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Get thine self some Cojones man before she drag you in the Canal of Shame.

Op from the write up , you're already tired of her Liability ass ,focus on your hustle and dreams. You got a whole lot of Ambitions to acheive ,free her you'll be happy you did .To Fly high you need to drop off lots of loads.

Dear op,saving 4 your future should be your utmost priority 4 now..i'm speaking from experience.trust me,a responsible gf would even advice you to trim your expenditures and plan on how to brighten the future together with you...but be rest assure oga,that if you fail to plan well today,shebi you dey see that bros 4 your area wey get four legs,na him go kpakpa your gf lax lax.

Bone that girl, focus on yourself.

Just because you ignored her for one day?

U are just useless to d make folks

caesarsconcept:
There's nothing more disgusting than a man in love.
The truth is that no matter how real it looks like no woman I repeat no woman loves a man. People change when they meet new people. My guy focus on your future. Love no dey pay Bill's

I know girls are wicked wan it comes to love but dere are still good girls who will give u a true love.

Even till now, I am supposed to send her some money but will I continue like this?





I always laugh at these Guys spending on some Girls.

Anyway, do whatever makes you happy oh.

Love is understanding.... it takes two to tangle. Instead of running to the next girl who may be worst... try talking to your girlfriend telling her what her flaws are as well as praising her for her good sides then observe for change... Every relationship involves spending though not unnecessarily... all is well

Bros you’re thinking too far the babe is just using you to catch trips not that she doesn’t love you.. shebi just now you came back from Lagos trip.. a random guy just appeared like that...ogbeni use your head, she loves you.

JustMe407

Your girl isn't a visionary. She will just tag along as long as you love. She's the kind of girl you pamper, buy things and make happy. She'll probably stay with you if you have nothing

She just wants attention, probably loads of it. If you're okay with that, stay. If you want more, then perhaps find someone else.

The best advice I'll give you is that you should give yourself some space from her. She's the needy time and may keep eating into your finances. Be tough with your spending. Buying titbits here and there can eat into your capital easily. Note she will consider your wanting more space as calling it quits with her. You will simply think you're seeing someone else or worse, she will feel she isn't good enough for you. She does not feel she's intrusive in any way.

When you think you can afford to bring her back, do so. You need to reach a middle ground. It is the best for both parties in a marriage to be obsessed about making money. You start neglecting the things that really matter. One person if possible should focus on bringing the bacon home.

. You too should not be tied to your business. Have quality time for your wife and children.

HRHQueenPhil:
how old are u?
i ask cos if both of u are in love, then put a ring on it
that will help her feel more secure...
more money spending, dosent she work?

Jesus Christ. Worse advice In the history of advice. Put a ring on what? Somebody chatting, probably fvcking another guy? This boy is young and u want him to throw his life away. Instead of making money and meeting more quality women. This girl can not even pay her bills. This girl is a drag down, she will only destroy the guys life. Which kind put ring on it. Scam girls again

jakandeola:
I know girls are wicked wan it comes to love but dere are still good girls who will give u a true love.

if you still believe on that crap good luck bro. One question I always ask myself is WHEN I WAS BROKE WHO WAS THERE. NOBODY.

JustMe407:
Dear nairalanders, I need you honest advice on what to do. I am still a young man and any mistake now will have a grave effect on my future. So please, help a brother.

Be objective and consise please. It is a long narrative.

I have a girlfriend whom I have been dating for up to 10 months now. She has all the qualities of wife, friend and a partner. I mean, she prays for me, supports me and do many things that places her above average.

I've two issues that are bugging me;

First is, I just graduated from the University and started to follow the road map I designed for my life. I am hardworking, so I started doing business immediately after my defense. Interstate exports of perishables. While I was in school, I made a lot of money doing designs for students; I am a UI/UX designer. The problem here is that I can't account for all those monies I made. A lot of expenses especially for my girlfriend. Even till now, I am supposed to send her some money but will I continue like this? I need stability in my business and need to save more and need capital for the last mile logistics company I want to set up next year.

Second issue is; I recently returned from an event I attended in Lagos some days ago, I came back very late and was grossly tired. While we were chatting, she asked me some questions which I told her I was very tired and eventually, I slept off. My phone beside me till the next morning. Fast forward to yesterday, I told her of my intentions to concentrate more in building for the future - it doesn't mean our relationship would be off. She started asking questions like "do you need some space?" "Am I bugging you?" She also said I don't "speak her language enough" language here is bonding, intimacy and closure. I was surprised at her response.

