Phenomenal16:
...am an under G......one guy asked me for a rlship and I accepted.....
Note: I wasn't demanding, not way ward.....in fact I was God minded.......
I av sacrificed a lot for the rlship ....I spent my last card to buy him food.....gives him gifts....... Was not giving him troubles........
It was fine until he stopped calling ...he calls whenever he feels like ........there was no commitment again......
Am 22..I wouldn't say am too beautiful but am not ugly ...m not short ....av d right curves.....
U see,,,,,to ur write up above is contradicting because everyone is not the same.
Currently undergoing an emotional heart break....wouldn't want to be in any rlship for some time.....
This is someone I believed in....I was already seeing the bigger picture......
So u see not every young girl is hoeing......I wish I can hoe but the spirit of God in me won't allow me...

You are 22 ?.... I thought you said you were 25 in some other thread ?

So the guy later left...not too good from him...well it's a good thing he showed his flaws now

futurerex:



40! Boss I hail oo. Will your current girlfriend wait till then?

Na girlfriend wey Dey that time he go marry
If she wait good if she no wait good for her
Babes plenty na wife material scarce for market

tohyorsih2:


If i may ask, how old was your wife then?

She was 16yrs then.....

bonnyhope:

Marriage is not a guaranteed for happiness
But if you see good woman marry her

translation; any woman not married is bad.

Once there is any serious lady, third quarter of next year will do.

eni4real:
Women plenty, wife material dey small

True dat.

MrBrownJay1:


heaven and hell is a fantasy that NOBODY can confirm, while marriage and its consequences are VERY real...



you mean my kids are missing because i am not married to their mother?! HOW EXACTLY?!!?!?!?!?
you mean babymamas are missing because i am not married to them?! HOW EXACTLY?!!?!?!?!?

who else should a man think of, if not himself 1st and foremost... if i aint happy, there is NO WAY i can make any woman happy, let alone my kids.

Bros I love your reasoning. You reason so mature! Marriage is nothing but a bondage.

saasala:
Now 32, will be 33 in few months.

The only thing holding me: No woman to marry.

Every woman who is close to what I want is marred by her religious beliefs. Once I tell them I am non religious or a deist, they zoom off.

Do we have free thinking ladies in this part of the world?

Lol!

CsRockefeller:
I said 27 and seems the stars are already aligning for me, if it doesn't happen next year, then definitely 2021 when I'm 28.



Quick question guys.

Between a lady within the ages of 24 to 26 not employed and a young girl of 20 in school, which is best suited for a guy of 27 to plan his life with?

Let's assume the factors of character and love is positive.

pls question of who to marry is best answered by God

sprints1:
u had better chunk your respect into your tiny a$$hole.. My grandpa is dead and BTW I doubt if he is older than my dad sef... See ehn this is social media not outside where we bow down to people. Same baby boomers who have destroyed our country and corrupted the minds of our generations and ones before me.. mschew

Is he related to Buhari.??
You don't want to bow down to anybody but you want to insult any elderly because of what??
Old Cargo
Africa is a scam...

Riele:


Weeding ??

Can i have some ?

Lol

Powersurge:
I feel from 22-30 is ideal if you have the money. But for me 35 is what on my mind. The street is not smiling.


I don't want one woman to come and give me high BP because of some financial needs.

Whenever you feel you have a stable financial stance, you should go for it.

Meanwhile, I don't even have girlfriend now. If e hold me too much, I order for olosho. I don't want to say Nigerian girls are liabilities. Because I am sure there are still few ones with brains. Until then, olosho will do.

How much is olosho now in ur area

Alfather:
sorry, he is marraid all ready, so piss off.

Married when ?

Fuckthamods:
Before 30 by God's grace... I'm 29 and half

U must be born in may

safarigirl:
When a decent partner comes.

There is no regulated age for marriage. When the time comes, the stars will align and marriage will happen, no dey tension people abeg

LOL so now you're waiting on stars? You go dry there

madjnr:


LOL so now you're waiting on stars? You go dry there

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if no be condition, no man wan marry late now. Me, I sha know say befr 40, I fit marry, when money due to feed ourselves. konji self dis days too dey push person but God is in control He will help man not to misbehave

pekisdgee:
guy how old are you? Wake up from the slumber

What slumber? I know it ain't easy staying with another human being but...

saasala:
Now 32, will be 33 in few months.

The only thing holding me: No woman to marry.

Every woman who is close to what I want is marred by her religious beliefs. Once I tell them I am non religious or a deist, they zoom off.

Do we have free thinking ladies in this part of the world?

Unfortunately we don't. That has been my problem too. Everyone I come across will be trying to "win my soul", whatever that means. Go your church and leave me to my beliefs.

We have few free thinking ladies in this country.

If they're not religious to an extent, then they're oloshos. No middle ground.

