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Madlov3:
I broke up with my EX some 2 weeks ago, But I feel like sharing my story with y’all guys so y’all will learn and be careful especially with Nigerian girls.
So i dated this girl for roughly 1 year and 10months. She appeared as a wife material but i never knew she was a devil incarnate.
Am a young guy living very well, own a nice ride and have my own apartment and work in a very noble profession. Am relocating to Canada very soon and my plan was to get married to her before traveling abroad then send for her after settling down.
There was this guy in her former lodge I was always warning her about. According to her they were just friends but my instinct wasn’t comfortable with him.
Before now, say like 7months into the relationship, I bumped into her whatsapp messages and i read her chat with a guy where they were discussing different sex positions and our sex life.
I drew her attention to it and she cried all night begging me for forgiveness. I told her point blank that i forgave her because it was only whatsapp chat and there was NO SEX Involved and i would never have accept her back if Sex was involved Because i met her as a virgin.

Fast forward to few weeks ago, I discovered from my sources that she was actually having Sex with the guy in her lodge i warned her about.
I Initially confronted her but she denied but after showing her sufficient evidences, she confessed it was true because she knew i was already well informed and she said they had sex multiple times.

I asked her what i did wrong to her! According to her, she said this particular guy “Tries Childish stuffs with her and am too matured! Am senior to her with over 5years so am too matured to relate childish things with her. I asked her if that was a ticket to open her legs for the guy she said she actually did what she did because SHE WANTED TO KNOW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TO HAVE SEX WITH ANOTHER GUY.
Honestly i felt disrespected and betrayed. This was someone that I was planning to get married to in 2020 and take to Canada o!
She begged and begged and begged but i told her i will never accept her back even though i forgave her, i just can’t accept her back again.

I will be relocating to Canada in 2020 so i have officially closed my door against Nigerian Girls! I know there are good ppl and bad ppl everywhere but i want to open my mind now to other persons. To Canadians, Americans, Britons etc.
I used to have this mentality that an African man is not complete if he doesn’t marry an African woman but hey, that has changed now! Am now open to love from any continent.
My deal breaker in any relationship is Cheating! We can work other things out but you see cheating?? NO NO NO

So my fellow Guys shine your eyes o! That soft spoken and calm looking wife material girl may not be what she seems to be. She may jus be a devil incarnate

IHate9jerianss:
Well some people are actually into that kind of stuff.There is even a great documentary about one of the popular videos in that subgenre of porn.The link is provided below but be warned,there are what can be considered by many as highly disturbing scenes in it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=On3FWiiC7vU&t=2562s

Moralgladiator:
Nigerian women are really trashy. I have also given up on any possibility of marriage with them.

lilmax:
Before now, say like 7months into the relationship, I bumped into her whatsapp messages and i read her chat with a guy where they were discussing different sex positions and our sex life.
I drew her attention to it and she cried all night begging me for forgiveness. I told her point blank that i forgave her because it was only whatsapp chat and there was NO SEX Involved


This is how stupid Nigerian guys are


They will always tolerate nonsense, even when they know the product of it.


The idiot said he forgave her because it's only WhatsApp

victorian:
Point of correction : it's your babe that's trashy! Not Nigerian women.
Because your babe cheated on you, doesn't mean all women are the same. Even the white women is really counting on not to cheat on you, will still cheat! Haven't you watched cheaters in dstv? You think it's only Nigerian women that cheats?
See you! White women cheat as well with no apologies.

So better get your act together and pray for your own God given wife, she can come for anywhere in the world.

If with my bitter experience with some unfortunate exes in my past, do u think I will now create a thread and say all men are scum?

Yea initially I wanted to dump Nigeria , dump Nigerian men, and relocate abroad, and settle with a white man but the more I try, the more I couldn't even get my visa approved. I had no choice but to stay back.

Me, that want to cut off from everyone and including my roots. Is now deeply in love with a guy from my roots. I have vowed before I will never date or marry a delta man. But hey! Here I am, back to my roots with a Nigerian and a delta guy.

So deal with your heart break , lick your wounds in peace, travel to Canada but don't u dare say all Nigerian women are trash!

Cause u are trash yourself in dating and sleeping with a trash called gf.

Ishilove:
Nigga puhleeze. You just registered two days ago. You think I don't know who is behind this moniker? Smh

Quit the generalisation. Nuf said.

