LilMissFavvy:
How would you have felt if it was your wife who hanged out with her friends and came back by 2am? Any married man or woman who does things without considering the other partner is immature or simply wicked. Your wife's brother should have slapped you back, or is he a weak man? He should have slapped you ensuring that you bleed from your mouth and nose. As for your wife, continue to call her, send messages, give her more time, she will heal and return to you. It's very shameful that her brother was there and did not defend her, by slapping the st-pi---y outta your brains.

Your comments sha, you never disappoints anyway

Afamed:

And packing out of the house is the solution?

Separation is 100 times better than domestic violence. Asides its life threatening nature, children raised in homes where domestic violence is the order of the day are far more likely to constitute nuisance to society.

speed99:

You are still single abi? Okay. Imagine your in-laws throwing you out because your ex-boyfriend called you on phone. let's not even get into poorly executed cooking session or a gaffe about his tribe

Yeah she’s still single and and extremely foolish single girl at that - ignore her Abeg

I am more concerned about the aftermath of this altercation ,you see the op has drawn blood, the pattern with abusers is it progresses. I am sure the op had a dopamine rush when he hit her and it has imprinted on his psychology ,the next time they have an argument he will likely see physical assault as the quickest solution. The op is now like a vampire who just had his first taste of blood and will keep looking for more.


If i were your wife i will take legal actions to protect myself from further assault before i return to live under the same roof with you.

Dupalmer:
In as much as I don't support domestic violence, your effort at apologizing and sincerely promising not to repeat it is more than enough to make you guys come back to normal if she's a reasonable woman.
don't call or beg her anymore else she will see a good stance to manipulate your sorry ass forever.
She will come back in a matter of days if you ignore her but if she doesn't, find a way to make yourself happy. You can't kill yourself over a trouble she ignited. She will loose if she tries to make it a hard or competitive game.

There are many ladies young and old with very good character that will be willing to marry as second, third and even fourth wife.

true talk

freecocoahubby:
She was yelling me ,throwing hands and screaming at me . I ignored her and left the room to the living room but she followed me and I asked her to leave me alone but she kept going


Haba, you're a human being nau - the bolded shows provocation on her part and she clearly threw hands first!

OP, your wife deserved that slap tbh and I think you've begged her enough. Let her go if she wants..

Says a frustrated serial divorcé

Your wife knows you will beg and write this in nairaland for nation wide begging hence her actions. She either doesn't love you or she is standing by for the begging and undertakings to complete. Keep begging but if it happens to me, i will move on as if nothing happened and she will have to apologies to gain entrance to the home again.

Dupalmer:
In as much as I don't support domestic violence, your effort at apologizing and sincerely promising not to repeat it is more than enough to make you guys come back to normal if she's a reasonable woman.
don't call or beg her anymore else she will see a good stance to manipulate your sorry ass forever.
She will come back in a matter of days if you ignore her but if she doesn't, find a way to make yourself happy. You can't kill yourself over a trouble she ignited. She will loose if she tries to make it a hard or competitive game.

There are many ladies young and old with very good character that will be willing to marry as second, third and even fourth wife.

So you are encouraging him to go for second,third,fourth wife?Perfect man or woman can only be found in the grave

It takes two for a marriage to work and it takes two for a marriage to crash,
Brother a simple call or text to your wife that you will stay late should have save you and her all these quarrel.This apology would have been the first thing when you came in late.She was mad because she loves you,She is not right be bringing in her Mum and Brother, Both of you caused the problem.
My advice is this, Give her a little time to calm down.If you have a good family friend that is married,tell the person to help you talk to her and apologize on your behalf. Or send her text or Chat to apologize, but first allow her to calm down so she can listen to you.

Op isn't telling us the full story, there has been something going on before what happened.

You married into a wrong family. A sensible mother in law would call to speak with you about the ill treatment before jumping into your house. This is one of the many senseless things women do when they have no man in their lives. You won't see Father in Laws running upandan to settle issues without objectivity. Mind you, you never see wife o! Right now, you've lost all forms of respect from your wife and in-laws.

Not justifying your actions but two wrongs never make a right.

Thank you jare. How can you push a person to the extent of them hitting you. It shows you to be a very wicked person yourself. She must have it at the back of her mind that if things get awry as a result of her pushing him, he’ll still be the one to blame, hence the continuous bickering.

freecocoahubby:
She was yelling me ,throwing hands and screaming at me . I ignored her and left the room to the living room but she followed me and I asked her to leave me alone but she kept going


Haba, you're a human being nau - the bolded shows provocation on her part and she clearly threw hands first!

