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Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by egobetatoday: 9:16am On Oct 29, 2019 |
midnighter: U are assuming that the lady sits at home with the OP from morning to night. What if she's Working and doesn't have time to cook. What if when she returns home she is too tired to cook? What if over time the man and his wife have discovered there is no need to cook since they are always at work during meal time? All I know is if her husband does not complain, then the OP SHOULD ADAPT WHEN HE VISITS THEM, especially as the man gives the OP MONEY FOR FEEDING. what else does he wants? In-laws just like to look for trouble, when the trouble finally finds them they start looking for who to blame. I will only blame the lady if she cooks for herself alone, or just for her husband alone without caring for a visitor in the house. Apart from that, if that lifestyle works for them...fine, as long as I've been given money for lunch. 1 Like |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by egobetatoday: 9:27am On Oct 29, 2019 |
sarutobi: You said "What he failed to do is to tell you guys that he can only provide what he has". If he tells them that he will be in big soup and they will always use that word against him. |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by midnighter(f): 9:39am On Oct 29, 2019 |
egobetatoday: If all those circumstances youve mentioned are the case, that is fine. I agree with you on all those things, especially that the main thing is that the man gave him money to go and buy The way you wrote it in the first instance looked like you were saying it was acceptable for someone to refuse to cook when they are hosting you. You would have mentioned the feeding money in that post I feel for the guy but he keeps indicting himself with these statements. I guess there are good reasons why his brother is annoyed with him |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by egobetatoday: 10:06am On Oct 29, 2019 |
johnmba: If you didn't have any relationship while growing up, what kind of relationship do you want to build now that "the fish don dry"? I also think that parents have a lot to do in the lives of children while they are young. Like madridguy said, his father sounded it in their ears while growing up that the first person to make it should help the others. They grew up with that so it will definitely be different from the situation u have in your family now. You also said he helped in the past, it is u people's fault for being against his choice of lady for a wife. You all thought he wasn't wise enough to choose a wife and he got angry. Actually he feels that if you all have been appreciating all he's been doing, the point when he chose his wife is when you should show that appreciation by accepting his wife, but you all blew the opportunity up. And I'm surprised because you never had a strong relationship while growing up, how do you think you have a say in his choices? for him not to even pick his own mothers call means he never had a strong relationship with his mother. With this, I'm surprised that your mum was interested in his choice of a wife. I'm very surprised that you could say he didn't deprive himself to help you people in the past. Even if he was as rich as bill gates, any amount he gives you means that "he is less rich by that same amount... I mean, that same amount is deducted from his bank balance. So how do you even have the guts to say he didn't deprive himself? your sense of entitlement is your greatest undoing. He saw through all the half hearted "thank you bros" you all gave him then. It is very easy to see anyway. To make matters worse, the only thing that's supposed to make him happy you decided to be against it. You instantly bought trouble for yourselves. Your best bet is to go through his wife ( the same one you rejected when you had the opportunity). I know you said you are in good terms with her, IS SHE IN GOOD TERMS WITH YOU? Is she still carrying the grudge? It is always difficult to build a relationship with his wife if there was no true relationship when she came into the family. If she can forgive u people, good. Call her and relate with his children too. He may have a change of heart eventually. Please don't say you need your brother back. back from where? that is the entitlement thing I'm talking about. He has his own family get used to it! What you need is a relationship with him. but I hope you won't start tabling your wants once the relationship starts (because I suspect you "want him back" because you think he can help you get a job in shell, you are not happy that you are an engineer working in the hospital when you have a brother in shell). I lie? 7 Likes |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by ocheejeh: 7:47pm On Oct 30, 2019 |
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Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by DAVE5(m): 12:46pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
