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Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by Ayotemide(f): 1:09am On Nov 09, 2019 |
I am hoping your eyes and mind see why NOT having children with this man is the best thing to happen to you; no child should come to earth and be the 'fixer' of a dead marriage with emotionally abusive and abused people as parents. My Aunt waited 18years, not once did her husband do this; you are married to a horrible creature neither prayers nor fertility visits can change that. GTFO. |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by DMerciful(m): 1:09am On Nov 09, 2019 |
@ amarachi06 Visit fertility clinics or do your research on fertility drugs like clomid and fertility lubricant like preseed. You can DM me. Thank me later |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by nnaeyes6: 1:12am On Nov 09, 2019 |
Madam Just like Sarah did. Search for a wife for him and oversee the marriage. With that his anger will shift a bit and who knows whether ur child would come immediately after the marriage or before. Our grand parents did it and they lived a healthy life. My take |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by Onyxnaija: 1:13am On Nov 09, 2019 |
amarachi06: Calm down, the worst thing to do while waiting to fall pregnant is getting your self into anxiety. For some reason anxiety and emotional upsets delay pregnancy. I’ll strongly advice that you go for a thorough medical check up. Check your blood groups, ensure no Rhesus factor at play here. Have a gynaecologist look at your womb (scan etc) ensure no adhesions from previous miscarriage treatment, assuming you found yourself in the hands of a dr that treat miscarriage with d&c when you had a miscarriage. Check hormone levels. Ask what sort of uterus you have, that is; retroverted etc. When you get an all clear from the drs, then embark on a journey of knowing your cycle. Track your cycle so you can accurately pinpoint when you ovulate. Forget that day 14 crap people make noise about, every woman is different, even every cycle is different. I’ve seen day 18 ovulation that achieved a healthy baby and delivery. If you can afford ovulation detection kits, buy them. Usually after about 3 months you’ll be able to predict with great certainty when ovulation will occur. Eat healthy food and start taking prenatal vitamins. Encourage your husband to improve his diet and take make prenatal vitamins too. Also assuming your uterus is retroverted, you stand a greater chance of achieving a pregnancy if you lie on your stomach immediately after sex or use the doggy style and lie down on your stomach afterwards. This is because in retroverted uterus the cervix moves up and away from the pool of semen in the vagina, when you lie on your back after ejaculation. But when you’re on your stomach the cervix bends down into the pool of semen and the worm will be able to begin their journey. This knowledge has achieved many pregnancies. Above all, pray and trust in God. He is the giver of life and everything is in His control. Additionally, I hope having a child will solve the issue you point out in your marriage as I don’t think that’s the problem. As you try to have this child also evaluate your relationship with your husband to figure out if a child would rather complicate things than help. You’re not barren, you’ve achieved a pregnancy in the past. All you need is to sustain one to full term so don’t despair. Get to the root of your marriage issues so you don’t go through the pain of single motherhood too. Communication and mutual respect is the key in every relationship. If he insists that you leave, it may be best to. Children do not solve marital problems. Cheers 5 Likes |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by Ayotemide(f): 1:15am On Nov 09, 2019 |
digitaltrades: True, that might be the norm for the women you know; but I would take the liberty to educate you Repeated miscarriages can be a function of Rhesus factor incompatibility, a weak womb muscle or worse still a cocktail of medical abnormalities, Not every woman is walking with an 'ugly past'; and for all the emotions that this lady has put into this post; it is a fucking insensitive thing to say. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by 7thLemonLOVER(f): 1:21am On Nov 09, 2019 |
I really feel for you. TTC can be an overwhelming journey. Your hubby is succumbing to both family and social pressures / expectations Please be patient with him and avoid argument. Most importantly pray your child comes to you. Pray in your dialect |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by sinola(m): 1:26am On Nov 09, 2019 |
if you can...give him some space for some time and be steadfast in prayer...he will come around |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by Berankis: 1:44am On Nov 09, 2019 |
Amarachi, everyone that has commented has one good reason or the other but my own advice for you is to be patient. I believe your husband doesn't dislike you, he is just frustrated. 90% of men will behave like your husband in the same circumstances. I do too! Men always bluff with "you can leave anytime you want!" I cannot count how many times I have said this to my wife but deep down I cannot afford it. So, in the midst of all the commotions, please, build yourself up (with a job or work), keep believing, keep praying, seek medical help and invite him into the ones you can. If you have had miscarriage before it means you both are fertile, it just requires a little more effort. Your family is blessed and it is well with you. Please, don't be afraid of anyone or anything and never give up come what may... 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by Kdon2: 1:45am On Nov 09, 2019 |
UjuJoan2: Thats not a sound advice. If she ignore him it ll aggravate things. |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by Bbbwings: 1:47am On Nov 09, 2019 |
Simpleandsweet:They have started You sef reason am Na Foolish things to confuse wise people Of course I don't tolerate foolishness. |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by Funkyswagzz(m): 1:50am On Nov 09, 2019 |
There's smfin weird about this post |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by frozen70g(f): 1:51am On Nov 09, 2019 |
amarachi06: My dear sister, keep talking to God, he knows and understands everything As for your husband, have you guys done any test to ascertain if his sperm is alright Well if it gets t a stage you can't bear any further, pls talk with yourself and stop dying in silence Any day he ask you to leave his house, if you can pls leave before he kills you, meanetell your parents what you ate passing through Forget about what people may say about you, once you ate alive and you have a living God, you will be alright Your happiness is not guaranteed by staying with him, besides he might get another woman pregnant, don't allow that to bulge you Don't kill yourself or die before you time, he must Bleep another woman Pls your safety and happiness is your priority and when he his ranting, don't talk back to him all the time Learn to do mid night prayers and tell God how you feel, speak out and report him to God and let him, your husband hear your prayers to God that you are reporting him to God, that alone can make a difference and you will experience peace of mind to handle pregnancy If he packs you out of the house, pls go to your parents house, forget about the humiliation |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by yomi007k(m): 1:56am On Nov 09, 2019 |
