gypsey:
Op You are a complete Idiot, How many men have you been Aquinted with? To know what more than 2 billion men on earth are like. you came and across few bad men and arrived at an Ignorant Conclusions.

Any woman who couldn't do well in her life blames men. Women are so innocent and Victims right?

Do these MEN you label include your father, uncles and brothers? You Ignorant mysogynistic Cretin.

Do you know the meaning of misogynistic Cretin you wrote up there? Or I am the one having comprehension difficulty?

1StopRudeness:


Why do u ladies worry so much about what people say about you especially guys... people u don’t even know, people that don’t know u most of the time..the funniest part is your fellow women folk even say more horrible shiit..

Few men say they don’t like a divorcee or say some nasty shitt...u cry river.
some men say they don’t want non-virgins you start screaming discrimination, a man has some nasty opinion about ladies with cascade of abortion history, you start screaming double standards...at the end of the day, everyone is entitled to his or her preference and opinion about you..weda good or nasty...I feel the duty is on you not to let it bug you instead of crying and clamoring that they should not talk or they can’t have their nasty personal opinion...
You women always approach life like u want some automatic support and validation from the world..sooner or later, u’ll start tagging it as hate....
The fact is u can never have total control over how people see u, we all have different mentality and process things differently, some people are damaged and hurt psychologically, experiences have damaged their views about the world....no matter how good and perfect ur life may seem, married, great husband, have a house and car... someone will still have something nasty and horrible to say about you let alone when u are divorced, a prostitutee, barren, or worst, u have a sex tape online sucking sperrm from a d!c..

The world is naturally mean, it’s not a man thing....Develop a thick skin, enjoy ur life with the decisions you took and the consequences that follow....at the end of the day...the world owes you nothing..

This your write up really make sense. Girls really need to have orientation about the kind of guys they hang out with. Parenting is a major factor here. A lot of parents don't guide anymore and it's worrisome.

People talk about abusive marriage like it is only the women that are been abused. A lot of men are in abusive relationship but are ashamed to speak up.

Also, our women have lost their values in the name of civilization. Things that were done in private in the past are now done on the road side. The value you get is the value you place on yourself. Women both married and single now Chase preek like it is a career. Like an earlier comment stated, preek and money are all the woman need these days.

Women feel culture is limiting them so they want freedom. Ask yourself what they do with the freedom? Going almost naked on IG, twerking or flashing n*pples and you expect someone to take you seriously.

The only thing that gave us a sane society in the past with less divorce rate was our culture. Now that we have thrown them away, let us enjoy the outcome. Yes some aspects of the culture needs refinement but we decided to put all aside. Now women are even more promiscuous than men as they now openly choose the size and stamina they want. In Africa, women take pride in their body now both married and single walk the road almost naked.

I would like to say that a good wife will always have control over the husband no matter how crazy the man is just that girls are not thought some of these secrets these days while growing up. A big wedding is all that matters after which they can't cook and want to eat out.

Divorce rate in Nigeria will continue to rise and even overtake the western world.

odisman:

This your write up really make sense. Girls really need to have orientation about the kind of guys they hang out with. Parenting is a major factor here. A lot of parents don't guide anymore and it's worrisome.

Parents are busy chasing money neglecting the children. Most children these days learn most things from their peers and not parents. When they mix up with the wrong group then you should know what to expect.

Flee from sleeping with Married women. It's toxic, unholy, drains good vibes/energy from you. And finally, it leads to destruction.

birdmansoho:
A few posters have posited that married women now cheat a lot and that they even have married women hitting abi flirting with them. I can confirm their assertion to be true. In recent years, I’ve come to realise that the level of infidelity among the married women is alarming. I’ve had quite a handful of newly married women, mostly in their mid 20’s flirt with me or we flirted and even went as far as engaging in video fvck.

I have explicit pictures of one of them in particular, which I’ve had for over a year now and never shared with anyone and intend to go to my grave with it, for if it dared leak it’ll cause a social media storm as the lady in question is very active on social media and married to an equally popular rich guy. I’m an unmarried guy and very ready to get married by next year (if all odds add up) but each time I remember how these married women flirts with me till date I become paranoid. Imagining my future wife flirting/cheating with guys and even sharing pictures where they bare it all.

