| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by Viking007(m): 2:29pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
DenreleDave:
You are very stupid..
Pls no moderator shud push this to the front page...
Imagine asking us if u shud concentrate on ur business or on a woman... Are you so sick to that extent... What is the essence of woman when there is no business? You are stupid for that question.. Imagine, business or woman  Please sir, take it easy. I actually felt like breaking a bottle on his head myself. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by MedicH: 2:29pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
youngchopper:
Listen youngman! You don't need a damn drama in your life! Let me tell u lil story of mine!
Yesterday been 20th of December 2019 my gal friend who have been dating for just 2 months asked me on chat for money for Christmas hair 20k! I can afford it but what made me mad was I told her if she knew that 20k is somebody's salary and the fool replied " na poor person salary be that" since 24 hrs she has been calling have decided to snub her for a very long period of time! Just a galfriend what if I have her type like 5? Do u know the amount of prayer my sweet monther will pray for my head if I wire her 20k? Use your head youngman, your happiness is not tied around her! Trust me i won't be surprised if that girl has never worked for a salary of 20k. 3 Likes |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by slimmoney(m): 2:31pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
Funny enough, you urself already know what to do JustMe407:
Dear nairalanders, I need you honest advice on what to do. I am still a young man and any mistake now will have a grave effect on my future. So please, help a brother.
Be objective and consise please. It is a long narrative.
I have a girlfriend whom I have been dating for up to 10 months now. She has all the qualities of wife, friend and a partner. I mean, she prays for me, supports me and do many things that places her above average.
I've two issues that are bugging me;
First is, I just graduated from the University and started to follow the road map I designed for my life. I am hardworking, so I started doing business immediately after my defense. Interstate exports of perishables. While I was in school, I made a lot of money doing designs for students; I am a UI/UX designer. The problem here is that I can't account for all those monies I made. A lot of expenses especially for my girlfriend. Even till now, I am supposed to send her some money but will I continue like this? I need stability in my business and need to save more and need capital for the last mile logistics company I want to set up next year.
Second issue is; I recently returned from an event I attended in Lagos some days ago, I came back very late and was grossly tired. While we were chatting, she asked me some questions which I told her I was very tired and eventually, I slept off. My phone beside me till the next morning. Fast forward to yesterday, I told her of my intentions to concentrate more in building for the future - it doesn't mean our relationship would be off. She started asking questions like "do you need some space?" "Am I bugging you?" She also said I don't "speak her language enough" language here is bonding, intimacy and closure. I was surprised at her response.
I noticed she'd be online for a long time and won't reply me on time, so I asked her who she was chatting with and she replied someone. I ignored her. This morning she called, while we got talking I asked her about the person she was chatting with. She told me the guys name. And asked if I will forgive her of anything, I said yes. She now said, she was introduced to the guy and they got flirting from the day I came back from my journey and told her I was tired and needed to rest. Her excuse was that, I pushed her to and she just wanted someone to speak/talk to.
Now, my question is, Should I move on with my business and focus, or, should I continue with the relationship? I don't want to be with someone that gives up on me easily.
P.S I love her so much. And she does too. We've through a lot together.
Please moderators, help move this to front page for more contributions. |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by DenreleDave(m): 2:31pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
youngchopper:
Listen youngman! You don't need a damn drama in your life! Let me tell u lil story of mine!
Yesterday been 20th of December 2019 my gal friend who have been dating for just 2 months asked me on chat for money for Christmas hair 20k! I can afford it but what made me mad was I told her if she knew that 20k is somebody's salary and the fool replied " na poor person salary be that" since 24 hrs she has been calling have decided to snub her for a very long period of time! Just a galfriend what if I have her type like 5? Do u know the amount of prayer my sweet monther will pray for my head if I wire her 20k? Use your head youngman, your happiness is not tied around her! Abeg send dt money to ur mama abeg.. If to say me get 5k now, I wan reach mama place give am.. Atleast see sumtin chop for Christmas.... Mommas are blessings |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by DavidEsq(m): 2:32pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
Riele:
I feel annoyed when i read stories about weaklings .
Smh . Just look at who is a strongling |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by chewwie(m): 2:33pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
JustMe407:
Dear nairalanders, I need you honest advice on what to do. I am still a young man and any mistake now will have a grave effect on my future. So please, help a brother.
