₦airaland Forum

majarbimbo:
Bro some people we not or may not know what it takes to work in saipem talkless of being an oga at saipem, saipem is an Italian construction company , have once been in contact with them when I worked at Onshore construction company an Indian firm handling Dangote fertilizer refinery when I was in naija, those saipem workers are millionaire, we use to envy them then

ahiboilandgas:
list it here.....

mgh2:
Why are you not working there since shell is one of those companies where one can get into without connection.

You just an embodiment of selfishness, greed, self-centeredness, evil and all sort of acrimony you can think of.

Some of you talk trash out of your myopic mind all because you earn chicken change that is not even enough to pay for car fueling a month and you think you have arrived and as such you look at others that are yet to make it as if they are not smart or lazy.

Do you really think you are where you are today because of your smartness and hardwork?

According to the principle of fatalism; it states that “what will be will be irrespective of the precautions taken ”
That principle simply means that every thing in life has been predetermined to occur at a certain point in time whether you put in effort or not.

We all have our time of victory and it will certainly come at the right time.

So if you are in money today, don’t think others that are yet to make it will not make it or don’t ever think they are not hustling or smart.

Before you where born people have been making money; so you are not the first and you will not be the last.

I will continue to show the act of benevolence to others in need starting with my very biological family and no woman born of a woman can ever make me turn my back against my family.

If you like keep your dirty money to yourself and don’t help your family or people close by. Whether you help or you don’t help you will still die and leave your dirty chicken change behind.

davillian:
I have one
He doesn't show support or care about anyone in the family...
The type that can never call you if you don't call then you guys would never talk.
The type that won't support you even it it cost #0 naira..
He doesn't take advice from anyone or listen to anyone...
The most annoying one is that he doesn't even show concern if anybody dies he doesn't care if anybody is sick he doesn't care.
Now e
X-mas is approaching everybody with their families would touch down in Lagos to spend x-mas in the family house this same brother won't show up and he stays in lekki but doesn't even come home to check on mum.
He is not married.

millionboi2:
you are partial.....some women if not all are very difficult to please.

Eze2000:
We have the same problem. My only uncle is a millionaire in the USA but never helped my father (who trained him in life) or his kids as agreed. We found our way ourselves.

I am waiting for him to die so I can block his burial on our ancestral land. I am the first son of a first son. I own it all.


Modified

God is merciful but man is not. I never begged so no one should beg me.

chidekings:
The worst that can happen to a man is to be the only rich man in one family.

Creamcustard:
@OP
It is shocking how you have downplayed the huge contribution your brother has made to your lives.He is your sibling and not your parent and yet he was paying fees, giving money for business and he even gave a car.You even said he did not deprive himself of anything to make these sacrifices.No wonder he avoids all of you.

You are saying no one is asking for money or anything but your posts are saying otherwise: 1. you have mentioned that people wonder why your brother works in shell and you an engineer in a hospital
2. You have said your elder brother is not moving. 3. He wanted to marry and did not receive any support from your family but got criticism on top of it.

Let's not kid ourselves here, once he let's you all in, the requests will start piling in.

It is extremely off putting and creates strains in relationships.

Maybe your brother cut you all off so he and his nuclear family can progress, i imagine if he kept carrying you all, he would be stuck catering to you forever and depriving his family of the kind of lifestyle appropriate.

The fact that he would rather render assistance to strangers than to you all speaks volumes and reinforces the fact that he must see you all as life draining and toxic to his well being.

Fortunately, relationships cannot be forced. Pour your energy into making yourself rich too and focus on your own family.

shadeyinka:
Typical African mentality: his wife is his business not yours or any other person. How can you openly claim to be the enemy of your brother's wife and you expect her and her Husband to be your friend. It's not possible.

You want him to divorce his wife and the mother of his children for you?
Impossible: only if you can fulfill the role the wife is meeting in his life. You think it's all about food and sex? No Sir!

Entitlement Spirit is worrying our people. If their brother was a poor struggling clerk in an Indian company, no one will complain about him.