MrBrownJay1:


if this woman is indeed good, and we have a great r/ship. why would you think that marriage is gonna improve anything?! in the contrary, marriage would RUIN more than it would improve. both of you need to be on the edge and understand that you need to woo, care, love and cherish one another for the rest of your natural life.... aka water that flower. sadly, marriage tend to make people become emotionally LAZY, sexually REDUNDANT... aka disregard that flower because you now own it.

there is only ONE way to keep a flame alive, and thats to never marry that person. marriage is like chains that would have people who dont love/like you (any longer) stay with your sorry aaass because of that bondage called marriage. if love fades away then you guys need to part ways....sadly married people would stay together because of that piece of paper. i certainly do NOT want anyone to stay with me out of pity (aka marriage) as i certainly wouldnt.

Well,it's your opinion and we have to respect that but i think I have a different opinion,just yesterday I was talking to my wife about this same issue you are talking about,I didn't marry her just because of love,like you rightly said what happens when the love is no longer there!I told her I married her because we are compatible and have a perfect understanding of one another,that compatibility and understanding can only grow stronger and better with time.So to me, marriage is not a bondage if only you are matured enough to understand what it takes to be married.Thank you.

I got married at the age of 34years

Kirinwa:


Which 'your girlfriends'?
You think it's easy on the girls too? Many of them wanted to marry at 26, some are now in 37 years. One even asked me to pray for her, probably in fourties or early fifties, I shock.

NB: Any girl you are with at that age, that's your girlfriend.

Yeah I know life is not that rosy, it's not how we think it use to be when we were young. Remember how we loved Nigeria when we were young but when we grew older our eyes opened and we knew Nigeria can only become better in the next 500 life..
But to what u said, it's funny tho. Have seen a 18yr old girl who just gained admission telling her bf who is yet to gain admission that she can't wait o, that how will they date for 6-7yrs. And I was like does she think marriage is sweet like fried rice or does she think it's how we see it. She feels life is rosy and will fall in place for her. Cool about that but she's so sure that her future is set not knowing God owns and knows tomorrow. So she ended with the guy and I was like this girl never know life by the time life squeeze her like wet cloth she go understand.

TOPCRUISE:

What year did you gain admission into university, what year did you graduate, what year did you get a job. What year were you financially comfortable. If those questions did not matter to you then I suppose, marriage at the age of 27 is too old for you.

Hmm, I'm not yet married o

thatthing111:


Lol! I am in the same shoes. But for like a year now, I have stopped talking about religion with women. I'm willing to go to church once in a while with my woman even though I am an atheist. Trust me, it is very hard to find a free thinking woman in this Naija. I know, cos I searched for like 5 years. Now that I am in my late 30s, I have switched tactics. Lol. I can go to morning service (1 hour 30 minutes service)...it won't kill me.

You've waivered in your own belief

Riele:


They won't see this one to tag him bitter .

But if it's a lady , you'll see them crawling out of their hole to tag her bitter feminist .

Madam abeg ehn, shey u nd guys get any qualms? I've been observing u, always against guys like say one of us done use ur heart play 5 odd. Chill ok mk u for enjoy us!

Question: Guys, at what age will you tie the knot?

Me: Only God knows



Money is Gold

eni4real:
Does it worth it??
I like that age gap.. provided that maturity and respect are consistent in the marriage!!!

Yes it's worth it. You have to deal with some immaturities but that due to inexperience with marriage. She eventually got it and we are fine. It's our second year now and I still feel it's the best decision of my life.

mrchineke:


Marrying from a poor family get serious consequences. That money should have been spent on your own self improvement, a business or your financial advancement.

Lol her Family Ain't poor, l have my principles, l had to contribute to her physical and mental development that's what been a man is all about, that's what love is all about even if she was dangote's daughter l'll still play my role as a man her family respect's me and she love's and respects me too that just enough for me.

Saintly01:

I am happy for you, your girlfriend has graduated, less worries, especially financial issues. Mine still has a full year to stay in school, I contribute financially, but my biggest cause for worry is Loyalty, I can never be too sure of what she is doing in school. Every action of hers spikes suspicion. I am fed up of this "Monitoring Spirit" kind of lifestyle. When she posts a picture with another guy, Even if there is nothing going on between them, I get all worked up. I am that jealous, this is exactly the cause of our quarrel this evening. This whole thing is driving me nuts.

Bro, the issue of loyalty and trust will always come up.
Who told you there's "nothing" going on Trust at your own peril!

Never be too trusting and put your foot down that you don't want her taking pictures with every Tom Deek and Harry and worse putting it in Social media. People will say there is nothing bad, but there is EVERYTHING bad with it, and that act enough unsettles you. Trust your guts!

Also, please, STOP those financial contributions, that's the bitter truth. She has her parent to cater for those needs, else...

Start sending that contributions to your own siblings and parent or channel it towards your investments.

Checkout some threads made by these two users: Rapmoney and Boss13. They capture what you're currently going through.

UyaiIncomparabl:
25.

let's mingle. am 24

Dumb Azz Question!!

IneedOT:
I married at age 24 and I have never regretted it

Comments like this give me hope