Eze2000: You quoted 0monnak0da saying some things about his type of device and other stuffs you’ve said, I’m not here to judge you or any of thing like that I have some words though; First, nairaland is a faceless forum and the said person 0monnak0da might be a billionaire who you book months long appointment to even see him face to face or yet he cld b a stack poor person that has nothing going for himself (my most sincere apologies to you 0monnak0da for the poor part, lol) my point is I feel he was pulling ur legs by saying his device is 20k and 5k respectively and his device whatsoever has nothing to do with his ideology but I believe he is a good guy to some extent, typo errors when typing occurs to even the best most brilliant richest guy in the room Secondly, I’ve followed ur statements here, in life, as a Christian Bible say u must forgive person 77 * 77 * 77 times (I’m not 100% sure on that part though) but then what that means is there’s nothing a person does to you that is unforgivable But if u no believe Bible, in life forgiveness actually gives you more inner peace than holding grudges against a person, I’ve held grudges against people and I know how I felt, I had to give up on why I was even holding grudges and just forgave the whole occurrence, but my catholic priest taught me once that we should not deceive ourselves, you cld forgive but forgetting is a very hard thing but just because u remember should not take away the forgiveness Plus like 0monnak0da has said, when you understand the fact that life is not yours you would know that your uncle might outlive you, even Jesus died at age 33, he cld have live as human for as long as he wanted, but God had a different calling and his wisdom far surpasses our imagination IMHO u saying u eat poison and all other stuffs says u r a strong man by ur own understanding, but then u r spiritually weak by my own standards if a wrong done to u would go without forgiveness and I guess 0monnak0da would understand my view too 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Eze3000: 8:42pm On Nov 01, 2019 |
DAVE5: Hi there Daves, For being mellow in tone I will take the time to answer your questions. One bite at a time. But may I point out that, though you claim differently, you are already being judgemental and biassed? First, nairaland is a faceless forum and the said person 0monnak0da might be a billionaire who you book months long appointment to even see him face to face or yet he cld b a stack poor person that has nothing going for himself (my most sincere apologies to you 0monnak0da for the poor part, lol) my point is I feel he was pulling ur legs by saying his device is 20k and 5k respectively and his device whatsoever has nothing to do with his ideology but I believe he is a good guy to some extent, typo errors when typing occurs to even the best most brilliant richest guy in the room Yeah, NL is indeed a faceless forum. If 0monnak0da a billionaire, he's a billionaire in his house not mine, not a faceless forum. If he chooses to use a 25k or 5k device that's his business, not mine. My problem starts when that device begins to quote upandan. He's pulling my lege? He's doing that even when I begged him to stop and go away severally? And you think he's a nice guy? The problem with his device is technical, not common typos like everyone makes including me, I'm a tech guy, I build websites and play with different advanced software on pc, tv, and phones. I'm no pro but I can spot cheap devices or faulty ones just by what they do online. Go to facebook, cheap china phones write certain things in red. The errors his device was making indicates it is substandard, which I pointed out because only a fool or an immature person leaves his own life which needs fixing to go out and criticize others in better positions than they are. Don't forget this was a guy that was telling me rudely to go make my own money as if he read somewhere that I was begging. Maybe he did not read at all. Secondly, I’ve followed ur statements here, in life, as a Christian Bible say u must forgive person 77 * 77 * 77 times (I’m not 100% sure on that part though) but then what that means is there’s nothing a person does to you that is unforgivable Forgiveness is a tricky topic but I can tell you for sure that only God forgives, the rest of us humans just pretend. I missed an important interview last year because a man I offended by mistake refused to sign my application letter. That man is the head of 4 churches with the rank of Rev. Pastor. I have a very delicate heart that finds it so hard to hurt people even when they hurt me. I shout and scream bloody murder but when the time for full vengeance comes I can't. A lot of people think I am weak because of that but thats me. Recently, I travelled 500 miles from Lagos to a remote village and stayed there for 5 days to help someone who caused me a lot of discomfort in life, someone I wished never existed some times, we quarrelled bitterly many time. I was one of the last people that person saw before death. You and 0monnak0da have nothing to teach me about forgiveness or the bible. If you had stopped to think, you would have realised that i am under a lot of stress, I said so too, and in such conditions, people react or talk badly. But when calm much later we act differently. Another thing is if you read my comments well you would realise that the person you are telling me to forgive does powerful things to make life terrible for me at least 3 times each year. I bet you don't have that kind of enemy or know anyone who does. If you are me you will tie a rope