iwantolive:
God bless you.i am a male but i do tell girls the same thing,even my girl friend.You are not mine until we are married

jaxxy:


As much as u attempted to make sm sense u failed to strike an essential balance.

A lady must show a certain level of commitment and honesty to her bf to be counted or found worthy to be a fiancée and same with the guy aswell, it will be ridiculous to wife a gal who has been doing a free for all party or activity. I’m sure u as well the assumed potential real husband as u call it wud be worried, if she jumping around so easily and freely when Ure dating her unless u will meet her 2day and marry or propose 2 her 2moro. If not a time period will be needed to access her and during that period my bro u are still a toaster or at best a boyfriend whom u carelessly describe as an unserious fellow inclusive of urself the new toaster aka hubby in waiting. Lol

Now what I think u shud say or have said is a gal shud know when and how long to be exclusive to a guy in a relationship to access the certain direction of such relationship because sm relationships are clearly going nowhere and possibly need a Change.


There is nothing wrong in a gal saying she has a boyfriend bt there is smtn wrong if she doesn’t know the level of her relationship and how she relates with other potential suitors who maybe serious. Marriage isn’t the only end goal bt a great relationship. Why? because there are bad marriages also. So thinking a man proposing to u is an achievement pls think again.

Sm husbands are wolves and worse than sm boyfriends. A genuineness of the relationship leading to marriage is the goal.

Hamachi:
Your boyfriend is not your husband!

A guy approached you for a relationship, and you tell him, 'I have a boyfriend', boyfriend ke. It's very wrong to tell a guy, "I have a boyfriend', when a
guy asks you out. Its totally wrong!

I once met a Lady of like 25 years I really admired, I asked her out and she boldly told me, 'no! I have a boyfriend!' Jesus!

A boyfriend at 25 years? A boyfriend has no right over any girl, because he is not yet matured to have a woman, that is why he is a boy.

You can only tell someone, " I am engaged or I am married'. Telling a man that came your way you have a boyfriend simply means you are still a kid playing around with a boy.

You can't keep a boyfriend for the rest of your life and expect to be married. A boy must graduate to a youth, then to a man. A boy is someone that keeps a girl for fun, a fiancé is someone that want to marry her, and man is that person that finally pay her dowry. Having a boyfriend that sex you doesn't mean you are in a serious relationship or you have a man that will marry you: it simply means, 'I have a boy that I have fun with'

You can have as many boyfriends at a time, but you can only have one fiancé and one husband. Dont tie down your destiny with a boy. Don't tie down your destiny because of ignorant.

Having a boyfriend is just like having a normal friend. Having an intimate boyfriend is like having a sexual partner, that marriage isn't yet involved. It is not being in a relationship. Anybody is free to toast you. Having sex with a boy doesn't mean you guys are committed for each other. You can be in a sexual relationship and thinks or feels you are in a committed relationship. Committed relationship starts the moment you both had graduated from that childish fantasy, from that childish fallacy.

Ie, when he finally proposed to you and meet your parents.
Stop being ignorant!
Stop living in ignorance.
You can reject your husband because of a boyfriend. Don't ever be proud just because you have a boy that sleep

Pettyprincess:
So you trying to say a lady should have many boyfriends as possible because she is not committed yet,like seriously?
No be bf dey turn fiance then husband?
If you in committed relationship it is expected that both partner should be faithful to each other!! I'm not talking about all this children relationship that they don't even know where it's heading to.That's why ladies should date men not boys!!!

lazinny:
What is even wrong with humans in this part of the world? I honestly don't get. A girl having a boyfriend at 25 is now a bad thing, at what age is she now supposed to have one? At 13?

Marriage evolves from a relationship not the other way round. You don't wake up on day and decided you want to get married then go about looking for a spouse, like say Na car you wan buy.
You'll only end up with someone as desperate as you are.

People should be careful the kinda advise they read online.

Hamachi:
Your boyfriend is not your husband!

A guy approached you for a relationship, and you tell him, 'I have a boyfriend', boyfriend ke. It's very wrong to tell a guy, "I have a boyfriend', when a
guy asks you out. Its totally wrong!

I once met a Lady of like 25 years I really admired, I asked her out and she boldly told me, 'no! I have a boyfriend!' Jesus!

A boyfriend at 25 years? A boyfriend has no right over any girl, because he is not yet matured to have a woman, that is why he is a boy.

