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RedCreme21:
i brought up a topic that's been upsetting me for years to get advice from females who could/can relate. I thought this nasty habit of shying away from sex education was a trait common of only nigerians. In the next 2 years, i'll be an adult. Its natural that i would be sexually inquisitive. Celibate though. The porn thread was joke. You lack humor.

Dimples0303:
You think and talk about sex a lot for your age. I think you are a bored troll but I will remain sensitive incase some young girl is thinking like you. Sex is for adults. You are going through biological changes. All Women admire other women, they look to compare, and that can confuse you at your vulnerable ages.
By rule, sexuality takes time to form, and mature. If you corrupt the growing process of the brain, with none age appropriate martial (op watches porn at this tender age) then you will mess with your development process and may pick up the wrong understanding of sex and relationships.

Long story short! Act your age and go enjoy life.

RedCreme21:
To think that you accused me of being a troll.
I was offended that you chose to be judgemental when you have no right to be. My sexual chastity is a thing i take pride in. So if you decide to latch unto a joke of a thread (regarding the porn) or this where i asked a honest question, then thats your buiz not mine.
For a woman i highly regard, you disappointed me. Your advice that i should ignore the homones flooding my body and the sexual confusion that comes with it, makes you nothing more than the hypocritical nigerians i've come to dislike.
Im sixteen, not twelve. That innocence that comes with childhood is gone!! In about 1yr and a three months, i'll be a legal adult.
Adolescence is a trying period, where im expected to be both a child and an adult. And it was easy for you, good. But it's hell now. The stress and depression i wake up with every day.
Either you advise me like you actually care or you ignore my thread. Thanks.

Pettyprincess:
You really take nairaland serious girl!! Bt being virgin at 16 isn't something strange because that how it supposed to be bt we live in a society that finds normal things as something strange or special!! honestly! In place's like America, a good percentage of 16yr olds lose their virginity at the age. Even in Nigeria, it's quickly becoming a norm.
I doubt you can keep it up because at 16 your hormones ain't joking ,i will advice you to forget anything about relationship because it might ruined you emotionally!! Nigerian guys arent joking!! i've got a decent amount of control on my desires.
You should focus more on productive things!! I can see you haven't gotten over your ex!! lol I have. Completely. I like typing bout him.
You should stop taking comments here serious!!! nairalanders can be annoying tho
Ps:advice given from all your threads have seen so far.

cococandy:
OP you will be alright. Don’t worry about anything.
If you end up liking only men or liking only women or liking both. You will be fine. By the time you turn 30, you will wonder what in the world you were even worrying about.

It might seem overwhelming right now. But as you get more mature, you will learn how to handle such feelings and be the best version of whichever part of you becomes dominant.

Do experiment (when you become of age of course). And responsibly too. Don’t box yourself in.

Let whatever gives you the most peace and pleasure lead.

shege45:
dont mind that person that said you’re too young. Over here things are different. Even if you turn out to be one, you would be free about it here. Also 16 is the age of consent here. You are not too young to know this

shege45:
you speak too wise for your age. Don’t mind those people. You have come to the right place. You should understand that girls hard support girls

RedCreme21:
where's that? thanks. I guess so.

Sonsly041:
You are under a bondage of spirit homosexual and you need to fight it back through prayers but before the prayers you need to repent and forsake the old ways.

cococandy:
OP you will be alright. Don’t worry about anything.
If you end up liking only men or liking only women or liking both. You will be fine. By the time you turn 30, you will wonder what in the world you were even worrying about.

It might seem overwhelming right now. But as you get more mature, you will learn how to handle such feelings and be the best version of whichever part of you becomes dominant.

Do experiment (when you become of age of course). And responsibly too. Don’t box yourself in.

Let whatever gives you the most peace and pleasure lead.

okoroemeka:
so every problem now is spritual and needs a heavy dose of prayer to solve,the op doesn't have any problems at all,nature most times make people what they are,

I just read a post from a moniker who's likely masochist. The thread got me thinking: what about my sexuality?
I'm in my late adolescence. My only sexual experience ever was a kiss by my first boyfriend...
Apart from that, i havent had any other intimate relationship with any guy...
The problem stems from the below,
My dreams
My desires.

Since i discovered myself, my dreams have been based on lesbian intercourse. I've had countless of them regarding sexual moments between another female and i. Weird.
But in reality, i like guys. On few occations i do admire girls. I feel messed up because i was raised by a family with zero tolerance for those in the LGBT community. What if i grow to be a part of it?
I like to think that the hormones are responsible for it all... But then i'll soon be an adult, puberty's a thing of the past. It's scary especially in a society like ours.
The thing though, as i stated before, is that i like guys too. Am i a bi sexual then?
Can any one else relate?