I have been reading with so much disdain, the recent tantrums thrown on divorced ladies on this platform recently. I may not have followed every comment and reply, but majority I read from guy seems to shame the ladies. This is very wrong.

There is nothing dehumanizing or stigmatizing about a divorced lady coming out to say she was divorced. There is nothing glorifying managing an unmanageable husband or wife in a matrimonial home. I have rarely read people shame a divorced man, or are their stigma different?

The truth is simple, its better to live alive or stay and die, and its very very simple, simpler than staying.

As a legal practitioner, I have had the opportunity to handle/witness several divorce cases, and I'm sure to say its better to leave alive.

65% of divorce cases in Nigerian courts today are instituted by ladies who couldn't tolerate a toxic marriage any longer. This simply means, there is something certainly wrong with men of today, or both.

Men have become more randy, intolerant and abusive than before.

Let's watch how we shame somebody, especially in a situation we haven't been involved in before.

Remember the goal is to be alive and happy, married or single.

Thanks, and have a lovely week.

Don't blame men the country is turning something else under bwari

Marriage is a sham. Our ladies now don’t want to suffer like their mothers. The more being a divorcee is no longer a stigma for women, the higher the divorce rate in Nigeria will be. Women are not blameless tho, they’ve perfected the act of “getting the ring”.

We place a high premium on Marriage and shame a woman from 30-40yrs for not being married. This is leading to men getting away with randy, abusive and intolerant behaviour because las las, them go marry any woman wey them want and women will manage them like that just so they won't face the stigmatization of being unmarried.

The ones going through abuse in their marriage can't leave cause of the stigma attached to divorcees.

We need to change our mentality.

65% of divorce cases in Nigerian courts today are instituted by ladies who couldn't tolerate a toxic marriage any longer.

Where are the links backing up this 'fact'?

lavylilly:
I have been reading with so much disdain, the recent tantrums thrown on divorced ladies on this platform recently. I may not have followed every comment and reply, but majority I read from guy seems to shame the ladies. This is very wrong.

There is nothing dehumanizing or stigmatizing about a divorced lady coming out to say she was divorced. There is nothing glorifying managing an unmanageable husband or wife in a matrimonial home. I have rarely read people shame a divorced man, or are their stigma different?

The truth is simple, its better to live alive or stay and die, and its very very simple, simpler than staying.

As a legal practitioner, I have had the opportunity to handle/witness several divorce cases, and I'm sure to say its better to leave alive.

65% of divorce cases in Nigerian courts today are instituted by ladies who couldn't tolerate a toxic marriage any longer. This simply means, there is something certainly wrong with men of today, or both.

Men have become more randy, intolerant and abusive than before.

Let's watch how we shame somebody, especially in a situation we haven't been involved in before.

Remember the goal is to be alive and happy, married or single.

Thanks, and have a lovely week.

Why do u ladies worry so much about what people say about you especially guys... people u don’t even know, people that don’t know u most of the time..the funniest part is your fellow women folk even say more horrible shiit..

Few men say they don’t like a divorcee or say some nasty shitt...u cry river.
some men say they don’t want non-virgins you start screaming discrimination, a man has some nasty opinion about ladies with cascade of abortion history, you start screaming double standards...at the end of the day, everyone is entitled to his or her preference and opinion about you..weda good or nasty...I feel the duty is on you not to let it bug you instead of crying and clamoring that they should not talk or they can’t have their nasty personal opinion...
You women always approach life like u want some automatic support and validation from the world..sooner or later, u’ll start tagging it as hate....
The fact is u can never have total control over how people see u, we all have different mentality and process things differently, some people are damaged and hurt psychologically, experiences have damaged their views about the world....no matter how good and perfect ur life may seem, married, great husband, have a house and car... someone will still have something nasty and horrible to say about you let alone when u are divorced, a prostitutee, barren, or worst, u have a sex tape online sucking sperrm from a d!c..

The world is naturally mean, it’s not a man thing....Develop a thick skin, enjoy ur life with the decisions you took and the consequences that follow....at the end of the day...the world owes you nothing..

1StopRudeness:


Why do u ladies worry so much about what people say about you especially guys... people u don’t even know, people that don’t know u most of the time..the funniest part is your fellow women folk even say more horrible shiit..