Men have been known to be cheats from time past and women not so much or they’ve always been coded about it but the level of infidelity in married women is very worrisome. Just very scary.

O boy run from Married women as far as your leg can carry you oo. Don't say i didn't warn you. I believe you want to get Married some day and definitely would not want such to happen to you. A woman who cheat can kill. Abi you like to die untimely?
Lastly, delete those pix you have. Don't go to grave with them. This will help you take your mind from them. We are what we see, cos that is the way men are wired. God's grace bro.

First, you lied in your conclusions that its more of women that are suffering broken homes or broken personalities because men are more randy, or abusive etc...

Good thing for being related also in your said field. So conclude carefully. Both men and women have the same ratio of the domestic violence issue. For every woman suffering in her marriage, there is a man suffering in his! Its 1:1.

Thing is the women cry out more about the problem. Since they are the "weaker" vessel, its expected they are to be tolerated and protected. Today, some women have taken advantage of this to be the aggressor and yet cry wolf over incidents of domestic violence cases.

Second, and I don't want to be termed biased--- when in our history did we find a woman raising her hand on her husband? Today, some women are killing their boyfriends at any slightest term of jealousy! And will come out to sing that they were defending themselves until they are investigated out!

Please, as a legal practitioner, be open minded and unbiased. Justice should be fair.

v2:
People talk about abusive marriage like it is only the women that are been abused. A lot of men are in abusive relationship but are ashamed to speak up.

Also, our women have lost their values in the name of civilization. Things that were done in private in the past are now done on the road side. The value you get is the value you place on yourself. Women both married and single now Chase preek like it is a career. Like an earlier comment stated, preek and money are all the woman need these days.

Women feel culture is limiting them so they want freedom. Ask yourself what they do with the freedom? Going almost naked on IG, twerking or flashing n*pples and you expect someone to take you seriously.

The only thing that gave us a sane society in the past with less divorce rate was our culture. Now that we have thrown them away, let us enjoy the outcome. Yes some aspects of the culture needs refinement but we decided to put all aside. Now women are even more promiscuous than men as they now openly choose the size and stamina they want. In Africa, women take pride in their body now both married and single walk the road almost naked.

I would like to say that a good wife will always have control over the husband no matter how crazy the man is just that girls are not thought some of these secrets these days while growing up. A big wedding is all that matters after which they can't cook and want to eat out.

Divorce rate in Nigeria will continue to rise and even overtake the western world.

Totally seconded.

gbagyiza:


You have not been married that's why u r saying all this. I don't support domestic violence but i tell u most women r troublesome. Most of d genesis of all these problems lies on the pressure a woman always put on man. Women should be supporters, encouragers n learn to live with their husbands happily in d face of financial challenges. But when the man is passing through a difficult time, they will be pressurizing him n making trouble every day. Truth be told things r not easy with people now in this country.

Only a weakling will be pressurised

This are not easy in the country, there was never a tune it was caused by a woman

Any man that can't tolerate women just the way mothers tolerate new born with their constant cry, is not yet set for marriage

Marriage is for matured minds

crackhaus:

Leave them, always crying wa wa wa wa wa about men and society.
Where are their balls?

Men get away with stuff because over the centuries men have learnt not to give a shekel weight of silver fvck.

Being a strong independent woman is not by mouth only.


@lavylilly
You want to be single at 35/40, you want be a divorcee or single mom? Then please be that, own that shít and carry your cross.
No one owes you sympathy.

Women should stop thinking they can legislate how people should feel.

This is the summary of what their useless feminism movement is all about.

Nonsense.

Abeg make them cancel marriage make we just dey Bleep ourselves!

emmaodet:


Excuse me ma, alot of things are wrong with people having indiscriminate sex especially when not legally married.
Because alot of people are doing it and they are not hurting anybody does not still make it look good ma and am not an hypocrite, what is bad is bad.
Whoring is as bad as crime.
As prostitution is to women, so is crime to men.
And moreover, who told you they are not hurting anybody? You need to look farther than just what you are seeing, look at the ripple effects - homes destroyed due to an unfaithful partner, relationships damaged, images dented and so many more.
If you don't see anything in young unmarried people sleeping around then am sorry can't chat with you anymore.
Let us look it this way - even though we kill thieves everyday, you and i know the biggest thieves are the politicians, business moguls, government workers. Are they all hypocrites for stoning and killing a petty thief? Yes
And because of that, should be close down the whole police stations in nigeria and start allowing everybody steal since the biggest thieves are the leaders? No because everywhere will be in Chaos.
So we need the police for shaming and harassment to curb the situation.
Likewise proustition - Yes, we all are hypocrites who fvck and sleep around but that is still not a yard stick not to control it and throw it open.
It will be disaster.
Martinez39

