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Re: How Do You Deal With A Woman Like This? by LadySarah: 10:54am On Dec 20, 2019
grossintel:
Then maybe the once that are not like that are pretending. I say this because I know she's 100% real at this point, she's past that pretending stage. She doesn't know we're not yet married and her real attitude scares me, I'm not thinking of breaking up with her, I'm just trying to understand if I'm alone or is this something I have to live with when we're married. From most comment here, this is just the beginning and it's only going to get worse.

Swap the tvs and use the guestroom.You stil have freedom.
Its initial gra gra you are doing.My husband was like you.He will never believe not watching tv for months while his games are collecting dust because of our boys.
My husband told me then he always knows i came around when he sees bits of ugu grin grin.I'm a sucker for veggies and fruits and always stocked the fridge with it.I'd then remove the fizzy drinks,alcohols and hide or dash the gateman.He loves junks and drinks.
I only wanted him to eat healthy but he felt i was stifling him.It caused so much quarells cos i refused to budge.
But Today,story has changed and when we remember it we laff over it.

You can watch her or teach her to play your own.Its a way to bond.

She is frugal since she has savings.Dont put ur mind there.Its important for rainy days.

Nobody is perfectoo.Communication is all theres to it.All these ppl telling you to send her away doesnt understand life yet.

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Re: How Do You Deal With A Woman Like This? by ojonugba2014(m): 11:04am On Dec 20, 2019
if u mistakenly marry thz lady,it wl end in tearz 4 u,a word is enough 4 wise
Re: How Do You Deal With A Woman Like This? by REDLORD1: 11:14am On Dec 20, 2019
Cossybob:
Just like a comment reads "The best solution now is for you to start being a bad boy. Let your yes be yes and your no be no.
She will surely realise that you are not a coward"

And my guy, start placing your opinion on the table with hers and if she doesn't agree then just know marriage is a No no
MODIFIED
Brotherly...
bloodline

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Re: How Do You Deal With A Woman Like This? by REDLORD1: 11:18am On Dec 20, 2019
LadySarah:


Swap the tvs and use the guestroom.You stil have freedom.
Its initial gra gra you are doing.My husband was like you.He will never believe not watching tv for months while his games are collecting dust because of our boys.
My husband told me then he always knows i came around when he sees bits of ugu grin grin.I'm a sucker for veggies and fruits and always stocked the fridge with it.I'd then remove the fizzy drinks,alcohols and hide or dash the gateman.He loves junks and drinks.
I only wanted him to eat healthy but he felt i was stifling him.It caused so much quarells cos i refused to budge.
But Today,story has changed and when we remember it we laff over it.

You can watch her or teach her to play your own.Its a way to bond.

She is frugal since she has savings.Dont put ur mind there.Its important for rainy days
You want him to start living like a stranger in his own house? Is'nt that slavery.

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Re: How Do You Deal With A Woman Like This? by Starboytwo(m): 12:30pm On Dec 20, 2019
I'm enjoyning the show
Re: How Do You Deal With A Woman Like This? by ikechukwu21(m): 1:32pm On Dec 20, 2019
grossintel:
I have something paining me so much, and for this reason, I'm seriously reconsidering settling down. My girlfriend and I have been together for a while, and even though we plan to get married soon I always see reasons to hold on. Marriage is not something you really rush into, honestly, it might look good on the outside but inside it's something else.

She used to be a student and come visiting once in a while but now she's done with school and has been around for a month. This is the longest time we've ever seen since we started dating and now I'm getting the vibe of what it feels like living with a woman. In fact it's better she's away and we see like we used to.
There are so many things I can't do anymore, simply because she's here. I can't play my ps4 in the sitting room anymore, as soon as I have the time and decide to, she's already there watching Telemundo or some other channel I can't relate to. When you tell her to switch to something we both have interest in she'll nag about how I don't want her to have a good time. When I insist I want to play games or watch something else she'll just leave the sitting room and enter the room and lock herself.

I had a talk with her, and she suggested I move the ps4 to the guest room, I have a 32 inch TV there, and a 60 inch 4k UHD in the well-furnished sitting room. I just looked at her as she said this while sipping Fresh Yogo with a wide smile. How can I live like a church rat inside my house? I can't keep something and it will still be there when I return. I can't eat what I want, it has to be what she wants or she'll cook it anyhow and give me.

She said we need 30k for feeding, no problem as long as we eat well. But when she go market and come back, I was looking for money one day and asked her if she had, she asked me to check her purse and I saw 1k everywhere. When I asked her she said it's her savings.

I'm here because these whole thing is paining me, if it's like this, then imagine how it will be when married forever. I spoke to a friend about it, and he said I'm too soft on her, that if I tell her something and she refuses then I should hit her. That's a no-no for me, I can't do that instead I ask her to leave. Please married people, how do you deal with women? It's driving me completely nuts.
When they tell you guys to date matured women una no go gree. You're looking for a toddler with a matured person's mind. Don't expect a girl of 19 or 20 to act like a woman of 25-30. You better no kill yourself before your time.
Re: How Do You Deal With A Woman Like This? by cybriz82(m): 1:42pm On Dec 20, 2019
Homers123:
The next commentor will say something tangible to you.


