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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by autonomous22: 12:10pm On Dec 03, 2019
Abfinest007:
d pregnancy is not yours ask her to abort it but if she refuse tell her u will DNA test when d child is out believe me she will abort it without you knowing then she will say she has miscarriage.

Gbam!!!
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by laptopsale(m): 12:16pm On Dec 03, 2019
Sweetchilli:
Brother, pregnancy is not calculated from the date of conception(the date you had sex). It is calculated with the date of her Last Menstrual Period. Ovulation is usually 2 weeks after the period. Add that to the 4 weeks that you had sex with her and you get 6 weeks. Why do you think pregnancy is usually 40weeks in women? It starts to count from the day of the last Menstrual period. Don't let men who don't know what pregnancy is confuse you.

This is for the uneducated men mentioning me and saying rubbish. You at least have access to the internet, why can't you just Google it instead of making uninformed statements and disgracing your ancestors
Ghostfaze this the matured advice you seek , any other comments you read on this thread are all gibberish.
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Omotakins(m): 12:16pm On Dec 03, 2019
There are times when the most appropriate thing to do is to be quiet and observe when we don't have an informed idea on a particular subject of debate. Opinions given here have the proclivity to mar or make relationships. On the issue at hand, my understanding is that pregnancy test result is either a subtraction of two weeks or an addition of two weeks. The baby may be urs, it may not be. DNA will prove that after the baby's birth. But then, will a relationship having this kind of trust issue at its formative stage last? Time will tell.
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by galadima77(m): 12:18pm On Dec 03, 2019
emeijeh:
Guys, should we tell him?

Nooo, let's be looking at his mumuism for a while till the day they quarrel and she yells all unprintable names at him.

Me I don't have any advice. Go ahead and marry her
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by frubben(m): 12:18pm On Dec 03, 2019
emeijeh:
Guys, should we tell him?
naaaah make we leave am




Lwkmd
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by EmptyCoconutHead(m): 12:18pm On Dec 03, 2019
Juliearth:
[s] you are ready to father another man's child and deal with her dishonesty, then you can continue with the relationship. Else, please give yourself peace by leaving. [/s]
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by ForbesHomesNG(m): 12:22pm On Dec 03, 2019
maikbanj:
Your girlfriend is already seeing you as a wealking honestly and you're too soft with this issue.It's clear enough you're not responsible.. The first doctor already hinted you and now it's confirmed. Please act like a man you are bro. Otherwise you'll end up taking care of another man's child.

Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by oodua1stson: 12:25pm On Dec 03, 2019
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Hello everyone.
I have an unusual issue at hand and it's really giving me a headache.

I have a girlfriend I met in August this year when I traveled to my state from Abuja. She's beautiful, a graduate, and she's everything I have ever wished to have in a woman or so I once believed.

I loved her and our relationship was going to lead to marriage.

After we met in August I traveled back to Abuja and a few months later her NYSC call up came. She told me about it and we planned that she will serve in Abuja. I paid one NYSC man to work her posting but unfortunately, she was posted to another Northern state.

On her way to the state where she was posted she stopped over at my place in Abuja on the 3rd of November, That night we had sex without a condom and after the sex, I gave her a pregnancy prevention drug tablet I had collected from a doctor.

She refused to take the drugs not until after much persuasions. The next morning, some thick blood mixed with water started coming out of her and she was also having stomach pains so I called the doctor that gave me the drugs and he said we should come to his hospital.

We got to the hospital and after explaining to him what happened the doctor said she was already pregnant before taking the drugs that's why her body reacted that way to the drugs.

She denied that she's pregnant and eventually she had to undergo a pregnancy scan. The result came out negative but the doctor kept on insisting that she was pregnant and that the reason why the result came out negative is because of the drugs she took and how young the pregnancy is.

She left for home angrily that day and I had to beg her to forget whatever it is that happened.

A few days later she left for NYSC camp in the state where she was posted. After two weeks she started complaining to me that she's been feeling cold, hungry, and sleepy often than she used to.

I told her that it could be because of the change of weather and the approaching harmattan season. While she was in camp I was working for her to be reposted back to Abuja and somehow she didn't want to serve in Abuja again. She wasn't really open to me about that but she was subtly letting me know of her desires.