Sex before marriage is wrong. God's opinion so respect that. Keep your body holy, and wait for the right man. Who did this to us as a society? Moral decadence is alarming.

bluebay:

My father was never abusive neither has he had physical.encounter to with my mom. Too bad you are a orphan ND that's why you easily involves someone's father to any conversation... I feel your pain my child.

Dont worry, your father is looking at you, proud of the trash he made.

emmaodet:


Excuse me ma, alot of things are wrong with people having indiscriminate sex especially when not legally married.
Because alot of people are doing it and they are not hurting anybody does not still make it look good ma and am not an hypocrite, what is bad is bad.
Whoring is as bad as crime.
As prostitution is to women, so is crime to men.
And moreover, who told you they are not hurting anybody? You need to look farther than just what you are seeing, look at the ripple effects - homes destroyed due to an unfaithful partner, relationships damaged, images dented and so many more.
If you don't see anything in young unmarried people sleeping around then am sorry can't chat with you anymore.
Let us look it this way - even though we kill thieves everyday, you and i know the biggest thieves are the politicians, business moguls, government workers. Are they all hypocrites for stoning and killing a petty thief? Yes
And because of that, should be close down the whole police stations in nigeria and start allowing everybody steal since the biggest thieves are the leaders? No because everywhere will be in Chaos.
So we need the police for shaming and harassment to curb the situation.
Likewise proustition - Yes, we all are hypocrites who fvck and sleep around but that is still not a yard stick not to control it and throw it open.
It will be disaster.
Martinez39

What
Did you read this before submitting it? Human beings should realize that we don't create the standard for morality. Homes are destroying because of sex? Really? And you are comparing this to stealing, I don't even... Guy, I give up on your case.

emmaodet:


Excuse me ma, alot of things are wrong with people having indiscriminate sex especially when not legally married.
Because alot of people are doing it and they are not hurting anybody does not still make it look good ma and am not an hypocrite, what is bad is bad.
Whoring is as bad as crime.
As prostitution is to women, so is crime to men.
And moreover, who told you they are not hurting anybody? You need to look farther than just what you are seeing, look at the ripple effects - homes destroyed due to an unfaithful partner, relationships damaged, images dented and so many more.
If you don't see anything in young unmarried people sleeping around then am sorry can't chat with you anymore.
Let us look it this way - even though we kill thieves everyday, you and i know the biggest thieves are the politicians, business moguls, government workers. Are they all hypocrites for stoning and killing a petty thief? Yes
And because of that, should be close down the whole police stations in nigeria and start allowing everybody steal since the biggest thieves are the leaders? No because everywhere will be in Chaos.
So we need the police for shaming and harassment to curb the situation.
Likewise proustition - Yes, we all are hypocrites who fvck and sleep around but that is still not a yard stick not to control it and throw it open.
It will be disaster.
Martinez39

You should Chanel your energy on bigger problems that concerning yourself with what a grown woman chooses to do with her body. Are you like 50 or something? There's rape, child marriage, abuse and all that. That's indecency. That cannot be compared to prostitution. Leave women alone. People want to have sex, they're not hurting you. Or maybe you should also be condemning yourselves for patronizing but nooooo. Smh

24kmagic:


Women are the problem, not the men. Men simply go with the flow. You have the power in your hands to get the man of your dreams all to yourself.

At times when I see a girl and her boyfriend walking down the street, what I usually ask myself is na wetin this guy tell this girl whe make her gri for am?

There's this guy I know, he managed to finish secondary school only. Since then, he's been at home forming street guy. No job, no skill, no certificate. All what he knows is play bet9ja, smoke and fvck. At at 30 ooo. Funny thing is he got many girls falling for him. The question is why? Even in sch, we all know that the so called classy girls were reserved for the cultists. In the event that these girls end up with such guys, how far do you think that union will last?

