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Gang90:
Last time I went to hospital, the doctor said I was having gout, in itself gout is not a sickness but mainly as a result of other things, I feel like I'm having kidney issues because, I feel pains on my sides of the stomach, the I fall really sick regular then when I got taking drugs I didn't know I was ulcer prone and I got taking NSAID which got my intestines whole on the damaging part, now i can't take most drugs and I can't get a relief

All these can be treated, and you will live long.

There is power in spoken word ur healing is not far from u the distance is between ur knee and the ground go to God in prayer

try and get rid of your health status
know if her family will accept you as a Christian
I am telling you from experience that ogbanje is real and it exist
let her go
you will come back here (nairaland) to thank us

imiski:
Make I park my car here. No scratch me oh.

Thats my space na

Gang90:
I know you may later find my identity but I don't care becuase I need help.

I have this loving girlfriend, actually I love her so much and she in many occasions proven how much she loves me. I met her in school around 2014, we were good friends though I asked her for a date then and she said we have no future together then later on she told me if I can date her without being affectionate, I thought she will be using me what's love without affection didn't know she was scared of me breaking her heart, I left school and somehow around May this year I kept disturbing her and at last she gave in, she's a Muslim, we don't mind. She is my first real love.

We been really so good that I thought she's the best option for me in marriage, actually I didn't think I wanted kids but she changed my views and now I started thinking about raising a family with her.

When it becomes really so deep I thought I should let my family know, I have known her as a best friend and now as a girlfriend so I already believes we would be good for a couple so to test the dept of the sea with one leg I had to let my mum know, she was fond of her when I spoke with her on phone, she didn't mind that she was a Muslim from another state but on talking about marriage the whole thing took a new turn.

And before hand the talk got to more family members and I'm this kind of guy that people takes so serious in my house becuase before I say things I already done it halve way, now they say marriage is not something one just go into but that they were happy I spoke on that earlier on.

They say they need some spiritual examination I gave them go ahead, I'm 24 years old, planning to marry her in about 2 to three years. Now they came back saying she's an Ogbanje and that anybody who marries her may die Young. Note I don't really believe those but my family does.

My main issue is I had been battling an underlying health condition now and I'm not sure of staying around for so long and if anything happens to me while we are married my family may hold her responsible and I may not be there to stand for her, she will be coming to see me this Xmas and I'm really confused. I don't know what to do She seems to love me so much already.

Which underlying health issue are u suffering from??

So they don't accuse the girl of killing uoy

Hmmm...I'll advice you like a bro.

1. Getting married without a family is not the best. You need to find a convincing evidence, prove your loyalty to them and make them see reasons why it this girl you want to marry because trust me,you can't marry the girl all by yourself(Talking from experience). you need their support one way or the other.

2.This girl in the question how sure are you that she's the right one for you? have you been convinced personally and lead by God that she's the one?Note:- don't be blinded by friendship, beauty, character or how long you have known each other.remember wedding is a day event, marriage is a lifetime commitment.Ask God personally in your own closet,get close to real men of God for guidance and counseling if you need to. God will definitely reveal to you if she's the one.

3.Sit the lady down and explain things to her,both your health issue and family issue.Pay attention to how she react and how passionate she is expecially towards your health issue as this will let you know the kind of person she is.if shes more concern about the family and marriage issue,then the ball is in your court and i beleive you will be wise to make the right decision.

4.What about her family?Is her family against the marriage as well or in support?if they are in support,then you have little work in that area, but if they are against as well,then let your woman try sort it out herself or you make a very wise decision by suspending any marriage plan .

5.About your health isssue,kindly escalate it more to your family,let them help you out.seek for spiritual treatment if need to because only God can heal completely.

Summary,Kindly suspends all wedding and family issue plans now and focus on your health.I know you wont die young but live long.You will be Healed By His grace.Let all hands be on deck towards making you whole again and after which you can proceed with other plans.

Finallly above all,Move closer to God, Surrender to him totally. Let Him guide you in all your decision and He will heal you from all forms of sickness through christ our Lord Amen.

All the best bro

Ginaz:
Save her the future predicament then. Kindly let go of her . But your next girlfriend, won’t she still bear the same fate? Open up to your family about your health so they won’t use it to rope your future wife.

This is awesome
Op is a selfish being
Imagine hiding such health info from ur family and wife to be...

The best way to handle this is to tell her the truth about your health status. You may not necessarily end the relationship, if she loves you enough, she may consider staying by your side while you together with your family critically address issues related to your health. You can't possibly go into marriage with your health conditions, it's too risky. Then when you fully recover, you can revisit marriage discussion with the lady if she's still available, your health comes first for now.

24 years old and marriage see as him mind de now trying to spoil someone child life

WAHALA EVERYWHERE

Westernlove:
Look at this little brat who wants to use problem as opening ceremony of his life. When people wey don reach thirty years never even reason marriage, You wey be 24years dey do like puma. Your eye go clear last last, You go wise and get sense by force by fire lol. Go on and marry her, Wetin consign me.....