Finally, her reposting worked out and she came down to Abuja three days ago. Today she told me that she wants to go for a pregnancy test and I obliged and escorted her to another hospital different from the one we previously went to the first time she came to Abuja.

After the test and scan, the result said she's 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant. We went to another hospital and the result came out the same.

Remember that I first had sex with her on the 3rd of November. Tomorrow will make it a month I had sex with her but she's already 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant.

I could not understand why she should be 6 weeks pregnant when it's not been up to 4 weeks I had sex with her. I have asked her to tell me if she slept with someone else earlier before she came to Abuja but she has maintained that she did not.

I have equally asked the two doctors we met today plus a few other doctors I spoke with on the phone if they think that I'm responsible for the pregnancy but their answers are all contradicting.

Now I'm confused. She's in my house, with a child I'm certain does not belong to me. I don't know what to do. I'm really really confused. Please, any mature advice would be gladly appreciated.

Thank you!

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Ogegod87: 12:26pm On Dec 03, 2019
Poor you!

The pregnancy is not yours. Tell her straight up that you couldn't be responsible for a pregnancy of 6 weeks being that the first time you both have sex was 4 weeks ago. If she insists, tell her you wish to carry out a DNA test ASAP.

You seriously need to grow some balls. Be a man before this lady messes you up.
Be quick about your decision and move on already.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by nick50(m): 12:34pm On Dec 03, 2019
If mugu fall guy man go chop

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by generationz(f): 12:37pm On Dec 03, 2019
zainmaxwell:
Op have asked an elderly lady she said I should tell you that the pregnancy is not yours that actually she is already pregnant before you guys sex and two that your babe is already two weeks pregnant and what the drug did is just to shake it that was why it shows negative in scan when u add that together you will get ur 6 week and two day.....said I should ask you to tell your woman she herself knows who owns the pregnancy that ur yeye girlfriend is lying

[s]PS...every woman knows the father of their baby[/s]

So, if the woman had sex with two men in a week she will know because she is all knowing ba?

All these people with Village mentality. Science truly came to Africa at the right time.
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by ogbevireo(m): 12:39pm On Dec 03, 2019
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Hello everyone.
I have an unusual issue at hand and it's really giving me a headache.

I have a girlfriend I met in August this year when I traveled to my state from Abuja. She's beautiful, a graduate, and she's everything I have ever wished to have in a woman or so I once believed.

I loved her and our relationship was going to lead to marriage.

After we met in August I traveled back to Abuja and a few months later her NYSC call up came. She told me about it and we planned that she will serve in Abuja. I paid one NYSC man to work her posting but unfortunately, she was posted to another Northern state.

On her way to the state where she was posted she stopped over at my place in Abuja on the 3rd of November, That night we had sex without a condom and after the sex, I gave her a pregnancy prevention drug tablet I had collected from a doctor.

She refused to take the drugs not until after much persuasions. The next morning, some thick blood mixed with water started coming out of her and she was also having stomach pains so I called the doctor that gave me the drugs and he said we should come to his hospital.

We got to the hospital and after explaining to him what happened the doctor said she was already pregnant before taking the drugs that's why her body reacted that way to the drugs.

She denied that she's pregnant and eventually she had to undergo a pregnancy scan. The result came out negative but the doctor kept on insisting that she was pregnant and that the reason why the result came out negative is because of the drugs she took and how young the pregnancy is.

She left for home angrily that day and I had to beg her to forget whatever it is that happened.

A few days later she left for NYSC camp in the state where she was posted. After two weeks she started complaining to me that she's been feeling cold, hungry, and sleepy often than she used to.

I told her that it could be because of the change of weather and the approaching harmattan season. While she was in camp I was working for her to be reposted back to Abuja and somehow she didn't want to serve in Abuja again. She wasn't really open to me about that but she was subtly letting me know of her desires.

Finally, her reposting worked out and she came down to Abuja three days ago. Today she told me that she wants to go for a pregnancy test and I obliged and escorted her to another hospital different from the one we previously went to the first time she came to Abuja.

After the test and scan, the result said she's 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant. We went to another hospital and the result came out the same.

