Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by midnighter(f): 9:22pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Eze2000:
It was right after the civil war. Everything was chaotic and difficult to accomplish then. I understand he tried but failed then took up a teaching job. And that is how I became the son of a teacher. Okay. Well sorry about that. Sorry again for this question, your story threw up so many in my head How come your extended family doesnt have anything to say about this? How would you be facing all this alone ![](/faces/huh.png) Somebody should have fingered him as a witch by now |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by ak22(m): 9:28pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
baby124: Well... the fact that he works with a multinational company does not mean he is rich. People know how to easily estimate other people’s earnings and expenses. I understand you need help from your brother but don’t automatically assume that he is rich. He’s just a salary earner my dear. He probably can not afford to take up all this responsibility and that’s why he did not even start.
It’s your parents duty to take care of you all and your brother is only obligated to chip in when he can. Problems of 5-8 people on one persons head is enough for him to run away. If na you nko? You think he doesn’t have expenses for his own family Don’t blame the wife, blame your parents for not carrying out their responsibility adequately. Wife is trying to make sure her kids don’t experience what you people are experiencing.
Does your brother send money to your parents, if he does then he’s trying. Nothing is stopping you from reaching out to him to say hello and visiting him. Your parents can also talk to him to be closer to the family. I think he has run away because he cannot shoulder all the problems and I don’t blame him. He has a wife and kids to care for. If something happens to him tomorrow, after he has spent all his money on your problems. Will you take care of his children and their problems? Are you financially capable?
Whether the wife cooks or she doesn’t is not your business. Your brother did not complain so why did you go to their house to abuse their privacy with gossip? You see why sometimes people prevent others from coming into their home? The wife cannot estrange her husband from his family if he doesn’t want to be estranged. You must be a women 1 Like |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by adanny01(m): 9:40pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
simonlee: Your brother's money is not your money! just develop your self and live in contempt as long as you have good health and meet your basic needs. as for your brother, keep in touch, wish him happy birthday and notify him of basic developments in your life. he will do the same as long as you don't turn him to ATM or he'll keep avoiding you. nobody owes you anything, not even your brother! As a Christian, my brother's money is my money based on 1 Timothy 5:8 But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. Christianity doesn't treat kindly those who for one reason or the other refuse to help their own relatives especially the immediate family. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Saintmary(f): 9:48pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Eze2000: When they say Nigerian youths are useless, rude and can't read, the same Nigerian youths think we mature adults are insulting them. Just look at these two talking trash to me when they don't have all the information about my family or me. Mynd44 how can people ever be expected to answer a question honestly with dedicated trolls like these running wild on this website?
When you are greatly offended in life you have 2 choices.
1. Fight for yourself or 2. Let God fight for you.
In fighting for yourslef you can do so physically or with the aid of evil powers i.e witches and native doctors. I chose number 2 above and that means waiting for God to deal with him. And hey, before you start trolling me about waiting in vain let me inform you that the multi-millionaire of yesterday is now finding money difficult today, has already shut down 3 business and sold one of his 3 cars in Nigeria.
God may be slow in action but never fails. I chose him.
My father was a young captain in the Biafran war. He fought in war fronts until Canada started helping Biafra by supplying it food and so translators of French to Igbo were needed. That was how my dad, an Igbo man who spoke French fluently, got promoted to Captain and given an administrative job. After the war, one of the white men he worked with took him to Canada. My dad was in Canada when his only brother was jailed for rape in the village in Nigeria and no one among the illiterate villagers could help because it was a policeman's daughter he allegedly raped and the guy jailed him even while the case was yet to get to court. My father returned to carry that case so his brother would not go to jail and damage his life. Unfortunately, in his haste, he came back without the right papers and could not return. My father made huge sacrifices that turned his only brother from a primary school dropout selling acara in an Igbo village to a highly qualified secondary school teacher. Some of those sacrifices world have sent my dad to jail if caught. For example, when this same secondary school teacher got a chance to go to America he could not pass the English exam. Guess who took it for him? Before that guess who forged his papers with govt stamp so he could go to Teachers Training College after failing the exam?
