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supremenews:
Kindly reply to my email

I will

hadduni:
I didn't lie. I don't have time unnecessary banter.

Asa nwa carry go

luckshine007:
I didn’t see any BULLSHIT apart from you own. You most not agree with him but at least show some respect

there is nothing to respect in that guys post

Hi hi,

I'll like to point out that seeking advice is cool but you have to be careful when choosing the one to pick.

I won't advice my sister or a friend to stay in such an unhealthy relationship, it's clear that you're not comfortable in the relationship and need someone to second it.

Imagine having a husband that insult, distrust, and beats you. What kind of father/role model would he be to your children.

But it's a think of choice, either you enjoy it all or you don't.

Either you want your children to witness such or you don't.

I believe you can do better, for yourself and your future family.

Note: am not married or in a relationship, am just stating my opinion.

thats not love now... Love is kind!

Hizzy:
Asa nwa carry go

Meaning!?

hadduni:
Meaning!?

Meaning beautiful babe or attractive babe carry go
No yawa

IAmStrange:
okay. thanks for the enlightenment

no I haven't worked with him before. I didn't even know him until now

Shalom

otomatic:
What do you mean? Is there a threat to your life?

Not directly but whenever he feels someone offended him, he's even ready to go spiritual.

But I will take the bull by the horns wisely.
Thanks

WrathOfHadez:
you don't deserve that dude. Stop pretending.

You're morally loose, enjoying the unhealthy association of males and have no boundaries with your male "friends" and you want to enjoy all these devilish association with males and want your man to not complain.

Dangerous! You're the typical Nigerian girl who calls a man mature because he's either a mugu or blind but call a man immature when he knows exactly your flirtations and calls for a stop.

Lol, you're entitled to your opinions

Allsingles:
The things I discovered here is that your man is not Matured mentally to marry. I'm sorry to say this but that's fact.
The fact that he is 20 years and above doesn't make him to be Matured enough for Relationship not to talk of marriage.
A matured man doesn't work with gossip, you can listen to it but be Matured enough to differentiate between lies, gossip and Truth. Is easy and normal to be jealous but it has limit.
Insulting you in public doesn't make him Matured.
Fighting you or giving you a knock on the head doesn't make him a Matured man neither is it the best way to correct or talk to someone you love.
There's no trust here, he doesn't trust you and that's why you are monitored in every of your move, even your calls and messages are monitored and that's a clear sign that he doesn't trust you.
Again, permit me to say that he doesn't respect you as his woman or the future mother of his children.
Marrying him will only give you truama in your Marriage life.
Hoping that he will change later is a SUPER STORY.
A broken Relationship is better than a broken Marriage.
Once you get married to him, it will be difficult for you to enjoy your Marriage with him.
Read more at... https://allsinglesandmarried..com

No need to be sorry, it's the sad truth and I appreciate it

makydebbie:
I sincerely wish I could slap the daylight out of you maybe your senses will return.

Lol, no ma, don't slap o, only advise

zicoraads:
Erm, what's your real handle?

Lol, y?

OLAJADON:
from what you typed, I feel the guy loves you he just doesn't know how to show it enough and he also don't want competition or loss you to another man which is a big sign of insecurity.
what type of friends does he keep, he is learning alot from outside. He doesn't know how to handle a woman but I am sure he loves you.
you don't need to sit him down and talk to him because he won't take u seriously, i was once possessive of my ex once

Hmmmmm, do your friends dictate when to visit your ex or when yo greet her mum?

UDOKABESTLUV:
Which tribe are you from

Lol, not important o

Viking07:
You should post this silly excuses on your first post. The reason you can't leave is because you need his money and what he'll tell your Mom. Turns out you'd rather die than run for your life. Good luck.

Lol, why do some men think their money makes the world revolve? U think I'm a broke ass?

9icetoo:
I don't usually comment on this section but I will make a exception today to drill some sense into your head.
Yeah, I said drilled.
How old are you? Grow up.
If a man treats you this shabbily when he is wooing you and dating you, what do you think he will do when he married you? Change for better? In your dreams. He is supposed to be playing his best cards now and see what he is dealing you? Pfft!

He is an insecure man. If he feels threatened by your colleagues, then he isn't fit for you. Get someone with the confidence and ego of Jose mourinho and c Ronaldo combined. Someone with balls. Not a Sissy.

Don't blame Grace. You are totally at fault. You armed her with all the information you gave her and what allowed her muddle your mind with.