Be objective and consise please. It is a long narrative.
I have a girlfriend whom I have been dating for up to 10 months now. She has all the qualities of wife, friend and a partner. I mean, she prays for me, supports me and do many things that places her above average.
I've two issues that are bugging me;
First is, I just graduated from the University and started to follow the road map I designed for my life. I am hardworking, so I started doing business immediately after my defense. Interstate exports of perishables. While I was in school, I made a lot of money doing designs for students; I am a UI/UX designer. The problem here is that I can't account for all those monies I made. A lot of expenses especially for my girlfriend. Even till now, I am supposed to send her some money but will I continue like this? I need stability in my business and need to save more and need capital for the last mile logistics company I want to set up next year.
Second issue is; I recently returned from an event I attended in Lagos some days ago, I came back very late and was grossly tired. While we were chatting, she asked me some questions which I told her I was very tired and eventually, I slept off. My phone beside me till the next morning. Fast forward to yesterday, I told her of my intentions to concentrate more in building for the future - it doesn't mean our relationship would be off. She started asking questions like "do you need some space?" "Am I bugging you?" She also said I don't "speak her language enough" language here is bonding, intimacy and closure. I was surprised at her response.
I noticed she'd be online for a long time and won't reply me on time, so I asked her who she was chatting with and she replied someone. I ignored her. This morning she called, while we got talking I asked her about the person she was chatting with. She told me the guys name. And asked if I will forgive her of anything, I said yes. She now said, she was introduced to the guy and they got flirting from the day I came back from my journey and told her I was tired and needed to rest. Her excuse was that, I pushed her to and she just wanted someone to speak/talk to.
Now, my question is, Should I move on with my business and focus, or, should I continue with the relationship? I don't want to be with someone that gives up on me easily.
P.S I love her so much. And she does too. We've through a lot together.
Please moderators, help move this to front page for more contributions. If you're below 28, then you should only have one priority, your work. Every other thing is secondary. You can't keep a girl despite being financially unstable. Tell her you'll be cutting down on some of your expenses in general at the start of the new year, that is, if you drink 10 bottles of beer per week, you'd be cutting it down to 4, and that she'll no longer get the occasional 5k for hair, nails, etc. as frequently as she's used to. If she loves you and wants to have a future with you, she'll understand and support you, if she complains slightly, my guy, move on. You matter most. |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by Ishilove: 2:33pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
youngchopper:
Listen youngman! You don't need a damn drama in your life! Let me tell u lil story of mine!
Yesterday been 20th of December 2019 my gal friend who have been dating for just 2 months asked me on chat for money for Christmas hair 20k! I can afford it but what made me mad was I told her if she knew that 20k is somebody's salary and the fool replied " na poor person salary be that" since 24 hrs she has been calling have decided to snub her for a very long period of time! Just a galfriend what if I have her type like 5? Do u know the amount of prayer my sweet monther will pray for my head if I wire her 20k? Use your head youngman, your happiness is not tied around her! What kind of hair is someone doing that costs as much as 20k?  2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by shekauvsbuhari: 2:35pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
Riele:
Wow .
You didn't tell me you got a new job as Nairaland gateman .
Abeg shift . This small girl. U still dey nairaland dey enjoy senior's jokes? U dey shuk mouth for senior's matters? U come hear to learn some naughty things. |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by Sweeetheart(m): 2:35pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
Don't move on. Just sell all your business and give it to pleased her while she give her Toto to another lucky guru
Alaye hope you're not ignoring pussy bayi? Pussy is meant to be bang o and wisdom is expected when giving lady Money
My own point is, set her up with a different account, request for her nude pics after you've gotten deep with the acct. Once she fall my guy start to use condom o while you look for a new mental balance and career lady
What you need is a lady with moderate social vices and moderate career prospect because as an entrepreneur you need a lady like the aforementioned not all these bring bring ladies |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by DenreleDave(m): 2:38pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
Viking007:
Please sir, take it easy. I actually felt like breaking a bottle on his head myself. Thanks sir |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by shekauvsbuhari: 2:42pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
Riele:
Two words for you
EMPTY BARREL At ur age, U shouldnt be saying this to people. U re too young to be this disrespectful. |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by Riele(f): 2:43pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
shekauvsbuhari:
This small girl. U still dey nairaland dey enjoy senior's jokes? U dey shuk mouth for senior's matters? U come hear to learn some naughty things. Small girl ? Better respect yourself . |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by DWJOBScom(m): 2:43pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
JustMe407:
Dear nairalanders, I need you honest advice on what to do. I am still a young man and any mistake now will have a grave effect on my future. So please, help a brother.