My dad was a man who did not build houses or buy cars in his main years but spent all he had on his brother first, then his own kids later in life. The family agreement was my Uncle would train me in the USA and I train my younger ones. My dad fell seriously ill just after I left secondary school and it lasted for 15 years. His brother did one of the most famous vanishing acts you will ever see till my dad died five years ago. During this time, i was told to get ready to go to the USA for studies 3 times only for it to be called off.
After my dad died without seeing his brother, I blocked the man in my heart for life. I've turned down more pacifying gifts in dollars within the last five years than both of you trolls will ever see in your life. My rejection carried spiritual consequences due to the circumstance and so my uncle, in desperation offered one of his cash gifts to a struggling younger brother of mine. He accepted and that was how he found the huge capital needed to become a money exchanger and bitcoin trader. He's a millionaire now and doesn't bother with Nairaland again where he learnt the trade.
So how about me. I'm a self-taught writer and author waiting to answer my calling as a man of God in an international church. I have to answer that calling because not answering it since it first came 20 years ago has affected my life in a way you cannot understand. It has also preserved it. Yes, I did not mention that my uncle is diabolical... a user of native charms who has to return to Nigeria to renew his evil power yearly. People die in our house every 4 years now and a lot of destinies have been tied down. He has poisoned me via food 2 times and tried to drive me mad 3 times - God stopped all five attempts. I can't feel my toes well till today from the first attempt in 1998. Check my profile you will see me pleading for advice from doctors in the health section just 2 moths back to save a woman's life. That was my stepmother, she is dead now from a simple leg injury that worsened and spread incredibly fast.
@Enculer my attempts to survive have been superhuman spiritually and physically, something 10 of you can never do. I'm neither poor nor lazy. I earn well above minimum wage in a job no one taught me to do or helped. I own 3 houses all to myself in Lagos and Imo state. I battle demons to a standstill, eat poison and live, render the powers of some of the most powerful prophets you know useless because God is my power. The only area you can taunt me is being unmarried at 39 due to the fact that I have not found a godly woman I like in a society so rotten.
Please, please go away both of you and let me mourn in peace.
Your story touched me, may God see you through. 2 Likes |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Bahddo(m): 9:50pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Farmafric: I have a similar experience as that brother. I have bought four vehicles for my siblings, helped all of them in one way or the other in their businesses and even used several millions to build a family house. Placed my parents on monthly allowances and meet all possible needs of both in laws and immediate and extended family as much as I can but what did I get in return... You will be surprised! Hatred! Gossip! Evil insinuations, entitlement, and envy. Same attitude like OP, they feel I help outsiders but not them. I still spent millions on scholarships, etc but my younger brothers will not even respond to my greetings. Yes, I will greet them first if we meet but they will ignore me. One of them feel I should have made him a manager in my company another felt there is no reason why he should suffer when he has someone like me. Even classmates, friends, far relations all have similar entitlement mentality and they don't care if you have or not. My advice is simple, don't give in to pressure of people who thinks think they have right over your life. If you have any misfortune they are the first to laugh and make mockery of you. Plan for your immediate family and invest for retirement and nuclear family. Do the much you can for loved ones and leave the rest to God. I wish I could like this a hundred times. 4 Likes |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Success410: 9:50pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
pocohantas: I can accurately guess what part of the country you are from and this is not me being tribalistic. Always fighting their brother's wife, expecting him to throw her away and bring them in. Sorry, not every man would do that. You people should make peace with the wife first. Na from her una fit get your brother...
Till then, you all will remain like the Okoye's (i.e) PSquares ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png)
By the way, I noticed this thing is very common in large families. They will have different parties in one nuclear family- PDP, APC, APGA... I can't deal mehn... ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png)
If you are a Nigerian woman and you marry the pillar of a home, be very prepared. Must u comment ? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Deltatoto: 9:50pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
madridguy: I hope she realize her mistake before its too late.
