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So sorry about your predicament m

I feel bad for you already my Dear sister. God will see you through

I think you guys need to be separated for a while. Guess this your husband has multiple partners so he does not value you at all. OP, don't allow your parents to hold you down. Your husband is a monster. This is really scary.

There's is a thread for pregnant women in health section, please follow it, it will do you a lot of good.

Then to your marriage, you have entered a funny one, you have to grow thrice the pace you ordinarily would now. As it is you don't have the support of your family or husband's. It means you have to invest in building a support system for your self and child otherwise you will always remain down . Your biggest problem seem to be your husband flirty ways, that now should not be your problem anymore because the only way you know around it causes you heartache, drop the problem fast, take on your personal ones that we give you progress when you solve them, I mean change your approach because your old one is not working. Spend your energy on ways to ensure safe delivery, get a source of livelihood so that when you want to take a step forward nobody will remind you of your waste of education or that you need their money or help to live.

If you had money you wouldn't have wasted that time you did on your first pregnancy because you know your husband better than me that he wouldn't move you to hospital for any reason. If you are using your time to make or think of how to make money for your self, you won't notice when he video chat exes. Your attention now should be how can you legitimately help yourself since no one wants to.

Your mother is the most selfish woman I have ever seen. Even with the insult from her in-law, she prefares you die there. You have your fault, you know the man you married yet you keep telling him about all your secrets, good for you. I will only advice you as a mother and and a married woman, leave that environment for now, go and deliver. Be sure you are sound with your baby before thinking about marriage. You people keep resigning your jobs because of husband, shame on you. Nwa anambra daalu iberibe, ime pere Anya na mmiri, ncha ana aba gi na anya. Ginidi ka ina ko, maka amu? oduduno gi ika la inalu the ego wa, ka idono na aza ezigbo Nwunye. Jisike. Negodu asa garakwukwo, oburu ike mbe ka iburu owegi ga kwuru. idi sure Na ibu nwa anambra? Ifuro Ndi isi zuru ezu, iwe ka noro na ebeahu na akoije uwa gi. Nne Biko kunie na ula, asingi manite Kita, jiri ire gi gua Eze gi.

GHoJes:
There's is a thread for pregnant women in health section, please follow it, it will do you a lot of good.

Then to your marriage, you have entered a funny one, you have to grow thrice the pace you ordinarily would now. As it is you don't have the support of your family or husband's. It means you have to invest in building a support system for your self and child otherwise you will always remain down . Your biggest problem seem to be your husband flirty ways, that now should not be your problem anymore because the only way you know around it causes you heartache, drop the problem fast, take on your personal ones that we give you progress when you solve them, I mean change your approach because your old one is not working. Spend your energy on ways to ensure safe delivery, get a source of livelihood so that when you want to take a step forward nobody will remind you of your waste of education or that you need their money or help to live.

If you had money you wouldn't have wasted that time you did on your first pregnancy because you know your husband better than me that he wouldn't move you to hospital for any reason. If you are using your time to make or think of how to make money for your self, you won't notice when he video chat exes. Your attention now should be how can you legitimately help yourself since no one wants to.

Thank you. I thought of picking up my CV today but I remembered my job hunting experience the last time I was pregnant and how I was rejected coupled with the fake interviews everywhere... It wasn't funny at all. Nobody wants to employ a pregnant woman and husband wants this baby to stay... Says I shouldn't stress myself.
But if I should get a job now I am taking it

Houseofglam7:
Age has nothing to do with maturity darling.
Be strong.

Seems she does not know this.

Ishilove, come and read, please... Some men are plain demonic.

Graxie:
Your mother is the most selfish woman I have ever seen. Even with the insult from her in-law, she prefares you die there. You have your fault, you know the man you married yet you keep telling him about all your secrets, good for you. I will only advice you as a mother and and a married woman, leave that environment for now, go and deliver. Be sure you are sound with your baby before thinking about marriage. You people keep resigning your jobs because of husband, shame on you. Nwa anambra daalu iberibe, ime pere Anya na mmiri, ncha ana aba gi na anya. Ginidi ka ina ko, maka amu? oduduno gi ika la inalu the ego wa, ka idono na aza ezigbo Nwunye. Jisike. Negodu asa garakwukwo, oburu ike mbe ka iburu owegi ga kwuru. idi sure Na ibu nwa anambra? Ifuro Ndi isi zuru ezu, iwe ka noro na ebeahu na akoije uwa gi. Nne Biko kunie na ula, asingi manite Kita, jiri ire gi gua Eze gi.

