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He has a power given to him by his forefathers; he hides it in his trousers

FROGMAN101:
You guys would need to stop that swelling population. It’s a farce. It’s going to be something the government won’t be able to handle in some years. There’s no plan. Sad many Nigerians are not enlightened on the problems ahead. “God dey God dey” won’t solve anything.

Goodluck.

.bro will they listen... even the rich give birth to how stable their pockets are.. but poor man give birth for fun

Love892:
Good day nairalanders. This story is not about me but a friend of mine who is a guy.

There is this guy who I know who is not financially buoyant but instead of him to look for money he keeps sleeping around. I will be brief with this story.

The man in question has 4 children who he doesnt take care of. The first day I saw them, I was at his place he does electrical works for me. He stepped out to buy something. When the kids came, they asked me for money. I didn't know them and they looked so dirty and you know usual Nigerian story, dont give beggars money anyhow. So I told them I had no idea who they were looking for. When he came back, I told him . He denied knowing any child talkless of children coming to his house. We even joked about parents who turn their kids to beggars and all.

The second time I went to look for him to do a job for me, I saw the children again and they still begged me for money. Then I was curious why it's only that particular house they come and ask for money. So I asked then who they were looking for, and they told me their dad. I was indeed confused and had to ask the neighbours around who the kids are. Imagine kids of 3 yrs, 5 years 7 years and 15 years. When he came I told him his kids came and he hissed.

Now anytime I see his kids, I dont tell him because the last time he shouted at me, that he has heard.

Due to the fact i gave them money when i found out they were his kids, they ask me anytime they see me but unfortunately I stopped. I cant help someone who hates his kids. The few times they came when he was around he drove them away. Whenever I am there, he always drives them saying they are dirty.

First question how do I advise him? He always gets angry when I talk about the kids. He says he cant take care of them because he doesnt want to have anything doing with the mother of the kids. Even if he doesnt have atleast try. If it were only one child, I will say it was a mistake. But you gave birth to the second, third and fourth from same woman. It can't be a mistake.


One day I was talking to one of his numerous girlfriends and she told me that a man doesnt need to take care of the kids because they bear his name. Sorry but I hate poverty mentality. She said it's the work of the mother. I pray she has kids for him so he rejects them in Jesus name.

Then lastly I dont get him. He doesnt give any of his girlfriends money but last time I saw 4 of them fighting for him and he drove 3 out of the 4. Later I heard him begging them and now they are back.

If he had money I will understand. He is in his 40s. I hate people that neglect children and now everything about his presence irritates me because I treat women well. Please how do I advice him and what do the girls see in him? He is in his forties , I am 25 dont want him to take it personal. I want him to be serious with his life.


I might create a separate thread to explain his womanising attitude due to ambiguity.

NB: He goes for EVERY church program.

and when those kids become successful few years to come, tru other means, and dont give a *uck about this man(man),some person will start preaching gospel to the kids.. to show love and respect the parents....

forgetin the aspect of the Bible that says Parents don't provoke ur children....

Love892:
Good day nairalanders. This story is not about me but a friend of mine who is a guy.

There is this guy who I know who is not financially buoyant but instead of him to look for money he keeps sleeping around. I will be brief with this story.

The man in question has 4 children who he doesnt take care of. The first day I saw them, I was at his place he does electrical works for me. He stepped out to buy something. When the kids came, they asked me for money. I didn't know them and they looked so dirty and you know usual Nigerian story, dont give beggars money anyhow. So I told them I had no idea who they were looking for. When he came back, I told him . He denied knowing any child talkless of children coming to his house. We even joked about parents who turn their kids to beggars and all.

The second time I went to look for him to do a job for me, I saw the children again and they still begged me for money. Then I was curious why it's only that particular house they come and ask for money. So I asked then who they were looking for, and they told me their dad. I was indeed confused and had to ask the neighbours around who the kids are. Imagine kids of 3 yrs, 5 years 7 years and 15 years. When he came I told him his kids came and he hissed.