0monnak0da:
You are sure he will die before you

Eze2000:
Are you sure there is God

millionboi2:
with this ur mentality ah.....just pray ur children don't need dos ones u think thy must worship u today in future.

sassysure:
My submission was that he may have his reason but this shouldn't be part of it else he is a very cold hearted man.

Fhemmmy:
Let's even agreed that he is cold hearted, don't you think it is better for the family to try to find out why he is cold hearted than thinking he doesn't care about them? I think the title of this thread is so misleading if you think he is just being a man with a cold heart. . . . He can be be rick according to the OP but do they know what he is dealing with underneath his skin? Have they tried to figure out if he is even OK at all?
I guess the guy is seen as sacrificial lamb who as long as he is NOT helping them, he is just wicked.
Till we start to see the wife of a man as the next of kin, this kinda trouble will never seize
When there is food to eat or NOT, the wife is always the first person to know
If the man cough in the middle of the night, the wife will be the one to wake up to make sure her husband is OK . . . The woman's role in the life of a man can never be overemphasized . . . . The family wants the best from him, love his wife and i mean true love and not the eyes service kinda love.

sassysure:
Fhemmmy, I don tire pls.
Can't u see I deleted my recent reply to u?

Hian

Abeg, I have agreed to all u said

I jam the wrong tree walai.

Lol . . .

0monnak0da:
What is the logic in your question?
You said you are waiting for your uncle to die
My question is how do you know he will die before you

Are you sure there is yam
Guy if you have nothing intelligent to say keep quiet.
Anyway how can I expect anything intelligent from someone waiting for another person to die so you will refuse burial to his corpse.
What a brain!!

0monnak0da:
What is the logic in your question?
You said you are waiting for your uncle to die
My question is how do you know he will die before you

Are you sure there is yam
Guy if you have nothing intelligent to say keep quiet.
Anyway how can I expect anything intelligent from someone waiting for another person to die so you will refuse burial to his corpse.
What a brain!!

Eze2000:
When they say Nigerian youths are useless, rude and can't read, the same Nigerian youths think we mature adults are insulting them. Just look at these two talking trash to me when they don't have all the information about my family or me. Mynd44 how can people ever be expected to answer a question honestly with dedicated trolls like these running wild on this website?





When you are greatly offended in life you have 2 choices.

1. Fight for yourself or
2. Let God fight for you.

In fighting for yourslef you can do so physically or with the aid of evil powers i.e witches and native doctors. I chose number 2 above and that means waiting for God to deal with him. And hey, before you start trolling me about waiting in vain let me inform you that the multi-millionaire of yesterday is now finding money difficult today, has already shut down 3 business and sold one of his 3 cars in Nigeria.

God may be slow in action but never fails. I chose him.





My father was a young captain in the Biafran war. He fought in war fronts until Canada started helping Biafra by supplying it food and so translators of French to Igbo were needed. That was how my dad, an Igbo man who spoke French fluently, got promoted to Captain and given an administrative job. After the war, one of the white men he worked with took him to Canada. My dad was in Canada when his only brother was jailed for rape in the village in Nigeria and no one among the illiterate villagers could help because it was a policeman's daughter he allegedly raped and the guy jailed him even while the case was yet to get to court. My father returned to carry that case so his brother would not go to jail and damage his life. Unfortunately, in his haste, he came back without the right papers and could not return.
My father made huge sacrifices that turned his only brother from a primary school dropout selling acara in an Igbo village to a highly qualified secondary school teacher. Some of those sacrifices world have sent my dad to jail if caught. For example, when this same secondary school teacher got a chance to go to America he could not pass the English exam. Guess who took it for him? Before that guess who forged his papers with govt stamp so he could go to Teachers Training College after failing the exam?

My dad was a man who did not build houses or buy cars in his main years but spent all he had on his brother first, then his own kids later in life. The family agreement was my Uncle would train me in the USA and I train my younger ones. My dad fell seriously ill just after I left secondary school and it lasted for 15 years. His brother did one of the most famous vanishing acts you will ever see till my dad died five years ago. During this time, i was told to get ready to go to the USA for studies 3 times only for it to be called off.