You don't love this man, you see him as an option because you your other options are married men. Love isn't all by the way. It's fickle.

Get out there, mingle, socialise, meet people. There are options everywhere.
And marriage is not the ultimate. I am happily married but that isn't the case for everyone. It's not a decider whether you will be happy or miserable in life.

If he truly called your sister a prostitute (I hope she isn't by the way and he shouldn't be doing that anyway) and calls everyone in your family when you guys quarrel, he will call you worse in front of everyone when he marries you.

If he truly knocked you over a disagreement, he will batter you like a rag doll when he marries you.

If you marry this dude or continue this relationship after all I have said and your story is true, then you truly deserve what you get.

Lastly, this is your own side of the story, I haven't heard his.

Hmmmm, thanks

Mac2016:
OP please stop telling men some silly truths.. What's the meaning of the rape story you told him in the name of your nonsense church honesty.. No man has no right to your rape story.. Atimes men requesting for such details do so to have a vantage against you to make you feel trapped and at their mercies altho immature they are..
You yourself are sure the guy you call your husband to be can't protect your secret if he is angry
. If you go ahead marry him.. Your dad's spirit will curse you.. I feel like weeping cos of your insensitivity... Your bill God will cater.. Leave that fool pleease...

I won't mind to talk to you on phone if you're willing

Thanks 4 it wishes.
I can't bear it if I am liked to this account. Maybe someday I'll be bold enough to tell this story but just not now.

[quote author=zexy2030 post=84977163][/quote]I suspected but wasn't sure so I told her something about me and didn't tell him. He repeated what I told her word for word

DenreleDave:
If you stay, u must die Soon


Riele, funmisticqueen, bukatyne, babythug, virgoquin, Fountainofyouth, sisioge, Houseofglam7, chii8, ammyluv2002, dannyla (u especially, Werey ni e, omo ale, u can't see another man dt u want wana kill ursef for an abuser), ladysarah

U all can see that ladies are foolish u guys just come on nairaland and pretend to be strong but in the real life, this is what you guys are facing

I'm a man and I don't care, I wish to see that guy and beat him to stupor.
Op I don't know how u flirt oo coz u didn't tell us ur own behavior too but I don't care..

Ur guy is mad, he gave u several Knocks, humiliated you, called ur sis a prostitute and you are still with him.

Op if you don't leave him, you will die in 1 year time.. U r mad and I am angry with you....

End time girl oshi

Haba, e don do nau

Juliearth:
Your last paragraph is all shades of wrong, girl, you reek of low self esteem. Look yourself on the mirror and say you deserve the best. When it comes to marriage, people's opinions don't matter because its solely your cross and not theirs.. You are lucky to even see the signs before marriage. That guy does not respect you, soon enough he would beat you, your sister and even your mum. Do you think love is all that is needed in a marriage? Believe you me, its the least. Women marry men, hoping that they change so don't hope that he would get better after marriage, becaus he won't. As a matter of fact, thingss would get worse. So I say, emancipate yourself from this emotional slavery.

Very true

dannyla:
I suspected but wasn't sure so I told her something about me and didn't tell him. He repeated what I told her word for word

Ok

I wish I could look into the brains of those people that told you to stay with him, that he's going to change. Are they blind? Or they hate you so much and they want to push you into a bad marriage Human beings baffle me at times.

Alot of people have advised you correctly already, no need for me to write a long story.

dannyla:
Hmmmmm, do your friends dictate when to visit your ex or when yo greet her mum?

all i am saying is the type of friends we keep has a huge influence on our lives.

dannyla:
Lol, y?

Something about you feels familiar...

Besides, it's the end of the year, methinks a lunch or dinner date won't be that bad an idea...

If you can email me, do...

A MAN HAS NO RIGHT TO RAISE UP HIS HAND AND BEAT HIS WIFE OR GIRLFRIEND !

search for Ronke Shonde (late/deceased) in google dear ...[and Another one in Kwara that also killed his MTN staff-former fiance]
I know his type: weak , egoistic, sadistic, envious and jealous, unthoughtful, and visionless men!
Only a weak man will abuse his intended/fiance or wife!
not to talk of beat......(to the point of headaches!!!!!??)

Jo, RUN away from him NOW. Do not take his calls AGAIN! Break up with him and move on, but don't be rude or rash, just say you are NOT interested! That you wish him well blah blah, that you both will see / meet other people....