Remember that I first had sex with her on the 3rd of November. Tomorrow will make it a month I had sex with her but she's already 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant.

I could not understand why she should be 6 weeks pregnant when it's not been up to 4 weeks I had sex with her. I have asked her to tell me if she slept with someone else earlier before she came to Abuja but she has maintained that she did not.

I have equally asked the two doctors we met today plus a few other doctors I spoke with on the phone if they think that I'm responsible for the pregnancy but their answers are all contradicting.

Now I'm confused. She's in my house, with a child I'm certain does not belong to me. I don't know what to do. I'm really really confused. Please, any mature advice would be gladly appreciated.

Thank you!


I am sure the doctor explained to you that pregnancy is dated from the last monthly period.
Ultrasound scans usually take LMP into account.
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by generationz(f): 12:40pm On Dec 03, 2019
RonaldoVido:


You thought the first doctor was joking right ?

2 more doctors have confirmed what the first doctor told you.

Abeg, leave us alone.

People have sex for months using withdrawal method and don't even get pregnant but she wants you to believe you impregnated her in one night ?

Uncle, is that how strong your sperm is ?

The stupidity.


I'm sure you got F9 in biology.
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by DonFreshmoney(m): 12:40pm On Dec 03, 2019
generationz:


So, if the woman had sex with two men in a week she will know because she is all knowing ba?

All these people with Village mentality. Science truly came to Africa at the right time.


Why would a normal responsible lady have sex with 2 people in a week when she is supposedly dating.. isnt that called oloshoism??

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by obama30: 12:41pm On Dec 03, 2019
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Hello everyone.
I have an unusual issue at hand and it's really giving me a headache.

I have a girlfriend I met in August this year when I traveled to my state from Abuja. She's beautiful, a graduate, and she's everything I have ever wished to have in a woman or so I once believed.

I loved her and our relationship was going to lead to marriage.

After we met in August I traveled back to Abuja and a few months later her NYSC call up came. She told me about it and we planned that she will serve in Abuja. I paid one NYSC man to work her posting but unfortunately, she was posted to another Northern state.

On her way to the state where she was posted she stopped over at my place in Abuja on the 3rd of November, That night we had sex without a condom and after the sex, I gave her a pregnancy prevention drug tablet I had collected from a doctor.

She refused to take the drugs not until after much persuasions. The next morning, some thick blood mixed with water started coming out of her and she was also having stomach pains so I called the doctor that gave me the drugs and he said we should come to his hospital.

We got to the hospital and after explaining to him what happened the doctor said she was already pregnant before taking the drugs that's why her body reacted that way to the drugs.

She denied that she's pregnant and eventually she had to undergo a pregnancy scan. The result came out negative but the doctor kept on insisting that she was pregnant and that the reason why the result came out negative is because of the drugs she took and how young the pregnancy is.

She left for home angrily that day and I had to beg her to forget whatever it is that happened.

A few days later she left for NYSC camp in the state where she was posted. After two weeks she started complaining to me that she's been feeling cold, hungry, and sleepy often than she used to.

I told her that it could be because of the change of weather and the approaching harmattan season. While she was in camp I was working for her to be reposted back to Abuja and somehow she didn't want to serve in Abuja again. She wasn't really open to me about that but she was subtly letting me know of her desires.

Finally, her reposting worked out and she came down to Abuja three days ago. Today she told me that she wants to go for a pregnancy test and I obliged and escorted her to another hospital different from the one we previously went to the first time she came to Abuja.

After the test and scan, the result said she's 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant. We went to another hospital and the result came out the same.

Remember that I first had sex with her on the 3rd of November. Tomorrow will make it a month I had sex with her but she's already 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant.

I could not understand why she should be 6 weeks pregnant when it's not been up to 4 weeks I had sex with her. I have asked her to tell me if she slept with someone else earlier before she came to Abuja but she has maintained that she did not.

I have equally asked the two doctors we met today plus a few other doctors I spoke with on the phone if they think that I'm responsible for the pregnancy but their answers are all contradicting.

Now I'm confused. She's in my house, with a child I'm certain does not belong to me. I don't know what to do. I'm really really confused. Please, any mature advice would be gladly appreciated.