we are also ready for anyone.when u r pushed to d wall.d only thg I didn’t do as a young man was to rob |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Eze2000(m): 9:56pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
midnighter:
Okay. Well sorry about that. Sorry again for this question, your story threw up so many in my head
How come your extended family doesnt have anything to say about this? How would you be facing all this alone Somebody should have fingered him as a witch by now Witches or bad people in families tend to come in 2s. It's him and his immediate elder sister who was driven back from her husband's house in 1974 for witchcraft. She was childless and needed a place of refuge. My father let her stay in the family home, a mistake I am paying for today. I was made to understand that somewhere along the line she checked all our destinies and warned my Uncle that my father's children will be greater than his. She offered him a solution and he took it. My father had been warned of that evil pact while he was alive but always left it to God. That woman killed him. Two Decembers ago, due to the mysterious deaths in our village, particularly in my great-grand father's compound, a meeting was called and a prophet invited. That prophet was a woman and she disgraced my aunt calling her a witch to high heavens and that she had killed many and tied all our destinies in that family and even put enmity among us so we can never agree. That every evil was on her head. After the prophetess left, the sons of the soil decided to take action against her but my uncle blocked them. He swore the prophetess was fake and had been put up to tell lies by the oldest man in the compound who had been critical of his treatment of my late father. My uncle has 2 high chieftaincy titles and had bought one for his first son at the time. He was a sitting king and no one dared do anything. The woman is still there in my home now and the death and mysterious evil continue. As for why I am suffering it alone, the whole thing is complex and I don't want to talk about it publicly yet but I will write my book one day and it will shock millions of people. For now, I will say that all of it is a punishment from God in that I rejected his calling and will end after I answer that calling. The most important thing now is for me to bury my mom then find a woman I really like to light up my heart again then marry before Easter... God promises that my enemies will one day kneel to beg me. I will wait. 1 Like |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by DAVE5(m): 10:07pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
johnmba:
He did not deprive himself anything. He works with shell(manager) and helps alot of people in the company. Sometimes people he helped wondered why am working in a hospital for someone that read engineering. Then you’re not telling us the full story, there’s something you’ve skipped, he once gave your elder a car and suddenly alienated you guys just like that but keeps giving others assistance where he can, y’all need to check yourselves and tell yourselves the truth Just cos he’s a manager in shell doesn’t mean he has all the capacity to shoulder the entire family, and pls stop playing the part of you don’t need his money/assistance cos you’ve made that obvious by saying he’s a manager in shell and people wonder why you’re working in a hospital, this means you’re expecting him to do something and change things for you I might say I’m half way in his shoes and know how it feels, whenever I see certain calls it’s usually about “I need money for this or that”, it gets tiring and tends to make you want to neglect such calls or persons 6 Likes |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by DAVE5(m): 10:16pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
pocohantas: I can accurately guess what part of the country you are from and this is not me being tribalistic. Always fighting their brother's wife, expecting him to throw her away and bring them in. Sorry, not every man would do that. You people should make peace with the wife first. Na from her una fit get your brother...
Till then, you all will remain like the Okoye's (i.e) PSquares ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png)
By the way, I noticed this thing is very common in large families. They will have different parties in one nuclear family- PDP, APC, APGA... I can't deal mehn... ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png)
If you are a Nigerian woman and you marry the pillar of a home, be very prepared. Be like say I don read som of ur comments b4 wey make me shake head in silence for you, but I can’t agree more wit dis particular comment Nigerians are very greedy n feel entitled to every other persons sweat, the brother worked him way up, now they want to take his shoes, if u ask were they were when he was working his way up now, u go turn enemy cos they were all playing and spending like there’s no tomorrow BTW I dnt think u were tribalistic, nah our way be that, I’m half from that part of the country and I must say that half is greedy and conning to a large extent, u wld wonder y there’s so much fake product in Nigeria, huge profit from selling fake stuff at original’s price Lol 2 Likes |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by DAVE5(m): 10:22pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
CanadianNaija:
He didn't deprive himself of anything? Do you hear yourself? See your mindset, are you in his pocket?
Your brother can not get you into Shell, whether he works there or not. I know for a fact how rigorous their recruitment process is, especially if it is for a fulltime position. There're companies that hire contract staff for Shell and others, that one is another matter.
If you finished within the age range for their engineering graduate trainee program why didn't you apply? Was your grade good? Did you pass the aptitude test, and their accessment day? Their fulltime recruitment is centralized and done from out of country.
It's not a one man's business, you hear that he's helping people what kind of help? Do you know? Have you bothered to ask him?
You seem misinformed, you were all given the same opportunity i don't know why you seem so resentful and envious of him. Shell is one company at least that you can get into on merit, people without connection do it everyday, it's not your brother's fault that you're an engineer that works in a hospital.
