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sassysure:
Because you guys has made money the sole focus!

CrackHaus, can u have fun comfortably with your lady without using money to be in control?
Money gives you guys power to massage your egos.
It may be hard to believe but some of us see beyond throwing money at our feet.

Any man that start throwing money around is hiding something.That's the first sign of a controlling man
Babes hardly know how to read characters. Money and what money can buy makes them live in fantasy land.

Preshy561:
He wants to quit the relationship cos the lady showed him her true colour; that's what I'm talking about.
@emboldened, why bring this up? And yes, that's if he felt entitled to her thighs.

crackhaus:
Is there any negative habit/character exhibited by women that was not caused by men?

The answer to the question in the your second paragraph is ABSOLUTELY

Meanwhile, please answer my own above

AFONAMARO:
And shouldn't he bolt when it's obvious she's all for the natural resources.
She even warned that he keeps his change untill its meaningful.

Uwa nmebi!

AFONAMARO:
This ain't about pretence, but a lady seeing a man as her money bag.

You obviously read were he said he's been giving her some cash whenever she visits, but explained to her this one time about being hard on cash after investing and all.

Was thinking we're looking at the issue logically. Don't tell me you feel a woman is entitled to a man's money once she allows him access to her thighs.

Preshy561:
I hate it when you guys misspell Igbo language.

Like bringing "m and n" together. This thing doesnt exist in Igbo language.

Its mmebi, mma, mmiri etc
And not nmebi, nma, nmiri.
Thanks for understanding.

Preshy561:
I hate it when you guys misspell Igbo language.

Like bringing "m and n" together. This thing doesnt exist in Igbo language.

Its mmebi, mma, mmiri etc
And not nmebi, nma, nmiri.
Thanks for understanding.

Preshy561:
I hate it when you guys misspell Igbo language.

Like bringing "m and n" together. This thing doesnt exist in Igbo language.

Its mmebi, mma, mmiri etc
And not nmebi, nma, nmiri.
Thanks for understanding.

sassysure:
Of course there are!

But why don't u preach what u claim u do?
Why are u guys always on about money.

AFONAMARO:
75% of ladies don't even care to know how you make the money or how much you have saved or invested, they just want the money to be spent on them

crackhaus:
You mean I should preach to guys to think only of love and affection?
Casanova is long dead and gone please...

I am always on about money because a man with money has solved almost all his problems in life. The idea is to make money for yourself as a man, and if the man already grew up in money, then he must make more of it. The intention here is not to gain control over women or to impress women, that's a big error because even good díck, a handsome face, and good packaging can impress women if the goal is just to fvck & dump...it's that easy.
The whole point really is to make money for himself, his own standing, his improved choices, his improved life, etc.

So when I say chase money and don't chase women, I don't mean it in such a way as to evoke the feeling that women are not important - as a matter of fact y'all are. However, money is 100% more important, no two ways about it.

AwkaetitiBabe:
True. So we should blame parents for not grooming their kids to be self reliant

AwkaetitiBabe:
Seen what exactly

sassysure:
Of course,money is very vital. I chase money before tying the knot too and is still chasing it.
But what I'm trying to make u see is that to most women like me, it's a huge turn off.
I'm not going to brag about it but it's very easy to cross out men that push through with money to me and my babes. U have heard of a babe collecting money from Mr A to set Mr B up. When we jist, that's when I study your character, the way u drive and the words that comes out from your mouth when u are driving( yes, Nigerian roads are a test of character), when we go on a date, so many things.
I look beyond money. How are we gonna exist when money odds are against us. Shit happens. It makes u guys seems like Lord and saviour and gives that sense of entitlement which stifles relationships.

Look at the op, he is surprised his lady acted otherwise.
I wonder why when he has been feeding her sense with "I am more than equal to the task" mentality. Now she has reacted, he is crying.

If a woman is always after your money, run for your dear life. She loves the illusion not u. Take away that money and u will see her true colour but you guys won't dare.

I always suspect men that come with money as they are after my pant not me. I may be wrong though.

AFONAMARO:
Ndewo onye nkuzi anyi

Sweetheart666:
So many stuupid and senseless broke asss guys on this thread trying to form Supermen. Relationship is a two way thing,just as we got two hands to support ourselves,a tree cannot make a forest,many marriages pack up today because of this silly mentality that a man must provide for the family instead of both couples coming together to build up your financial lives... remember kids are coming in,if u two don't work together to balance the equation,how will the relationship/marriage survive when you have kids and more expenses,?? Reason why some ladies divorce/sleep around in marriages when oga Superman becomes former rich man and can't provide.. relationship wey go lead to marriage,na d first 3months Dem dey know am if u be person wey dey reason fast.

