midnighter:


You keep trying to make it about me so that you can undermine me and score cheap points, but you can't answer anything that I wrote.

Why do you bother quoting me if you're going to keep speaking besides the point

I have made no mention of showing emotions here.

She did her own he did his own yet he's the one opening a topic about it and being dragged down to the police station early on a Saturday morning. Does that sound like a victory to you?

He didn't hold her, she held him...that was my point. She couldn't have done that if he didn't allow her.

The whole thing was extremely childish and totally pointless! He messed up

Good night sir

Childish and pointless? So you expect him to go suck her puzzy or start yelling?

See, don't annoy someone please.

Dude has done the best by not showing any sign of emotions and that is the best.

I tire for your matter o.

Most times you ladies always make it seems like women are stupid but I am glad that a few are sane and has values.

midnighter:


No need to engage him, he is a total failure

who is a total failure?

I888:
Bro, I tire for the babe o. As in, the thing dey oain her say OP no react. I have done this same ish before. See, if you wan kill any girl... no react. no show sign of any pain... just treat the whole thing like way the OP treat am. Silence kills women fatally than words.

Leave them, what they wanted was the o.p to lay his hands on the girl before or to come seek advice on nairaland asking 'i am confused my girlfriend did this to me what should i do or Please advice me should i accept my ex back' but it never went that way, the girl should be thanking GOD the o.p isn't mean she for don turn him sexual pleasure.

rs172:


Leave them, what they wanted was the o.p to lay his hands on the girl before or to come seek advice on nairaland asking 'i am confused my girlfriend did this to me what should i do or Please advice me should i accept my ex back' but it never went that way, the girl should be thanking GOD the o.p isn't mean she for don turn him sexual pleasure.

Very terrible thing. They always want you to react and make u feel guilty. It is why they do most of the foolish things that they do so that they can accuse you of being too emotional and childish because you reacted.

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midnighter:


Its actually you who is wrongly representing the male species here. You cant read or what?

I clearly wrote that this was not about emotions, yet youre still harping on about showing signs of emotion.

I clearly told him to get rid of her for good instead of extending the mess, youre talking about sucking pússy. Now that the woman is writing him in suicide notes, you people feel good right? Hes sucking her pússy already, if you dont know!

You cant handle another persons argument so you just start making things up to console yourself.

Luckily I know that not every man reasons as badly as you do.

Dont annoy who? You Mtchew

You are just wasting your time disgracing yourself even more.

People can see through charades

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I888:


You are just wasting your time disgracing yourself even more.

People can see through charades

Well apparently, you cant. You cant see through anything! Thats why youre still here talking nonsense.

midnighter:


Well apparently, you cant. You cant see through anything! Thats why youre still here talking nonsense.

E pain her o. Kee ya sef.

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midnighter:
As immature as the OP. What a surprise

Immature cos he didn't react? Kee yaaa seeeeeffffff. U can join the stupid girl in her grave if you wish.

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midnighter:


I am not "emotional", Im just irritated by what these people are writing. Or maybe you should qualify your use of the word "emotional".

Insults have been flying left, right and centre throughout the thread, people have written all sorts but because I disagree vehemently with you people, you want to undermine my points by dismissing them as "emotion". Well, you cant!

If I were in OPs shoes I would have gone straight to the point when the girl showed up at my elder sisters house, lying and pretending. He is posting here and you people are hailing him because the girl is still alive. What if she wasnt? Even if she took fake sniper, it still could have gone wrong.

Somebody ended up at a police station just so that he could bear the name of "strong man" and feel like he's doling out justice and punishment.

What do I need to learn from the OP apart from passive-aggressiveness, situational ineptitude and immaturity? What exactly

Not to flare up when people are not on the same page with you.

Why are u guys wasting time replying to quotes that you should just ignore and walk over. This is heartbreaking

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midnighter:


Haha! Now I know for sure that you are partial.