Lolz abi oooo.60nch tv 32inch tv ps4 sitting room guest room bla bla bla bla..venza nko Jacuzzi nko Swiming pool nko
Re: How Do You Deal With A Woman Like This? by Mbcastrol(m): 2:16pm On Dec 20, 2019
Mehn the comments here made my day, oga there's nothing with u and ur girl. You need to communicate more and be patience with her, most ladies are like that.

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Re: How Do You Deal With A Woman Like This? by sonofanarchy(m): 2:21pm On Dec 20, 2019
I don't even know what to advice you..me wey never advice myself

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Re: How Do You Deal With A Woman Like This? by sinaj(f): 2:34pm On Dec 20, 2019
LadySarah:


Nawa to you.How is she mad biko?

If he develops interest in hers then maybe she will develop interest in his.
when kids come its even the worst.
I spoke to a friend about it, and he said I'm too soft on her, that if I tell her something and she refuses then I should hit her
Re: How Do You Deal With A Woman Like This? by yhunghestboss(m): 2:36pm On Dec 20, 2019
this guy is just telling us about his girlfriend's bad sides and not saying anything about her good sides or him having any faults from his sides, am sure the lady In question has reasons and care about you from your comments.. I just feel you guys don't have this mutual understanding and your communication skills is bad... you have made us know you love and care about this lady, if what you say is true, then don't give up on her and work on your relationship

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Re: How Do You Deal With A Woman Like This? by IamPlato(m): 2:46pm On Dec 20, 2019
Was It Important You Tell Us The Size And Advancement of Your Tv? Take Your Lies Somewhere Else
Re: How Do You Deal With A Woman Like This? by vicben27(m): 3:26pm On Dec 20, 2019
grossintel:
I have something paining me so much, and for this reason, I'm seriously reconsidering settling down. My girlfriend and I have been together for a while, and even though we plan to get married soon I always see reasons to hold on. Marriage is not something you really rush into, honestly, it might look good on the outside but inside it's something else.

She used to be a student and come visiting once in a while but now she's done with school and has been around for a month. This is the longest time we've ever seen since we started dating and now I'm getting the vibe of what it feels like living with a woman. In fact it's better she's away and we see like we used to.
There are so many things I can't do anymore, simply because she's here. I can't play my ps4 in the sitting room anymore, as soon as I have the time and decide to, she's already there watching Telemundo or some other channel I can't relate to. When you tell her to switch to something we both have interest in she'll nag about how I don't want her to have a good time. When I insist I want to play games or watch something else she'll just leave the sitting room and enter the room and lock herself.

I had a talk with her, and she suggested I move the ps4 to the guest room, I have a 32 inch TV there, and a 60 inch 4k UHD in the well-furnished sitting room. I just looked at her as she said this while sipping Fresh Yogo with a wide smile. How can I live like a church rat inside my house? I can't keep something and it will still be there when I return. I can't eat what I want, it has to be what she wants or she'll cook it anyhow and give me.

She said we need 30k for feeding, no problem as long as we eat well. But when she go market and come back, I was looking for money one day and asked her if she had, she asked me to check her purse and I saw 1k everywhere. When I asked her she said it's her savings.

I'm here because these whole thing is paining me, if it's like this, then imagine how it will be when married forever. I spoke to a friend about it, and he said I'm too soft on her, that if I tell her something and she refuses then I should hit her. That's a no-no for me, I can't do that instead I ask her to leave. Please married people, how do you deal with women? It's driving me completely nuts.
That's often the problem with long distance relationship, you spend two weeks together you start noticing some qualities you don't like about your spouse, you just need to set it straight, let her know your not Ok, with what Ever ur not Ok with, you also need to be tolerant to some extent too. if shez willing to spend the rest of her life with you, she will adjust. please ignore stupid friends telling to lay ur hands on her, that wont s olve anything, she should be willing to respect you too. just talk things through all will be fine. l've been there.

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Re: How Do You Deal With A Woman Like This? by izaray(f): 3:32pm On Dec 20, 2019
grossintel:
I can relate, at this point what do you do? The only thing I'm thinking about now is 7th January. I'm not even concerned about laying her, it's been weeks I was even in that mood. With what I'm going through here, sex is the 99th thing on my mind. Make she dey her papa house let me think this through, ave heard people say love fades when you're married you'll see the true human in your partner. I care about her oh, provide for her and take care of the ones I can. But these new adjustments is not something I can't deal with at all. I can't even go out and come home in peace without someone crying, my guys can't come here and pass just a night. I have to discuss every decision I take with her. I buy something I like, problem! why didn't you tell me?
Honestly I can't deal, when she goes I'll sit down and think this well.
Hahaha..Someone is not ready for marriage yet. But that your woman is too mean jor, na this kind of wifey characters the make some men prefer to hang around peer parlour with friends till late hours, instead of rushing home to stay with their lovely families. You need to have a serious talk with her!