Be objective and consise please. It is a long narrative.
I have a girlfriend whom I have been dating for up to 10 months now. She has all the qualities of wife, friend and a partner. I mean, she prays for me, supports me and do many things that places her above average.
I've two issues that are bugging me;
First is, I just graduated from the University and started to follow the road map I designed for my life. I am hardworking, so I started doing business immediately after my defense. Interstate exports of perishables. While I was in school, I made a lot of money doing designs for students; I am a UI/UX designer. The problem here is that I can't account for all those monies I made. A lot of expenses especially for my girlfriend. Even till now, I am supposed to send her some money but will I continue like this? I need stability in my business and need to save more and need capital for the last mile logistics company I want to set up next year.
Second issue is; I recently returned from an event I attended in Lagos some days ago, I came back very late and was grossly tired. While we were chatting, she asked me some questions which I told her I was very tired and eventually, I slept off. My phone beside me till the next morning. Fast forward to yesterday, I told her of my intentions to concentrate more in building for the future - it doesn't mean our relationship would be off. She started asking questions like "do you need some space?" "Am I bugging you?" She also said I don't "speak her language enough" language here is bonding, intimacy and closure. I was surprised at her response.
I noticed she'd be online for a long time and won't reply me on time, so I asked her who she was chatting with and she replied someone. I ignored her. This morning she called, while we got talking I asked her about the person she was chatting with. She told me the guys name. And asked if I will forgive her of anything, I said yes. She now said, she was introduced to the guy and they got flirting from the day I came back from my journey and told her I was tired and needed to rest. Her excuse was that, I pushed her to and she just wanted someone to speak/talk to.
Now, my question is, Should I move on with my business and focus, or, should I continue with the relationship? I don't want to be with someone that gives up on me easily.
P.S I love her so much. And she does too. We've through a lot together.
Please moderators, help move this to front page for more contributions. na dem run for your life They appear very good, nice and caring but end up cheating on you with different people and of course BLAME YOU Leave her o and just grow the business and keep trying to meet someone else, Leave her and don't try to be adventurous o with her o (example knack only things) |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by Timbuktuo: 2:45pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
@JustMe407, yes, your girlfriend is a threat to you.
If she truly loved you she would make her business to know how you make your money and how you spend the proceeds thereof.
I know she doesn’t love you because she’s only concerned about how much she can get from you not minding how inconvenient it is for you or how unreasonable her demands are.
You have opened this thread because your sixth sense is awakening to the danger you’re in. I would advise you to cut her off or relegate her to fuckbuddy status. Your main girlfriend/future wife should be helping you build your future, not strolling into another man’s arms because you’re too tired to chat.
Don’t be a fool. Cut her off now 1 Like |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by Riele(f): 2:45pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
shekauvsbuhari:
At ur age, U shouldnt be saying this to people. U re too young to be this disrespectful. Wow . So to dish out advice now has age restrictions ? 1 Like |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by Riele(f): 2:48pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
DavidEsq:
Just look at who is a strongling
Oga , you have a problem ? |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by Riele(f): 2:48pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
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| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by cassyrooy(m): 2:49pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
Ariza:
With the recent outrageous increase in the numbers of "Help/Rant" threads opened by guys on this section, I am moved to give my Nigerian sisters a standing ovation, a thunderous applaud and a heartfelt doff. They do wonders .
However, I wonder on what type of Men society breed these days.Cry babies? Hypocrites? or confused lots? I wonder! Being born into a war is the hardest thing a child can ever experience. These guys are not fighting the wars feminists, redpillers and whatnot started. They don't want to live that way, don't lump them into that and create unnecessary issues for them. |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by jaxxy(m): 2:51pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
JustMe407:
Dear nairalanders, I need you honest advice on what to do. I am still a young man and any mistake now will have a grave effect on my future. So please, help a brother.
