All is well in Jesus name. Your story will change, mark my words!!!! This is the time where your husband is even supposed to hug you close, comfort you as this situation is out of your control. That’s the difference between a husband and somebody who just gave you their last name. Even if frustration comes, it should be temporary. Pray pray pray, you will have the last laugh.

amarachi06:


Thank you, am crying already. Is well with my soul, never believed that l will not have a child by now. All my sisters are married with kids, and am scared of exchanging words with people for fear of being called a barren woman, and eater of my kids, which l am not. Thank you all for your kind words.

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dear ma'am, i disagree that Nigerian women will always be at a disadvantage, a lot of scenario plays out where the woman is at an advantage.
so don't generalize, i would have given u mine as an example but i am at work and tired ready to go home waiting for arrivals of people and " business commodities(and no its not commodity in the market oh"

UjuJoan2:




I was talking about how women react to being treated badly in the future in the other thread, and most of the people advising her to 'endure' almost jumped me. They claimed I should be advising women to stand up for themselves and yapped about how women had a 'choice'. And here they are saying the exact opposite, confirming what I said initially.

Nigerian women will always be at a disadvantage, no matter how much we try to deny it.

This poster is being abused emotionally by her husband and yet the society expects her to stay. How do you think she will react in the future when she finally becomes a mother and the husband becomes 'nice'. When she realises she now has all the power over her abuser and doesn't have to cower because she now has 'a place' in his home?

Of course she's not thinking 'revenge' now, but she's feeling the resentment and she's feeling helpless about her situation. I doubt if she's going to wave a hand and forget all she's going through now in the future, and live happily ever after with her husband.

When she starts reacting, the man will claim his wife has changed, and these fake people here will support him.

What a joke!

Its quiet sad.
I wish you the best. I hope in the nexy one year, you'd be sharing a picture of a new born baby. As for your husband , as an advise from a man, avoid anything that irritate him.

amarachi06:
have been married for 6years without a child. it has been the worst time of My life to be married without a child. Anytime we argue, he will shout at me with scorn and hateful words but he can never speak to his family members that way.
lf l try to talk with him over some issues or advice which will benefit us, he will shot me down, only for us to suffer later.
l have tried to Know my wrong to him but he doesn't wanna tell me.
l am in deep pains cos he has told me "that anytime l want to leave, that am free to do so". On Monday, he came back around 12am, and l was worried till that time. He came back without explaination and l asked him, whether l am that invisible to him, and his reply was "if l am tired, that l should leave". l now replied, "if l have a child, will you send us out?" he didn't say anything but l know that his attitude is cos of that.
The day l had my Last miscarriage was in 2016, and the tears l had in My eyes was not about my baby but knowing that l will Not be loved again by my husband.
l am tired! l almost went Into depression, and sucide, cos of his attitude to me. l don't Know how to handle him, cos my presence irritates him.
Please Sound advice.

Did you tell him the truth about your bareness! How you were aborting for your Sugar Daddies. Did you tell him all that?

UjuJoan2:
Pray for him, love him bla bla bla. That's the typical Nigerian advice for women in dysfunctional relationships.

Yet when I say women stay with abusive men for the wrong reasons, People will become all self righteous.

Nonsense!

As far as I'm concerned, the man is being completely unreasonable and i hate such men of little faith and caring towards their union.

I know it's good to have faith, be prayerful and all that blah blah blah but truth is since they're now married and stand as one before God and man, she shouldn't be bearing this alone.

Whatever the problem is, I'm pretty sure there are medical solutions to it. He should be ashamed of himself for not being your comfort at this trying time. Whatever he thinks or feels he's going through, I was there and stood by my wife for 6 good years till God answered our prayers via fertility clinic.

Let him go and raise money and take you to fertility clinic instead of behaving like hell on earth.

So many opt for marriage but are not emotionally and psychologically ready for it.

Please find a way to talk to maybe his parent or someone that can convince him to take both of you to a fertility clinic: it doesn't matter who has the challenge, you're now one and should behave so.

You can only pray after you've made concerted efforts.

Be strong and please stop the tears.

God bless you.

Use him for money rituals

You leave the table when you’re not being served to avoid certain embarrassment and false hopes.

nigerian men= trash

spits!

OP... May God Almighty answer your prayers soon. Amen!

Madam please be strong.
Have faith and believe in God positively.
Seek for good medical advice.

You will smile soon.

Donjazzy12:

Did you tell him the truth about your bareness! How you were aborting for your Sugar Daddies. Did you tell him all that?

Your brain is docile,you need help.

Dislike him back. Its all a goal

Ariza:
Avoid Arguments

Go for medical treatment

Love him

Love yourself more


Love God much more


Pray harder.

Really is that your advice......see what religion has.made you.......my dear it is not by force even if you are 70 .....if u are old to ur husband you are new to someone else......leave asap

uboma:




Another senseless advice from a gullible fellow.

Lmao! Calm down joor

NO baby can make a man love "you"... NONE!!!! better wake up and smell the coffee. that man simply does NOT like you, period (no baby can fix that)!

why is everyone on this thread hellbent on advising her on how to get a baby, as if this will change anything...? to the contrary, having a child by this demon will only aggravate the matter.

dawnomike:
Take it all to God in prayers... Prayers changes things.

Bullshit advice.

I’m so sorry about what you are going through Sis. Please go for hormonal test, cut down your carbohydrate intake, eat mostly fruits and veggies, drink enough water, exercise as much as you can, then pray and ask God for mercy.

amarachi06:
I have been married for 6years without a child. it has been the worst time of My life to be married without a child.