I like you a hundred times over, no homo pls The guy dey form he no need him bro assistance when that’s what this whole thread is about; his brother’s assistance and taking him out of working in a hospital to being an engineer He didn’t deprive himself anything to buy a car for another full grown human being, imagine his mentality sha Fire the mumu well well joor 3 Likes |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Success410: 10:22pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
I am in need of job pls anyone who is able to help should assist me.
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No 419 pls. |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by DAVE5(m): 10:36pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
CanadianNaija:
Tell am! Maybe OP expects people to follow him and demonize the brother.
God knows how lonely the poor man must be, and what he must have experienced to make him keep everybody at arm's length. I like how creamcustard has broken down the full thread to the op Once he (the rich brother) starts keeping tab with them again, they wld remember he works as shell manager and bleach his pocket with demand, the guy give himself brain Nigerian are relentless when it comes to begging, if we put that begging energy into work, the country wld be a lot better 3 Likes |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by armyofone(m): 10:49pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Very terrible mentality! He doesn't even know if the said uncle prefers to be buried in his adopted home very beautiful burial grounds paved with white picket fences. Eze, you need to hear his story and hold no grudges for his choices in life. iammiracle1:
Terrible mentality, what of if you die ist? Let go and become way big yourself that you don't have to bank on andestral land to pepper" a perceived enemy. |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by midnighter(f): 10:49pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Eze2000:
Witches or bad people in families tend to come in 2s. It's him and his immediate elder sister who was driving back from her husband's house in 1974 for witchcraft. She was childless and needed a place of refuge. My father let her stay in the family home, a mistake I am paying for.
I was made to understand that somewhere along the line she checked all our destinies and wared my Uncle that my father's children will be greater than his. She offered him a solution and he took it. My father had been warned of that evil pact while he was alive but always left it to God. That woman killed him.
Two December ago, due to the mysterious deaths in our village, particularly in my great-grand father's compound, a meeting was called and a prophet invited. That prophet was a woman and she disgraced my aunt calling her a witch to high heavens and that she had killed many and tied all our diestines in that family and even put enmity among us so we can never agree. That every evil was on her head.
After the prophetess left, the sons of the soil decided to take action against her but my uncle blocked them. He swore the prophetess was fake and had been put up to tell lies by the oldest man in the compound who had been critical of his treatment of my father. My uncle hast 2 high chieftaincy titles and had bought one for his first son at the time. He was a sitting king and no one could do a thing.
The woman is still there in my home now and the death and mysterious evil continues.
As for why I am suffering it alone, it is complex and worse than you think don't want to talk of it publicly yet but I will write my book one day and it will shock millions of people. For now, i will say that all of it is a punishment from God in that I rejected his calling and will end after I answer that calling.
The most important thing now is for me to bury my mom then find a woman I really like to light up my heart again then marry before Easter...
God promises that my enemies will one day kneel to beg me. I will wait.
Hm. Sorry again, about that May your prayers for a good wife be fulfilled before Easter. Good luck burying your mother, may her soul rest in perfect peace. |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by DAVE5(m): 10:49pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
ednut1: Let him be. He does not owe you brotherly love Evil child, be like I go make am my duty to tackle you for this forum sha, after all you introduced me to this forum years ago, so if I no tackle you, who will |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by millionboi2: 10:54pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Babaalata: Dont feel Entitled to his money. He has an immediate family to feed as his top priority. The fact that he works in a multinational doesn't make him a multi millionaire. I made a decision never to depend on any family or family friends. I trusted them for my IT placement then, but was highly disappointed.
just I.T ooooo |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by millionboi2: 10:59pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
shadeyinka:
Three things: 1. Have you asked him for placement at Shell? (Don't assume he aught to know: others too ask before he takes action). 2. Are you highly qualified for what you are asking for? (Some cases are difficult to defend before your boss) 3. Does your brother's influence cover your area of expertise? (Your area of expertise is Engineering but your brother may have his sphere of influence in Administration)
But the most important thing is to ASK him: prepare your CV like you are meeting a person not related to you.
Finally: If you can all relate, let things be. I feel that Unconsciously you have all put the blame on the wife. Sorry, you cannot be his friend while rejecting his wife. It is not possible!