around your neck and hang yourself from the nearest tree or ceiling fan to end it but you are not me that;s wny you are quoting me instead and calling me weak. IMHO u saying u eat poison and all other stuffs says u r a strong man by ur own understanding, but then u r spiritually weak by my own standards if a wrong done to u would go without forgiveness and I guess 0monnak0da would understand my view too Never said I was a strong man but my God is strong. Why he chose me I have no idea but I assure you that I'm a dead man more than 20 times over. You will not understand. You are not there. You are just in your house operating a device on a faceless forum. Feel free to eat poison and see how it tastes. Plus like 0monnak0da has said, when you understand the fact that life is not yours you would know that your uncle might outlive you, even Jesus died at age 33, he cld have live as human for as long as he wanted, but God had a different calling and his wisdom far surpasses our imagination 1. If I thought I owned life I would change mine cos I don't like this one again. And Jesus did not die at 33 my dear. No historian has the figures or life story right, it is just estimated. I'm more than 33 though. You and this 0monnak0da can keep hoping but my uncle will not march my grave as he did to my father, mother and stepmom. You two can keep hoping in vain. God's wisdom and ways are indeed full of mysteries but sometimes he makes it all know to humans in such ways as visions and dreams. Cheers! |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by 0monnak0da: 6:59am On Nov 02, 2019 |
Eze3000: Very pitiable human being You do not have any guarantee he will die before you You are also a pathetic liar claiming to be technical whatever No I was not pulling your leg I actually do not have a smart phone. I have no need for one.I use Windows 10 on a desktop to type on Nairaland not an Android system. It might surprise you to learn not everyone browses the internet with a smartphone as you do. If having a 1 million naira phone makes you feel more human goodluck to you. That remark reveals you to be an Ibo ,that is how you reason. It also reveals the depth of your thinking Imagine coming here to boast that you use a million naira phone?? If you have any sense you will not talk like that Firstly you are probably lying but even if not who cares? It is an unverifiable and irrelevant statement None of that is relevant to the issue here . You are talking of what you will do when your uncle dies do you know what he has planned for your dead body? Let us see who will die first No one owes you anything Go and work and stop making noise No one is interested in your biography All your personal disclosures about your Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and imaginary wealth are just signs of mental weakness. You are a weak fellow. Weak!! What is the point having a 1 million Naira phone and a hundred naira brain?? 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by 0monnak0da: 9:42am On Nov 02, 2019 |
Eze3000:You had no point on the issue that connects us on this thread so why not try the childish diversion tactic of "I have more money than you." Sorry not interested You are waiting for your rich uncle in America to die so that you can exert your right as first son and deny his corpse burial as revenge because he did not help you with his riches That is what brought us together . Whether you pay Davido's salary is immaterial My question once again How do you know he will die before you,do you know what he will do with your corpse if you go first? Instead of answering that you come here to tell us you have 1 million Naira phone and Bugatti. Who ask you? You are weak........ 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by DAVE5(m): 11:34am On Nov 02, 2019 |
Eze3000: Well, I never wanted 2 force anything down ur throat boss, i simply passed my opinion, u might say forgiveness is tricky but for me it’s as simple as you either forgive or you don’t As for the pastor or reverend u talked about, for him not to forgive means he lacks the spirit of God in him, then he’s simply a god of man not a man of God And I believe 0monnak0da means you well, all he is trying to do is to make u see letting go of the hurt is what God or whoever or whatever you believe in would have wanted you to do, well you might read it differently In the end you’re entirely entitled to your choices and decisions, hope you make the right choices, but as humans, no one is infallible so I can’t force you to do what I want Cheers 1 Like |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Eze3000: 11:43am On Nov 02, 2019 |
DAVE5: @bolded, that's all there is to it. My decision. As for 0monnak0da, nice guy? Its like you are not reading his recent comments, oh, he has even fixed his device! Anyway, may God save me from nice guys and freiends like him... Amen. You too. Cheers. |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by 0monnak0da: 2:12pm On Nov 02, 2019 |
Eze3000:I am not interested in your biography or your earnings . You are waiting for your uncle to die so you can disgrace him in death by refusing him burial on family land . This is because he refused to help you with his riches. Do you know who will die first? Do you know his plans for your dead body if you go first? You are planning he is planning and the ground which will take all dead bodies is the best of planners 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Eze3000: 3:00pm On Nov 02, 2019 |
