₦airaland Forum

JONNYSPUTE:
.. In as much as I don't agree to most of your comments,I think you are very correct on this particular one.Some women dey try.

Godfullsam:
The difference is that there is entitlement undertone in what the OP wrote.

My stance is that, ladies should not feel entitled to what they didn't work for just because they are in a relationship.

Love is a mutual thing.

victorian:
The Pure truth from a reliable source.

I even know the woman sef.

Raalsalghul:
Source please?

ambassadorgozie:
how can we ascertain if its true?
you just wanna use it to score cheap points
smh

Khalidase83:
No one needs to be told; Besides, why shud a broke man even contemplate marriage in the first place. Those shouting broke woman here and there, listen, it is not a woman's place(after marriage) to provide any form of finance in the home. It is solely the husband's responsibility. The society we live in now is what seen to place that burden on women but from the beginning it wasn't so.

CHoccolaTE:
Over the years, there has been this notion that broke guys should not be in relationship and I think this is true.
There is no romance without finance. This has been a cliche that has been used by the female folk for quite a while and in all sincerity, it is the truth. Every relationship, be it marriage or courtship or boy/girl romance needs money to drive those exciting moments that makes the relationship memorable.
Being broke is relative. It means different things to different people. There is no universal benchmark to ascertain a certain level of financial freedom that can be classified as being financially stable. For instance, lady A can decide to marry a guy who earns 100k, and to her, that 5guy is financially stable while lady B can decide to have nothing to do with a guy who earns less than 500k per month.
That said, I think it is only right for girls to demand financial stability from their partners before dating or marriage. Everyone has priorities and relationship needs and I think it is not wise to date anyone (male or female) who has money issues. That is not to say all broke guys should be curved. There are some guys who are ambitious and hardworking but they are yet to achieve that financial freedom. To this group of guys, ladies should learn be discerning enough to know whether to stick to them because you don't want to end up with a permanent liability as a husband.
As a woman it's very difficult to see your children struggling to survive while their mates go to the best schools and wear the best clothes.
Truth is that you as a female might find it difficult to do some very tasking jobs when you get pregnant or while you are nursing not to mention the fact that many companies discriminate against married women with children because they believe these women would place their children over their jobs and cause setbacks.
In times like that, the task of hustling and being breadwinner should already be covered by the guy to avoid the family going into financial crises

Ladies, you know how the average Nigerian man will not see it as his duty to go shopping in the market to buy household items, they won't see it as their duty to coin for the family or do daily house cleaning so the job falls on you as a woman in majority of cases, do not go about taking losses and doing glorified housemaid and baby making machine and sex slave for a guy who you will still out daily to hustle money and feed while he bosses you around as the head of house and demands submission from you.

So, dont date or marry any guy who sees you as key to financial freedom or stability. In a relationship, both parties are meant to benefit equally.
Yes, the woman should compliment her man financially but in Nigerian societies, it's not your primary responsibility to provide.

Look for a capable guy that can do it before getting married to avoid birthing kids that will come to this world and suffer.
Gracias.

CHoccolaTE:
This is why I like Muslim men
They never run from responsibility

lilwetdick:
https://punchng.com/152-million-nigerians-live-on-less-than-2day-afdb/

Nigerians who have more than N500, 000 in their accounts are just two per cent-NDIC

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2016/06/2-nigerians-90-bank-deposits-ndic/

i was nice infact, what this data means is that majority of Nigerians are brokeass

living from paycheck to paycheck

Being a black man is one of the worst things that could happen to anybody.

Can you imagine?

donbachi:
pls ma,a friend of mine has 10m naira and he wish to invest it...pls,help me with a type of business and proper business plan.lastly,advice him also on how he can grow in such business.thanks.

omokoginimi:
So who will now marry us?

UyaiIncomparabl:

Raalsalghul:
Source please?

omokoginimi:
So who will now marry us?

Raalsalghul:

Being a black man is one of the worst things that could happen to anybody.

Can you imagine?

ambassadorgozie:
how can we ascertain if its true?
you just wanna use it to score cheap points
smh

Crimpsy:
If most ladies follow dis topic written here, it will leave Dem single, bitter and also depressed.
If you check the percentage of men in the country:
Graduates no get work most have to start afresh to learn business after schooling and Nysc.
Non graduates no get work except they engage in other things to make money.
So u see, there is no rich man anywhere.
My advice is for ladies to build and stand with their man, because u can't tell d content of a book by its cover.
For those who refuse to listen,take sand,cement and water create the rich man yourself.

CHoccolaTE:
My dear God bless you for this post

Personally I know a number of women who are taking care of financial responsibilities in their families because their husbands are going through tough times but these women don't come out to announce it because of shame and because for some odd reason many married women like competing with each other to prove their marriage is better

Silly small boys on Nairaland that never leave their houses will not know the true situation of things but will come out claiming that women never bring anything to the table.

praz001:
Ladies need to know that the present rich men were once broke and they got a wife who stood by them.....
When you keep on focusing on getting married to a rich guy you might miss out on the wealthy guy...
Not all men will rise to start living large like Davido... it's a process.
To those who are waiting for the rich dude, happy waiting..... And to those who are ready to build with their man, keep building.....
Being broke today does not mean broke forever..