ibkayee:
You should probably leave him

Probably?

Hintona:
So I'm in a relationship with this really cute guy, tall, dark and handsome but he's always hitting me for the littlest things, it's getting too much we are course mates and he even hits me in front of our fellow course mates. But they usually take it as a joke, to me it's not, I hate it and I've talked to him several times but he always apologises and does it again the next second though he has never beaten me seriously, I hate the knocks on the head and the slaps on the back.

what do I do?

you are in an abusive relationship. Fine girl like you deserve better. Quit now before its too late

Eze2000:


Not probably.....Already!!!

The man who lifts a hand to beat his wife does not love her. If she was a brand new Jeep will he hit Her? Won't he kill another man for even scratching it?

Think with your beautiful head babe.

khiaa:


Probably?

I’m being sarcastic, but I now realise it won’t translate that way to most people (if not all).

She should definitely leave him essentially

If your boyfriend hits you and you are still in the relationship, all I have to say is that you deserve it.

Lamanii22:
The knocks and hit on the head is actually a preamble of what he is gonna do to you... My dear, pull your shoes and run for your life...

I love him he's not a bad person though.

My sister any guy that hits his girl whether jokingly or not is not suppose to be with that girl. You said that he hits you for every slitest thing and even in front of your course mates. I believe he is very temperamental and also must have seen where boyfriends hit their girlfriends and go free. My advice to you is to tell him that the next time he will hit you, you will leave him.

My advice to you is : Stay with him till the knocks and slaps become full fledged beatings. Maybe you'll become sensible enough then.

Hintona:

I love him he's not a bad person though.

Wait is it like a playful smack on the back? Even if it is, he really has to stop.. It is rude.. You both needa talk about it..

How old are you ?

khiaa:

My brothers would beat a guy down if he laid his hands on me, they always say, if a man hits me they better hit me with a feather.

me I will hit you with a 2 by 4.
Crooked ignorant thing with a bad set of teeth

OiOi:
me I will hit you with a 2 by 4.
Crooked ignorant thing with a bad set of teeth

LMAO You would hit me wit a 2x4 and rape me like the Savage beast that you are. With your hideous face raping a girl is the only way you would get the puna.

khiaa:


LMAO You would hit me wit a 2x4 and rape me like the Savage beast that you are. With your hideous face raping a girl is the only way you would get the puna.

ALAYE joor joor joor

khiaa:


Every bad thing that he does to you is YOUR fault because YOU allow it. Stop being STUPID and dump him. Don't you have any brothers or male cousins to look after you? If you do, they should beat his ass.

My brothers would beat a guy down if he laid his hands on me, they always say, if a man hits me they better hit me with a feather.

I would never hit you khiaa, even if I do, it's only gonna be with the feather of a dove.

...still hopeful of getting your reply.
Happy Nobraday

ibkayee:
You should probably leave him

are you a northerner? Hausa to be precise.

Kapeter:
are you a northerner? Hausa to be precise.

Nope

Stupîd girl.

I have no pity for you. You deserve further beating since you have no sense to leave him.

If you were my sister, I would knock the both of you soundly on your empty heads. Idîot girl.

With the inundating stories online, of violence in relationships, this stubborn girl is still managing a violent boyfriend.

Stupîd girl.



Mods forgive me but it’s really heartbreaking that this girl wants to join the statistic so bad.

ibkayee:
You should probably leave him

Probably? How do you small girls think?

You think he’s in a phase and would grow out of it later? You think you can change him into a better man?

You think his handsomeness is something to die for? Or you just don’t value your life because deep down, you’re suicidal?


I pity you.

AfroKnight:


Probably? How do you small girls think?

You think he’s in a phase and would grow out of it later? You think you can change him into a better man?

You think his handsomeness is something to die for? Or you just don’t value your life because deep down, you’re suicidal?


I pity you.

I was being sarcastic, it didn’t translate that way because you’re not the first to question me about it, my bad.