You can see throughout the thread where he literally harangued and pursued people who didnt agree with him, to the point that somebody had to beg him to leave them alone

Suddenly because I disagree with his irresponsible behaviour, Im the one who is flaring up. But you didnt see him flaring at so many people, including me a few pages back



So this is not flaring? You are not serious!

hahaha let me be learning ooo..chai. People only want praise-singing and not constructive comments, shame

From the way I see it, you have some very very very good points in you post, what you are trying to do is call a spade a spade.
But your point falls on deaf ears, not that you are wrong - No.
It's just your temperament, it's like yelling to child when you can "talk" most times the yelling is counter productive.

I understand you are passionate about this, so forgive me when is use "emotional" in the same sentence.

On your last part, his flare up does not absolve yours. If you guys had super powers, his will be ice, yours will be fire.

Amesiere.

pryme:


From the way I see it, you have some very very very good points in you post, what you are trying to do is call a spade a spade.
But your point falls on deaf ears, not that you are wrong - No.
It's just your temperament, it's like yelling to child when you can "talk" most times the yelling is counter productive.

I understand you are passionate about this, so forgive me when is use "emotional" in the same sentence.

On your last part, his flare up does not absolve yours. If you guys had super powers, his will be ice, yours will be fire.

Amesiere.

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When the rich guy have used her finish. She will definitely come back for forgiveness. Nigeria girls are useless

Respect55:

No sex or any sort.

Na there you fvck up be that.

Respect55:
I'm not bothered about her. Let her conscience eat at her.
Funng beings. She just updated her whatsapp status to "Someone should talk to me before I commit suicide." I just viewed it and blocked her immediately

She's very foolish and useless?

Logobenz0:
Na there you fvck up be that.

Your thought solely

O.P , kudos to you, been following this thread since last week, you handled the matter well and I'm even impressed as you made it a "no sex" relationship from the onset. As for the people talking about the closure or no closure, I'm glad you didnt allow their comments to get you worked up coz I am so sure they would be the same people to crucify you ifyou had flared up at the initial scene where she was exposed. For me, the silent treatment you gave the lady is the best! I wish you a happy and Godly relationship when you are ready for another one.

I888:


Lol. Ur anger is that dude didn't show any sign of emotions.

Keep waiting for that while he has made up his mind already. I didn't see where he used chain to tie her down that would require him to "let her go"

She did her own and he did his own... What's there to talk about?

If any guy is reading this, I am sure they have learned the best way to deal with women is to give them the silent treatment.

Have a nice night ma'am

Lol, Silent treatment is simply the best, nothing to quote, nothing to crucify you for. It kills the culprit slowly

jamesfadairo:
O.P , kudos to you, been following this thread since last week, you handled the matter well and I'm even impressed as you made it a "no sex" relationship from the onset. As for the people talking about the closure or no closure, I'm glad you didnt allow their comments to get you worked up coz I am so sure they would be the same people to crucify you ifyou had flared up at the initial scene where she was exposed. For me, the silent treatment you gave the lady is the best! I wish you a happy and Godly relationship when you are ready for another one.

Their vindictive comments and castigaions will have same effect as the p in psychology. It's just that they dnt understand. I shared my story and some persons are hell-bent on lecturing me about how better I should have talked the situation. That's preposterous. I never asked for any.
I did what I did my own way. If it's not the best, they should keep their best and use that when they find their selves in such a situation.

I took my decision when I walked into them that day and no amount of bashing will change a thing.
Human beings will always talk. An average Nigerian girl speaks about 2 thousand weds a day. So when I see some of them talk even when they should keep mute, I don't get discouraged because I know they are unknowingly trying to meet their mark. They are still the courteous ones who keep mute even when they should talk. Their words many look forward to becuase there are few and powerful.

Allow them to talk. I read them.

Respect55:

Just woke up now to post this because I felt bad since I came back and slept off. No more relationship for me. I will marry when I'm ready

Welcome on board, bro.

No more heartbreaking scenes

midnighter:


I am not "emotional", Im just irritated by what these people are writing. Or maybe you should qualify your use of the word "emotional".

Insults have been flying left, right and centre throughout the thread, people have written all sorts but because I disagree vehemently with you people, you want to undermine my points by dismissing them as "emotion". Well, you cant!

If I were in OPs shoes I would have gone straight to the point when the girl showed up at my elder sisters house, lying and pretending. He is posting here and you people are hailing him because the girl is still alive. What if she wasnt? Even if she took fake sniper, it still could have gone wrong.