Become a friend of the wife and you will become his friend.QED! you are partial.....some women if not all are very difficult to please. |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Ybaby: 11:02pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Creamcustard: @OP It is shocking how you have downplayed the huge contribution your brother has made to your lives.He is your sibling and not your parent and yet he was paying fees, giving money for business and he even gave a car.You even said he did not deprive himself of anything to make these sacrifices.No wonder he avoids all of you.
You are saying no one is asking for money or anything but your posts are saying otherwise: 1. you have mentioned that people wonder why your brother works in shell and you an engineer in a hospital 2. You have said your elder brother is not moving. 3. He wanted to marry and did not receive any support from your family but got criticism on top of it.
Let's not kid ourselves here, once he let's you all in, the requests will start piling in.
It is extremely off putting and creates strains in relationships.
Maybe your brother cut you all off so he and his nuclear family can progress, i imagine if he kept carrying you all, he would be stuck catering to you forever and depriving his family of the kind of lifestyle appropriate.
The fact that he would rather render assistance to strangers than to you all speaks volumes and reinforces the fact that he must see you all as life draining and toxic to his well being.
Fortunately, relationships cannot be forced. Pour your energy into making yourself rich too and focus on your own family.
You stole my thoughts ! Entitled bunch. You cannot force him to do anything. The worst part is not supporting his marriage because his wife father was dead or because you know once he marries he will have other responsibilities and have a family of his one to cater to. He is gone! 1 Like |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by millionboi2: 11:06pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
goodo20: hello guy, go fine work do. leave your brother alone. but if u see him dead body now u will call him to come carry his broda? 1 Like |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by 2buffagain(m): 11:09pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
From his name OP is Igbo.
This is why I vehemently refuse to marry from there. See entitlement O. |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Nobody: 11:10pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
Bahddo: he isn't missing anything. What is family if they cannot respect your choice of a mate and give you support? You cannot slap someone and dictate how they should feel about it or how they should react to it.
You weren't there when they were opposing; you don't know what they said or did; don't play the judge. So because his family opposed his marriage, he is behaving like a spoilt boy? Open a thread here on this topic, u will see that half of the married couple here didn't find it funny at the beginning especially the women but they readily are willing to make that sacrifice and win them over. Once u win them over, what again is your problem. Unless there is another problem, this doesn't stand. The family is good with the wife. Why are u guys manufacturing problems where it doesn't exist? Look for another reason but this doesn't hold. As long as they have apologised and is in good terms with the wife, case closed. U guys are very hypocritical. It's here I read where a mother in law is so wicked to daughter in law yet she will be told to bear it and that the man should love his mum more than his wife. So many threads on this. Yet this man has refused to liaise with his mum. Now we all are suddenly on his side. Since when did nairaland men start recognising that a man is one with his wife and not his parents and siblings? All of a sudden we all care about the wife. Hypocrites. 1 Like |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Prestigewins: 11:23pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
CanadianNaija:
I read some comments including yours and am really shocked that the family system has deteriorated in Nigeria, i thank God i have a supportive family , so because your family demands money then you will totally withdraw yourself from them, That brother is suppose to help his siblings so the stop depending on him but from what the Op wrote he already has that trait from childhood and the siblings just choose to ignore because of the love the have for him and writing that getting a job in shell or other multinationals is merit i can categorically tell you that a top person in the company can actually help you get a job, most people wont understand the OP because most are already from a loveless home and dnt understand the importance of family , see the dangote and the dantata, the ikejis, iamEmoney and iamkcee etc , someone in these mentioned family climbed to the top and helped others, stop using negative examples and understand the op, my advice is that you should pray for your brother ,there is nothing you can do for now
He didn't deprive himself of anything? Do you hear yourself? See your mindset, are you in his pocket?
Your brother can not get you into Shell, whether he works there or not. I know for a fact how rigorous their recruitment process is, especially if it is for a fulltime position. There're companies that hire contract staff for Shell and others, that one is another matter.
If you finished within the age range for their engineering graduate trainee program why didn't you apply? Was your grade good? Did you pass the aptitude test, and their accessment day? Their fulltime recruitment is centralized and done from out of country.
It's not a one man's business, you hear that he's helping people what kind of help? Do you know? Have you bothered to ask him?
You seem misinformed, you were all given the same opportunity i don't know why you seem so resentful and envious of him. Shell is one company at least that you can get into on merit, people without connection do it everyday, it's not your brother's fault that you're an engineer that works in a hospital.