OP, your wife deserved that slap tbh and I think you've begged her enough. Let her go if she wants..

OP don’t call her for now since you have begged her severally and she went ahead bringing her family member


It means she doesn’t respect you..

Your wife might have Been looking for means to leave the house may be you aren’t up to the task
Let her go and marry her family member

Marriage should be you your wife and kids

If you aren’t stable as a man don’t get married

Or else your wife will be side chick to well to do men

nairalanduseles:


You shut up I can bet you hit women that is why you think apologizing changes the fact......he should be charged for assault and bodily harm she should get an AVO against him. ......he should pay child support and get out

Stfu
I don’t hit women .
I hit “anyone” that verbally assault me!
Go to hell!

Omo I don't know wat to say oh,but my advice is for u to consult a well experienced,marital life teacher and ask for advice.

daddytime:
No matter wetin you do brother, this marriage na manage e no go last. Sorry, but this is the honest truth.

A precedent has been set, so, at the slightest provocation, your in law's will March down to move their pikin.

Get smart...

If na me, na dem go beg me to come carry my wife back....

How old is this wife by the way?

NB

Please, if you are the guy who advertised a size 44 shoes sometime last week, or you know the guy in person, kindly mention me.

Exactly my thought.

If I were him, they will beg to bring her back.
I won't say more because there are some people here who feed on trolling.

For me, any man that hits his wife just to merely prove a point is a useless man. More so, no responsible man will return home after a stupid outing by 2am. Grow up man, grow up!

danilmo:


All this illustration doesn't change the fact that bringing third party at that slight provocation was uncalled for, even after al l the begging, not even a usual occurrence. She now had to call the whole family on him..haba..


Left for me he shouldn't call her again,

That third party was her mother.
A woman who carried her daughter for 9 months and took care of her for 26 years.

Op went to her mother to ask for her hand in marriage, the woman handed her daughter over to him and barely two years later he hit her to the extent that she bled all because she demanded to know his whereabouts.

No mother wants to see her baby treated less than a princess, she's justified for taking her daughter away from a toxic, hostile environment.

Dupalmer:
In as much as I don't support domestic violence, your effort at apologizing and sincerely promising not to repeat it is more than enough to make you guys come back to normal if she's a reasonable woman.
don't call or beg her anymore else she will see a good stance to manipulate your sorry ass forever.
She will come back in a matter of days if you ignore her but if she doesn't, find a way to make yourself happy. You can't kill yourself over a trouble she ignited. She will loose if she tries to make it a hard or competitive game.

There are many ladies young and old with very good character that will be willing to marry as second, third and even fourth wife.

Seconded.
Bro if you apologize too, she and your mother in law go manipulate for life because they got your weakness. Call her at least once though

daddytime:
No matter wetin you do brother, this marriage na manage e no go last. Sorry, but this is the honest truth.

A precedent has been set, so, at the slightest provocation, your in law's will March down to move their pikin.

Get smart...

If na me, na dem go beg me to come carry my wife back....

How old is this wife by the way?

NB

Please, if you are the guy who advertised a size 44 shoes sometime last week, or you know the guy in person, kindly mention me.

Their is no justification for hitting your partner on both sides for no reason

LilMissFavvy:
How would you have felt if it was your wife who hanged out with her friends and came back by 2am? Any married man or woman who does things without considering the other partner is immature or simply wicked. Your wife's brother should have slapped you back, or is he a weak man? He should have slapped you ensuring that you bleed from your mouth and nose. As for your wife, continue to call her, send messages, give her more time, she will heal and return to you. It's very shameful that her brother was there and did not defend her, by slapping the st-pi---y outta your brains.

People are condemning the first violence and you are still saying the wife's brother should have hit him back, even going as far as calling him weak cos he didn't do that? What kind of household do you come from? So he should hit him and both men should start another bout of fight, how quickly would that resolve the issue? If you are already above 18, i pity your future home.

daddytime:
No matter wetin you do brother, this marriage na manage e no go last. Sorry, but this is the honest truth.

A precedent has been set, so, at the slightest provocation, your in law's will March down to move their pikin.

Get smart...

If na me, na dem go beg me to come carry my wife back....

How old is this wife by the way?