Somebody ended up at a police station just so that he could bear the name of "strong man" and feel like he's doling out justice and punishment.

What do I need to learn from the OP apart from passive-aggressiveness, situational ineptitude and immaturity? What exactly

Forget it, nothing will happen to op. He would explain how she cheated on him and showed them evidence and the other guy would serve as witness. This year alone, people have committed suicide because of their lovers. How many of their lovers have been jailed? None. The girl cheated on him and she couldn't go straight to op's house to beg him. She uploaded on her status that she would commit suicide thinking that op would be begging her that he still loves her and she shouldn't kill herself blah blah blah. Why didn't she commit suicide after uploading the status? My guy blocked the mothefucking hoe instantly. She realized that manipulation didn't work on Op and went straight to op family member that loves her most. Chronic manipulator.
You want op to do clean closure by going to her. How is he going to do that without appearing weak and vulnerable to her? You want to tell me she doesn't know her way to op's house herself but you want to op to go to her and do clean closure so that she can lie and blame op for her cheating. Op never do clean closure self you don blame op say he did something wrong that's why she cheated.

Op, you are the real MVP. Some guys don learn things from you.

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Most times we are right but then we need wisdom and careful trending....


if a pig start behaving like sheep without compromising, it's better to treat the pig like a sheep....


The mystery of this world is such that you can never understand....

No one can change what has been destined to happen you can only shift it......


op....... please just heal up and compromise your stands on her. pleaseeee

midnighter:


To an extent whatever happens afterwards is academic to this discussion; for him to even be there in the first place is an indication of how irresponsible he is.

Even if he's not going to jail it was still a totally unnecessary experience to have had and he could have avoided it if he had handled the situation properly instead of burying his head in the sand.



Exactly what I said. Which is why he should have gotten rid of her immediately instead of all this tomfoolery.



As I have said plenty of times, this is not about her but about him.

Who cares how he appears to her She already has no respect for him which is why she had the guts to do all this rubbish in the first place. She wouldn't have been able to drag him further into her insanity if everything was out in the open.

At the bolded, exactly! She couldn't even go to his house but tried to get under his skin by bypassing him and going to embarrass him in front of his sister. That was when he should have done some damage control instead of keeping mute.

She's messing up everywhere and he's just sitting there watching it. What was stopping him from telling her to explain who the shoe guy was? Then the sister could see where all that crying and bowing on the ground was coming from.

The woman asked him what the hell is that, he said he doesn't have anything to say. Mehn! If I were that sister I would just chase those two unserious people from my house and get back to my sleep.

If had she lied and blamed OP for the cheating then at least we would have seen through her flimsy excuses and it would have ended there. Now she's lying to him from her hospital bed and he still sat there looking at her so what is your point?

Lie today and lie tomorrow, which one is worse



Please quote me and show me where I said that he did something wrong and that's why she cheated.



Keep hailing him for refusing to face his problem until it held a knife against his neck!

Smh no lateral thinking, no logic, no consideration for the future.

Just empty posturing and misinformed psycho-social politics. Terrible! Will you run your home like this?

The only thing people should learn from him is that you should take control of a situation instead of letting it degenerate into total idiocy like it has now.

E just de pain you say op no be weakling.

There is something you don't know. Whether op do clean closure, open closure, or dirty closure, she will pull up the stunts she's being pulling but op did it in a painful way which i think is the best way to do. No drama, no emotion, very silent. I'm pretty sure you're not going to tell me that all the people that have been committing suicide or attempted to commit suicide, their partners didn't do a clean closure that's why they resulted to committing suicide.
Clean closure or not, that won't stop her from going to op's sister's house to beg him on her behalf or attempt suicide. She will still pull her manipulative techniques to hook op down because she knows what she's losing.

@midnighter. You have just proven that silence was the best way to treat a cheating lady from all your responses.

And talking about op dishing out justice and punishment. I just have a question those she not deserve the punishment given ?

ILLarii:


And talking about op dishing out justice and punishment. I just have a question those she not deserve the punishment given ?

Modified: I was mistaken sir, excuse me