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Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Bahddo(m): 11:24pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
sassysure:
So because his family opposed his marriage, he is behaving like a spoilt boy? Open a thread here on this topic, u will see that half of the married couple here didn't find it funny at the beginning especially the women but they readily are willing to make that sacrifice and win them over. Once u win them over, what again is your problem. Unless there is another problem, this doesn't stand. The family is good with the wife.
Why are u guys manufacturing problems where it doesn't exist? Look for another reason but this doesn't hold. As long as they have apologised and is in good terms with the wife, case closed. U guys are very hypocritical. It's here I read where a mother in law is so wicked to daughter in law yet she will be told to bear it and that the man should love his mum more than his wife. So many threads on this. Yet this man has refused to liaise with his mum. Now we all are suddenly on his side. Since when did nairaland men start recognising that a man is one with his wife and not his parents and siblings? All of a sudden we all care about the wife. Hypocrites. if he has a reason he isn't cool with his mom and siblings, you can be sure it is a serious reason. The OP wouldn't admit it because his thread is meant to be a sob story that paints him and the other siblings as the victims. You know the family is good with his wife because the OP said so? Isn't it the same OP that said the wife doesn't cook when he comes around? Isn't it the same OP that said his brother gives him money for food, and later turned around to say he has has his own money and has10 persons on his payroll? The OP is an unreliable narrator, trying hard to minimize the headache they have caused their brother, along with the help he has rendered over the years. Keep your "a man should love his mum more than his wife" story for those who say it. I don't say that crap. I also don't kick people where it hurts and expect them to pretend it never happened just because we are family. They broke the bridge years ago with their actions, they should take the initiative to rebuild it themselves instead of pretending all is well and he's the one with the problem. If I want to get married and you oppose, saying all sort of things about how the woman is evil and would ruin me and I'd regret it but I still marry her, I'd assume you don't like my new family and are waiting for a misfortune so you can say 'you told me so'. I'd strive to protect my new family from the undeserved hate, even if it means severing some old (and toxic) ties. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Prestigewins: 11:30pm On Oct 27, 2019 |
[ Well said am a Christian ,the day i read these scripture i truly changed towards my family, i can give my family my last penny if the need that money most, everyday i pray to make the money that will help not only my family but even my entire community, God help mequote author=adanny01 post=83516734]
As a Christian, my brother's money is my money based on
Christianity doesn't treat kindly those who for one reason or the other refuse to help their own relatives especially the immediate family.[/quote] |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by Fhemmmy: 12:44am On Oct 28, 2019 |
sassysure:
They already regretted and apologised. They have moved on with the wife. What again do u want them to do? If it's be sure of this, he is very revengful and should be kept at arm's length. What about his mother? He don't want to forgive her 2?
Lots of wives are living with families that hate them. Even though the husband don't want their interference in his marriage, he shield his nuclear family away from extended yet has ways he communicate with his extended. It's very rampant occurance.
My submission was that he may have his reason but this shouldn't be part of it else he is a very cold hearted man.
1. You and I are strangers into the affairs of their family and we just getting excited based on the story we have been fed by the OP 2. The man in question probably know his family more than we will ever do and if he decide to alienate them all, why don’t we think he must have his reasons 3. Have they really moved on, do they apologized because they now know they are wrong and truly love the woman now or because the husband/brother refused to help them financially? 4. Do you think the wife will ever be comfortable living among the people that once hated her or will she be sleeping with one eye opened? 5. Are they really asking for love from the man or they want what he can give them?