Taste = 0

Ask an average lady what she wants in a relationship.

Good preek
Money

Once a guy knows you're with him for any of these two things, you're already his slave. And you know how masters treat slaves.

Take the Babcock girl story as an example. The boy is a drug addict on rehabilitation, but he still has her mumu bottom cos of good preek. Even on a hospital bed, she couldnt miss an oporrunity to taste his preek. Should that pretty girl even be involved with a drug addict in the first place? Do you think a marriage between these two people will last the test of time knowing that good preek was the foundation? Most of the ladies are just confused beings. Expect more devorce cases as time goes on.

So many things to type but let me stop here.

please do not ever say women are at fault ,how about men ? my mom divorced my dad and yes am in support of her divorcing him after 23 years ,imagine a man telling a lie to a 20 year old lady that he has certificates (studied architecture ,lied about his age and so many other things ) ,just for my mom to discover after bn married to him that they were all lies ,if not that she is a graduate of chem eng which has been helping her ,I swear life will be difficult.
my dad right from when I was born till date and that of my siblings he has never paid a dime on us (school fess ,food upkeep ,any other thing ) all he does is to fold his legs. mom paid her labour bills for I and my siblings ,d house we live in mom built it and all d furnitures in it she bought them ,she gives him money for different business (huge sums and all he does is to bet naija or sell some furnitures in the house or fold his legs ) I can't even state all what he has done but please do not say women are the issue .....if not for my mom I wouldn't be a graduate ,I and my siblings won't go to school , father doesn't call ,if I ask him he will say borrow from your friends na, ... can u imagine that!!?

odisman:

Sex before marriage is wrong. God's opinion so respect that. Keep your body holy, and wait for the right man. Who did this to us as a society? Moral decadence is alarming.

My broda, u sef see am.
We are really in trouble concerning this generation.

LadySarah:
The 'now ' mothers can do something.
We train the girl child to behave lyk a girl while the male behaves as he wishes.

At the end,the properly raised girl falls into the hands of the badly behaved boy.

Have a neighbour who beats her 2 yrs plus daughter at the slightest provocation.She says''She is a girl,i have to correct her now.''but to touch the boy .Never.

I feel like knocking sense into her sometimes...

You are not wrong in positing that certain parents tend to apply a firm fist in the upbringing of their female kids probably due to their cultural frames of reference or societal perception.But to suggest or infer that this is the reason why a "properly raised girl falls into the hands of the badly behaved boy" is an overeach. That practically absolves the girl in question from any culpability in her decision process and squarely pinning a decision she made due to her own frame of references on simply a badly raised child...that's unfair and incorrect in my opinion.

amliftedhigher:

My own may soon come. Because my wife is unappreciative, greedy, selfish and self centered. She doesn't want anybody around me especially my family members except hers. She is always nagging and conspired with a stranger to humiliate me and my siblings. She lacks nothing and my siblings love her very very very much but she hates them with passion without a reason. Women hmmmmmm

And what are you still doing with her?

amliftedhigher:

My own may soon come. Because my wife is unappreciative, greedy, selfish and self centered. She doesn't want anybody around me especially my family members except hers. She is always nagging and conspired with a stranger to humiliate me and my siblings. She lacks nothing and my siblings love her very very very much but she hates them with passion without a reason. Women hmmmmmm

She’s not a wife, send her packing.

FreeConCiencE:


Do you know the meaning of misogynistic Cretin you wrote up there? Or I am the one having comprehension difficulty?

NO, i don't know. Tell me what it means please. I am the one with comprehension problems.



I am glad you agree with everything else i wrote, Appart from cretinous misoginy,whatever the hell it means

amliftedhigher:

My own may soon come. Because my wife is unappreciative, greedy, selfish and self centered. She doesn't want anybody around me especially my family members except hers. She is always nagging and conspired with a stranger to humiliate me and my siblings. She lacks nothing and my siblings love her very very very much but she hates them with passion without a reason. Women hmmmmmm

U better run for ur life

Men don't become toxic overnight. They have been toxic even before marriage but the blind, dumb, stupid and outstandingly foolish ladies of our time would never take note of the toxicity of the man as long as he has a heavy bank account, a job, a car, a fancy house and can finance the fool's trip to Dubai. Lol. If you must eat yam with palm oil with your bare hands you cannot escape staining your hands with palm oil. You speak of men being randy but you interestingly decided to omit the role of the women with whom these have expressed their randiness to. Why do ladies have a penchant for married men? Why is it so hard for a lady to say no to a married man? Divorces are the result of men and women making marital decisions that should never have happened. Correct your self-sustained ignorance.

