emu22:










Well,it's your opinion and we have to respect that but i think I have a different opinion,just yesterday I was talking to my wife about this same issue you are talking about,I didn't marry her just because of love,like you rightly said what happens when the love is no longer there!I told her I married her because we are compatible and have a perfect understanding of one another,that compatibility and understanding can only grow stronger and better with time.So to me, marriage is not a bondage if only you are matured enough to understand what it takes to be married.Thank you.

Nice comment. From your marriage experience, what understanding does one need to know what it takes to be married?

saasala:
Now 32, will be 33 in few months.

The only thing holding me: No woman to marry.

Every woman who is close to what I want is marred by her religious beliefs. Once I tell them I am non religious or a deist, they zoom off.

Do we have free thinking ladies in this part of the world?

we do, but would they like you if they meet you?

Bleiz:


I have always prayed for someone like you. Can I DM you?

....I don't want to be in any rlship for now

Kirinwa:


It goes beyond feeding two mouths o, be advised.

If you're not ready to run, don't choose football as a carrier. Anyone that is not ready for what comes with marriage wouldn't jump into it.

nattty:
Maybe he's 38+

Exactly

soleexx:


U must be born in may

I never see wife yet

saasala:


I have decided to adopt that tactics too. If she complains too much I will go to church, then slowly drum my ideas into her ears.

you are inviting trouble into your house. There are lots of girls who don't care about church. Maybe you are searching the wrong places

Ryocaj:
We ain't getting married anymore.. Whores everywhere.. baby mama tinz.. according 2 my own case study. 85% of d marriages dating back to 2010 av all crashed.. 75% of d crashed marriages were due to infidelity.. Just get a girl 2 birth ur child n train d child with all u got.. love, money, care, name it....

where you get this yeye figures

IneedOT:
I married at age 24 and I have never regretted it

Crummy:
we do, but would they like you if they meet you?

I'm not religious too, but I'm taken.

slapacha:


I have been following your comments here

Your comments so far are incoherent and it’s obvious that you’re dumb. You just want to contribute on the topic At all cost. It’s better you mopped at the thread than to display folly.

No sense in what you’ve posted so far

You've been acknowledged...Just Stop following my comments pls...I never said I was a marriage counselor or something...Pls never take me seriously ohh before u die of confusion.

Would have married some few years back but the lady I intend to get married to bleeped with my heart big time. Made up my mind never to get married ever and nothing will ever change that.
I have a son already ,
Will be 30 next year tho.

niaralandtopuser:
where you get this yeye figures

u no sabi read? U no c case study for there.. my population na Lagos..

Ryocaj:
u no sabi read? U no c case study for there.. my population na Lagos..

How many people in Lagos got married between 2010 to 2019 Mr case study?

Am 30 now and i never even thought of marriage, I have plenty Sweet girls, My moma is on my neck right now

futurerex:



If you're not ready to run, don't choose football as a carrier. Anyone that is not ready for what comes with marriage wouldn't jump into it.

Then you shouldn't have added if you can feed two mouths.

I wanted to but the my pocket is telling on me.

Godsonjolly:
If I may ask, why are people choosing 35yrs. Will ur gfs wait till then or what. Why not 27-30

You know how old them b now? Dem fit be 30 already o

Hillchild88:
You know how old them b now? Dem fit be 30 already o

Lol. True oo

33 maybe.....

Home

omokoginimi:
where you?

I'm already 28 and just getting into a relationship, but I have plans for 30.

ladyGKilaBCrueD:
Home

you for dey church na. Shiooor

Why do I enjoy being single?

Kirinwa:

Then you shouldn't have added if you can feed two mouths.

Whatever

MrBrownJay1:
NEVER WILL.... there is nothing valuable that marriage can bring to my life. you certainly dont need to be married to "live happily ever after".

Lol and this guy got 369 likes for this ..

Omoluabi9:
Nice comment. From your marriage experience, what understanding does one need to know what it takes to be married?

Patience and tolerance brings understanding.its my own opinion and it's working for me.

emu22:
Well,it's your opinion and we have to respect that but i think I have a different opinion,just yesterday I was talking to my wife about this same issue you are talking about,I didn't marry her just because of love,like you rightly said what happens when the love is no longer there!I told her I married her because we are compatible and have a perfect understanding of one another,that compatibility and understanding can only grow stronger and better with time.So to me, marriage is not a bondage if only you are matured enough to understand what it takes to be married.Thank you.

i fully agree with the above you wrote, i certainly aint mature enough to stay with someone that i dont love any longer; i am not mature enough to pretend to still be attracted to a woman that does not tickle my fancy any longer; i am not mature enough to NOT tell my woman that she is aint attractive (to me) any longer; i am not mature enough to stay and be miserable with someone, just because we have kids together; i am not mature enough to have my kids looking at my miserable self and feel pity for me while me and mama become bitter individuals; i will always be true to myself 1st and foremost. i cannot pretend to be happy with someone when i aint. NO CANT DO!

i believe there is a big difference between understanding and settling for less than what was the basis of our union.

zimdante:
When you grow old , you are goin to need someone that will love and take care of you.

bro ...come on, A) you dont need to be married to have someone by your side that loves you.... and if you care love and cherish her properly, you guys will grow happily ever after unmarried.... and B) getting a woman today is just as easy as picking sand from the beach (whether you are 18yrs old, 30yrs old or 80 yrs old.... so the reality is that, why get married and stuck in bondage when (at 80yrs old) i could still get some Regina babe (aka as young as my future great great grand children) to lick my nyansh every time i go to shiit? lets be realistic here!

i know a wrinkled potbelly hideous dude in his 60s that went to Nigeria to look for a wife, and there was so many women fighting over this dude to marry (some in their 30s) that this guy could have brought back 2 wives from Nigeria, if his pension wasnt just €2.5K.