Bros, there are some pain that ain’t easy to let go and instead of everyone castigating him, just for once imagine how you would feel if in his shoes But all in all, let the family find ways to heal and not seeing the man as the trouble while everyone has their own part of the pie of issues 4 Likes |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by seuncyrus(m): 1:29am On Oct 28, 2019 |
shogsman: Y’all just rushed to comment without taking time to read through the write up,dude doesn’t care about the money he just wants to bring his brother back. My advice is to stop calling and let him go,the remaining 6 of you should keep that bond,eventually he will feel left out and rethink. If you read his first post and his replies , You'll know he doesn't care about anything except the benefits he can get from his brother. Starting with the topic : My Rich brother... , then he goes on to say , he didn't contribute to his brother's dying business, he also said he didn't struggle at all to set up a business and get a car for one of his brothers (can you imagine how insensitive that is, it's like saying he fetches money from a well )... he then goes on to blame the brother because he works in an hospital when he should be working in the same organization as his brother. He only talked about mending fences when he saw people's replies. If this were about mending fences he would have done it long ago ...the economy is hard , so it's understandable why he wants to "bring his brother back" Johnmba , If you really want to mend fences like you claim. Start with the wife ( I don't believe that you're closer now to the wife with all the complaints you wrote up there) , send the family gifts ...slowly warm up to him . You have a mother, she can still visit (tell her to put every prejudice against the wife away and spend time with them, your brother can;t send her away ) 1 Like |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by rOsy247(f): 3:09am On Oct 28, 2019 |
baby124: Well... the fact that he works with a multinational company does not mean he is rich. People know how to easily estimate other people’s earnings and expenses. I understand you need help from your brother but don’t automatically assume that he is rich. He’s just a salary earner my dear. He probably can not afford to take up all this responsibility and that’s why he did not even start.
It’s your parents duty to take care of you all and your brother is only obligated to chip in when he can. Problems of 5-8 people on one persons head is enough for him to run away. If na you nko? You think he doesn’t have expenses for his own family Don’t blame the wife, blame your parents for not carrying out their responsibility adequately. Wife is trying to make sure her kids don’t experience what you people are experiencing.
Does your brother send money to your parents, if he does then he’s trying. Nothing is stopping you from reaching out to him to say hello and visiting him. Your parents can also talk to him to be closer to the family. I think he has run away because he cannot shoulder all the problems and I don’t blame him. He has a wife and kids to care for. If something happens to him tomorrow, after he has spent all his money on your problems. Will you take care of his children and their problems? Are you financially capable?
Whether the wife cooks or she doesn’t is not your business. Your brother did not complain so why did you go to their house to abuse their privacy with gossip? You see why sometimes people prevent others from coming into their home? The wife cannot estrange her husband from his family if he doesn’t want to be estranged. U finish work. |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by larryking540: 4:20am On Oct 28, 2019 |
madridguy: Is your mum still alive?
I keep laughing at people saying the OP should leave his brother alone and work for himself.
To me, in life we all need someone to lean on to climb our own ladder. A good example is Linda Ikeji, may God continue to bless her. I believe she hustle her way alone, but immediately she got to the top she never neglected her siblings. God bless her more.
I'm sure we all have different background and upbringing but none of my siblings can do this. We have community training and my father of blessed memory used to ring it to our ears before he passed on. He used to say, i pray you all get to the top, but you all cannot get there at once, but whoever get there first must make sure he/she help others. This is our motor in my own family. many family are still poor in Africa and lack the ability to over throne dangote as the richest man because of their lack of unity in the family, check family Dat are very successful, they are so united |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by majarbimbo: 4:20am On Oct 28, 2019 |
Shibaraba: Similar to mine .... My advice Leave him alone oooooo. His money. His life. Na him Sabi. I used my brothers success to propel myself. I hustled so hard so that they won't call me millionaires brother. "See that guy you no know am, two of his brothers na Oga for saipem. Them be millionaires ". Nah. I changed it to "See that guy, na millionaire " Notice the difference? " When the time comes their eyes dey open. It always does. God bless your hustle Bro some people we not or may not know what it takes to work in saipem talkless of being an oga at saipem, saipem is an Italian construction company , have once been in contact with them when I worked at Onshore construction company an Indian firm handling Dangote fertilizer refinery when I was in naija, those saipem workers are millionaire, we use to envy them then |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by larryking540: 4:21am On Oct 28, 2019 |
many family are still poor in Africa and lack the ability to over throne dangote as the richest man because of their lack of unity in the family, check family Dat are very successful, they are so united ...
dear op u and ur other sibling should team up and elevate each other, days the best u can do,, and ur motivation should be because of Wat ur brother did trust me u all will excell 1 Like |
Re: My Rich Brother Does Not Care About Us.... by PLAYBOX22: 5:17am On Oct 28, 2019 |
In heaven no brothers and sisters talk less of earth, ...hustle for your own raba while you can oo.
Acts 4:12. ......."And there is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved.” |