0monnak0da: And you say you are not interested in my Biography only my plans for my family Mumu go and work and plan for your own family, your rants won't earn you kobo |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by 0monnak0da: 3:09pm On Nov 02, 2019 |
Eze3000:Scroll back to the first time I quoted you. That remark is the reason I quoted you.When I quoted you,you had not yet started vomiting your biography I did not quote you to hear your warped psychology of how owning a million Naira phone makes you any more than you really are. I quoted you because you said that you will deny your uncle burial on family land because he failed to help you out of his riches. That is the warped logic that cannot go unchallenged once broadcasted. Your Biography and plans for your family are your business not mine. The whole purpose of public debate is to shape social conscience , there is a collective appraisal of what is right conduct and or thinking. If you kept your ideas to yourself we would not be here 1 Like |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Nobody: 5:32pm On Nov 02, 2019 |
0monnak0da: In my line of work I use paid premium private emails, not free gmails. I can create a thousand emails at the click of a button but chose only one new one today. Keep hitting the report buttton on all my apt replies to your meaningless rants they will be back in a matter of minutes. I maintain my stand, I don't waste my time reading the rants of political agents masqurading as know alls in family section. Go and fix your life then come back and quote me. However, if it is my US based uncle's contacts you need for begging purspoese, seeing as you can't go and work for yourself, just ask and stop with the rants already. See me see wahaha? Who sent you? GO TO YOUR FAMILY OR DON;T YOU HAVE ONE THAT YOU WANT TO SNATCH MINE BY FORCE? |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Nobody: 10:15pm On Nov 02, 2019 |
[s] 0monnak0da:[/s] Come on don't be shy come and lets talk, Ask away. You are a hypocrite. Criticising my inability forgiveness and desire for vengance when you can't forgive simple words online. You kept quoting me and talking trash so I would reply in anger then you hit the report button to get me banned as punishment. I got over a private domain for paid eamils. I can create 1000 if i wish. That monikers in abunance soknowk yourself out. My next moniker will llok like yours and then I will come for you full time since you will not rest or shut up. cc-DAVES There's your cute Billioniaire pal. A character scammer and political agent. |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by healthserve(m): 10:11am On Nov 03, 2019 |
asskush: I don't comment outside the forum in anyway. Nevertheless, what's up? |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Nostradamus: 2:37am On Nov 09, 2019 |
majarbimbo:what's the range of their salary for engineers there? |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Ilamina(f): 1:07am On Nov 25, 2019 |
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Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by 2buffagain(m): 12:22pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
adanny01: Disgusting human trash twisting scripture to suit your laziness and evil. You are no different from a lot of so-called nigerian pastors. HouseHOLD means children, spouse and parents....in that order. Helping siblings is from the jara after these things (and after sensible savings)....and that is if you want to. Your wellfare is NOT your sibling's responsibility, you lazy Bleep. 2 Likes |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by adanny01(m): 8:55pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
2buffagain: With such bile, little wonder the concept is hard for you to grasp. Besides, i dont even have a brother, to have passed my responsibility to. All I have are 2 lovely sisters and 1 adopted sister who are dear to me. Meanwhile, where did I or the Bible said a sibling is responsible for other siblings? You dumb mess cannot read and comprehend simple English and you have the effrontery to spew trash onto my face. You dumb mess even had to talk about jara but cannot comprehend your own words nor accept you are the bloody infidel the Bible is actually talking about. Just say you will never help your sibling instead of insulting me. If you cannot help your own brother, what more a stranger who could even be Jesus himself. IF YOU CANNOT HELP YOUR OWN SIBLING, I'M SURE YOU WILL USE YOUR FOOT TO KICK OUT JESUS IF HE DRESSED LIKE A DIRTY STRANGER AND KNOCKS ON YOUR DOOR. May you truly find Jesus and some wisdom. If you dumb mess will not share with your brother, what makes you think your lazy assss brother gives a mess if you are wealthy or not. Some stark village illitrates are fully contented with their lives and will even reject a mansion in Banana Island from their wealthy siblings.. Dont you know that laziness is a choice and some people chose it and find happiness? What do you know? Are you a child? Are we all meant to be rich?
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