically and said he would love us to date but i declined because i actually had no feelings whatsoever for him but i said we can be friends.

So since then he has been calling me every single day, everyone in my family knows him because of his constant call and one day he told me he is at our area that he would love to see me i actually agreed even if i never wanted because people at my area will think i am dating this guy and i know he is not my type moreover after my first (unserious) bf that cheated on me because i didn't give him chochie grin i decided never to date Nigerian guy no more, but this guy that is crushing on me will not let me go.

After that first visit he now wants to turn to it to routine to always visit me whenever he is in Lagos which i am not comfortable with but i dont know how to tell him because he is really nice caring and has been there for me financially[b][/b] when i needed him but still it doesn't change my feelings.

Nw i gat a serious bf, although he is not Nigerian but he is also caring, honest, nice, very handsome and very tall and those are the features i like a guy to possess, especially I love when a guy is very tall because i am petite AKA portable grin
ND this non Nigerian guy has already talked to my mum and my mum seems to like him a lot although they couldn't speak well because my mum not so fluent in English.

So this guy crushing on me still wants to be visiting me again after i told him i have gotten a boyfriend but he insisted that he will still visit me which i told him okay.

So later he called me that he is almost at my area but b4 he could call me later i quickly blocked his number, he has probably called me many times with his number but later he called me with another number but the moment i had his voice i pretended as if the connection was really bad and we actually didn't see that day.

I know what i did was bad which i have been feeling quilty of bt i dnt wanna give him false hope that we can still date.

So later he sent me a message on whatsapp asking if i blocked his number which i deny because he would be really hurt if i had told him the truth.

Even after denying i blocked his number he has been calling me with another number and my boyfriend got to know this guy nd told me to tell him the truth bt i can't because i know it will very hurtful for him.

Nw i need advice on how i can let this guy to know my bf doesn't want him to be disturbing me with calls or try to visit me no more without his feelings getting hurt.

I only need mature advice!!!


Are you a gold digger?

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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by Nobody: 11:19pm On Oct 09, 2019
donstan18:
You are still a small girl in her Hoe-Phase.

Ask the nearest unmarried aged ladies around you, with time, reality and body go start to dey tell you, after the non-Nigerian guy is done with you.

He might even be the person behind the white guy's account.
grin grin grin

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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by sonofanarchy(m): 11:19pm On Oct 09, 2019
shinarlaura:


grin grin grin grin
you better advice that Titus, she's dreaming
Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by topstone4: 11:19pm On Oct 09, 2019
Pettyprincess:

We see once in a blue moon because he is not living in Africa
He is also helping me me in every possible way
Nd he doesn't pressure me for sex because he want me as partner nd mould me fully.
Moreover why the rush?not every guy has Nigerian mentality!!

I won't look at you twice if I ever come across you on the street. The way you talk about yourself, one would think you are some beautiful damsel. From your profile, all I could see is a tiny-looking small girl depending only on makeup/cosmetics for beauty.

Very soon, you will wake up from this myopia. In 10 years time, you will look for true love and you will not find it; then you will look back upon today and wished you had made better decisions about dating.

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Re: How Can I Cut This Guy Off Without Hurting His Feelings? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 11:20pm On Oct 09, 2019
Newguyhere:


take a look at this lady's chest and your chest, undecided see how beautifully curved she is, compared to you.
You both are not even in the same league when it comes to looks.
She is way prettier and presentable in my opinion.
You look underage and sort of scrawny looking

It's unfair to talk about people's looks and body makeups like that.

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