Now anytime I see his kids, I dont tell him because the last time he shouted at me, that he has heard.

Due to the fact i gave them money when i found out they were his kids, they ask me anytime they see me but unfortunately I stopped. I cant help someone who hates his kids. The few times they came when he was around he drove them away. Whenever I am there, he always drives them saying they are dirty.

First question how do I advise him? He always gets angry when I talk about the kids. He says he cant take care of them because he doesnt want to have anything doing with the mother of the kids. Even if he doesnt have atleast try. If it were only one child, I will say it was a mistake. But you gave birth to the second, third and fourth from same woman. It can't be a mistake.


One day I was talking to one of his numerous girlfriends and she told me that a man doesnt need to take care of the kids because they bear his name. Sorry but I hate poverty mentality. She said it's the work of the mother. I pray she has kids for him so he rejects them in Jesus name.

Then lastly I dont get him. He doesnt give any of his girlfriends money but last time I saw 4 of them fighting for him and he drove 3 out of the 4. Later I heard him begging them and now they are back.

If he had money I will understand. He is in his 40s. I hate people that neglect children and now everything about his presence irritates me because I treat women well. Please how do I advice him and what do the girls see in him? He is in his forties , I am 25 dont want him to take it personal. I want him to be serious with his life.


I might create a separate thread to explain his womanising attitude due to ambiguity.

NB: He goes for EVERY church program.

This story is not news. There are a lot of deadbeat dads roaming the streets today. As for the numerous girlfriends, leave them to their fate. Karma has no chill. Please do not stop helping them whenever you can. All will be well!

FROGMAN101:
Advice him to do what? You lots in Nigeria have it easy. Can decide to answer to no one and be useless. What a useless man.

If he was paying 12% of his gross weekly income on child maintenance, surely he wouldn’t have given birth to what he cant handle.

Just a joke of a country.

You dont have to generalize please. That there are a few bad Eggs in a crate doesn't make the entire crate useless. Your statement is a spite to all right- thinking, hardworking and responsible Nigerian men (and women). I won't ask you to retract, but refrain from being generic.

Love892:
He is my electrician. Thank you very much.

I liked his work because was neat so we later started gisting and bonding. I use to help him before I found out how heartless he can be.

Please boycott his services, he can't be the only good electrician obviously. Giving him your money( in exchange for his services) means you are enabling his blithe and nonchalant lifestyle

Love892:
He is my electrician. Thank you very much.

I liked his work because was neat so we later started gisting and bonding. I use to help him before I found out how heartless he can be.

Dnt meddle in Hus affairs if he ain't ready to take care of his responsibility.

MusaChukwudi:
The mother in law was very RIGHT! Women have far more responsibility when it comes to opening legs and getting pregnant. The stupid woman who had 4 kids for the slowpoke should go and get herself a JOB!

In your mind, you made sense. You only exposed your ignorance and insensitivity.
How do you know the wife isn't working or doing petty business? So it's ok for a man to squander money on frivolities while his family lack because it's a woman's responsibility to raise the kids? Yet you guys are wonder why kids ditch their dads when they're older?

He's the kind of guy Ubunja will term an alpha male. Such a human. You just fucck , then when the kid comes, watch the woman do the rest.

Love892:
Good day nairalanders. This story is not about me but a friend of mine who is a guy.

There is this guy who I know who is not financially buoyant but instead of him to look for money he keeps sleeping around. I will be brief with this story.

The man in question has 4 children who he doesnt take care of. The first day I saw them, I was at his place he does electrical works for me. He stepped out to buy something. When the kids came, they asked me for money. I didn't know them and they looked so dirty and you know usual Nigerian story, dont give beggars money anyhow. So I told them I had no idea who they were looking for. When he came back, I told him . He denied knowing any child talkless of children coming to his house. We even joked about parents who turn their kids to beggars and all.

