Amujale:


Relationships are akin to something fragile and brittle, hence they demand to be held with care.


The first thing to accertain is, are these knocks symbolic? If they arent then, its prpbably just a habit and if it is just a mere habit, then you can help your partner by politely telling him/her for starters. Once he/she agrees with the existence of such habit then tell him/her that you assist in decimating the habit by pointing it out everytime it occurs.


Now, back to the 'are those knock symbolic:

(a) Does those knocks hurt, or are they a type of weightless tap that barely hurts?

As in, given a scale of 1 to 10, whereby number 1 is a tap that barely hurts and number 10 being a hard tap that hurts.


What are the intesity of those knocks


(b) Study your partner in the terms of; what is he/she thinking at that particular time.

Are they angry, excited or happy at the time?

Did it occur, during or at the end of an argument?

Did your partner give a reason for his/her actions? What was the reason he or she gave.


With the answers one can ascertain the fact that its a violent relationship or not.

thanks
on a scale of 1-10
it's 5

Hintona:

thanks
on a scale of 1-10
it's 5

Are these actions occuring during or after an argument ?

Assuming they occur without any hidden motive or malice then, its probably a mere habit that you can assist to solve as expanded upon in previous post.

Assuming the knocks are meant to symbolize an unjustified pain, then my advice is to consider the guidance of the other contributors on the thread that have given their honest opinions.

Ultimately, its us that's deemed to be in full control of the choices we make going forward.

Take the honest advice given on the thread and make good use of them.

Let me take the opportunity to wish you well in whatever choice you make going forward.

Amujale:


Are these actions occuring during or after an argument ?

Assuming they occur without any hidden motive or malice then, its probably a mere habit that you can assist to solve as expanded upon in previous post.

Assuming the knocks are meant to symbolize an unjustified pain, then my advice is to consider the guidance of the other contributors on the thread that have given their honest opinions.

Ultimately, its us that's deemed to be in full control of the choices we make going forward.

Take the honest advice given on the thread and make good use of them.

Let me take the opportunity to wish you well in whatever choice you make going forward.

They occur without aggression.

Thanks so much

boxer022:
My sister any guy that hits his girl whether jokingly or not is not suppose to be with that girl. You said that he hits you for every slitest thing and even in front of your course mates. I believe he is very temperamental and also must have seen where boyfriends hit their girlfriends and go free. My advice to you is to tell him that the next time he will hit you, you will leave him.

OK thanks for the advise

Collette9:
How old are you ?

19

He will stop hitting you , when you’re 21

Hintona:

19

Let us know when he gives you the real beating. Since you are stuck there.

Babe at this stage of your life in a relationship,the lady is in control...threaten to dump him and actually do...he will beg crazily if you show seriousness in three days...nd he would change

Hintona:
So I'm in a relationship with this really cute guy, tall, dark and handsome but he's always hitting me for the littlest things, it's getting too much we are course mates and he even hits me in front of our fellow course mates. But they usually take it as a joke, to me it's not, I hate it and I've talked to him several times but he always apologises and does it again the next second though he has never beaten me seriously, I hate the knocks on the head and the slaps on the back.

what do I do?

it's only a foolish man that exchange words with a woman, and only a mad man that beat a woman.
He is a foolish mad man.

Hintona:
So I'm in a relationship with this really cute guy, tall, dark and handsome but he's always hitting me for the littlest things, it's getting too much we are course mates and he even hits me in front of our fellow course mates. But they usually take it as a joke, to me it's not, I hate it and I've talked to him several times but he always apologises and does it again the next second though he has never beaten me seriously, I hate the knocks on the head and the slaps on the back.

what do I do?

talk to him dearie , most advice here on nairaland won't walk out neither mine too ... sit him down tell him he will c your red eyes in public ... so if he try it next time don't talk don't say anything use "silent" walk out of the gathering if people are there and don't reply anyone calling u back ( depending on how important dey are ) but if it's both of u alone in his room probably ...stay mute , pick your bag and walk out .. if he call don't say a word ... don't pick his call 4 few hours ..go home ... later u can settle it ..then he will knw u actually mean it

Na from clap dance dey start(bill Clinton,2019)..in other words,na from knocks slaps & punches dey enter..u better use ur head before Prince charming kill u..

Once a woman beater, always a woman beater,it never stops but it will only get worse..the mistake u made was still been in the relationship after the very first slap or knock u got, please run for your life..

Hintona:
So I'm in a relationship with this really cute guy, tall, dark and handsome but he's always hitting me for the littlest things, it's getting too much we are course mates and he even hits me in front of our fellow course mates. But they usually take it as a joke, to me it's not, I hate it and I've talked to him several times but he always apologises and does it again the next second though he has never beaten me seriously, I hate the knocks on the head and the slaps on the back.

what do I do?

You have no self esteem if you're ready to tolerate that kind of treatment from your boyfriend.

No partner has any right whatsoever to hit the other partner no matter what!!!

ibkayee:
You should probably leave him

Early signs r wat most ladies ignore.
I pray she hear

Fuckmods2:
Hope your not among these NL feminists that are frustrated


Like one Self acclaimed motivational famous female Speaker thats NLer that her hobbies was hoeing and oloshing abt,

If you doubt me click the link and be shocked


https://www.codedruns.com/escort/softqueen/

hahahaha

Her name starts with V

No b small motivational olosho
Always asking 4flight money to visit u.

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Are You still dating him?

It seems You have a complicated lifestyle....i feel it










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Hintona:
So I'm in a relationship with this really cute guy, tall, dark and handsome but he's always hitting me for the littlest things, it's getting too much we are course mates and he even hits me in front of our fellow course mates. But they usually take it as a joke, to me it's not, I hate it and I've talked to him several times but he always apologises and does it again the next second though he has never beaten me seriously, I hate the knocks on the head and the slaps on the back.

what do I do?

Next time he does that, put up an angry mood...for like few days and watch his reaction.
You need his reaction to know what to do.

You don't have to be blinded by lust.

Change you bf ASAP.

Never try to make any relationship work.

Relationships should work perfectly.

Your Bf is not your type.

I f you dont like a man,change him AsAP,dont try to make it work,or endure,because their are lots of other men.
When you make a mistake,corect it .

Never be a friend to anybody that wont treat you like a king/queen.

You need to work on your esteem.

change him and get a new guy

mrjaydee:
Continue ignoring the early signs.

savage

better don't marry him come to alpha males like me i don't beat woman oo I only beat them with my third leg

Don't ever advice a woman in love. Because it would bounce back at you.

hintona don join ilamina for her imaginary posts

stay there until he breaks your head . stay away from violent partners be it male or female