MrBrownJay1: No mind them. A man that truly loves u won't be bothered much. He will even work towards it and probably not mind adoption. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by UzomaFC: 2:02am On Nov 09, 2019 |
Madam so sorry for the situation on ground. Please I will advice 1. U stop getting into fights with your husband, cos where there's no peace God will not come to ur aid, am talking from experience, cos am a father of three kids by the grace of God. 2. Obey what the scriptures says about wives 3. Take it to God in prayer and have faith 4. Have faith and have a strong heart/Mind and see all this as test of faith for God knows you are passing this situation. 5. know that there re others who have passed via this challenge and even worst but they trusted on God and He saw them through. 6. Just like Hanna in the scripture, enter into an agreement with God, give Him and offer just like Hanna. 7. As a man thicketh so is he, prophesy to your self and to your family and I want you to know that God is very much aware and He is waiting for you to come. It's well with your family and I place the grace by which I operate in God to also come upon you and ur husband in Jesus name Amen. U re a blessed woman, mother and wife. Please don't give up on ur husband and most importantly, don't give up on your self and God. Regards |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by Zooposki(f): 2:09am On Nov 09, 2019 |
Donjazzy12: Or Maybe the guy is shooting blanks because he has wasted all his good sperm on countless Oloshos while he was young. Too bad. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by Zooposki(f): 2:12am On Nov 09, 2019 |
digitaltrades: Mumu. |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by ogub(m): 2:16am On Nov 09, 2019 |
Madam, God is still on the throne he hasn't forgotten you, in his own time he make's all things beautiful, social media is not the best place to seek for comfort in times like this, cause I see a lot of people asking you to leave your marriage they feel the situation is irredeemable any advice I mean any that is not in conformity with God's standard on marriage should be jettisoned no matter the rationale behind it, stand up and fight for yourself how much or long can you fight if God is not by you my sister prayer n faith in God change's things' your marriage will be preserved by the power of God and he will give you your needed blessing Amen. let God be true and Everyman be liar. ROM 3:4 |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by mark2sunny(m): 2:20am On Nov 09, 2019 |
UjuJoan2: You are are simply a frustrated women. After six years in marriage, anyone should be pained and frustrated, but not channeled towards their partner. She must be a wonderful woman and God will give her children. Don't let frustration kill you. |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by lordlugards: 2:23am On Nov 09, 2019 |
amarachi06:I will give you advice of what my wife did during her trying time with me. She avoids me, avoid confrontation with me, showed me love and always mind her business. Guess what I got tired and went back to her for real after discovering how much she love to be with me. You can do same and get busy with your self by searching for solutions to your miscarriage. I believed he will still come back to your life and love you whole heartedly. |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by mrsacure: 2:26am On Nov 09, 2019 |
amarachi06: Stop crying. Go and see Prof. Ajayi in unilag. He's a specialist in prenatal diagnosis. He has helped many families. Yours won't be different. His number is 08033319253 God bless you https://www.linkedin.com/in/prenatal-diagnosis-prof-ajayi-76292045 |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by kapelvej: 2:33am On Nov 09, 2019 |
This is exactly the problem with we men, we tend to pay attention to women who treat us with disdain. Please madam just try and get a proper medical help. Your husband must be part of this treatment. Lastly be STRONG. Always remember that it could have been worse. Never do anything that will compromise your marriage, give the marriage your best , but not your sanity or your life. The question is that , when do you draw the line between sanity life and marriage, ? the answer lies in your hands. You must always think with your head and not your heart. Eventually reason always triumph. The brain always triumph over the heart |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by mark2sunny(m): 2:33am On Nov 09, 2019 |
UjuJoan2: Take your kids to a good school. Work hard and practice what you preach 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by bmdmix: 2:44am On Nov 09, 2019 |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by Nick0982: 2:55am On Nov 09, 2019 |
I would advice you go for female fertility test, let them take your sample on day 2 or 3 of monthly cycle which is for fsh, LH, Prolactin, E2. Then the next one should be on day 21 or 23 just for progesterone n AMH. I believe these tests will be a guide most especially progesterone since u wia able to conceived n had miscarriage. U can read up about progesterone yourself. |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by MrHeff(m): 3:08am On Nov 09, 2019 |
Why all this nonsense story you just spewed? If she can't help but resent him, she should leave. The man already gave her go ahead to. You really have contributed nothing but retardation in this thread. UjuJoan2: |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by emerged01(m): 3:10am On Nov 09, 2019 |
amarachi06:Don’t forget to be nice to children around you,love them genuinely and treat them like your own children. Have the spirit of children around you. |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by MiddleDimension: 3:14am On Nov 09, 2019 |
amarachi06: i would advice you like i would a sister. LEAVE THAT MARRIAGE! FILE FOR DIVORCE AND GET BACK YOUR LIFE AGAIN |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by Entom(m): 3:16am On Nov 09, 2019 |
amarachi06:You need to pray targeted prayer and do what the first person commented. Send me your email, I will send u prayer points that will change your story to glory |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by farady(m): 3:22am On Nov 09, 2019 |
Madam calm down. In fact UzomaFC, lordlugards and a host of others have said most of what I wanted to say. May o also add that in this journey you need the both of you to succeed and the foundation of your union be founded in Christ. However, since he is acting up, here's the time to "hold God for cloth" in prayers, midnight prayers, whilst at the same time showing your husband great love. |
Re: My Husband Dislikes Me by Nobody: 3:34am On Nov 09, 2019 |
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