Thank you!


you have not paid her bride price so there's nothing to worry about, all you need to do is to keep all the test result where she cannot damage it, let someone closer to your in your family know about it if you have a police backup fine but make is secret and then keep calm, after the child birth took the child to test and see if your really the father. thereafter confirmation that your the real father of the child then you go for bride price and if your not the father tell he that you can't accommodate her because of over secrecy and lie. Don't allow her push you to do any marital thing until the child is born and start walking. but if you really lover her forget all the lie and bleeping your fellow man and marry her.

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by papagiddy(m): 12:45pm On Dec 03, 2019
How can u be so mad to sex with someone you are not married too..?.??... U deserve all d shit honestly
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Nobody: 12:46pm On Dec 03, 2019
[s]
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Hello everyone.
I have an unusual issue at hand and it's really giving me a headache.

I have a girlfriend I met in August this year when I traveled to my state from Abuja. She's beautiful, a graduate, and she's everything I have ever wished to have in a woman or so I once believed.

I loved her and our relationship was going to lead to marriage.

After we met in August I traveled back to Abuja and a few months later her NYSC call up came. She told me about it and we planned that she will serve in Abuja. I paid one NYSC man to work her posting but unfortunately, she was posted to another Northern state.

On her way to the state where she was posted she stopped over at my place in Abuja on the 3rd of November, That night we had sex without a condom and after the sex, I gave her a pregnancy prevention drug tablet I had collected from a doctor.

She refused to take the drugs not until after much persuasions. The next morning, some thick blood mixed with water started coming out of her and she was also having stomach pains so I called the doctor that gave me the drugs and he said we should come to his hospital.

We got to the hospital and after explaining to him what happened the doctor said she was already pregnant before taking the drugs that's why her body reacted that way to the drugs.

She denied that she's pregnant and eventually she had to undergo a pregnancy scan. The result came out negative but the doctor kept on insisting that she was pregnant and that the reason why the result came out negative is because of the drugs she took and how young the pregnancy is.

She left for home angrily that day and I had to beg her to forget whatever it is that happened.

A few days later she left for NYSC camp in the state where she was posted. After two weeks she started complaining to me that she's been feeling cold, hungry, and sleepy often than she used to.

I told her that it could be because of the change of weather and the approaching harmattan season. While she was in camp I was working for her to be reposted back to Abuja and somehow she didn't want to serve in Abuja again. She wasn't really open to me about that but she was subtly letting me know of her desires.

Finally, her reposting worked out and she came down to Abuja three days ago. Today she told me that she wants to go for a pregnancy test and I obliged and escorted her to another hospital different from the one we previously went to the first time she came to Abuja.

After the test and scan, the result said she's 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant. We went to another hospital and the result came out the same.

Remember that I first had sex with her on the 3rd of November. Tomorrow will make it a month I had sex with her but she's already 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant.

I could not understand why she should be 6 weeks pregnant when it's not been up to 4 weeks I had sex with her. I have asked her to tell me if she slept with someone else earlier before she came to Abuja but she has maintained that she did not.

I have equally asked the two doctors we met today plus a few other doctors I spoke with on the phone if they think that I'm responsible for the pregnancy but their answers are all contradicting.

Now I'm confused. She's in my house, with a child I'm certain does not belong to me. I don't know what to do. I'm really really confused. Please, any mature advice would be gladly appreciated.

Thank you!

[/s]
Leave that girl ALONE!

She is a hoe, Medically speaking, she was indeed pregnant b4 u too had sex and you are only lucky she wont give u a bastard because ua smart small

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Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Savvywriteprene(f): 12:48pm On Dec 03, 2019
thorpido:
Scan results read +/- 2 weeks so in this case it can give you 6 weeks and not the 4 weeks you are calculating.

Please OP, listen to this. Scan results are not exact, it is always plus or minus a few days or weeks.

Don't make a mistake by accusing of something she MAY be innocent of.

If you can meet a gynaecologist to interpret the scan results for you. I repeat a gynaecologist not a general practitioner.
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by DrTonitee(m): 12:49pm On Dec 03, 2019
You obviously like her.accept the pregnancy, but know in your heart it does not belong to you.. and the day she eventually divulged the truth to you,smile and tell her you always knew.