Madlov3:
like seriously?? She wasn’t married to me yet so she’s a free bird? Ppl like you are ppl that go ahead with wanting to sleep with a lady even after telling you she has a boyfriend. Smh

Moralgladiator:
I hereby rest my case. How does registering 2days ago amount to lying? You are obviously confusing me with someone else.

EgunMogaji2:
Wait, you mean folks shouldn’t be sleeping with single girls that claim they have a boyfriend?

Something new learnt.

rs172:
Go and retrieve your brain from Buhari

Trex4:
But the thing is we were very close to the fact that people thought we were dating.... And also she went with me to our dinner night.....

praz001:
The main reason why guys will continue falling victims. If she claim to have a boyfriend, there are many fishes in the sea....

And to the Op, you disvidisvirgined her, you must marry her.. No excuse.....

No pre marital sex, no heart breaks.....

beatmonster:
I know you will be on this thread lol

How far sweet heart? Long time oh

victorian:


I have to be here o!

How dare he calls all Nigerian women trash!

That's rubbish! If he's so heartbroken let him solve his heartbreak quietly not coming on public forum to make a mockery of himself.


Anyways I'm fine dear. How are u too?

JONNYSPUTE:
.. We can only try but can't force it down their throat.Can you imagine somebody opening a thread that his wife has been refusing him sex and he doesn't have the balls to put a stop to it? He comes here nagging. Has he not being following all those teachings or he is just stupid? And he expect me to admonish the wife whereas he is the problem.Like I told you earlier,I don tire for their constant complains here.

Madlov3:
like seriously?? She wasn’t married to me yet so she’s a free bird? Ppl like you are ppl that go ahead with wanting to sleep with a lady even after telling you she has a boyfriend. Smh

Martinez39:
How can two youth corpers be dating yet the boy is deducting from his allowance to give to his girlfriend as monthly upkeep even though both are getting allowance? What sort of mental retardation is that?

Martinez39:
As in you hear things like :
1) "I caught my girlfriend cheating, what should I do?"
2) "How do I get my ex back?"
3) "I asked her out, she said NO. I am down, what should I do?"
4) "my wife won't have sex with me, want should I do?"
5) "I scolded my girlfriend/wife for doing something bad, did I over do it? Did I do something wrong?"

And many more nonsense. Some will be in a relationship, they are not benefiting anything from the girl (not even sex) yet they are spending on her because "it is what men are supposed to do". How can two youth corpers be dating yet the boy is deducting from his allowance to give to his girlfriend as monthly upkeep even though both are getting allowance? What sort of mental retardation is that? Some, after being dumped by their ex, still give their ex money when the she is stranded financially. There are hosts of other stupidity I could list out.

Though I am not against them bringing their stories to nairaland because they can get help and we can see the extent of the cruelty of female manipulation when a man, by becoming a doormat and fool, gives them boundless opportunities to manipulate. However, it is sad that this is what men have become. I ask myself, how do these men effectively lead their homes when they get married? How can these men be the leaders of tomorrow if they are this weak? Imagine someone feeling proud that he is a "real man" because he is a woman's ATM. I don tire.

EgunMogaji2:
Wait, you mean folks shouldn’t be sleeping with single girls that claim they have a boyfriend?

Something new learnt.

CAPSLOCKED:
BROS. I DON TIRE.

CAPSLOCKED:
BROS. I DON TIRE.

victorian:
[s]Point of correction : it's your babe that's trashy! Not Nigerian women.
Because your babe cheated on you, doesn't mean all women are the same. Even the white women is really counting on not to cheat on you, will still cheat! Haven't you watched cheaters in dstv? You think it's only Nigerian women that cheats?
See you! White women cheat as well with no apologies.

So better get your act together and pray for your own God given wife, she can come for anywhere in the world.

If with my bitter experience with some unfortunate exes in my past, do u think I will now create a thread and say all men are scum?

Yea initially I wanted to dump Nigeria , dump Nigerian men, and relocate abroad, and settle with a white man but the more I try, the more I couldn't even get my visa approved. I had no choice but to stay back.

Me, that want to cut off from everyone and including my roots. Is now deeply in love with a guy from my roots. I have vowed before I will never date or marry a delta man. But hey! Here I am, back to my roots with a Nigerian and a delta guy.

So deal with your heart break , lick your wounds in peace, travel to Canada but don't u dare say all Nigerian women are trash!

