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Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Pussywar(f): 7:31pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
debbydee:PERRRIOOOOOOD!!!! THE ONLY TALK WEY MATTER. THE REST IS TRASH!!! |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Kobicove(m): 7:34pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Anifaza: I will judge this matter when I hear the other side of the story |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by jaxxy(m): 7:34pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
TonyeBarcanista: Truth is those sisters of his are no saints bt I expect the hubby to know them and their characters and tell his wife how to manage them. That’s all. If the husband and wife are open and one there shud be no problem from external or family interference. I understand her position and it’s not an easy position she needs her husband’s support and guidance to deal with it. The wife may or may not have her issues bt from her modified post it’s clear she has tried bt she needs to apply wisdom to preserve her home. Like u said fighting the in-laws won’t help, she needs to win them over despite their terrible attitude or at least manage them well. Hubby fully aware and understanding of the situation shud also manage all of them also. Cc anifaza 1 Like |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Pussywar(f): 7:35pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
swetjo:When she reaches their house, she should get on her knees and suck their pussy, use her hair and mop their house, her tongue to clean their feet, cook for them and breastfeed their children too, all for peace. 3 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by TheArchangel(f): 7:36pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
MichaelUweh:Maybe you depends solely on your brother for survival. She controls everything It is their property, right 5 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by CHoccolaTE: 7:37pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: Lol. This post to that free cocoa hubby guy is still making me laugh. |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Nat404: 7:37pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
MEGA4BILLION:Blood is thicker than water. The man's blood sisters and brothers are also important. |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by innobarca(m): 7:37pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
You took your child to your mother? Why? I thought you were married then so how will your own mother dictate what happens in your home. In my place, it is a disrespect to the husband's family. Your problem started from there. They don't like your mom, Why? Because she make decisions in your home? If your mom is running your home then it's never good. It is very difficult for all your husband family to hate you, there should be 1 person that loves you. Your husband know you very well, he loves you,He love his sisters too. Your husband loves your mom and your family, I am sure of that bc you did not say otherwise. So pls don't make him hate his own sisters. I remembered many years ago when my sister brought her child home bc of some issues in her marriage, my parents told her to take the child to the husband's family. She did and they told her to stay with them for few days, within that few days the husband people made peace between her and the husband. Most times the problem starts little by little. Make peace with his sisters, let your husband see it by himself. Then he will know you have done your part. There is no problem in your marriage. 1 Like |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by BigBizzy(m): 7:39pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Am married but my sisters will never...I mean never try this... You husband must draw a line. There must be a limit to his siblings and you. I hate this... Though we've only heard from you but this post recks off your husband's weakness 5 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Pussywar(f): 7:39pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
zimdante:Is like you where there, you're living in the house. Oh wait, you're the houseboy so you know the real story, ba? How did you come to this conclusion? 89% of men are dimwitted hating ass toxic lizards |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Jannyfranc: 7:41pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
There are some battles you can't fight.Once it has to do with your husbands siblings or his mother,you will never win.No matter how close you are to your husband.That is Nigerian culture for you.Don't ever say negative things about his sibilings or mother.DM me for more advise. |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Nat404: 7:42pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
innobarca:You really understood the situation. Kudos to you! Some folks here thought that the husband's siblings weren't important and it's pitiful. |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Nobody: 7:43pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Aunty you married a boy. Have you forgotten men are big babies? Just keep begging and pleading. Buy bigger gifts, infact build a house for them. Don't put your foot down till you weary yourself out and your big baby is advised by his mummies to replace you with someone of their choice. 3 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by blazetitov: 7:43pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
bukatyne:Because the hubby is a school boy. He is also a lady in thinking. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Nobody: 7:44pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Nat404:They are important but secondary to his wife and kids. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Nat404: 7:51pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Chi59:Okay but this is just an African mentality, a European woman takes her husband's siblings as hers. Whereas in Nigeria, it's a different ball game in the sense that when a man brings a woman home as his wife, the wife tends to drive away her husband's siblings. |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by dedeorji(m): 7:53pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