After my dad died without seeing his brother, I blocked the man in my heart for life. I've turned down more pacifying gifts in dollars within the last five years than both of you trolls will ever see in your life. My rejection carried spiritual consequences due to the circumstance and so my uncle, in desperation offered one of his cash gifts to a struggling younger brother of mine. He accepted and that was how he found the huge capital needed to become a money exchanger and bitcoin trader. He's a millionaire now and doesn't bother with Nairaland again where he learnt the trade.

So how about me. I'm a self-taught writer and author waiting to answer my calling as a man of God in an international church. I have to answer that calling because not answering it since it first came 20 years ago has affected my life in a way you cannot understand. It has also preserved it. Yes, I did not mention that my uncle is diabolical... a user of native charms who has to return to Nigeria to renew his evil power yearly. People die in our house every 4 years now and a lot of destinies have been tied down. He has poisoned me via food 2 times and tried to drive me mad 3 times - God stopped all five attempts. I can't feel my toes well till today from the first attempt in 1998. Check my profile you will see me pleading for advice from doctors in the health section just 2 moths back to save a woman's life. That was my stepmother, she is dead now from a simple leg injury that worsened and spread incredibly fast.

@Enculer my attempts to survive have been superhuman spiritually and physically, something 10 of you can never do. I'm neither poor nor lazy. I earn well above minimum wage in a job no one taught me to do or helped. I own 3 houses all to myself in Lagos and Imo state. I battle demons to a standstill, eat poison and live, render the powers of some of the most powerful prophets you know useless because God is my power. The only area you can taunt me is being unmarried at 39 due to the fact that I have not found a godly woman I like in a society so rotten.



Please, please go away both of you and let me mourn in peace.

Fhemmmy:
Lol . . .

Eze2000:
Always read a book or article to the end before you comment. I made several comments on this tread and 2 people like you hurled insults at me. You are the third. Below was my reply to them and now you. Both went silent and now please do.

Perhaps you may see a different meaning to me words 'Is there God'. It's my problem and the solution, the consequence, it's all mine too, not yours. Please don't quote me again.

0monnak0da:
I will quote you all day long
I read your comment and it was absurd enough to prompt my response.
I am not interested in your biography
Just do not come here with your twisted logic.

You have no guarantee you will survive this week and you are talking nonsense about waiting for your uncle to die so you will refuse his corpse burial. Why because he is rich and did not help you

Help yourself
Do you how or where he will die or you for that matter.

Your contribution is worse than useless. What are we supposed to learn from that?
How does that help anyone.
You said the uncle is rich. God has blessed him.
Pray for the same and leave his dead body alone

Eze2000:
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Stop with the trash. For someone who cannot do as little as respect other people's choice, privacy or decisions you lack the moral grounds to speak up under any circumstance.l

My Judge and jury did I ask you for help or advice? You are the kind that knows everything but can't get anything right even in your own life. Try to face that life of yours and leave others to theirs until they make the mistake of asking you for something then you can start with the needless excuse...

You wanna talk? You wanna quote me? Knock yourself out I'm waiting now.

sassysure:
Sighs...finally.
Thank u

Fhemmmy:
You be madam at the top na . . . I was just having fun! Hope i did NOT offend you?

Eze2000:
What you are is a busy body of low intellect and if you are a pastor to boot then many will really go astray.

1. You don't know how to read.
2. Your contribution was idiotic, absurd and stupid. That is my opinion exactly!


By the way, you are telling me to go help myself, right? I using a 250k Samsung Galaxy A to type this. May I ask what manner of cheap device you are using that leaves double spacing between words?

Lol

0monnak0da:
My psychology is quite secure. I do not need to put you down to feel better about myself
My device is irrelevant but if you must know it it a 20K desktop Pc ,very good value for money
I do not use a smartphone. My phone is worth about 5K . So I guess that makes you a greater man.......

You are waiting for your uncle to die so you can deny his corpse burial as revenge for his failure to help you.

That tells me all I need to know about you

Fact is you may not be around when he dies

You are waiting for your uncle to die so you can deny his corpse burial as revenge for his failure to help you.
That tells me all I need to know about you

Fact is you may not be around when he dies