Be objective and consise please. It is a long narrative.
I have a girlfriend whom I have been dating for up to 10 months now. She has all the qualities of wife, friend and a partner. I mean, she prays for me, supports me and do many things that places her above average.
I've two issues that are bugging me;
First is, I just graduated from the University and started to follow the road map I designed for my life. I am hardworking, so I started doing business immediately after my defense. Interstate exports of perishables. While I was in school, I made a lot of money doing designs for students; I am a UI/UX designer. The problem here is that I can't account for all those monies I made. A lot of expenses especially for my girlfriend. Even till now, I am supposed to send her some money but will I continue like this? I need stability in my business and need to save more and need capital for the last mile logistics company I want to set up next year.
Second issue is; I recently returned from an event I attended in Lagos some days ago, I came back very late and was grossly tired. While we were chatting, she asked me some questions which I told her I was very tired and eventually, I slept off. My phone beside me till the next morning. Fast forward to yesterday, I told her of my intentions to concentrate more in building for the future - it doesn't mean our relationship would be off. She started asking questions like "do you need some space?" "Am I bugging you?" She also said I don't "speak her language enough" language here is bonding, intimacy and closure. I was surprised at her response.
I noticed she'd be online for a long time and won't reply me on time, so I asked her who she was chatting with and she replied someone. I ignored her. This morning she called, while we got talking I asked her about the person she was chatting with. She told me the guys name. And asked if I will forgive her of anything, I said yes. She now said, she was introduced to the guy and they got flirting from the day I came back from my journey and told her I was tired and needed to rest. Her excuse was that, I pushed her to and she just wanted someone to speak/talk to.
Now, my question is, Should I move on with my business and focus, or, should I continue with the relationship? I don't want to be with someone that gives up on me easily.
P.S I love her so much. And she does too. We've through a lot together.
Please moderators, help move this to front page for more contributions. Just communicate ur goals and fears to her. If she’s a decent and sensible gal she will understand and adjust herself. Everyday can’t be a holiday. Explain the issues of controlling ur finances so u can make more later via investing and plan for the future which is wud be a part of. If she’s sensible she will support u. Note; u may need to sing this into her ear cos sm gals are wired or easily carried away by spending.. |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by friendl: 2:53pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
That girl have no atom of regards for you |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by Crummy: 2:55pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
JustMe407:
We both just graduated lol. She finished top of her class with distinctions. We always talk about marriage though. 2023 is the goal. you are both in love yet you are both growing, you especially is realizing you want more in life, you wanna focus on your business, you wanna build your finances, she is just realizing her power as a woman she is in her prime lots of guys wants her. She wants validation and attention, you really don't have that much time to spend. That said, you have 2 options 1) sit her down, tell her of your plans and how you might not be able to give her all she wants, then build her up by encouraging her to use her intellect to get herself a job to finance herself and family, motivate her to start focusing on putting her skills to use instead of depending on a man, let her know u believe in her, then both of u can together work towards building the future you want, without any of you being idle... Trust me, you have true love now, once lost it might not be easy to get back again. 2) let her go, face your dreams, when u have made it, you will meet someone else, it might take time before you find the right one that fits the new you but you will find her..... I wish you all the best. |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by webnerd(m): 2:55pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
Solid advice broda. |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by NaijaRoyalty(m): 2:56pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
Brother wey mumu ..brother wey no wise . |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by 9JAFULLBREED(m): 2:57pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
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| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by daprofo: 2:59pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
youngchopper:
Listen youngman! You don't need a damn drama in your life! Let me tell u lil story of mine!
Yesterday been 20th of December 2019 my gal friend who have been dating for just 2 months asked me on chat for money for Christmas hair 20k! I can afford it but what made me mad was I told her if she knew that 20k is somebody's salary and the fool replied " na poor person salary be that" since 24 hrs she has been calling have decided to snub her for a very long period of time! Just a galfriend what if I have her type like 5? Do u know the amount of prayer my sweet monther will pray for my head if I wire her 20k? Use your head youngman, your happiness is not tied around her! God bless you. You said my mind. |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by gabicon: 2:59pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
JustMe407:
Dear nairalanders, I need you honest advice on what to do. I am still a young man and any mistake now will have a grave effect on my future. So please, help a brother.