How? HOW can a man beat a woman? Even to abuse in public,private is impossible for some of us to do.
Oh come on, you didn't need to open a thread for this , LEAVE HIM BEFORE HE KILLS YOU!

Don't leave your job o. Envy, jealousy that is worrying the man will not make you lose your dreams of achieving success, you just need to make it with another man that respects a woman...

Ah ha!!!! You may have to report him to the police, NSCDC, military if he refuses to leave you alone, BUT NEVER ABUSE HIM OR SHOUT ON HIM PROFANITIES. Just tell him matter of frankly that you CANNOT be with him!
MARRIAGE IS NOT BY FORCE o.

But if you want to die young, go ahead, hoping he will change.
I HAVE WARNED YOU...Only the living, and healthy, can tell the story of their lives, not the dead/disabled.

Finally, and most importantly, find a good church, ask God Almighty to help you. STAY AT YOUR WORK. BE friendly to him (after you have broken up, ), dont be out alone at night until it dies down...........

CHEERS! Jesus loves you.

OLAJADON:
all i am saying is the type of friends we keep has a huge influence on our lives.

Quite true

zicoraads:
Something about you feels familiar...

Besides, it's the end of the year, methinks a lunch or dinner date won't be that bad an idea...

Lol, I'm sure you're mistaken.
Thanks for the offer

SmartDave:
Like you know the op and the guy?

Of course I do

luckshine007:
Sister my first question to you is what kind of business are you doing?
2. You said one of your colleagues almost raped you right? where is this incident occurred, is it in your own house or your colleague house?
3. What kind of stuff did he found in your phone before the character swing? Did you send any nude pictures to your customers or colleagues or do you sex chat
4. If your fiancée have so many females around him calling and chatting with him, we you be okay with that.
5. Why did you came down from the car just because of an argument emanating from your own stubbornness


No more comment till you answer this question 5 question

For clarity:
1. Real estate
2. His office
3. A property advert
4. He actually does have women around him daily.
5. Lol, I should sit there while he threatened to hit me

I look forward to your reply

annford:
You're dating a Man-Child! How in the World are you still with someone who disrespects you and your family at will, calls you names, has insecurity problems, doesn't trust you, knocks you on the head? My dear, if you told the story as it is, you better leave that guy else one day, just one day, you just might lose your sanity or worse, your life. It was bad marriage that killed my mum. My Mum endured the terrible treatments she got from my Dad for 38 solid years and later died in his hands. I am married and cannot even imagine laying a finger on my Wife! Do not think you can change him for you are not God that changes a Man's heart and behavior. Do not stay in that relationship or go into marriage with him to prove a point to anybody not even to yourself. Run now while you still can.

Thanks and I'm sorry about your mum

grandstar:
dannyla

The man never enter the river, the frogs don dey croak, wetin dem go do when the man enter water?

The handwriting is already on the wall, can't you see it? Dump his sorry bum before you enter into an abusive marriage. Knocks will become black eyes and swollen faces. You won't be able to talk as people will be laughing at you then.

Can a leopard change its spots? He will never change. An abusive person never changes. The typical behavior of begging after beating you up is very common with these people.

Why does he control and beat you? It is because he is very insecure and weak. They make the worst abusers. People try to mask their insecurities by acting strongly on weak people. You will regret it if you marry him.

Do you want to cut him off completely? Do you want a confirmed way?

Find a female friend of yours who you'll ask to pick his call. Let her talk to him. Later, tell her to 'confide' in him that you were very jealous when you heard him talking to her. That this is the first time she has seen you jealous, very jealous.

Your prayer is that he'll now turn his attention to this girl in order to get at you not knowing it was planned. The girl should keep leading him on and disparaging you all the time. She can say, 'Don't mind her sef! She is getting older. She even cries that she has no one yet is too proud to date you! Who does she think she is sef? She's always jealous anytime I talk to you. I don't know why. If we marry, na she go cry pass. I hate proud people. If she sees us marry, she will be crying. It will give her sense'

Your friend can say no sex or romance before marriage. That is to keep his dirty hands off her.

I would have said you should hand Grace over to him but he'll just kill her eventually. That will be wicked.

I am worried you will still marry this guy because of pressure from people who will not receive the knocks or beating that will be meted out to you when you greet your next-door neighbor Emeka 'Hi' in the morning. That will be the last 'Hi' you will ever tell him or any male in the compound, even a newborn.

Those pictures below are what you should expect when you're married (Read Proverbs 27:12). Are you wise or foolish? The choice and your life is in your hand

Thank you