The second time I went to look for him to do a job for me, I saw the children again and they still begged me for money. Then I was curious why it's only that particular house they come and ask for money. So I asked then who they were looking for, and they told me their dad. I was indeed confused and had to ask the neighbours around who the kids are. Imagine kids of 3 yrs, 5 years 7 years and 15 years. When he came I told him his kids came and he hissed.

Now anytime I see his kids, I dont tell him because the last time he shouted at me, that he has heard.

Due to the fact i gave them money when i found out they were his kids, they ask me anytime they see me but unfortunately I stopped. I cant help someone who hates his kids. The few times they came when he was around he drove them away. Whenever I am there, he always drives them saying they are dirty.

First question how do I advise him? He always gets angry when I talk about the kids. He says he cant take care of them because he doesnt want to have anything doing with the mother of the kids. Even if he doesnt have atleast try. If it were only one child, I will say it was a mistake. But you gave birth to the second, third and fourth from same woman. It can't be a mistake.


One day I was talking to one of his numerous girlfriends and she told me that a man doesnt need to take care of the kids because they bear his name. Sorry but I hate poverty mentality. She said it's the work of the mother. I pray she has kids for him so he rejects them in Jesus name.

Then lastly I dont get him. He doesnt give any of his girlfriends money but last time I saw 4 of them fighting for him and he drove 3 out of the 4. Later I heard him begging them and now they are back.

If he had money I will understand. He is in his 40s. I hate people that neglect children and now everything about his presence irritates me because I treat women well. Please how do I advice him and what do the girls see in him? He is in his forties , I am 25 dont want him to take it personal. I want him to be serious with his life.


I might create a separate thread to explain his womanising attitude due to ambiguity.

NB: He goes for EVERY church program.

Too many children from especially the poor among us.
Too many child beggars on our streets....mostly from the North. No education..no future..nothing but to wake up in the morning and go begging. Their parents go on shaking their waist every night to chun out more beggars and put them on the streets. Then, the children grow up too to be get beggars too!
The country needs a law enacted on moral restraint and a ban on child marriage which is prominent in the Northern part of the country.
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dfrost:
Bros, bros, bros... shey you go hear? Mind your business.

this is the problem i have with short sighted people like you in this Nigeria. Ask yourself what are the odds of kids like that making it in life? Those children if not redirected are ticking time bombs to their community. The eldest is already 15 ,soon cultists can see and entice him before you know it he is a hit man .

Destitutes like that are a menace to society, soon they will get tired of begging and start practicing with burglary who knows kidnapping. Be there and be saying mind your business until they grow up and kidnap you.

InvertedHammer:
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A lot of women find irresponsible and deadbeat men attractive. Talk to most divorcees. They will tell you that their ex-husbands are useless. Who chose those men? When reality of life sets in, they play victims. I refuse to believe that he became irresponsible after his fourth kid. Yet the wife kept opening her legs for him.
Don't be shocked that one or few of his girlfriends will end up getting pregnant too even though they know that he is a loser. Women are "special" breed.
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this is exactly what AntiBrutus and i said yesterday, who knows if the woman did have a "fix him " mentality like the Gucci story? We need to teach our daughters to value themselves more and not stick around with a man who does not have his sh1t together.

Women have been brainwashed to think they are a man's fixer, oh don't worry just marry him marriage will bring out the man in him , he will become more responsible when he settles down, you as a woman can make him change and so on . lol

He will change ,he will change that is probably how she ended up having 4 children for a dickhead but when a woman walks away from bullsh1t she is termed "not loyal" not mature enough to stick with her man .
If she stays she is regarded as a special breed of fish brain.lol eni4real , ericsmith , Korllami007 what do you guys have to say about this .

Ladycewhy:
this is exactly what AntiBrutus and i said yesterday, who knows if the woman didn't have a "fix him " mentality like the Gucci story? We need to teach our daughters to value themselves more and not stick around with a man who does have his sh1t together.