Hope this is matured enough since u no wan reason say you are not responsible and you do not want to stop petting her with her obvious lies.
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by sagtav(f): 12:50pm On Dec 03, 2019
You are 100+1% right on this. I wish the op reads this
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by generationz(f): 12:50pm On Dec 03, 2019
DonFreshmoney:


Why would a normal responsible lady have sex with 2 people in a week when she is supposedly dating.. isnt that called oloshoism??

Are we discussing the moral aspect of this or the medical aspect? undecided

Your assertion is so local and wrong.

Not all women know the father of their kids that is why we have DNA tests.
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Nobody: 12:55pm On Dec 03, 2019
thorpido:
Scan results read +/- 2 weeks so in this case it can give you 6 weeks and not the 4 weeks you are calculating.
shut up
you like
A fetus of 2 weeks can never be compared a with four weeks
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by SlimDaddyPee: 12:57pm On Dec 03, 2019
thorpido:
Scan results read +/- 2 weeks so in this case it can give you 6 weeks and not the 4 weeks you are calculating.
.
Only the expected date of delivery EDD read +/- 2 weeks.
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by sagtav(f): 1:00pm On Dec 03, 2019
The op @ ghostface should google on how pregnancy is counted as suggested by sweetchilli.

Or carry out a paternity test when the child is born.
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by Bibyken(f): 1:01pm On Dec 03, 2019
Gcool2:
if this is true,I think doctors should have explained this to him
He did not tell us exactly what the doctors said, he only said that their response are contradicting.
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by sagtav(f): 1:04pm On Dec 03, 2019
Sweetchilli:
Brother, pregnancy is not calculated from the date of conception(the date you had sex). It is calculated with the date of her Last Menstrual Period. Ovulation is usually 2 weeks after the period. Add that to the 4 weeks that you had sex with her and you get 6 weeks. Why do you think pregnancy is usually 40weeks in women? It starts to count from the day of the last Menstrual period. Don't let men who don't know what pregnancy is confuse you.

This is for the uneducated men mentioning me and saying rubbish. You at least have access to the internet, why can't you just Google it instead of making uninformed statements and disgracing your ancestors

Sweetheart you are 100% correct on this. I wish the op will read and understand.
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by zainmaxwell(m): 1:06pm On Dec 03, 2019
generationz:


So, if the woman had sex with two men in a week she will know because she is all knowing ba?

All these people with Village mentality. Science truly came to Africa at the right time.

��� why would she have sex with two men a day oh I forgot what you think you are
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by sagtav(f): 1:07pm On Dec 03, 2019
Why is the op not replying to people's comments.

Me thinks this story is made up by the op....for cheap likes.
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by OgbeniSamm(m): 1:12pm On Dec 03, 2019
thorpido:
Scan results read +/- 2 weeks so in this case it can give you 6 weeks and not the 4 weeks you are calculating.

Really?
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by OgbeniSamm(m): 1:14pm On Dec 03, 2019
aro1:
you actually had raw sex with her.. Did you cum insyd her and watch it flow out like a boss?
She might be saying the truth,and she might not.. All in all.. You have already partially accepted the baby.

Wait till after the childbirth and do DNA test.


What is wrong with you?
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by manitoba(m): 1:15pm On Dec 03, 2019
That your girl is best for public display at strip clubs because she is willing to sleep with any tom dick and Harry.

She is jumping on you because you have accommodation .
She know she was pregnan before having sex with you hence her relunctance to take the Preventive pill.

Run for your life Son before Karishika ruin your future.

You need a brain resetting slap if you still call that bitch your girl and I will be willing to deliver it to your location in Abuja.

Don't thank me for this.
Re: My Wonderful Relationship Is About To Suffocate by generationz(f): 1:17pm On Dec 03, 2019
zainmaxwell:
��� why would she have sex with two men a day oh I forgot what you think you are
Why are you lots ignorant?
Are you saying there are women who don't have sex for a living and have sex with several men at once?

When a person is ignorant, they cover up with morality which they don't even have. Mtsewwww

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