U are on point my dear writer,but am so baffled these day to see high level of long throat among our ladies including married women. They are ready to sleep with their best friends husband just because of money,and this is one of many reasons they get divorced and shamed.

Our ladies can love money more than their lives and because of this,they tend to marry wrongly and for the most part,a man beater leading to terrible outcome in most marriages. This does not rule out the fact that we don't have stupid men,who disrespect their Wife's and might divorce at will if tensed-up.
That is why it is good to marry ur school mate, ur village mate,ur office mate,ur church mate and not that handsome man u don't really know,I mean that beautiful woman u have really not done a search on.

sweetiliciouz:
please do not ever say women are at fault ,how about men ? my mom divorced my dad and yes am in support of her divorcing him after 23 years ,imagine a man telling a lie to a 20 year old lady that he has certificates (studied architecture ,lied about his age and so many other things ) ,just for my mom to discover after bn married to him that they were all lies ,if not that she is a graduate of chem eng which has been helping her ,I swear life will be difficult.
my dad right from when I was born till date and that of my siblings he has never paid a dime on us (school fess ,food upkeep ,any other thing ) all he does is to fold his legs. mom paid her labour bills for I and my siblings ,d house we live in mom built it and all d furnitures in it she bought them ,she gives him money for different business (huge sums and all he does is to bet naija or sell some furnitures in the house or fold his legs ) I can't even state all what he has done but please do not say women are the issue .....if not for my mom I wouldn't be a graduate ,I and my siblings won't go to school , father doesn't call ,if I ask him he will say borrow from your friends na, ... can u imagine that!!?

How did your mom, with all that education, fall for a guy who lied about his education, lied about his age and lied about many other things? This is the question you should ask. Your mom did not propose to your Dad it happened the other way round. Your mom was sought out by the man and she agreed to a life long relationship with him, so the question is what did your mom consider as a criteria for choosing such an irresponsible man? This is the problem with ladies today. You choose a man based on some shallow criteria and when shit happens you turn it on the man completely. You decide to bring ant infested wood into your home and you are complaining that your home is full of lizards...Ladies should stop using very frivolous and stupid criteria for sieving suitors and they should focus primarily on character, attitude and disposition. But if you tell ladies this, den go tok sey "na character, attitude and disposition we go chop? Shey na im go pay the bills?" and in the end they live with regrets!

bukatyne:


What does the bolded mean?

Why should a lady want to suffer like your mother?

What makes you think a mother wants her daughter to suffer what she did?

Imagine this scenario, a boy, while growing up, witnessed continuous mistreatments meted out by his Dad- in form of infidelity, physical and emotional abuse, witholding finances and sex until his will is done-on his Mom. His mom, being financially dependent on his dad, stayed put in the marriage. This boy while growing up has glorified suffering, he believes that a woman who continues enduring suffering is a virtuous woman who prioritize marital stability over everything else, including her own peace of mind. Once he reaches adulthood, this boy/man, metes this same treatment on every woman he meets, as a litmus test to ascertain if that woman is a virtuous woman like his mother. Since he doesn't know a better way to treat women (his dad is his automatic role model). Once those ladies walk away, he generalises that modern girls are bad, they are not virtuous like his mom. Thousands of men/boys are like this, and some women will be unfortunate enough to come across them, even marry them.

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Dont worry, your father is looking at you, proud of the trash he made. [/quote
Better than you orphan

Saintmary:

Imagine this scenario, a boy, while growing up, witnessed continuous mistreatments meted out by his Dad- in form of infidelity, physical and emotional abuse, witholding finances and sex until his will is done-on his Mom. His mom, being financially dependent on his dad, stayed put in the marriage. This boy while growing up has glorified suffering, he believes that a woman who continues enduring suffering is a virtuous woman who prioritize marital stability over everything else, including her own peace of mind. Once he reaches adulthood, this boy/man, metes this same treatment on every woman he meets, as a litmus test to ascertain if that woman is a virtuous woman like his mother. Since he doesn't know a better way to treat women (his dad is his automatic role model). Once those ladies walk away, he generalises that modern girls are bad, they are not virtuous like his mom. Thousands of men/boys are like this, and some women will be unfortunate enough to come across them, even marry them.