Few men say they don’t like a divorcee or say some nasty shitt...u cry river.
some men say they don’t want non-virgins you start screaming discrimination, a man has some nasty opinion about ladies with cascade of abortion history, you start screaming double standards...at the end of the day, everyone is entitled to his or her preference and opinion about you..weda good or nasty...I feel the duty is on you not to let it bug you instead of crying and clamoring that they should talk or they have their nasty personal opinion...
You women always approach life like u want some automatic support and validation from the world..sooner or later, u’ll start tagging it as hate....
The fact is u can never have total control over how people see u, we all have different mentality and process things differently, some people are damaged and hurt psychologically, experiences have damaged their views about the world....no matter how good and perfect ur life may seem, married, great husband, have a house and car... someone will still have something nasty and horrible to say about you let alone when u are divorced, a prostitutee, barren, or worst, u have a sex tape online sucking sperrm from a d!c..

The world is naturally mean, it’s not a man thing....Develop a thick skin, enjoy ur life with the decisions you took and the consequences that follow....at the end of the day...the world owes you nothing..

Leave them, always crying wa wa wa wa wa about men and society.
Where are their balls?

Men get away with stuff because over the centuries men have learnt not to give a shekel weight of silver fvck.

Being a strong independent woman is not by mouth only.


@lavylilly
You want to be single at 35/40, you want be a divorcee or single mom? Then please be that, own that shít and carry your cross.
No one owes you sympathy.

Women should stop thinking they can legislate how people should feel.

lavylilly:




65% of divorce cases in Nigerian courts today are instituted by ladies who couldn't tolerate a toxic marriage any longer. This simply means, there is something certainly wrong with men of today, or both.

Men have become more randy, intolerant and abusive than before.

Women are the problem, not the men. Men simply go with the flow. You have the power in your hands to get the man of your dreams all to yourself.

At times when I see a girl and her boyfriend walking down the street, what I usually ask myself is na wetin this guy tell this girl whe make her gri for am?

There's this guy I know, he managed to finish secondary school only. Since then, he's been at home forming street guy. No job, no skill, no certificate. All what he knows is play bet9ja, smoke and fvck. At at 30 ooo. Funny thing is he got many girls falling for him. The question is why? Even in sch, we all know that the so called classy girls were reserved for the cultists. In the event that these girls end up with such guys, how far do you think that union will last?

Taste = 0

Ask an average lady what she wants in a relationship.

Good preek
Money

Once a guy knows you're with him for any of these two things, you're already his slave. And you know how masters treat slaves.

Take the Babcock girl story as an example. The boy is a drug addict on rehabilitation, but he still has her mumu bottom cos of good preek. Even on a hospital bed, she couldnt miss an oporrunity to taste his preek. Should that pretty girl even be involved with a drug addict in the first place? Do you think a marriage between these two people will last the test of time knowing that good preek was the foundation? Most of the ladies are just confused beings. Expect more devorce cases as time goes on.

So many things to type but let me stop here.

I want to strongly disagree with this OP as I feel it is a male bashing thread. Men and women have become more randy in more recent times but the women have perfected their acts on how to hide it. Many of my single male acquaintances talk about how they have bleeped several hundreds of married women. It is despicable and a shameful thing. Many married women are also on my dm begging for such opportunities which I have blatantly refused. So it is not just about the men, women have become professionals and great at hiding it too

Romanoff:
We place a high premium on Marriage and shame a woman from 30-40yrs for not being married. This is leading to men getting away with randy, abusive and intolerant behaviour because las las, them go marry any woman wey them want and women will manage them like that just so they won't face the stigmatization of being unmarried.

The ones going through abuse in their marriage can't leave cause of the stigma attached to divorcees.

We need to change our mentality.

Nigerian women too need to grow a backbone and say F you to society and culture. It’s very pathetic seeing my smart and successful colleagues scrambling to settle for any man when they hit 35+, dumbing themselves down just to bear “Mrs” There’s only so much you can blame society on, we’re the society. What about married women that shame single ladies? Married women shaming divorced women? Nigerian women are the ones upholding patriarchy. With the Mrs title as a prize, you people turn on each other.

lagosminded:

Nigerian women too need to grow a backbone and say F you to society and culture. It’s very pathetic seeing my smart and successful colleagues scrambling to settle for any man when they hit 35+, dumbing themselves down just to bear “Mrs” There’s only so much you can blame society on, we’re the society. What about married women that shame single ladies? Married women shaming divorced women? Nigerian women are the ones upholding patriarchy. With the Mrs title as a prize, you people turn on each other.

Our culture has made it so.

Some that are shaming single ladies aren't even happy o.

lavylilly:
I have been reading with so much disdain, the recent tantrums thrown on divorced ladies on this platform recently. I may not have followed every comment and reply, but majority I read from guy seems to shame the ladies. This is very wrong.