You can only tell someone, " I am engaged or I am married'. Telling a man that came your way you have a boyfriend simply means you are still a kid playing around with a boy.

You can't keep a boyfriend for the rest of your life and expect to be married. A boy must graduate to a youth, then to a man. A boy is someone that keeps a girl for fun, a fiancé is someone that want to marry her, and man is that person that finally pay her dowry. Having a boyfriend that sex you doesn't mean you are in a serious relationship or you have a man that will marry you: it simply means, 'I have a boy that I have fun with'

You can have as many boyfriends at a time, but you can only have one fiancé and one husband. Dont tie down your destiny with a boy. Don't tie down your destiny because of ignorant.

Having a boyfriend is just like having a normal friend. Having an intimate boyfriend is like having a sexual partner, that marriage isn't yet involved. It is not being in a relationship. Anybody is free to toast you. Having sex with a boy doesn't mean you guys are committed for each other. You can be in a sexual relationship and thinks or feels you are in a committed relationship. Committed relationship starts the moment you both had graduated from that childish fantasy, from that childish fallacy.

Ie, when he finally proposed to you and meet your parents.
Stop being ignorant!
Stop living in ignorance.
You can reject your husband because of a boyfriend. Don't ever be proud just because you have a boy that sleep

Jayslicky:
If many boyfriends stop providing, most girls would be dead in less than two weeks.

Pettyprincess:
So you trying to say a lady should have many boyfriends as possible because she is not committed yet,like seriously?
No be bf dey turn fiance then husband?
If you in committed relationship it is expected that both partner should be faithful to each other!! I'm not talking about all this children relationship that they don't even know where it's heading to.That's why ladies should date men not boys!!!

lollybizzu:


You made so much sense.

You balanced the argument.

IMO, the seriousness of the relationship determines how long you can be in it. And when I say seriousness, it's all encompassing- loyalty, commitment, future plans, and what have you from both parties.

Understanding, knowing what you want and fighting for it is key.

ericsmith:
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I just can't comprehend ur point of view fully, tried to reason along buh saying a boyfriend is not a husband should also apply to fiance.. except you don't wana agree there are so many r/ship that broke even after engagement ring.
Life is a process, one stage/level leads to the other. without boyfriend who you for call fiance .... committment as no time frame, engagement don't jus happen, commitment frm both parties or one of the parties as to trigger it.
According to your write if only marriage deserves commitment, then i ask how do we get to that level without commitment. can two unserious minds metamorphous to a couple, even if a gurl kips 10 bf u just av to take one serious @least

Jayslicky:
If many boyfriends stop providing, most girls would be dead in less than two weeks.

lazinny:
What is even wrong with humans in this part of the world? I honestly don't get. A girl having a boyfriend at 25 is now a bad thing, at what age is she now supposed to have one? At 13?

Marriage evolves from a relationship not the other way round. You don't wake up on day and decided you want to get married then go about looking for a spouse, like say Na car you wan buy.
You'll only end up with someone as desperate as you are.

People should be careful the kinda advise they read online.

celebobo:
What are you advising woman
Did ur boyfriend marry you the first day u met him?
So if am in serious and committed relationship with a girl that both of us knw were we are going, she should accept any guy DAT comes her way?. Very bad n not acceptable mehn...
You sound like a rejected shitttt. Bleep.
Learn how to keep one man OK!

ericsmith:
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I just can't comprehend ur point of view fully, tried to reason along buh saying a boyfriend is not a husband should also apply to fiance.. except you don't wana agree there are so many r/ship that broke even after engagement ring.
Life is a process, one stage/level leads to the other. without boyfriend who you for call fiance .... committment as no time frame, engagement don't jus happen, commitment frm both parties or one of the parties as to trigger it.
According to your write if only marriage deserves commitment, then i ask how do we get to that level without commitment. can two unserious minds metamorphous to a couple, even if a gurl kips 10 bf u just av to take one serious @least
I sincerely employ that u shud try nd reason along his line of thought. He has said the obvious

solasoulmusic:
Sometimes it’s the truth and it’s a nicer way of saying your really not my type it’s better than ghosting you sha sorry

solasoulmusic:
Sometimes it’s the truth and it’s a nicer way of saying your really not my type it’s better than ghosting you sha sorry