Ladycewhy:
i hope you are not a baby daddy sha. marriage is indeed not for everyone,it takes alot of work at every turn ,it takes alot of persistence ,it takes alot of adaptation heck its not easy living with someone else with a different upbringing ,beliefs from yours, It takes alot of maturity to put up with the flaws of another person , it takes alot of strength to keep going when the fire in that marriage has burned out and all that is left is just chaff feelings and lastly it take alot of determination to rekindle that dead flame and rejuvenate dead feelings towards your partner

as a father of 6, i dont see how the above got anything to do with being a good father/mother?! you can still be a babydaddy/babymama and give all the necessary care/love/affection/values/upbringing AND emotional/physical/financial support needed by any children. marriage got nothing to do with having children.

You are not wrong with your opinion like they say "perception is key" ,however what i don't like is when they decide to pollute the earth with their bastard seeds.litering the earth with their seeds and unsettling the flow of the family system.Please dont bring a child into this world with this mentality of yours,just live alone and die alone so other individuals don't get affected with your anti-marriage decision.

you are entitled to your opinion, and so long as you do you and i do me, all is great. i will never try to force people with your mindset to llive my life, and i certainly wouldnt want to live yours. to each their own.... but stop fooling yourself about that "flow of family system" in your head... since biblical time, it has been well documented that many have been having babymamas.

Microwhy:

Guy ! I go slap you oooo
Stop the fantasies and face reality.
You think you're brave but in the actual sense you're a coward and a lazy dude who don't want to be bug by responsibilities.

how does not being married but living and having kids with babymama any different than married people....what responsibilities am i failing exactly?!?

The more you get older, the more you loose your friends. Also the more you get older the less you can make new friends. Your wife and children are your number one friends for life.

so if i am not married to babymama as i grow old, she cannot be my friend any longer?!
if i am not married to babymama, as i grow old, my kids aint my kids any longer?

Mr Guy, I bet you're yet to meet a good girl.
Lower your class, your taste and pick a nice girl for yourself then work the journey of happiness together.

what makes you think i am single... in fact, what makes you think i have NOT been on the journey of happiness since forever?!?

Marriage is very interesting and sweet if you choose the right partner. Marry a pretty girl cos the more you see your cute looking children, the more you will love their mom.

again, if/when you tell me what more married people get that i dont get living with a woman unmarried, then we can get this discussion on the way.
NONE of you people have told me what married people get that people living together unmarried dont have.

Lastly money matters a lot in marriage so stop wasting it away on olosho or babymama and plan for a happy family.

are you saying that spending money on my children OR their mothers is a waste of money, really?!?!?!
are you saying that if i am not married, i cannot have a happy family?!?

Modified; Before I forget, Religion, Heaven and Hell are real so stop been ITK.
Try reading books about Islam and I believe you would be interested.

religion is a pile of rubbish... and Muslims are the biggest hypocrites out of all this ignorant religious lot. Xtians would actually read verses looking down on sex before marriage in their holybook, while that same book is full of highly respected men who were having babymamas (aka Abraham, King David, king Solomon etc).... while muslim holybook would talk against such but these same Muslims would hide to do all the most disgusting thing on the face of this earth (who do you think shiit in our sistas mouth in Dubai?!) abeg , dont even bring religion to this issue. its a lost cause for you!

samorobo:
Lol and this guy got 369 likes for this ..

i guess my views are not that crazy afterall...

meetmeonline:
.One speaker at an event said people say this and go behind and masturbate, I (do) hope you will not be in that category...there are a lot of agreed marriage contracts these days, choose the one you like, you may even agree not to be living together with her ie, "girlfriend for life" some women will accept that.

what makes you think that not wanting to get married means being alone?!?!?!

so out of ALL these agreed marriages contracts you are willing to accept, living happily ever after with someone unmarried is wrong?! how exactly?!

CsRockefeller:
I said 27 and seems the stars are already aligning for me, if it doesn't happen next year, then definitely 2021 when I'm 28.



Quick question guys.

Between a lady within the ages of 24 to 26 not employed and a young girl of 20 in school, which is best suited for a guy of 27 to plan his life with?

Let's assume the factors of character and love is positive.

A lady between 24 to 26 is matured to some extent.... Many at that age bracket have seen a lot of things, and they know what they want. For me, I believe at that age they are 80% ready. Even if they are not employed now, does it mean they won't be employed tomorrow? And you can even set up a business for them if you have the financial capability.
A lady of 20 in school? Bro that is not a good option... She is still in a age of exploration, she wants to go out and enjoy life. At that age they don't want anyone to restrict them... And you know stories about ladies in school too. What of the finances you will spend on her (even if she has sponsors, at all at all na winch o). And what if she dumps your ass after graduating?

NB: My opinions though

Ebonygirl1:

I share this same belief...but then I start thinking; what if heaven and hell are real and I'm just sinning my way to hell by not making it official

So I say to those who aren’t married and to widows—it’s better to stay unmarried, just as I am.

But if they can't control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust.-- 1 Corinthians 7:8-9

CsRockefeller:
I said 27 and seems the stars are already aligning for me, if it doesn't happen next year, then definitely 2021 when I'm 28.



Quick question guys.

Between a lady within the ages of 24 to 26 not employed and a young girl of 20 in school, which is best suited for a guy of 27 to plan his life with?

Let's assume the factors of character and love is positive.

A girl of 24-26 is better, there is no guarantee u will end up with that student.

seunmohmoh:
Will you marry me?

Are you lesbian ?