There is nothing dehumanizing or stigmatizing about a divorced lady coming out to say she was divorced. There is nothing glorifying managing an unmanageable husband or wife in a matrimonial home. I have rarely read people shame a divorced man, or are their stigma different?

The truth is simple, its better to live alive or stay and die, and its very very simple, simpler than staying.

As a legal practitioner, I have had the opportunity to handle/witness several divorce cases, and I'm sure to say its better to leave alive.

65% of divorce cases in Nigerian courts today are instituted by ladies who couldn't tolerate a toxic marriage any longer. This simply means, there is something certainly wrong with men of today, or both.

Men have become more randy, intolerant and abusive than before.

Let's watch how we shame somebody, especially in a situation we haven't been involved in before.

Remember the goal is to be alive and happy, married or single.

Thanks, and have a lovely week.

i think ladies have found way to survive without depending on an abusive men

before it was society very looked down on divorce and many jobs where not female friendly

whereas now jobs are female friendly and also most african economies have forced women to supplement the hubby's salary therefore gave women the tunnel of light that she can survive on her own financially, therefore if the marriage is abusive she can leave the marriage

The society knows the devils women can become before it invented a shaming system for the unmarried ones.

StPete:
I want to strongly disagree with this OP as I feel it is a male bashing thread. Men and women have become more randy in more recent times but the women have perfected their acts on how to hide it. Many of my single male acquaintances talk about how they have bleeped several hundreds of married women. It is despicable and a shameful thing. Many married women are also on my dm begging for such opportunities which I have blatantly refused. So it is not just about the men, women have become professionals and great at hiding it too

God bless you so much for maintaining your integrity and not having affairs with a married woman. If I open up on my own can of worms, this thread will focus on me. Women are terrible these days!

lavylilly:
I have been reading with so much disdain, the recent tantrums thrown on divorced ladies on this platform recently. I may not have followed every comment and reply, but majority I read from guy seems to shame the ladies. This is very wrong.

There is nothing dehumanizing or stigmatizing about a divorced lady coming out to say she was divorced. There is nothing glorifying managing an unmanageable husband or wife in a matrimonial home. I have rarely read people shame a divorced man, or are their stigma different?

The truth is simple, its better to live alive or stay and die, and its very very simple, simpler than staying.

As a legal practitioner, I have had the opportunity to handle/witness several divorce cases, and I'm sure to say its better to leave alive.

65% of divorce cases in Nigerian courts today are instituted by ladies who couldn't tolerate a toxic marriage any longer. This simply means, there is something certainly wrong with men of today, or both.

Men have become more randy, intolerant and abusive than before.

Let's watch how we shame somebody, especially in a situation we haven't been involved in before.

Remember the goal is to be alive and happy, married or single.

Thanks, and have a lovely week.

You made a valid point my dear

Men has become what our fore fathers couldn't do out of shame

A man that loses his worth, strength and pride shouldn't vent his anger on his woman

Am glad women are sensing dangers and walking out, marriage it is not a prison or correctional home

It's supposed to be a love field where true love guides our activities, actions, words and deeds

The 'now ' mothers can do something.
We train the girl child to behave lyk a girl while the male behaves as he wishes.

At the end,the properly raised girl falls into the hands of the badly behaved boy.

Have a neighbour who beats her 2 yrs plus daughter at the slightest provocation.She says''She is a girl,i have to correct her now.''but to touch the boy .Never.

I feel like knocking sense into her sometimes...

The same posters who shame single/divorced women and make useless comments about children raised by single moms also wonder why women care about the opinions of the society?

The synaptic gaps seem to be enormous.
I’m guessing anything to hate on women flies. Even if it means dancing on both sides of the argument simultaneously. Sigh.

lagosminded:
Marriage is a sham. Our ladies now don’t want to suffer like their mothers. The more being a divorcee is no longer a stigma for women, the higher the divorce rate in Nigeria will be. Women are not blameless tho, they’ve perfected the act of “getting the ring”.

What does the bolded mean?

Why should a lady want to suffer like your mother?

What makes you think a mother wants her daughter to suffer what she did?

lagosminded:
Marriage is a sham. Our ladies now don’t want to suffer like their mothers. The more being a divorcee is no longer a stigma for women, the higher the divorce rate in Nigeria will be. Women are not blameless tho, they’ve perfected the act of “getting the ring”.

wrong statement

Yes

ZIMDRILL:


i think ladies have found way to survive without depending on an abusive men

before it was society very looked down on divorce and many jobs where not female friendly

whereas now jobs are female friendly and also most african economies have forced women to supplement the hubby's salary therefore gave women the tunnel of light that she can survive on her own financially, therefore if the marriage is abusive she can leave the marriage

KaBabs1:
Where are the links to these facts?