I noticed she'd be online for a long time and won't reply me on time, so I asked her who she was chatting with and she replied someone. I ignored her. This morning she called, while we got talking I asked her about the person she was chatting with. She told me the guys name. And asked if I will forgive her of anything, I said yes. She now said, she was introduced to the guy and they got flirting from the day I came back from my journey and told her I was tired and needed to rest. Her excuse was that, I pushed her to and she just wanted someone to speak/talk to.

Now, my question is, Should I move on with my business and focus, or, should I continue with the relationship? I don't want to be with someone that gives up on me easily.

P.S I love her so much. And she does too. We've through a lot together.

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Here's objective and concise:

1; emotional blackmail.
The "If you don't pay me enough attention, I'll get it elsewhere" card is petulant and immature. You can't be at her emotional beck and call 24/7 forever. If she's going to find succour elsewhere everytime you fall short, better start saving for DNA tests for your future kids.
2; she's unsure of a future with you. Only because she has a potential back up did she consider asking if you want her to give you space. She's probably hoping for a yes, so she can go explore her flirting partner's full potential without closing the door on you yet in case he doesn't work out.
3; mental exhaustion. Some people (not just women) drain you mentally. Instead of thinking about how to move your business forward, you are busy wasting valuable brain space analyzing her intentions and who she's chatting with. Never stay with a person who drains you mentally. It costs you plenty in time, motivation and effort.
4. I didn't quite get this part fully, but it seems that you spend a lot of money on her to the detriment of your business. If she's that high maintenance as a girlfriend, she's not going to be thrifty going forward.
5. Prayer costs nothing and is not a measure of support. What you need is emotional and mental peace as well as help in budgeting your funds wisely. She does not seem to be supportive in that sense.

Good luck.

JustMe407:
Dear nairalanders, I need you honest advice on what to do. I am still a young man and any mistake now will have a grave effect on my future. So please, help a brother.

Be objective and consise please. It is a long narrative.

I have a girlfriend whom I have been dating for up to 10 months now. She has all the qualities of wife, friend and a partner. I mean, she prays for me, supports me and do many things that places her above average.

I've two issues that are bugging me;

First is, I just graduated from the University and started to follow the road map I designed for my life. I am hardworking, so I started doing business immediately after my defense. Interstate exports of perishables. While I was in school, I made a lot of money doing designs for students; I am a UI/UX designer. The problem here is that I can't account for all those monies I made. A lot of expenses especially for my girlfriend. Even till now, I am supposed to send her some money but will I continue like this? I need stability in my business and need to save more and need capital for the last mile logistics company I want to set up next year.

Second issue is; I recently returned from an event I attended in Lagos some days ago, I came back very late and was grossly tired. While we were chatting, she asked me some questions which I told her I was very tired and eventually, I slept off. My phone beside me till the next morning. Fast forward to yesterday, I told her of my intentions to concentrate more in building for the future - it doesn't mean our relationship would be off. She started asking questions like "do you need some space?" "Am I bugging you?" She also said I don't "speak her language enough" language here is bonding, intimacy and closure. I was surprised at her response.

I noticed she'd be online for a long time and won't reply me on time, so I asked her who she was chatting with and she replied someone. I ignored her. This morning she called, while we got talking I asked her about the person she was chatting with. She told me the guys name. And asked if I will forgive her of anything, I said yes. She now said, she was introduced to the guy and they got flirting from the day I came back from my journey and told her I was tired and needed to rest. Her excuse was that, I pushed her to and she just wanted someone to speak/talk to.

Now, my question is, Should I move on with my business and focus, or, should I continue with the relationship? I don't want to be with someone that gives up on me easily.

P.S I love her so much. And she does too. We've through a lot together.

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Go and talk to your woman and stop disturbing someone's peace. Everyday niggas want to complain on the internet about the smallest things. Weak asf. Relationship(with women) is not by force

Love is a Beautiful thing but we need someone who supports our dreams, someone who helps us build and not just take.

DenreleDave:
You are very stupid..

Pls no moderator shud push this to the front page...

Imagine asking us if u shud concentrate on ur business or on a woman... Are you so sick to that extent... What is the essence of woman when there is no business? You are stupid for that question.. Imagine, business or woman

LMAO Bro calm down abeg ,take am easy ,para don enter your body.