He will change he will change that is probably how she ended up having 4 children for a dickhead but when a woman walks away from bullsh1t she is termed "not loyal" not mature enough to stick with her man .
If she stays she is regardless as a special breed of fish brain.lol eni4real , ericsmith , Korllami007 what do you guys have to say about this .

Forget about those useless hypocrites that speak from both side of the mouth.

AntiBrutus:
Forget about those useless hypocrites that speak from both side of the mouth.

lol i just want to know what they have to say. Now the guy i quoted is already calling the woman fish brain ,Who knows how many days she must have fasted and prayed for him to change even the deadbeat is a very religious person o. Honestly ,women need to wake up ,stop trying to fix any man, geez what is his mothers duty for christ sake, na wah o. They were glorifying Gucci but this is one of the many cases that women's "he will change, i call change him" has landed them in ruins.

koyyes:
Your friend abi acquaintance is simply a d1ck head. Even the women that gave birth to those kids for him are all 1diots.

Some of the kids will definitely end up like him. If you want to help, help the kid(s) who appear promising. Don't directly give money to any of the mothers.

Don't get too involved before they rub their poverty and foolishness on you. The spirit of backwardness is highly contagious. That's why rich peeps marry fellow rich peeps and avoid wretched, wicked paupers like a plague.

so true. Reason why I distance myself from such people. Poverty has destroyed their minds and any sense it could've contained. Poor people always reason differently

dominique:
In your mind, you made sense. You only exposed your ignorance and insensitivity.
How do you know the wife isn't working or doing petty business? So it's ok for a man to squander money on frivolities while his family lack because it's a woman's responsibility to raise the kids? Yet you guys are wonder why kids ditch their dads when they're older?

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I hate these people the most for overpopulating our country upon a useless petty business. And when their kids grow up they will come to NL and be shouting government! government!

AntiBrutus:
Forget about those useless hypocrites that speak from both side of the mouth.

This one is always angry

Can't you see that this is a case of extreme irresponsibility??
How exactly is it similar to the case discussed yesterday!!
You guys should relax on unnecessary hate for men!!
Even the Op is a man and you can see how he condemn such gross irresponsibility!!

Ladycewhy:
this is exactly what AntiBrutus and i said yesterday, who knows if the woman did have a "fix him " mentality like the Gucci story? We need to teach our daughters to value themselves more and not stick around with a man who does not have his sh1t together.

Women have been brainwashed to think they are a man's fixer, oh don't worry just marry him marriage will bring out the man in him , he will become more responsible when he settles down, you as a woman can make him change and so on . lol

He will change ,he will change that is probably how she ended up having 4 children for a dickhead but when a woman walks away from bullsh1t she is termed "not loyal" not mature enough to stick with her man .
If she stays she is regarded as a special breed of fish brain.lol eni4real , ericsmith , Korllami007 what do you guys have to say about this .

This is an extreme case of irresponsibility... It is 100% different from what we discussed yesterday!!

eni4real:
This one is always angry

Can't you see that this is a case of extreme irresponsibility??
How exactly is it similar to the case discussed yesterday!!
You guys should relax on unnecessary hate for men!!
Even the Op is a man and you can see how he condemn such gross irresponsibility!!

Cc: Ladycewhy.

I bet doing drugs, cheating and even being a jailbird are signs of extreme responsibility.

I hope this hypocrisy and slowness isn't genetic. I fear for the future generation.

AntiBrutus:
Cc: Ladycewhy.

I bet doing drugs, cheating and even being a jailbird are signs of extreme responsibility.

I hope this hypocrisy and slowness isn't genetic. I fear for the future generation.

You missed the innocent children part??
What a way to be smart and less hypocritical??

eni4real:
You missed the innocent children part??
What a way to be smart and less hypocritical??