NB

Please, if you are the guy who advertised a size 44 shoes sometime last week, or you know the guy in person, kindly mention me.

God bless you.
I swear, I go dy process marry another wife already, if any useless in law or wife try this nonsense with me.

Chai,dis is D exact definition of dilemma.

Once you are staying very late you would have call her and get her emotional consent. it would have settled the whole issue. Third party breaks home and have to be avoided. I will advice you to arrange a meeting with some elders or your priest and her family members with strong committment from both of you and take your wife back. There is no ego trip here. Your are the head of the family and must be man enough to settle this issue.

LilMissFavvy:
How would you have felt if it was your wife who hanged out with her friends and came back by 2am? Any married man or woman who does things without considering the other partner is immature or simply wicked. Your wife's brother should have slapped you back, or is he a weak man? He should have slapped you ensuring that you bleed from your mouth and nose. As for your wife, continue to call her, send messages, give her more time, she will heal and return to you. It's very shameful that her brother was there and did not defend her, by slapping the st-pi---y outta your brains.

wife brother slapping may lead to a big fight and the end of the marriage. not everyone is that stupid

InvertedHammer:

/
You are irresponsible.

Just admit it.

/

Thank you, sir.

tiptoe1:
Op isn't telling us the full story, there has been something going on before what happened.

My brother even if something must Have been happening the lady should be reasonably enough


Leaving the house to your family member does sounds right

My brother if my wife leaves the house on a mere issues to her family

Boss that’s the end

Once again don’t get married if you aren’t up to the task.

Be financially stable a bit before getting married

Because 80% of marriage issue is caused financially nothing else

xendra:
I'm not surprised to see men saying she should have kept this within the family. na from clap dem dey enter dance. a man that can come home 2am and slap the wife that same night deserves no sympathy. na so she go keep quiet till it gets worse and he kills her.

naija men, Una try o

Their is no justification for violence in a relationship.

kulobyno:
Well as for me:
1. Hitting you wife is a sign of weakness.
2. Apologizing is a sign of strength and love.
But rubbishing my effort to make amends by involving her parents is a NO NO.
I WILL NEVER apologise further because she has made things even.
Whether she decides to stay or leave is her business but trust me I won't care anymore.

Your 1 and 2 is mature!
The rest aren't!

Physical abuse ALWAYS start with a single Slap/hit/push and the cycle never end.

Physical abuse must never be hidden. It must be exposed with all vigour. This first episode shouldn't lead to divorce but I think the wife is on track showing the seriousness of the consequence of such actions.

Should the wife also have provoked the husband by verbal assaults!? NO!

One slap Pere she don call family
Meeting untop your head her mama Dey spoil am sha she sef fit no Dey husband house so wetin you expect from a useless mother in-law

Ekene161829:
I did something I really regret. My wife and I have an amazing marriage, 2 years of marriage and we are blessed with a 7-month-old baby girl.

She is 28 and I almost 33. Last Saturday I got invited to go out by some of my work friends , I got home late 2am, so madam wasn't happy. She was yelling at me, throwing hands and screaming at me. I ignored her and left the room to the living room but she followed me and I asked her to leave me alone but she kept going which made me angry.

I took the back of my hand and gave her a slap on the mouth. She cried out and held her face and started crying and her lips was bleeding. I didn't intentionally hurt her, I just wanted to calm her down since ignoring her was not working. I said sorry, and I was literally on my knees begging her. I tried to hold her but she refused.
The rest of the night was me repeating apology or i didn't mean to hurt you. She ignored me . She went into our room and locked the door.

She was in there for a long time and the next morning, her mother and older brother was at the house and she came out of the room with her and our baby stuff and she said she was leaving me for good. I told her how sorry I was but her mother told me to get out of their faces and they left the house.

I feel so ashamed and I've never done anything like this before and I never thought I would. I don't want to loose my wife and baby. I need both of them back. Should I attempt to contact her?

What do I do?

I might have done the same if I were in your shoes... I'm not saying you did the right thing but I hate it when women nag especially when they don't know when to stop...

#SayNoToDomesticViolence

loveliveshere:


Like I said, people react to anger differently.

The man, a married man, came back home by 2am. That's enough to upset anyone. Maybe if the guy had apologised the moment he stepped into the house, and maybe gave the wife one or two kisses her rage would have been subdued.

This is very funny ... You watch too much of bollywood and Hollywood... Some women are devil's incarnate, the best way to avoid their troubles is not to fall into it..