Arguments are a normal part of life. How you handle them is what makes all the difference.

Coming from different families, cultures and backgrounds, differences will always arise. Even siblings squabble from time to time albeit couples?

Arguments in relationships cannot be avoided. When we let arguments escalate into full blown fights, the relationship ends up being affected eventually. Learning to handle them is a very vital part of relationships.

Here are some tips on how to argue in a loving way.

1. Timing

It is important to plan as a couple on the right timing to discuss issues. You may decide that you should both cool off first and have some space as a way of practicing emotional control. Avoid having arguments when you are both tired, worked up or from work. Have patience with each other and schedule the appropriate time to handle disagreements.

2. Watch your tone

It’s amazing how tone has the power to escalate or deescalate an argument. Whenever you start yelling, no effective communication can take place. Don’t allow your emotions to get the best of you during this time. Approach the argument with a loving and calm tone at all times.

3. Avoid assumptions

More often than not, arguments are caused by miscommunication and misinterpretation of facts. Some couples have even broken up because of assuming that their significant other did something wrong or ‘he said, she said’ from other people. Before you approach them, have an open mind and give them the benefit of a doubt. You should also be able to accept when you are wrong and avoid being defensive.

4. Don’t run away from the problem

Avoiding talking about the issue directly is damaging to any relationship. Try to tackle the issues head on rather than letting it drag for a long time and erupt in the future. Talking about issues can be scary and uncomfortable. However, it is better to handle them at once and communicate rather than shut down.

5. Have respect for each other

In case an argument happens, one of the ways that prevent them from escalating is maintaining mutual respect for each other. Do not call each other names, be rude towards one another or get physical. You must always remember that you are a team first and foremost.

8. Stay on topic
Clouding judgements with previous issues will snowball into bigger ones when the past is brought up. This will cause the disagreement to escalate into full blown fights that are not necessary. When you notice that the argument is snowballing, take control of it and bring it back to where you can both handle the issue at hand.

No relationship is same,what worked for Mr A may not work for mr B

sweetonugbu:
No relationship is same,what worked for Mr A may not work for mr B

Yes I agree, No relationship are the same but their is pattern that guild every healthy relationship. From my experience and interaction with couples I have found out that, this pattern comes to bear in all

sweetonugbu:
No relationship is same,what worked for Mr A may not w
ork for mr B

Yes I agree, No relationship are the same but their is pattern that guild every healthy relationship. From my experience and interaction with couples I have found out that, this pattern comes to bear in all.

Magnoliaa:



Well, even though we are different, these are general guidelines. It was nothing specific. Everyone wants a listening ear, no one wants to be yelled at or misunderstood, people want respect and making assumptions without knowing the facts doesn't always turn out well.

Guild line is the word