Mtcheeew... double mouthed elements

eni4real:
This is an extreme case of irresponsibility... It is 100% different from what we discussed yesterday!!

wait ,so wild Gucci, publicly with other women Gucci, in jail gucci, on drugs gucci are not extreme cases of irresponsibility? Lol OK . I sure will remember to warn my future daughter about men like you so she grows up with high self esteem and never settle of deadbeats looking for who to fix them .

eni4real:
You missed the innocent children part??
What a way to be smart and less hypocritical??

exactly ,what kind of a father does that tho ?

Ladycewhy:
wait ,so wild Gucci, publicly with other women Gucci, in jail gucci, on drugs gucci are not extreme cases of irresponsibility? Lol OK . I sure will remember to warn my future daughter about men like you so she grows up with high self esteem and never settle of deadbeats looking for who to fix them .

Nice punch line
Take it easy on me..

This Nigerian guy is poor, went ahead to have 4 children that he can't take care of in this hard economy. .. Does not want anything concerning the mother and the innocent kids irrespective of any child abuse they all may suffered from strangers..

C'mon, this case is on another level... It is like a poverty and neglect version of yesterday case..

It is an extreme form of irresponsibility... Even if the wife has any iota of faith in him, she will never get a chance.

Ladycewhy:
exactly ,what kind of a father does that tho ?

This case is worse as far as the narrative goes..

eni4real:
Nice punch line
Take it easy on me..

This Nigerian guy is poor, went ahead to have 4 children that he can't take care of in this hard economy. .. Does not want anything concerning the mother and the innocent kids irrespective of any child abuse they all may suffered from strangers..

C'mon, this case is on another level... It is like a poverty and neglect version of yesterday case..

It is an extreme form of irresponsibility... Even if the wife has any iota of faith in him, she will never get a chance.

Did you read the part that this man works? He works for the OP and earns money so please lets leave poverty out of it, there are men out there probably earning less than him yet they take care of their kids .


Now back to my point ,can you tell me how his own case if different from Gucci's own ? Reply me with that please. So we can all learn which one is mild irresponsibility and extreme irresponsibility.

Ladycewhy:
Did you read the part that this man works? He works for the OP and earns money so please lets leave poverty out of it, there are men out there probably earning less than him yet they take care of their kids .


Now back to my point ,can you tell me how his own case if different from Gucci's own ? Reply me with that please. So we can all learn which one mild irresponsibility and extreme irresponsibility.

The guy is still poor.. Is he buoyant enough to take care of 4 grown children??
The problem with this Nigerian version is that he does not want any relationship with the mother and the children...
4 children??

He is even denying the children as his own?? Who does that??

This is another level dear..

For a guy to create a post like this, you know that we are dealing with a shocking irresponsibility!!!

eni4real:
The guy is still poor.. Is he buoyant enough to take care of 4 grown children??
The problem with this Nigerian version is that he does not want any relationship with the mother and the children...
4 children??

He is even denying the children as his own?? Who does that??

This is another level dear..

For a guy to create a post like this, you know that we are dealing with a shocking irresponsibility!!!

Sorry ,did you even read the post that he denied knowing them and chased them away when they came begging? Lol,Its OK,i just hope women wise up sha and stop babying grown men in the hopes they will change cos there are millions of men like this in Nigeria,but you choose to call it "shocking irresponsibility" as if its new to you or do i conclude that you have only lived in high end neighborhoods like banana island all your life hence the reason its is shocking to you. Lol

I asked you to reply me with how this mans case is extreme and Gucci's case is mild ,let me break it down for you ,now would you consider a cultist who has been sent to jail, smokes weed and even adds trams ,openly carries women to meet his wife at home a mildly irresponsible or extremely irresponsible?

Ladycewhy:
Sorry ,did you even read the post that he denied knowing them and chased them away when they came begging? Lol,Its OK,i just hope women wise up sha and stop babying grown men in the hopes they will change.