Must there be links, don't you have common sense

lavylilly:
I have been reading with so much disdain, the recent tantrums thrown on divorced ladies on this platform recently. I may not have followed every comment and reply, but majority I read from guy seems to shame the ladies. This is very wrong.

There is nothing dehumanizing or stigmatizing about a divorced lady coming out to say she was divorced. There is nothing glorifying managing an unmanageable husband or wife in a matrimonial home. I have rarely read people shame a divorced man, or are their stigma different?

The truth is simple, its better to live alive or stay and die, and its very very simple, simpler than staying.

As a legal practitioner, I have had the opportunity to handle/witness several divorce cases, and I'm sure to say its better to leave alive.

65% of divorce cases in Nigerian courts today are instituted by ladies who couldn't tolerate a toxic marriage any longer. This simply means, there is something certainly wrong with men of today, or both.

Men have become more randy, intolerant and abusive than before.

Let's watch how we shame somebody, especially in a situation we haven't been involved in before.

Remember the goal is to be alive and happy, married or single.

Thanks, and have a lovely week.

Stupid thing. Women have also become more bitchy, disrespectful, hoey etc than before.
Bitch

Izzyovercomer:




God bless you so much for maintaining your integrity and not having affairs with a married woman. If I open up on my own can of worms, this thread will focus on me. Women are terrible these days!

And men have not been horrible from time immemorial? See double standard, do your part by not fvcking the married women, same way some single women will never fvck married men.

Fountainofyouth:



How convenient for it is for you to castigate the married women but failed woefully to insult your stupid diick hopping, senseless friends who knowingly fvcked the married women, as if they were forced at gun point, show me your friends and I'll tell you who you are, dude, you have fvcked a married woman and is still doing that, enough with the saintly bullshit.

See an example here

Sorry sweetheart but did I touch a nerve?
Married women are supposed to resist, push, scream off any potential lays, but no, some willingly spread their legs to welcome such. How do you explain the DMs from people like you?

My advice: stop adultery and focus on your horseband. Enough said

Beosten:
The society knows the devils called women before it invented a shaming system for the unmarried ones.

I waited so long to find a better woman and finally settled down with my wife when she was 36. I have a big certificate but there was no job. So I was riding okada for a living when she met me. She said she wanted marriage despite that I was an okada rider. Expenses skyrocketed after marriage and she failed to entertain any reason why I couldn't make more money. I got and opportunity and grabbed it. The job is in another town, about 30km away. I shuttle between work place and our homes easily because my bike is a good one. She became unhappy whenever I didn't return home if we closed late at night.

That means she enjoyed seeing me as a okada rider

Women are not meant to be happy in marriage and no sane man should struggle to make them happy.

Why would she be happy seeing you as an okada rider?

What would you say if your wife doesn't sleep home some nights because she closed from work late, and not even a shift job like nurses?
You definitely won't give her a pat on the head even though you know it's important that she works.
PPerhaps if you learn to put yourself in her shoes, you will understand her fears and concerns better

Fountainofyouth:



If only you could direct you double standard to your gender only, the world would be a better place, educate yourself and your friends on the will to say NO when approached by married women, men are suppose to be the stronger gender right, I wonder when saying NO became a hard thing,

Only guys with a very low self esteem will be crying about DMs in this day and age, I am yet to see a married lady, hell, even single ladies, whine their head out about DMs, men are the ones crying about relationships and whatnot here, so get a grip of yourself, I'm pretty certain no lady will look at you twice, talk more of batting an eyelid at your direction.

FYI I'm not married yet, but I feel sorry for the woman that will choose you as her horseband, it will be a pitiful experience.

I didn’t read all these trash. You seem heartbroken and someone dealt you a heavy blow in your last relationship. Wish I could buy the guy in question a cold Heineken to celebrate his freedom . Take your frustrations off my mentions as my post wasn’t directed to you initially. My last response to you. I’m out

Fountainofyouth:



They tend to use the line of not reading when they want to avoid the truth like a plague, truth hurts I know, no one hurt me diickhead, I'm super fine where I am, don't run away, come back so you'd be schooled on life generally, rubbish.

Seems like you get orgasms from abusing people online. I scrolled through your comments and wow, I didn’t feel bad at all. You have a line up of people you insult on a daily. But na who do you like this? Is it village people? Can I slide into your dm? There’s a whole lot going on out there that you need someone to talk to....like me