Godoverevery:
Hi guys ....so D's happened to me over last weekend and I have completely changed towards my wife to be....
my fiancee came to see me over last weekend...Wen she was leaving very early Monday morning....I gave a thousand naira as tfare I saw d look on face change but I felt maybe she thinking I shouldn't av given anything since I wasn't dat cash up but to my amazement dat evening she actually told me she was disappointed with wat I gave her dat she was embarrassed dat it was too small .....I was really shocked and angry cos D's someone dat comes and I give 5k sometimes for tfare(her actual tfare from her place to and fro is actually less Dan 1k)...so during the chat I told her she knows I just invested heavily in a business I run as side hustle and am not dat cash up but she replied maybe I shouldn't give her money henceforth until am financially stable back...it was my first time of giving her 1k and she complained.
ds someone dat has a pretty good job.....till now I av completely changed towards her.
Trust me she is a good lady but D's incident made me really angry infact she was meant to come to my parent side for Xmas party but I have told her she can't come anymore.

coming from my previous relationship dat was a big mess I don't want to have another big issh again.
I just need honest advise on how to go about ds...thanks

Blackmiserable:
I have not seen the chicken. Didn't you read my previous comment?

jeff1607:
in my opinion I won't totally give all the blame to parents. When a child gets to a certain age ,I believe there are things the person should by intuition ought to know what behavior is good or bad.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Did I accept to give u chicken? What about your saving all through d year?

sassysure:
Oh dear, we have a very long way to go.
Heaven helps those who help themselves.

I don't know if its because we have poor living standard so it has robbed on us negatively.

Ask a babe what she loves about her man, she will tell you he spends on her. As if sugar daddies don't spend on their small girls.

Preshy561:
He wants to quit the relationship cos the lady showed him her true colour; that's what I'm talking about.
@emboldened, why bring this up? And yes, that's if he felt entitled to her thighs.

Godoverevery:
Hi guys ....so D's happened to me over last weekend and I have completely changed towards my wife to be....
my fiancee came to see me over last weekend...Wen she was leaving very early Monday morning....I gave a thousand naira as tfare I saw d look on face change but I felt maybe she thinking I shouldn't av given anything since I wasn't dat cash up but to my amazement dat evening she actually told me she was disappointed with wat I gave her dat she was embarrassed dat it was too small .....I was really shocked and angry cos D's someone dat comes and I give 5k sometimes for tfare(her actual tfare from her place to and fro is actually less Dan 1k)...so during the chat I told her she knows I just invested heavily in a business I run as side hustle and am not dat cash up but she replied maybe I shouldn't give her money henceforth until am financially stable back...it was my first time of giving her 1k and she complained.
ds someone dat has a pretty good job.....till now I av completely changed towards her.
Trust me she is a good lady but D's incident made me really angry infact she was meant to come to my parent side for Xmas party but I have told her she can't come anymore.

coming from my previous relationship dat was a big mess I don't want to have another big issh again.
I just need honest advise on how to go about ds...thanks

crackhaus:
Yea the OP gave her the idea and started out as a superman, but then again, is the girl a child?
You really can't blame the guy because it's very possible that giving her fares was one of the ways he knew how to show affection. Not every guy who spends cash on women or buys gifts, is doing it because they have an agenda to impress or control. Some just see it as a way to show affection, which is where a woman with brain comes in - and honestly, women wey get brain are not in abundance as long as money is involved.

Even if in the woman's opinion, a man used his money to impress her, what stops her from having her own sense to refuse the gesture? Is it not witchcraft to continue enjoying the money when she knows deep down that she feels nothing for the guy?

You can't say that because men put money as the sole focus, then this is enough justification for women to continue eating it. That is gluttony.

And my dear, forget that talk about how you always suspect that men who show up with money are only after your pant. Even some who show up with the kind of love, romance, and affection you can only see in soap-operas, are only after pant also - playboys don't need money trips to catch fish.

bukatyne:
[s]Only prostitutes exchange sex for money.

It doesn't matter if they are private or public[/s].

jesmond3945:
does she work?

sassysure:
So u are now blaming the girl?
Free money is an addiction e.g. our politicians and why do they steal and continue stealing. Because it gives them control and power. It's the same. Pls don't twist it.

Read some of my submissions again.
I never said money shouldn't be involved but don't be a superman with it like you rightly said.

I'm a woman and I can boldly say that a man that comes shoving money into your face sees you as a commodity he has paid for. Chop until he is tired and off he goes.
Just a transaction, simple.
Of course like I said earlier, you spend money on your lady the right way, not like she is handicap and can't survive without you.

By the way, how can shoving money on my face be the only way u show love?
Common, it boils down to my first comment. Men that lack substance and have low self esteem cover up with that. A guy that can't engage a babe without throwing money around is a coward.
Why are u even doubting me?
Are u a babe?

U may be able to navigate your way around babes smoothly but most of your bros can't so they buy u off with money. And with that comes that sense of entitlement, I'm the man and I can do as I want as long as I give her money.
Abeg, una wahala too much. We will survive las las

Godoverevery:
yes bro..... D's someone who told me money can never be a probs in our relationship cos she is an independent woman bla bla.... just once I came off short d money i give her....she just complained heavily didn't even wait till second time.
most of them are the same both the working class and non working they just feel u are responsible for them.... although she has apologised and av been remorseful about it cos i blasted her back dat day but I have changed completely towards her.....D's word was way out of line to me"maybe I shouldn't give her any money until am financially balance back"...where is the contentment and that was a proud statement.