Hahahaha hahahaha hahahaha


My chest oooooooooo

All this little kids that should be working for their future but instead they will be focusing their attention on sex. Better go and sort your health issues and leave women for now,you are still young for that.
You think sex is the only thing in marriage because you have tasted that honey pot btw her legs and all hell broke loose , don't worry when you marry it will be clear to you.

Come-on don't conclude yet please you've not met the lady in perrson why conclude she is ogbanje

Please if you're to advice please be plain with your advice there are most of us reading though all the messages trying to learn one or two things

odinga1of:
Hahahaha hahahaha hahahaha


My chest oooooooooo

HolyCaligula:
My brother, what i am going to advice you to do is the best for you.
I will advise you to take what i will say to heart.

First of all, are you really sure that this said lady is ready to marry you?

Because it seems that you are the only one that is serious and telling family members about getting married.

Does she in her mind wants to go into a relationship with you and get married to you?

Because what is the purpose of a relationship between two adults, if not marriage?

Now on the issue of her being an ogbanje,

Now hear me well bro, flashing back to many years ago when she told you that she can be with you without affection.

Forget the issue of whether she was afraid of heart break.

Any woman that wants to be with a man without affection, has a skeleton in her cupboard.

And for the fact that she kept rejecting you up to may this year before she gives in, should tell you that there is a reason why she keeps rejecting you.

And for your family members that have never met her to have concluded that she is an ogbanje, and with all that has happened in the past.

With my knowledge of spiritual and empirical understanding of the spiritual, i can bodily tell you that indeed, 'SHE IS AN OGBANJE'

TAKE it or leave it.

And this your illness, when did it start?
Was it after you met her years ago or before you met her?


Whatever your answer, i know you will not die and you will live long.

Forget about her, break up with her, focus on your health, you need GOD to heal you.

Believe and go to a real Church where the power of healing is being demonstrated fresh and raw and with faith you will get your healing.

But my brother, leave the lady, your family is right.

Based on the order of the Peaky blinders.

lilwetdick:
Your family dont want her and you will soon die.

Why waste her time and make her a young widow?

Leave her Alone.

Lolz, only u na wicked, wickeder, wickedest.... See your comment na

But how do a Christian intend to marry a Muslim. I don't get oo. How will their prayer life be, how will they even pray, bind and loose? On the other side, op shouldn't marry if his family aren't in support and also let him also pray about it. If the girl is a mermaid or not. When did God start letting a Christian marry a Muslim. Wish you well oo.





















Just saying my own ooo

Gang90

This your problem get as ee be!

Whatever step you want to take, always take to heart the words found in these Bible verses (Read Proverbs 27:12, Galatian 6:7)

Fake concocted Nollyhood story...
This story is fake..

lasheun:
Fake concocted Nollyhood story...
This story is fake..

What does he stand to gain for coming here to drop a fake story?

Gang90:
I know you may later find my identity but I don't care becuase I need help.

I have this loving girlfriend, actually I love her so much and she in many occasions proven how much she loves me. I met her in school around 2014, we were good friends though I asked her for a date then and she said we have no future together then later on she told me if I can date her without being affectionate, I thought she will be using me what's love without affection didn't know she was scared of me breaking her heart, I left school and somehow around May this year I kept disturbing her and at last she gave in, she's a Muslim, we don't mind. She is my first real love.

We been really so good that I thought she's the best option for me in marriage, actually I didn't think I wanted kids but she changed my views and now I started thinking about raising a family with her.

When it becomes really so deep I thought I should let my family know, I have known her as a best friend and now as a girlfriend so I already believes we would be good for a couple so to test the dept of the sea with one leg I had to let my mum know, she was fond of her when I spoke with her on phone, she didn't mind that she was a Muslim from another state but on talking about marriage the whole thing took a new turn.

And before hand the talk got to more family members and I'm this kind of guy that people takes so serious in my house becuase before I say things I already done it halve way, now they say marriage is not something one just go into but that they were happy I spoke on that earlier on.

They say they need some spiritual examination I gave them go ahead, I'm 24 years old, planning to marry her in about 2 to three years. Now they came back saying she's an Ogbanje and that anybody who marries her may die Young. Note I don't really believe those but my family does.

My main issue is I had been battling an underlying health condition now and I'm not sure of staying around for so long and if anything happens to me while we are married my family may hold her responsible and I may not be there to stand for her, she will be coming to see me this Xmas and I'm really confused. I don't know what to do She seems to love me so much already.

See, go and find solution to your health condition.

And as regards all these silly spiritual consultation about partners, they are all blatant lies!

I've seen people who were told not to marry cos "she is not is wife" or "he is not her husband" and today, they are married, with kids and doing fine!

And some that were told they are for each other, end up divorcing in months!

chuksoyo21:
Dude, am of the opinion you bring ur intending wife up to speed about your current state of health if you truly love her as you claim...
Since, your major dilemma in regards to the issue of dying young if you marry her is centred on your health issue, just come open up.
Hence, she has decided to stay with you, don't be scared...
You really have to be brave. Come out and explain to her. you never can tell, she might accepts to be with you just as you are.
Also, let your people know what your health challenges are.
Life is way too short to be wasted.
There is no wound true love cannot heal.
You have a choice to be very happy, make use of it wisely...