Anytime we argue, he will shout at me with scorn and hateful words but he can never speak to his family members that way.

lf l try to talk with him over some issues or advice which will benefit us, he will shot me down, only for us to suffer later.

l have tried to Know my wrong to him but he doesn't wanna tell me. l am in deep pains cos he has told me "that anytime l want to leave, that am free to do so".

On Monday, he came back around 12am, and l was worried till that time. He came back without explaination and l asked him, whether l am that invisible to him, and his reply was "if l am tired, that l should leave". l now replied, "if l have a child, will you send us out?" he didn't say anything but l know that his attitude is cos of that.

The day l had my Last miscarriage was in 2016, and the tears l had in My eyes was not about my baby but knowing that l will Not be loved again by my husband.

l am tired! l almost went Into depression, and sucide, cos of his attitude to me. l don't Know how to handle him, cos my presence irritates him.

Please Sound advice.

sorry for your situation.

wonder where you ladies meet these guys anyway.

He must have shown you that he didn't love you from the start, but you went ahead all the same.

Not blaming you for anything sis but at the moment you need to go to a good clinic and find out why you have miscarriages. I believe it is a medical condition that can be taken care of easily.

Be careful so your husband doesn't infect you with std though cos I'm pretty sure he cheating on you.

Look for the person he respects the most and can't look in the eye and report the situation to them.

It'd be interesting to hear his own version of the story too though.

But all in all, don't wait for the relationship to become physically abusive before you hightail out of there. my two kobo.

We should all come to agreement that giving birth outside wedlock is only fashionable in modern times.
We must learn to adapt for survival and for our own peace of mind.

amarachi06:
I have been married for 6years without a child. it has been the worst time of My life to be married without a child.

Anytime we argue, he will shout at me with scorn and hateful words but he can never speak to his family members that way.

lf l try to talk with him over some issues or advice which will benefit us, he will shot me down, only for us to suffer later.

l have tried to Know my wrong to him but he doesn't wanna tell me. l am in deep pains cos he has told me "that anytime l want to leave, that am free to do so".

On Monday, he came back around 12am, and l was worried till that time. He came back without explaination and l asked him, whether l am that invisible to him, and his reply was "if l am tired, that l should leave". l now replied, "if l have a child, will you send us out?" he didn't say anything but l know that his attitude is cos of that.

The day l had my Last miscarriage was in 2016, and the tears l had in My eyes was not about my baby but knowing that l will Not be loved again by my husband.

l am tired! l almost went Into depression, and sucide, cos of his attitude to me. l don't Know how to handle him, cos my presence irritates him.

Please Sound advice.

It doesn't get touchier than this but you must gather yourself together and see this as an odd God will help you beat.
Have you recommended that both of you visit a doctor. If not, there's no better time because it may not even be your fault.

Good luck dear!

Sis..don't be pestered..Godbsay he is the one that does as he wish..no man can tell what time..

I am not a church person but I read the message and I can assure you that all that is blocking the happiness inside the marriage is cancceld from henceforth..you will get a baby for him..

Buhari is anothvsource of anoyyance...dress well for h..when you are ovulating,move him closer and in the name of God things shall go your way..don't be bothered please..may God enter his earth to be calm with you.mabinu..

You will give him a boy soon....lovely weekend.

If that is true, he needs to change. Have you sought medical help? If no, you need to work on that first. Keep talking to him but if you start having suicide thoughts, u may need to go for counseling and leave the house. Please, don't hurt yourself o. If you do, he's going to get over it after 1 or 2 yrs and remarry.

Congratulations in view. Luv n pray for him more. Fast n pray always especially at midnight. Sow more seed in d life of Children n go to other churches alter to sow seed without involving anyone. U will testify later,dear

UjuJoan2:
Pray for him, love him bla bla bla. That's the typical Nigerian advice for women in dysfunctional relationships.

Yet when I say women stay with abusive men for the wrong reasons, People will become all self righteous.

Nonsense!

After all this I was thinking you will offer a solution.

Nonsense.

amarachi06:


Thank you, am crying already. Is well with my soul, never believed that l will not have a child by now. All my sisters are married with kids, and am scared of exchanging words with people for fear of being called a barren woman, and eater of my kids, which l am not. Thank you all for your kind words.

God will answer ur prayers. Just believe. Amen

The question is, what then happens when the child comes? He suddenly realizes you're his wife and automatically starts loving you? Is the sole reason for getting married 'child-bearing?' even in this tensed environment called marriage, how do you both have sex?

Some of you are just enduring people you should have no business in being around if you value your sanity all in the name of marriage.

@Ujujoan, @Crackhaus, @bukatyne, u guys are taking this thread to any level. always arguing about men and women Issh, it's crazy. Advice and leave, and let the OP get what's best for her.

LilMissFavvy:
The earlier you seek good medical help and spiritual help concerning that situation, the better for you. The childless issue is the reason for his attitude. He is no longer patient.

Medical help how? Na to ask her if the husband still dey sex her at the right time. That man fit don use vex dey scatter the whole thing time when him suppose give am belle.

Donjazzy12:

Did you tell him the truth about your bareness! How you were aborting for your Sugar Daddies. Did you tell him all that?

Is a woman who has had one/more miscarriages barren? I was not supposed to quote you, but you stupidity couldn't be ignored.

He loves you, he's being pushed by some people. He's not his fault. Seek medical solution and prayer. Don't commit suicide o. Everywhere go good soon.