Be objective and consise please. It is a long narrative.
I have a girlfriend whom I have been dating for up to 10 months now. She has all the qualities of wife, friend and a partner. I mean, she prays for me, supports me and do many things that places her above average.
I've two issues that are bugging me;
First is, I just graduated from the University and started to follow the road map I designed for my life. I am hardworking, so I started doing business immediately after my defense. Interstate exports of perishables. While I was in school, I made a lot of money doing designs for students; I am a UI/UX designer. The problem here is that I can't account for all those monies I made. A lot of expenses especially for my girlfriend. Even till now, I am supposed to send her some money but will I continue like this? I need stability in my business and need to save more and need capital for the last mile logistics company I want to set up next year.
Second issue is; I recently returned from an event I attended in Lagos some days ago, I came back very late and was grossly tired. While we were chatting, she asked me some questions which I told her I was very tired and eventually, I slept off. My phone beside me till the next morning. Fast forward to yesterday, I told her of my intentions to concentrate more in building for the future - it doesn't mean our relationship would be off. She started asking questions like "do you need some space?" "Am I bugging you?" She also said I don't "speak her language enough" language here is bonding, intimacy and closure. I was surprised at her response.
I noticed she'd be online for a long time and won't reply me on time, so I asked her who she was chatting with and she replied someone. I ignored her. This morning she called, while we got talking I asked her about the person she was chatting with. She told me the guys name. And asked if I will forgive her of anything, I said yes. She now said, she was introduced to the guy and they got flirting from the day I came back from my journey and told her I was tired and needed to rest. Her excuse was that, I pushed her to and she just wanted someone to speak/talk to.
Now, my question is, Should I move on with my business and focus, or, should I continue with the relationship? I don't want to be with someone that gives up on me easily.
P.S I love her so much. And she does too. We've through a lot together.
Please moderators, help move this to front page for more contributions. Your girlfriend is simply doing what the average person in a relationship without requirements will do. Simply put, your relationship is going the way it is going because it lacks requirements and boundaries of the players in the relationship. Example of a requirement is we can't have buddying discussion during the heat of work, we can't spend capital of the business, or no sex etc. From the requirements of both sides you will be able to tell the direction of the relationship. Building a career or business takes effort, resources and time, it's advisable to be in a relationship with someone that understands this. |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by deltateam: 3:00pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
JustMe407:
Dear nairalanders, I need you honest advice on what to do. I am still a young man and any mistake now will have a grave effect on my future. So please, help a brother.
Be objective and consise please. It is a long narrative.
I have a girlfriend whom I have been dating for up to 10 months now. She has all the qualities of wife, friend and a partner. I mean, she prays for me, supports me and do many things that places her above average.
I've two issues that are bugging me;
First is, I just graduated from the University and started to follow the road map I designed for my life. I am hardworking, so I started doing business immediately after my defense. Interstate exports of perishables. While I was in school, I made a lot of money doing designs for students; I am a UI/UX designer. The problem here is that I can't account for all those monies I made. A lot of expenses especially for my girlfriend. Even till now, I am supposed to send her some money but will I continue like this? I need stability in my business and need to save more and need capital for the last mile logistics company I want to set up next year.
Second issue is; I recently returned from an event I attended in Lagos some days ago, I came back very late and was grossly tired. While we were chatting, she asked me some questions which I told her I was very tired and eventually, I slept off. My phone beside me till the next morning. Fast forward to yesterday, I told her of my intentions to concentrate more in building for the future - it doesn't mean our relationship would be off. She started asking questions like "do you need some space?" "Am I bugging you?" She also said I don't "speak her language enough" language here is bonding, intimacy and closure. I was surprised at her response.
I noticed she'd be online for a long time and won't reply me on time, so I asked her who she was chatting with and she replied someone. I ignored her. This morning she called, while we got talking I asked her about the person she was chatting with. She told me the guys name. And asked if I will forgive her of anything, I said yes. She now said, she was introduced to the guy and they got flirting from the day I came back from my journey and told her I was tired and needed to rest. Her excuse was that, I pushed her to and she just wanted someone to speak/talk to.