You made a lot of sense in your statement, if only the OP will adhere to this kind of advice. I believe she ought to have known the husband and the kind of background he came from before tying the knot. Don't put him in the situation where he has to choose between you and the mother/sisters; things always get messier when it degenerates to that. Graxie: 1 Like |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by midnighter(f): 7:55pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Nat404: Does the European woman expect the husbands family to barge into her home and start ordering her about? The one Africans do is too excessive hence the backlash from the wife (though every case is different) |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by King2019(m): 7:55pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
TonyeBarcanista:thunder fire you idiot!!! carry family for head they will push you in fire stupid being 3 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by King2019(m): 7:58pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Chi59:I wonder ooo |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Emotionss: 7:59pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
[color=#006600][/color] Saintmary: You are a Blessing to whoever is lucky enough to marry you. Wow 1 Like |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by ZIMDRILL(m): 7:59pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Gforce2015: but some of these sisters are married, so its their's husband's responsibility to look after their on wives and children, if the sister what help from the brother, then their husband's should ask their man to man for help My belief is directly helping a married sister without the the involvement of her husband is indirectly disabling her husband effort and role in that marriage, with time the stupid wife would end up not respecting her own husband because the husband financial role is being done by brother 3 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Ajetayi: 8:04pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Pls think of the years your husband spent with his family before you joined them. You can decide not to be his wife today and everything ends there. Remember that he is from that famy for life. Women should learn to tolerate their husband relatives. If it were sisters you know what to do as to keep the family together. |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Charly68: 8:07pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Graxie:are you asking again,husband is no longer romantic and lovely .Takes the family out only when his siblings come around ,believe them more than his wife . It is a big problem to isolate the wife you claim to love at home 3 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by shomutuski(m): 8:08pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
MEGA4BILLION: EXACTLY THAT N VGGA A BITCH ASS MAN, A WASTEMAN. |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Adedayobusayo12(f): 8:08pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Single ladies, shine your eyes before you marry. Some men are not worth it. A man will leave his family and cleave to his wife. They are one! If I like I will carry my child and give my parents to look after if that's what will give me peace of mind. A husband that cannot mediate between his siblings and wife and also draw a line so as each will not cross is a fool. Get a job and do what you enjoy. Let the fool marry his sisters. One idiot will come and stay in my house for five years, come dey spoil my name again, Ogun go kiiii am. I have a brother and I will never go and intimidate his wife or pokenose in his marriage. When you marry into a lowlife family where they all depend on kobo from the man, this is the results. Poor and aggressive siblings. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by taiwojoe40(m): 8:10pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Anifaza:If u've none of yr SILs on yr side,then u're the problem. U can't erase politics from all sphere of life,endeavour to get one on yr side either by hook or crook,then use her to understand their weakness/strength in order to manipulate them to be on yr side..To catch a monkey,u need to behave like one..Yr hubby is highly wise/intelligent cos the best way to protect ones's family (from his blood) is not to make enemies for them.. He'll defend u openly if you play a wise open politics which involves having a large heart ..If u can't bend to play a lion trick(calmness, doggedness,wisdom)u won't only create unsolvable problem for yr hubby,urself but also for yr children..Be wise..Wish u good luck in any decision u take. 1 Like |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Nat404: 8:12pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
midnighter:Not ordering her about. You don't really understand what I'm talking about here. What I wanna tell you is that I experienced similar thing as a young lad when my elder brother got married. None of us ever lived with my brother's wife, even my cousin sister did not. Then, my brother's wife would call me on phone and I will tell her I am in my parents house and I have freedom here. |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by Nobody: 8:13pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Nat404:Taking my husband's siblings as mine is one thing, knowing that both my siblings and his are secondary to the family (me, him and our kids) is another. Don't argue with me. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by highbee02: 8:15pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
TonyeBarcanista: Great, I like the analysis. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sisters-In-Law Are Causing Problems In My Marriage! What Do I Do? by midnighter(f): 8:16pm On Dec 19, 2019 |
Nat404: So what are you talking about here |
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