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Re: as by Nobody: 9:41am On Dec 22, 2019 |
Mindfulness: As in eh....imagine what he said but if it came from a woman he’d probably be foaming in his mouth ranting about feminists |
Re: as by Nobody: 9:43am On Dec 22, 2019 |
nnamdibig: Is sex a good turn now? 4 Likes |
Re: as by nnamdibig(m): 9:47am On Dec 22, 2019 |
Mindfulness:Is that what you understand by want I wrote? |
Re: as by Sweetheart666(f): 9:52am On Dec 22, 2019 |
So many stuupid and senseless broke asss guys on this thread trying to form Supermen. Relationship is a two way thing,just as we got two hands to support ourselves,a tree cannot make a forest,many marriages pack up today because of this silly mentality that a man must provide for the family instead of both couples coming together to build up your financial lives... remember kids are coming in,if u two don't work together to balance the equation,how will the relationship/marriage survive when you have kids and more expenses,?? Reason why some ladies divorce/sleep around in marriages when oga Superman becomes former rich man and can't provide.. relationship wey go lead to marriage,na d first 3months Dem dey know am if u be person wey dey reason fast. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: as by Nobody: 9:56am On Dec 22, 2019 |
donstan18:won't d gf graduate into a wife? There's how u nairaland guys reason that's so annoying and immature. 1 Like |
Re: as by Nobody: 9:58am On Dec 22, 2019 |
jeff1607:The op should have explained his financial state to d fiancee, I'm sure she'd ask him to save d 1k |
Re: as by Nobody: 10:02am On Dec 22, 2019 |
nnamdibig: I am trying to make sense of your line of thought. |
Re: as by louken(m): 10:13am On Dec 22, 2019 |
That lady is just managing you. Anytime a richer guy comes around, she will leave you. You will be there only to serve as backup guy. She ain't yet ready for marriage (with you). My advice: continue giving her that 1k. If she leaves you because of that, go and thank God for saving you from a lifetime heartache. 7 Likes |
Re: as by Nobody: 10:13am On Dec 22, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe:Read his submissions again. Nigerian men are the ones that made ladies very materialistic and they turn around to cry fowl. If she isn't working or a student, it's very understandable but this is a working class lady. Why will u give her t fare?. Are u not the one encouraging this bashfulness and now u are complaining? Giving her tfare doesn't make u "the man" but rather made her see you in a false image which you have been projecting. Tomorrow, if u marry her and there is money problem, u will say she has changed but u are the enabler. So also u guys. U shove money in the face of ladies at every small opportunity and mess up with her illusion about you and yet think it will not affect her adversely? U can get gifts for your lady. Help her if she tell you she has financial difficulty( it can happen even if u are working), take her out etc but please, stop buying a woman over. It always boomerang. Is there something u guys can boast of doing well? Politics is the same approach. Buy people over. Oh, Nigerian men. What have u guys been doing to yourselves when men from other countries are moving ahead? 7 Likes |
Re: as by Nobody: 10:25am On Dec 22, 2019 |
sassysure: Contemplating submission. 1 Like |
Re: as by Nobody: 10:43am On Dec 22, 2019 |
Mindfulness:My sister, I tire Tomorrow, they will create countless threads about materialistic babes yet No wonder they are always looking for submission. Seems lots of them don't have healthy self esteem so they hide under money to cover that up. During my spinsterhood, oh my, our guys have serious ego issue. They will offer money, keep offering more money. The only thing they know how to do is offer money. Remove the money and relate with them one on one equally, u will get no substance. Zilch. Bullock. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: as by Godoverevery: 10:54am On Dec 22, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe:lol....u think I didn't explain?? Despite d fact she knows I needed to pay my workers on my farm around d following week... I have never been stingy to her in any way...I try my best in my own lil way but my dear I can't lie to you I was really down dat day cos it made me look like I wasn't up to d task.....my ex was a total ingrate despite everything I did for her and D's. am not perfect neither am I Mr no Bleep up but whatever i get from people I appreciate.....she have done several things I didn't like.... infact she cook bad food on two occasions but I never complained becos I will never do it cos I know d feeling it brings. I hate complains ....my friend and family know it totally turn me off. I think dere was abetter way she could have done it not directly complaining d money was too small and she felt embarrassed....for heaven sake dat was my first time why couldn't she have taken it and wait till next time. 1 Like |
Re: as by crackhaus: 11:00am On Dec 22, 2019 |
Godoverevery:What's the relevance of her having a pretty good job? If you think a Naija girl with a good job is not interested in eating your money as often as possible, then you're still sleeping. You don't need any advise. She already told you to stop taking care of her fares till you're boxed up again. OBLIGE HER. 3 Likes |
Re: as by Nobody: 11:03am On Dec 22, 2019 |
Godoverevery:Well, you have to know if she will understand and stick by you during the storms of life cos it ain't all rosy. |
Re: as by jeff1607(m): 11:18am On Dec 22, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe: please read where he explained his financial state to her n how he invested heavily in a biz venture, she is independent and wants to be respected,she should please play the part. I won't generalise but most times some ladies don't care how you spend or what you save for emergencies,it's all about what you can give. A child raised to be self reliant make or female doesn't behave that way 1 Like |
Re: as by GrossPrice: 11:50am On Dec 22, 2019 |
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Re: as by GrossPrice: 12:01pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe: Men are usually annoying and immature when they don't reason the way women want. 2 Likes |
Re: as by eyinjuege: 12:02pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