I asked you to reply me with how this mans case is extreme and Gucci's case is mild ,let me break it down for you ,now would you consider a cultist who has been sent to jail, smokes weed and even adds trams ,openly carries women to meet his wife at home a mildly irresponsible or extremely irresponsible .

I didn't say Gucci case was mild.. I never said that...

I only said this Nigerian guy exhibit extreme irresponsibility.. Reason: He just left 4 children to his wife unattended to... No financial support, he even deny being their father.. And get angry once their names are mentioned..

That Gucci guy is a husband that was suffering from addiction and gangster problems..
At least his wife had a chance to persevere..

It was not mentioned anywhere that Gucci send his wife and children or does not want to have any relationship with them... He never resented his own children or put them on the street where they can be abused or killed...

May be you like to win argument but C'mon, you can't put this case and yesterday case on the same level.. .

I don't condone irresponsibility at all but Gucci's wife knew that she will pull through and it worked out for her..

She should be termed a strong woman for doing that!!!
Married women should settle this matter abeg

eni4real:
I didn't say Gucci case was mild.. I never said that...

I only said this Nigerian guy exhibit extreme irresponsibility.. Reason: He just left 4 children to his wife unattended to... No financial support, he even deny being their father.. And get angry once their names are mentioned..

That Gucci guy is a husband that was suffering from addiction and gangster problems..
At least his wife had a chance to persevere..

It was not mentioned anywhere that Gucci send his wife and children or does not want to have any relationship with them... He never resented his own children or put them on the street where they can be abused or killed...

May be you like to win argument but C'mon, you can't put this case and yesterday case on the same level.. .

I don't condone irresponsibility at all but Gucci's wife knew that she will pull through and it worked out for her..

She should be termed a strong woman for doing that!!!
Married women should settle this matter abeg

so according to you women should persevere with a drug addicted ex convict cultist that brings women to their matrimonial home. That way they can be termed as strong women.

OK that is all i wanted to hear.

Ladycewhy:
so according to you women should persevere with a drug addicted ex convict cultist that brings women to their matrimonial home.

OK that is all i wanted to hear.

Anyone can suffer from drug addiction...

Some ladies take alcohol like Breweries.. .

Some ladies are addicted to weed and Tramadol

I heard some youth are addicted to soakaway and pit Latrine in the North..

Addiction is a problem that can affect male or female youth depending on their upbringing.. The environment and friendship before marriage..

It is not just a male thing...

The wife persevered because she knew that her husband could get corrected...

Accolades to her...

But if she was not ready to go through that phase with him may be because she is not psychological strong enough, I won't blame her..
But for doing that, she deserves all the accolades!!!

eni4real:
Anyone can suffer from drug addiction...

Some ladies take alcohol like Breweries.. .

Some ladies are addicted to weed and Tramadol

I heard some youth are addicted to soakaway and pit Latrine in the North..

Addiction is a problem that can affect male or female youth depending on their upbringing.. The environment and friendship before marriage..

It is not just a male thing...

The wife persevered because she knew that her husband could get corrected...

Accolades to her...

But if she was not ready to go through that phase with him may be because she is not psychological strong enough, I won't blame her..
But for doing that, she deserves all the accolades!!!

lol ,this is what i call reverse psychology at its best . i have been trying to refrain myself from speaking the obvious since but let me just say ,you see that same woman, she abandoned her three children in Jamaica came to the US to stick with a drug addicted gangster for his money. You need to look up how much he gave her before he went to prison.

On this note ,i will only say, women if you must stick with an irresponsible man make sure its for the money o. Look at Annie idibia, look at chioma,look at other cases of women who stuck with their men after having numerous babies outside, these guys were not poor ,so my dear sisters, make sure if you want to cry because of a man he is making you do it in a Bugatti. Don't stick with a broke ass deadbeat who will use his last money to play visual and be expecting to win 70 million in his dreams


Money you nor get ,sense you nor get join,omo na life of misery be that o. Ladies be warned.