IAmStrange:
Hmmm!

I've always been an advocate of this method...

Work hard until you are financially capable to cater for a family. Build your character until you become a personage that can qualify as a potential good husband, father and in law...

And then look for a good woman... try all possible means to know her and everything you need to know about her to decide if she's right for you... Engage her and marry her!

All these love, dating, boyfriend and girlfriend issues, most times, are "robbing" tactics...

And it falls on both sides...

many times, the females do it to "rob" the males of their money...

while on the other hand, the males do it to "rob" the female of their vagina.

Na the two genders dey suffer that "scam" they call relationship.

Well, as for the first issue, I don't know how the spending process goes.. is she the one that asks or you are the one that's just too generous and you give her without her asking or because you think she needs it and will likely ask?

If You are the one that's just too generous, then you limit your generosity. That will not only help you save more but will also be giving her message that she should adjust her expectations from you.

If she's the one that asks, Oga, limit what you give her and reject some of her requests.

It's during trying or difficult times that we know true friends. It may be when you start limiting your spending on her that you will know if she truly loves you or not.

As for the second issue... What your girlfriend did is a sign of what may happen or might have happened if the matter becomes more complicated than that.

Someone who easily gives in to seeking attention elsewhere when the two of you are not talking? That's dangerous.

I'm not saying that it will happen for sure but it's dangerous.

Have you not heard stories of women who had misunderstanding with their spouses and then they sought solace in another man until that other man capitalised on her emotional state and slept with her?

There were even cases where it did not happen once. The first time it happened, the woman began to enjoy the "company" of that other man and they ended up having sex several or many more times.

And in a marriage, misunderstandings will most likely happen every now and then. It's not something that can easily be avoided. So if it happens at a time when there's another man in the picture, only God knows where it'll eventually end.

It doesn't certainly define her but your girlfriend seems to have such weakness.

Therefore, I'm asking you now - not to just break up with her - but to use your sense and open your eyes very well. Try as much as possible to study her and ask wise people for advise concerning her so you will not have problems in your marriage.

By the way, Imes is coming

Sorry bruh
Watx Imes

JustMe407:
Dear nairalanders, I need you honest advice on what to do. I am still a young man and any mistake now will have a grave effect on my future. So please, help a brother.

Be objective and consise please. It is a long narrative.

I have a girlfriend whom I have been dating for up to 10 months now. She has all the qualities of wife, friend and a partner. I mean, she prays for me, supports me and do many things that places her above average.

I've two issues that are bugging me;

First is, I just graduated from the University and started to follow the road map I designed for my life. I am hardworking, so I started doing business immediately after my defense. Interstate exports of perishables. While I was in school, I made a lot of money doing designs for students; I am a UI/UX designer. The problem here is that I can't account for all those monies I made. A lot of expenses especially for my girlfriend. Even till now, I am supposed to send her some money but will I continue like this? I need stability in my business and need to save more and need capital for the last mile logistics company I want to set up next year.

Second issue is; I recently returned from an event I attended in Lagos some days ago, I came back very late and was grossly tired. While we were chatting, she asked me some questions which I told her I was very tired and eventually, I slept off. My phone beside me till the next morning. Fast forward to yesterday, I told her of my intentions to concentrate more in building for the future - it doesn't mean our relationship would be off. She started asking questions like "do you need some space?" "Am I bugging you?" She also said I don't "speak her language enough" language here is bonding, intimacy and closure. I was surprised at her response.

I noticed she'd be online for a long time and won't reply me on time, so I asked her who she was chatting with and she replied someone. I ignored her. This morning she called, while we got talking I asked her about the person she was chatting with. She told me the guys name. And asked if I will forgive her of anything, I said yes. She now said, she was introduced to the guy and they got flirting from the day I came back from my journey and told her I was tired and needed to rest. Her excuse was that, I pushed her to and she just wanted someone to speak/talk to.

Now, my question is, Should I move on with my business and focus, or, should I continue with the relationship? I don't want to be with someone that gives up on me easily.

P.S I love her so much. And she does too. We've through a lot together.

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First off, you already broke "Bro Code number 1" - Never fall in love

Second off, if you're to chose between your future and girlfriend, what will be your option.

Third off, you broke rule number 1 above and that puts your brain in reverse mode. You'll NEVER achieve anything with someone not compatible with you.