I think she should definitely leave him just to be clear

ibkayee:

I was being sarcastic, it didn’t translate that way because you’re not the first to question me about it, my bad.

I think she should definitely leave him just to be clear

My bad. I didn’t see the sarcasm at all, especially given the simplistic reasons many young ladies concoct for staying in abusive relationships.

I’m sorry.

AfroKnight:


My bad. I didn’t see the sarcasm at all, especially given the simplistic reasons many young ladies concoct for staying in abusive relationships.

I’m sorry.

Lol no need to apologise, it was my blunder, you wouldn’t have known. You are like the third person telling me off

Double.

AfroKnight:
Stupîd girl.

I have no pity for you. You deserve further beating since you have no sense to leave him.

If you were my sister, I would knock the both of you soundly on your empty heads. Idîot girl.

With the inundating stories online, of violence in relationships, this stubborn girl is still managing a violent boyfriend.

Stupîd girl.



Mods forgive me but it’s really heartbreaking that this girl wants to join the statistic so bad.

Shuo!! easy naa no be fight! E come be like your own pass the bf own self.

Na joke oo

bjtinz:


Shuo!! easy naa no be fight! E come be like your own pass the bf own self.

Na joke oo

No vex.

I’m just tired of seeing people get hurt because they manage violent partners.

AfroKnight:


Stupîd girl.

I have no pity for you. You deserve further beating since you have no sense to leave him.

If you were my sister, I would knock the both of you soundly on your empty heads. Idîot girl.

With the inundating stories online, of violence in relationships, this stubborn girl is still managing a violent boyfriend.

Stupîd girl.



Mods forgive me but it’s really heartbreaking that this girl wants to join the statistic so bad.

Inthemoment:

You missed “idîot girl”.

Why dont you just try hitting him back and see how he will react, maybe he is just doing what he can tolerate.

Hintona:
So I'm in a relationship with this really cute guy, tall, dark and handsome but he's always hitting me for the littlest things, it's getting too much we are course mates and he even hits me in front of our fellow course mates. But they usually take it as a joke, to me it's not, I hate it and I've talked to him several times but he always apologises and does it again the next second though he has never beaten me seriously, I hate the knocks on the head and the slaps on the back.

what do I do?

When he knocks you, simply give him a backhand slap. A slap to the back, a kick to the groin. Case settled

Some ladies will endure anything because of a cute face and six packs.

chidiebereuzoma:

I would never hit you khiaa, even if I do, it's only gonna be with the feather of a dove.

...still hopeful of getting your reply.
Happy Nobraday

You are so sweet. Happy no bra day, I don't think so.

khiaa:


You are so sweet. Happy no bra day, I don't think so.

You ain't celebrating/observing it?

Hintona:
So I'm in a relationship with this really cute guy, tall, dark and handsome but he's always hitting me for the littlest things, it's getting too much we are course mates and he even hits me in front of our fellow course mates. But they usually take it as a joke, to me it's not, I hate it and I've talked to him several times but he always apologises and does it again the next second though he has never beaten me seriously, I hate the knocks on the head and the slaps on the back.

what do I do?

Relationships are akin to something fragile and brittle, hence they demand to be held with care.


The first thing to accertain is, are these knocks symbolic? If they arent then, its prpbably just a habit and if it is just a mere habit, then you can help your partner by politely telling him/her for starters. Once he/she agrees with the existence of such habit then tell him/her that you assist in decimating the habit by pointing it out everytime it occurs.


Now, back to the 'are those knock symbolic:

(a) Does those knocks hurt, or are they a type of weightless tap that barely hurts?

As in, given a scale of 1 to 10, whereby number 1 is a tap that barely hurts and number 10 being a hard tap that hurts.


What are the intesity of those knocks


(b) Study your partner in the terms of; what is he/she thinking at that particular time.

Are they angry, excited or happy at the time?

Did it occur, during or at the end of an argument?

Did your partner give a reason for his/her actions? What was the reason he or she gave.


With the answers one can ascertain the fact that its a violent relationship or not.