My question is: why are women so unfortunate to ever agree to marry such a person? why do women almost never focus on the content of character in their choice of a spouse? why do women fall for very frivolous things and not the core aspects of a persons psyche? This is the question ladies need to answer sincerely. Yes, there are young males raised in terrible environments (so are most young females today) but why do ladies settle to marry without considering character as the foremost criterion?

efficiencie:


My question is: why are women so unfortunate to ever agree to marry such a person? why do women almost never focus on the content of character in their choice of a spouse? why do women fall for very frivolous things and not the core aspects of a persons psyche? This is the question ladies need to answer sincerely. Yes, there are young males raised in terrible environments (so are most young females today) but why do ladies settle to marry without considering character as the foremost criterion?

I will not give excuses for women who refuse to do their homework because they want to be the first among their friends to get married. the Nigerian society being the way it is (thanks to people who perpetrate cycles of bad actions and perceptions concerning women throughout every generation), these women just jumped into the fray, without discernment, because they do not want to be the laughing stock, they want to be the ones laughing.
So, here it goes:
Selfishness
Conceit
Ego
Carelessness
Pride
Desire to be the Ultimate Woman, to have it all, at an early age (you people will call her evening newspaper if she doesn't get married early)
etc, etc.

1StopRudeness:


Why do u ladies worry so much about what people say about you especially guys... people u don’t even know, people that don’t know u most of the time..the funniest part is your fellow women folk even say more horrible shiit..

Few men say they don’t like a divorcee or say some nasty shitt...u cry river.
some men say they don’t want non-virgins you start screaming discrimination, a man has some nasty opinion about ladies with cascade of abortion history, you start screaming double standards...at the end of the day, everyone is entitled to his or her preference and opinion about you..weda good or nasty...I feel the duty is on you not to let it bug you instead of crying and clamoring that they should not talk or they can’t have their nasty personal opinion...
You women always approach life like u want some automatic support and validation from the world..sooner or later, u’ll start tagging it as hate....
The fact is u can never have total control over how people see u, we all have different mentality and process things differently, some people are damaged and hurt psychologically, experiences have damaged their views about the world....no matter how good and perfect ur life may seem, married, great husband, have a house and car... someone will still have something nasty and horrible to say about you let alone when u are divorced, a prostitutee, barren, or worst, u have a sex tape online sucking sperrm from a d!c..

The world is naturally mean, it’s not a man thing....Develop a thick skin, enjoy ur life with the decisions you took and the consequences that follow....at the end of the day...the world owes you nothing..

you are wise

24kmagic:


Women are the problem, not the men. Men simply go with the flow. You have the power in your hands to get the man of your dreams all to yourself.

At times when I see a girl and her boyfriend walking down the street, what I usually ask myself is na wetin this guy tell this girl whe make her gri for am?

There's this guy I know, he managed to finish secondary school only. Since then, he's been at home forming street guy. No job, no skill, no certificate. All what he knows is play bet9ja, smoke and fvck. At at 30 ooo. Funny thing is he got many girls falling for him. The question is why? Even in sch, we all know that the so called classy girls were reserved for the cultists. In the event that these girls end up with such guys, how far do you think that union will last?

Taste = 0

Ask an average lady what she wants in a relationship.

Good preek
Money

Once a guy knows you're with him for any of these two things, you're already his slave. And you know how masters treat slaves.

Take the Babcock girl story as an example. The boy is a drug addict on rehabilitation, but he still has her mumu bottom cos of good preek. Even on a hospital bed, she couldnt miss an oporrunity to taste his preek. Should that pretty girl even be involved with a drug addict in the first place? Do you think a marriage between these two people will last the test of time knowing that good preek was the foundation? Most of the ladies are just confused beings. Expect more devorce cases as time goes on.

So many things to type but let me stop here.

harsh truth

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Fountainofyouth:



And men have not been horrible from time immemorial? See double standard, do your part by not fvcking the married women, same way some single women will never fvck married men.

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