Cause u are trash yourself in dating and sleeping with a trash called gf.[/s]

Madlov3:
I broke up with my EX some 2 weeks ago, But I feel like sharing my story with y’all guys so y’all will learn and be careful especially with Nigerian girls.
So i dated this girl for roughly 1 year and 10months. She appeared as a wife material but i never knew she was a devil incarnate.
Am a young guy living very well, own a nice ride and have my own apartment and work in a very noble profession. Am relocating to Canada very soon and my plan was to get married to her before traveling abroad then send for her after settling down.
There was this guy in her former lodge I was always warning her about. According to her they were just friends but my instinct wasn’t comfortable with him.
Before now, say like 7months into the relationship, I bumped into her whatsapp messages and i read her chat with a guy where they were discussing different sex positions and our sex life.
I drew her attention to it and she cried all night begging me for forgiveness. I told her point blank that i forgave her because it was only whatsapp chat and there was NO SEX Involved and i would never have accept her back if Sex was involved Because i met her as a virgin.

Fast forward to few weeks ago, I discovered from my sources that she was actually having Sex with the guy in her lodge i warned her about.
I Initially confronted her but she denied but after showing her sufficient evidences, she confessed it was true because she knew i was already well informed and she said they had sex multiple times.

I asked her what i did wrong to her! According to her, she said this particular guy “Tries Childish stuffs with her and am too matured! Am senior to her with over 5years so am too matured to relate childish things with her. I asked her if that was a ticket to open her legs for the guy she said she actually did what she did because SHE WANTED TO KNOW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TO HAVE SEX WITH ANOTHER GUY.
Honestly i felt disrespected and betrayed. This was someone that I was planning to get married to in 2020 and take to Canada o!
She begged and begged and begged but i told her i will never accept her back even though i forgave her, i just can’t accept her back again.

I will be relocating to Canada in 2020 so i have officially closed my door against Nigerian Girls! I know there are good ppl and bad ppl everywhere but i want to open my mind now to other persons. To Canadians, Americans, Britons etc.
I used to have this mentality that an African man is not complete if he doesn’t marry an African woman but hey, that has changed now! Am now open to love from any continent.
My deal breaker in any relationship is Cheating! We can work other things out but you see cheating?? NO NO NO

So my fellow Guys shine your eyes o! That soft spoken and calm looking wife material girl may not be what she seems to be. She may jus be a devil incarnate

Preshy561:
Nope.

Thanks

Martinez39:
As in you hear things like :
1) "I caught my girlfriend cheating, what should I do?"
2) "How do I get my ex back?"
3) "I asked her out, she said NO. I am down, what should I do?"
4) "my wife won't have sex with me, want should I do?"
5) "I scolded my girlfriend/wife for doing something bad, did I over do it? Did I do something wrong?"

And many more nonsense. Some will be in a relationship, they are not benefiting anything from the girl (not even sex) yet they are spending on her because "it is what men are supposed to do". How can two youth corpers be dating yet the boy is deducting from his allowance to give to his girlfriend as monthly upkeep even though both are getting allowance? What sort of mental retardation is that? Some, after being dumped by their ex, still give their ex money when the she is stranded financially. There are hosts of other stupidity I could list out.

Though I am not against them bringing their stories to nairaland because they can get help and we can see the extent of the cruelty of female manipulation when a man, by becoming a doormat and fool, gives them boundless opportunities to manipulate. However, it is sad that this is what men have become. I ask myself, how do these men effectively lead their homes when they get married? How can these men be the leaders of tomorrow if they are this weak? Imagine someone feeling proud that he is a "real man" because he is a woman's ATM. I don tire.

uruba23:
Don't take this as an insult ,but if you want to play the moral game you should have waited before marriage to divide her red sea. More so you noticed tendencies you didn't address it properly,worst of is to think sex is the basis of the relationship. Tell me apart from sex and the fact you meant her as a virgin are there no other qualities you cherish.. Anyway congratulations at least you don chop clean mouth, and you do be expecting someone else to start where you finish... Well your life your decision and her body she isn't married to you yet,so technically she is a free bird.

mablie:
-There has been a lack of masculine role models in the daily lives of Nigerian males in the last 3 decades hence the confusion we see amongst males on what it entails to be a man today.
-The popularity of Nigerian pop music,nollywood movies even the Nigerian comedies Nigerian men consume is filled with women worshippers and women worshipping themes.Western entertainment is a worse form of cancer.
-The mother worshipping which is prevalent amongst Nigerian men (and which they carry like a badge of honour)is another issue Nigerian males have got to do away with because it indirectly leads to woman worship.

There are other issues to contend with but the lack of masculine role models is the main one.It's also a major issue in many societies and communities around the world