Fourth off, further to 3rd point above, you want to plan for your future, she wants bonding and sex. Oga maybe you forgot to tell us there's gold or viju milk inside her pu**y otherwise go for deliverance if you still don't know what to do.

What you have is not even a relationship, it's transactional. Stop giving her money to start with, they come back and let us know if her mudafucking ass still loves you.

Ibo ni Seun tii ri awon weyrey yi gaan sef. Little children falling in love like fools.

I will give u candid advise..just like I noticed that you advised urself..she gave up on u too easily...by the time u are in a big business and tired almost every day, trust me, she will flirt with several..instead of thinking of 'love' when u were tired, why didn't she channel her mind to other positive things. I beg this is Buhari time. Never u forget. Money fly anyhow and things are so so expensive. If u don't plan now, there will be nothing to fall back on..and she's draining your scarce resources. Be warned o,she will still run. At the right age, u will get ur real wife.

JustMe407:
Dear nairalanders, I need you honest advice on what to do. I am still a young man and any mistake now will have a grave effect on my future. So please, help a brother.

Be objective and consise please. It is a long narrative.

I have a girlfriend whom I have been dating for up to 10 months now. She has all the qualities of wife, friend and a partner. I mean, she prays for me, supports me and do many things that places her above average.

I've two issues that are bugging me;

First is, I just graduated from the University and started to follow the road map I designed for my life. I am hardworking, so I started doing business immediately after my defense. Interstate exports of perishables. While I was in school, I made a lot of money doing designs for students; I am a UI/UX designer. The problem here is that I can't account for all those monies I made. A lot of expenses especially for my girlfriend. Even till now, I am supposed to send her some money but will I continue like this? I need stability in my business and need to save more and need capital for the last mile logistics company I want to set up next year.

Second issue is; I recently returned from an event I attended in Lagos some days ago, I came back very late and was grossly tired. While we were chatting, she asked me some questions which I told her I was very tired and eventually, I slept off. My phone beside me till the next morning. Fast forward to yesterday, I told her of my intentions to concentrate more in building for the future - it doesn't mean our relationship would be off. She started asking questions like "do you need some space?" "Am I bugging you?" She also said I don't "speak her language enough" language here is bonding, intimacy and closure. I was surprised at her response.

I noticed she'd be online for a long time and won't reply me on time, so I asked her who she was chatting with and she replied someone. I ignored her. This morning she called, while we got talking I asked her about the person she was chatting with. She told me the guys name. And asked if I will forgive her of anything, I said yes. She now said, she was introduced to the guy and they got flirting from the day I came back from my journey and told her I was tired and needed to rest. Her excuse was that, I pushed her to and she just wanted someone to speak/talk to.

Now, my question is, Should I move on with my business and focus, or, should I continue with the relationship? I don't want to be with someone that gives up on me easily.

P.S I love her so much. And she does too. We've through a lot together.

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Guy, ignore anything that could make you unsuccessful. Become an alpha in what you do, your business.

Let her go brah... That's what I'd do if I were you.

Ariza:
With the recent outrageous increase in the numbers of "Help/Rant" threads opened by guys on this section, I am moved to give my Nigerian sisters a standing ovation, a thunderous applaud and a heartfelt doff. They do wonders .


However, I wonder on what type of Men society breed these days.Cry babies? Hypocrites? or confused lots? I wonder!

Wallahi tallaii na true u talk..

Just dropping by. I became a millionaire the year I dropped my 10-month girlfriend. I'm becoming a new millionaire same year. Listen attentively young man. Date to learn how to love. We don't necessarily marry the first, second, third etc person we date. Love is a chemical that bonds two people together with the illusion of bliss and joy which sometimes can be far from reality. And girls love illusion, fantasy and unreal things.
MY VERDICT, Give 70% of time to your destiny and manage to give her 30% so that even though she leaves you, you will still be attractive to other girls. Give her the reverse and when she dumps u, no babe will be attracted to u!!!

JustMe407:
Dear nairalanders, I need you honest advice on what to do. I am still a young man and any mistake now will have a grave effect on my future. So please, help a brother.

Be objective and consise please. It is a long narrative.

I have a girlfriend whom I have been dating for up to 10 months now. She has all the qualities of wife, friend and a partner. I mean, she prays for me, supports me and do many things that places her above average.