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Re: How Do You Deal With A Woman Like This? by seanwilliam(m): 3:51pm On Dec 20, 2019
shortgun:
Welcome to the world grin grin
That's how almost all the women are, like someone pointed out if u want to have a happy home, u have to sacrifice alot....I mean alot.
Don't think she will change no matter what u do.
Thank God u already know how it feels to live with a woman...it's left for you now to know if you have the patience and endurance to tolerate whatever she throws at you.
Don't think it will stop on the ones you are seeing now.
Time will come when she will not even cook for you, lay you or talk to you with respect.
Time will come when the only purpose you will serve in her life will be to provide money for her well-being, her children and relatives.



oh no
Re: How Do You Deal With A Woman Like This? by excessmon(m): 4:01pm On Dec 20, 2019
Letter to the op
Dear op,
Compliment of the season to you,how are you and the well furnished apartment of yours?

My main purpose of writing you this letter is to tell you that your letter reeks of bragging and pride with keywords like 40 inches TV,32 inches in he guest room,fresh yogo,30k for feeding etc...all these are not necessary

Moreover,how old are you? You sound like a condemned overgrown bachelor. In most proper houses games is played in the spare room coa it last for a short period of time..

In conclusion try to discuss issues with ur woman as a real man and stop coming here to ask advice fro. Boys still collecting most things from the house and living off their parents.enjoy being a man full of responsibility......


Yours faithfully
Excessmon
Re: How Do You Deal With A Woman Like This? by Nobody: 4:14pm On Dec 20, 2019
ikechukwu21:

When they tell you guys to date matured women una no go gree. You're looking for a toddler with a matured person's mind. Don't expect a girl of 19 or 20 to act like a woman of 25-30. You better no kill yourself before your time.
She'll be 25 next month. So would that now make her mature
Re: How Do You Deal With A Woman Like This? by Xmen149(m): 4:15pm On Dec 20, 2019
ericlove4all:
All women are like that. As a man you will have to sacrifice alot. When you start having children it will be worse. Imagine when you are about watching champions league final live and your little daughter insists on watching 'Hey Dudgee' on Ceebies in the sitting room!!!

You have to start loving to live like that. That's what it takes to be a responsible father and husband.

I dnt support this,.kids yes..wife big no

we must share,.if I let you watch your program on a particular channel once the program is over we move to mine..and as I follow you watch am on pretence to bond you must watch mine with me oh
Re: How Do You Deal With A Woman Like This? by nappy760(m): 4:17pm On Dec 20, 2019
Fact is what girls dont get the chance to do in their father's houses, the slightest opportunities they get to do it..They jump on it and do grin grin
I am very sure if she was in her dad's house she no go fit the press remote they watch telemundo upandan.
Re: How Do You Deal With A Woman Like This? by nappy760(m): 4:19pm On Dec 20, 2019
grossintel:
She'll be 25 next month. So would that now make her mature

Age and maturity are not always directly proportional... grin

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Re: How Do You Deal With A Woman Like This? by MizzPhoney(f): 4:26pm On Dec 20, 2019
grossintel:
Her good side surely outweighs her bad side and that's why we're still together.

This my dear should give you a reason to fight for her. I'll use my parents as example, mum didn't like wrestling but Dad did, we watched as Dad gradually taught mum to love it. It became a whole family tradition, we watch wrestling and Telemondo for mum, Dad also watches Telemondo. I guess it's now time for you to do the talking. I must tell you she is acting like a child, but it's because she feels safe with you. So start making progress, love her shows, ask her questions about them when watching and let her watch your shows with you, tell her the names of the players etc. You'll be surprised how everything will fall into place.
All the best dear.

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Re: How Do You Deal With A Woman Like This? by Nobody: 4:55pm On Dec 20, 2019
The house belongs to the woman along with everything in it; you are only a night guest there. The sooner you get that into your skull, the lower your bp.

Marry her. She seems ok when it comes to the finances aspect which are very important. And the fact that she did not mind your checking her bag gives her bonus points in my view.

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Re: How Do You Deal With A Woman Like This? by ikechukwu21(m): 5:09pm On Dec 20, 2019
grossintel:
She'll be 25 next month. So would that now make her mature
My brother it is expected that at 25 she suppose don wise. Please if she's not improving let her go. Because from what you said she seems to me like someone who is manipulative. Please if it has to do with the TV and all those other small stuffs you mentioned no wahala. But if it goes deeper than that let her go. Don't manage what you cannot tolerate. See... most women do not work on themselves they will strongly believe that if a man truly loves them he will take them the way they are and you know that that is absolute nonsense. If there are things you've warned her about and she's not willing to adhere to, it will only get worse in future. Please do well to know what you can tolerate and what you can't.

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Re: How Do You Deal With A Woman Like This? by karniff: 5:23pm On Dec 20, 2019
You must let her know mutual respect, sacrifice and communicate is both ways.

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