I told her she said she will be my painkillers and that nothing is going to happen to me, that I'm not going to leave her stranded

My sincere advice forget her!! Have been there so I knw don't waste your time!! Ogbanje guy u will be stagnant!!

Gang90:
I know you may later find my identity but I don't care becuase I need help.

I have this loving girlfriend, actually I love her so much and she in many occasions proven how much she loves me. I met her in school around 2014, we were good friends though I asked her for a date then and she said we have no future together then later on she told me if I can date her without being affectionate, I thought she will be using me what's love without affection didn't know she was scared of me breaking her heart, I left school and somehow around May this year I kept disturbing her and at last she gave in, she's a Muslim, we don't mind. She is my first real love.

We been really so good that I thought she's the best option for me in marriage, actually I didn't think I wanted kids but she changed my views and now I started thinking about raising a family with her.

When it becomes really so deep I thought I should let my family know, I have known her as a best friend and now as a girlfriend so I already believes we would be good for a couple so to test the dept of the sea with one leg I had to let my mum know, she was fond of her when I spoke with her on phone, she didn't mind that she was a Muslim from another state but on talking about marriage the whole thing took a new turn.

And before hand the talk got to more family members and I'm this kind of guy that people takes so serious in my house becuase before I say things I already done it halve way, now they say marriage is not something one just go into but that they were happy I spoke on that earlier on.

They say they need some spiritual examination I gave them go ahead, I'm 24 years old, planning to marry her in about 2 to three years. Now they came back saying she's an Ogbanje and that anybody who marries her may die Young. Note I don't really believe those but my family does.

My main issue is I had been battling an underlying health condition now and I'm not sure of staying around for so long and if anything happens to me while we are married my family may hold her responsible and I may not be there to stand for her, she will be coming to see me this Xmas and I'm really confused. I don't know what to do She seems to love me so much already.

Rubbiish:
God bless u sir
Instead of concentrating on his health, he is talking about marriage. I don't understand the way we reason, so much suffering in the world already, if u don't trust your health, why bring in more people to the world to suffer? Who will take care of them? Live your life to the fullest, take care of health & forget about marriage!

I'm working on my health, I believe I will get better I didn't want kids, she made me want to, I'm working, I didn't have a committed relationship, I wasn't thinking about marriage earlier, but sometimes things change

The guy stories are so much and complicated, I am finding it hard to believe any of this is true.

Haba!

Seriously you need Jesus Christ in your life now more than ever before. Pray for God's deliverance and there will be a turn around in your life.

Linzbreezy:
What does he stand to gain for coming here to drop a fake story?

Attention...

If u are reading this I need u to hear me well. First and foremost u need to give more attention to ur health, ur health is ur wealth. Second of all the Bible’s says God CANNOT bless you and add curses to it at the same time. Are u a Christian? If the answer is yes then I advise u not to marry her except u really believe in urself that u will bring to light, Third of all, ur family is against ur union with her which I know they might be right or wrong but am saying is try not to do something that u will later regret in life. Ur life is important and if this is the case u need to put all effort to treat ur health. Afterwards u can fine love then u can marry

cvarinzechukwu:
try and get rid of your health status

know if her family will accept you as a Christian

I am telling you from experience that ogbanje is real and it exist

let her go

you will come back here (nairaland) to thank us

Please can you share the experience. Others can learn from it.

HolyCaligula:
Alright brother, for your sickness you will be healed.

But on this lady, though i don't know you or her and i have never met you nor talk to you before now, but something in me keeps telling me to tell you to leave her, i don't know and This spirit and urge in me have never been wrong.

My brother listen to your family and break up with her.

No mixing of words bro,. She is an ogbanjeeeee

Based on the order of the Peaky blinders.

Biko what does Order of the Peaky Blinders mean? And also, could you suggest any sure prayer and deliverance house for me please

Gang90:
I'm working on getting medication but on the other hand, I'm the last born and no body ever seem to believe I know what's good for me, if I went ahead with the marriage against their will, the can even shun the girls family from giving their daughter to me, and that will be really embarrassing

Don't marry the lady.

You're already coming into the marriage with a liability which will make her a widow at a young age, even if you don't die you'll ruin her financially due to high cost of medical treatment you will need to receive on a regular basis!

in my opinion two to three years is still a long period of time to change ur family's mindset..and i dont mean u should do it in a passive aggressive manner...take their thoughts into consideration and make them see things from your point of view

Gang90:
Last time I went to hospital, the doctor said I was having gout, in itself gout is not a sickness but mainly as a result of other things, I feel like I'm having kidney issues because, I feel pains on my sides of the stomach, the I fall really sick regular then when I got taking drugs I didn't know I was ulcer prone and I got taking NSAID which got my intestines whole on the damaging part, now i can't take most drugs and I can't get a relief

My guy, go and read up on gout. Gout will not kill you and can usually be controlled with diet alone and medication if necessary.

Now, Kidney failure can be deadly so you need to address that ASAP. Have you been diagnosed with a kidney disease? Stop playing games with your life and address your health issue first.

You should not be considering marriage if you believe you will not live long. Don't be selfish.