I've two issues that are bugging me;

First is, I just graduated from the University and started to follow the road map I designed for my life. I am hardworking, so I started doing business immediately after my defense. Interstate exports of perishables. While I was in school, I made a lot of money doing designs for students; I am a UI/UX designer. The problem here is that I can't account for all those monies I made. A lot of expenses especially for my girlfriend. Even till now, I am supposed to send her some money but will I continue like this? I need stability in my business and need to save more and need capital for the last mile logistics company I want to set up next year.

Second issue is; I recently returned from an event I attended in Lagos some days ago, I came back very late and was grossly tired. While we were chatting, she asked me some questions which I told her I was very tired and eventually, I slept off. My phone beside me till the next morning. Fast forward to yesterday, I told her of my intentions to concentrate more in building for the future - it doesn't mean our relationship would be off. She started asking questions like "do you need some space?" "Am I bugging you?" She also said I don't "speak her language enough" language here is bonding, intimacy and closure. I was surprised at her response.

I noticed she'd be online for a long time and won't reply me on time, so I asked her who she was chatting with and she replied someone. I ignored her. This morning she called, while we got talking I asked her about the person she was chatting with. She told me the guys name. And asked if I will forgive her of anything, I said yes. She now said, she was introduced to the guy and they got flirting from the day I came back from my journey and told her I was tired and needed to rest. Her excuse was that, I pushed her to and she just wanted someone to speak/talk to.

Now, my question is, Should I move on with my business and focus, or, should I continue with the relationship? I don't want to be with someone that gives up on me easily.

P.S I love her so much. And she does too. We've through a lot together.

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She's a QUITTER, that's who she Is.

Guy. Their are 3.5billion women on the planet, more beautiful younger ones too. This girl can't even pay her bills, she will drag u down. U will nver achaive ur dreams. And she don't love you if she did she won't easily said you are pushing her to chat with somebody else. She is not chatting with somebody else, she is manipulating you into think she has options. U r the best thing in her life right now. And she has tendencies of fvcking sombody else if she is not already fvcking sombody else already. She dosnt love u again. She is interested in the money u are making, she knows u are persistent so she is their for the bright future so that she can ride on your back. Just go bak act like things are not working out. U lost everything and u don't know how to continue and u ll see. Please this is a very manipulative woman she is manipulating you. Get out of there or she will destroy you and your future. Please go

'I love her and she loves me too'.Who told you that? Guy,open your eyes,she has long left you oh.She is looking for someone who can bear her burdens and very soon she will send you a wedding card. The sad part is that she will still leave you regardless of all you do because you definitely can't satisfy all her wants.
My advice is for you to leave her while you are still in charge before you get dumped.Pursue money and when you've arrived you will see how women will flock around you. Money answereth everything not women.Get money and women will come.Just like flies are attracted to faeces so are women attracted to money and comfort and wherever they find them,they run to..It's not their fault it's just their nature.

Some Nairalanders can never make heaven

2dice01:
Should i focus on my Business or my Girlfriend

Bros please focus on your Girlfriend

Spend all your money on Her even your Business Capital

She deserve to be Pampered




Well she also spending your awoof money on some other niggga who knows his worth


Continue my G
Your reward is in Heaven

Let her go man goddamnit. Or watch urself become poor and die poor. Go celibate and in isolation for a year, make that money, come back and ask yourself of what use is a woman again trust me you won't find any. My experience.

caesarsconcept:
if you still believe on that crap good luck bro. One question I always ask myself is WHEN I WAS BROKE WHO WAS THERE. NOBODY.

smile I think ur not matured.I was like u before wan my girl cause me pains.is it wen I train her to schl and she dump me or a girl av invested so much insulted my mum. I hated girls but I grow pass DAT.because life na stage. am married now to d most wonderful and beautiful girl in d world DAT make me feel loved evry second of my life. love is real love is beautiful love is life.

I'm also about to start a business of my own, I'm single and trust me I get to save a FVCK LOAD of money than I know what to do with it, had to breakup with my last gf this year after taking her to a hotel before my birthday, best decision I've ever made cos now I have more space to focus,

And when it comes to sex? I never enjoyed that nonsense, that's the only thing these girls bring to the table nowadays

So my man focus on your future cos if you go broke she'll eventually find her square root forget love matters she's only keeping you cos the other guy doesn't seem to have money like you do

WHAT ARE SOME GUYS BECOMING?

BS!