I've never really understood this transport fare thing sha, but I guess that's how things are done now. Perhaps you should have just escorted her to the bus park, and paid the driver or booked a taxi for her if you were feeling so altruistic. I understand buying presents, cards for your significant other and even giving them money occasionally when they are broke or struggling but it shouldn't be mandatory or compulsory. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: as by Saintmary(f): 12:02pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
Godoverevery:Well, you mentioned your ex in your post, so, the lady must have been hearing it often. You need to sit her down and ask her to be patient with you while you both build the life you desire. Her suggestion is okay but you might convert that 1k to a small gift so she won't feel like a secondary school girl when you are handing her money for visiting you, give her on arrival, not on departure. Don't come and end a good relationship just because of 1k. |
Re: as by freethinker01: 12:26pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
Bola146:How won't you like the hogwash he wrote since it massages your ego. 3 Likes |
Re: as by bukatyne(f): 1:24pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
sassysure: |
Re: as by Nobody: 1:34pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
jeff1607:True. So we should blame parents for not grooming their kids to be self reliant |
Re: as by AFONAMARO: 1:52pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
jeff1607: 75% of ladies don't even care to know how you make the money or how much you have saved or invested, they just want the money to be spent on them 1 Like |
Re: as by Blackmiserable(m): 2:14pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe: I yaf not seen it. |
Re: as by Preshy561(f): 2:29pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
This is why you people will always end up with the wrong women who pretend they don't like money until they are married. For your information, she was even genuinely explaining herself to You, while the retired slay queens will wait till they are married before showing you guys pepper. I don't know why you lots hate ladies sincerities and embrace pretense. Exactly how my friend pretended not to like money whenever she's with her fiancè then, but now that she's married, na fire for fire. I just deh pity the husband 2 Likes |
Re: as by Norland4life(f): 3:15pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
Saintmary: I think she was being sarcastic and disrespectful when she asked him to save his 1k 1 Like |
Re: as by AFONAMARO: 3:18pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
Preshy561: This ain't about pretence, but a lady seeing a man as her money bag. You obviously read were he said he's been giving her some cash whenever she visits, but explained to her this one time about being hard on cash after investing and all. Was thinking we're looking at the issue logically. Don't tell me you feel a woman is entitled to a man's money once she allows him access to her thighs. 1 Like |
Re: as by Nobody: 3:29pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
crackhaus:Because you guys has made money the sole focus! CrackHaus, can u have fun comfortably with your lady without using money to be in control? Money gives you guys power to massage your egos. It may be hard to believe but some of us see beyond throwing money at our feet. Any man that start throwing money around is hiding something.That's the first sign of a controlling man Babes hardly know how to read characters. Money and what money can buy makes them live in fantasy land. 1 Like |
Re: as by Nobody: 3:32pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
Blackmiserable:Seen what exactly |
Re: as by Nobody: 3:34pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
bukatyne:Oh dear, we have a very long way to go. Heaven helps those who help themselves. I don't know if its because we have poor living standard so it has robbed on us negatively. Ask a babe what she loves about her man, she will tell you he spends on her. As if sugar daddies don't spend on their small girls. 3 Likes |
Re: as by Preshy561(f): 3:35pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
AFONAMARO:He wants to quit the relationship cos the lady showed him her true colour; that's what I'm talking about. @emboldened, why bring this up? And yes, that's if he felt entitled to her thighs. |
Re: as by AFONAMARO: 3:54pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
Op, you did well by calling off her intended visit to your family. You need to understand if you she is getting married to your resources or your person. The character displayed appears like one who will bolt on you when your resources goes down for any reason. Years ago, was with this chick that I was there for and all. Treated her right and made her feel loved 100%. I am of the school of thought that a woman you share your joy and sorrow with, deserves to be treated exceptionally. So this propelled me to be doing the following for her: 1. I subscribed her cable and data monthly. 2. I ensure she feed fine by buying bulk food stuff for her. 3. Bought 20 litters of fuel for her once it runs out. 4. Bought her gifts almost every month. 5. Take her out almost every weekend 6. Gave her quite a reasonable sum every month just to support and make her feel loved. 7. I comtnuted 80% of her rent then. Then the evil spirit whispered to her that she worth more. She told me one day during an argument that she feel she was at the buttom of my budgeting, that I am not reaching out as much as she would want me to. I politely asked her what she meant, she said she needs monthly allowance from me not minding the aforementioned sacrifices from my end. I told her that she wasn't my staff, and that I do not work for her either, so I will not be paying her any dime. She's still single at the moment, and said I cursed her just because I told her she will keep going in circles unless she changes her over sense of entitlement attitude. Our women need to understand that relationship is not poverty alleviation scheme. Do not go looking for a man who will carry all your family issues on his head like Gala, but get you a man who will not allow your carry your burden alone. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
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