Now, my question is, Should I move on with my business and focus, or, should I continue with the relationship? I don't want to be with someone that gives up on me easily.
P.S I love her so much. And she does too. We've through a lot together.
Please moderators, help move this to front page for more contributions. My one and only question which has been bugging me to ask you is: What does your girlfriend do for a living? The reason I am asking is that I don't understand why you will be sending or buying her things to the extent that it puts your business in jeopardy and while you are busy figuring things out; she has enough time to be flirting. You need to think am again. An idle mind is the devil's workshop. You don't owe her nor any girl upkeep. Relationship is not a career. Let her find a job. |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by successity5(m): 3:01pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
Guy if you want something good for yourself or if you are looking forward to better up your future forget her #G.O.E# |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by Nobody: 3:02pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
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| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by daprofo: 3:05pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
Someone you said gives up on you easily!
Follow your intuition, young man.
You don't need a liar and cheat in your life.
That the guy she is flirting with is the guy she chatted with on the night when you were too tired to talk with her!!! That's a big, big red flag.
It means tomorrow she will leave you and flirt whenever you're not in the mood to talk.
Is that the kind of woman you want to spend the rest of your life with?
Someone without a good values system?
A good woman will be considerate and know that her man is tired and overlook it but not her.
You're still hustling yet she keeps demanding much from you.
Marry a woman who believes in you and your future even if you don't have one Naira in your bank account.
There are women like that. They marry you because of your vision. She knows that tomorrow you'll be great and so she doesn't look at your current challenges.
Find this kind of woman and marry. |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by Kakamorufu(m): 3:06pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
break it off.
save your money
Move on.
cos she will still Bleep that nigga behind your back and claim you pushed her |
| Re: Is My Girlfriend A Threat To Me? by ibechris(m): 3:06pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
JustMe407:
Dear nairalanders, I need you honest advice on what to do. I am still a young man and any mistake now will have a grave effect on my future. So please, help a brother.
Be objective and consise please. It is a long narrative.
I have a girlfriend whom I have been dating for up to 10 months now. She has all the qualities of wife, friend and a partner. I mean, she prays for me, supports me and do many things that places her above average.
I've two issues that are bugging me;
First is, I just graduated from the University and started to follow the road map I designed for my life. I am hardworking, so I started doing business immediately after my defense. Interstate exports of perishables. While I was in school, I made a lot of money doing designs for students; I am a UI/UX designer. The problem here is that I can't account for all those monies I made. A lot of expenses especially for my girlfriend. Even till now, I am supposed to send her some money but will I continue like this? I need stability in my business and need to save more and need capital for the last mile logistics company I want to set up next year.
Second issue is; I recently returned from an event I attended in Lagos some days ago, I came back very late and was grossly tired. While we were chatting, she asked me some questions which I told her I was very tired and eventually, I slept off. My phone beside me till the next morning. Fast forward to yesterday, I told her of my intentions to concentrate more in building for the future - it doesn't mean our relationship would be off. She started asking questions like "do you need some space?" "Am I bugging you?" She also said I don't "speak her language enough" language here is bonding, intimacy and closure. I was surprised at her response.
I noticed she'd be online for a long time and won't reply me on time, so I asked her who she was chatting with and she replied someone. I ignored her. This morning she called, while we got talking I asked her about the person she was chatting with. She told me the guys name. And asked if I will forgive her of anything, I said yes. She now said, she was introduced to the guy and they got flirting from the day I came back from my journey and told her I was tired and needed to rest. Her excuse was that, I pushed her to and she just wanted someone to speak/talk to.
Now, my question is, Should I move on with my business and focus, or, should I continue with the relationship? I don't want to be with someone that gives up on me easily.
P.S I love her so much. And she does too. We've through a lot together.
Please moderators, help move this to front page for more contributions. Sorry for u my brother,this whole thing doesn't sound as if that girl loves u...yea she does not love u one bit. If u must grow and become what u have planned for the future,u don't need such a woman and in fact,u don't even need a woman at this point in time in ur life. U need to take back ur energy and grow into that dreams of urs,if not u will finish spending on her and still lose her to those guys just like the one she's flirting with. |