I agree Nne... I am carrying my cross now

Lord pls no carry stress and headache give me in d name of marriage o.

Sorry about what you are going through! obviously from the unset your husband wasn't ready for the "married life". No be plug and play - its serious, deliberate, conscious hard work.
Kindly, contact yaba psychiatric hospital, there is a specialist female Dr/therapist who deals on family issue. Do contact her, before things go a-wire.
She has been in my office severally for ted talks, she is good.

Aust0x:
Sorry about what you are going through! obviously from the unset your husband wasn't ready for the "married life". No be plug and play - its serious, deliberate, conscious hard work.
Kindly, contact yaba psychiatric hospital, there is a specialist female Dr/therapist who deals on family issue. Do contact her, before things go a-wire.
She has been in my office severally for ted talks, she is good.

Thanks. Please can I get her number ?

Ma, it saddening you find yourself in such marital tumble.

First, I'm not here to point accusing fingers to any family members guilty or not.

All I advice is your mental safety in a depressing marriage. It not good enough being a pregnant woman and facing tough plights than you can handle.

I beg you in the name of the most high. Pls, if it is to much for you to handle, stay away from that home. I don't advice divorce, but you need to be mentally balance and safe.

Your safety is a priority, I can't imagine a person you call a bone of your own, making you pass through unnecessary problems.

In addition, It appearant the love is sour.

Really saddening that a union that is supposed to bring companionship and subsequent love is being turned inside out...

My advise as follows

1) you need to avoid/minimize things that would trigger your husband(arguments, facebook posts etc) for your health and baby's sake.

2) keep your wits around you and start to network.. you read mass comm, do you guys have an association you can join and contribute?
You can also join a group in your local church and be very active

3) avoid discussing your marital woes with people, except maybe with a counsellor or a pastor, any other person might compound with wrong advise

4) you need to plan to get a job once u give birth and wean your baby.

5) all the above is designed to give you room to achieve some bit of financial independence

Once u achieve a bit of point 5 and he still misbehaves, u need to try separation for the time being, your life is more important!

silentEXPLOSION:
stay strong

send your account number let me give you something

God bless you

Most Nigerian marriages are built on wrong foundation. Man and woman not compatible and always getting married for the wrong reason, we need to evaluate the way we do things in this country.

How can a man tell his wife that she’s smelling? Op your husband is a very local man with old omata ideologies, he doesn’t even see having a car as a necessity

The two families needs to sit together and have a heart to heart talk, there’s no happiness in this marriage, nobody deserves to live this way.

And some are here attributing husbands attitude to ethnicity!!! Mtchww!

I swear down, only a 15year old boy behaves this way IF WAT U PUT UP THERE IS REALLY HOW THINGS ARE PANNING OUT


U MARRIED A BOY AND NOT A MAN.




BTW, sheybi this people always says igbo do take a very good care of their wives, why is his different??

Na wa ooo.

not interested in where you met but the truth is that your husband is not fit to be married he is still psychologically and emotionally immature I am sorry if it sounds insulting but that's the truth you need to call your parents together and sit them down then ask them which one do they prefer your death or been alive. I know what their response will be then tell them you need to take a break cos this could potentially claim your life cos in the event I don't pray it end up so infact I rebuke it in Jesus name if what happened to the first baby happen again it becomes an Express way into serious depression which will not end well so explain to them and stay with your mom please don't go to his mother stay with your mom and after the safe delivery of your baby the family needs to sit down and discuss at length it is well with you and your family

It isnt everything you tell your husband - Some men keep it as a weapon to be used on you later, limit the way you talk to him. Also try to be SUBMISSIVE (he said you smell and you said he smells too?) that is enough fuel to keep the fire burning. Whether he is right or not, just accept his corrections. Let him have no doubt regarding his headship - cos its like you are dragging it with him. For d facebook stuff, stop giving him attention - he is just doing it to spite you. Good luck on childbirth and have other plans in place. Dont rely on him.