Madlov3: I broke up with my EX some 2 weeks ago, But I feel like sharing my story with y’all guys so y’all will learn and be careful especially with Nigerian girls. So i dated this girl for roughly 1 year and 10months. She appeared as a wife material but i never knew she was a devil incarnate. Am a young guy living very well, own a nice ride and have my own apartment and work in a very noble profession. Am relocating to Canada very soon and my plan was to get married to her before traveling abroad then send for her after settling down. There was this guy in her former lodge I was always warning her about. According to her they were just friends but my instinct wasn’t comfortable with him. Before now, say like 7months into the relationship, I bumped into her whatsapp messages and i read her chat with a guy where they were discussing different sex positions and our sex life. I drew her attention to it and she cried all night begging me for forgiveness. I told her point blank that i forgave her because it was only whatsapp chat and there was NO SEX Involved and i would never have accept her back if Sex was involved Because i met her as a virgin.
Fast forward to few weeks ago, I discovered from my sources that she was actually having Sex with the guy in her lodge i warned her about. I Initially confronted her but she denied but after showing her sufficient evidences, she confessed it was true because she knew i was already well informed and she said they had sex multiple times.
I asked her what i did wrong to her! According to her, she said this particular guy “Tries Childish stuffs with her and am too matured! Am senior to her with over 5years so am too matured to relate childish things with her. I asked her if that was a ticket to open her legs for the guy she said she actually did what she did because SHE WANTED TO KNOW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TO HAVE SEX WITH ANOTHER GUY. Honestly i felt disrespected and betrayed. This was someone that I was planning to get married to in 2020 and take to Canada o! She begged and begged and begged but i told her i will never accept her back even though i forgave her, i just can’t accept her back again.
I will be relocating to Canada in 2020 so i have officially closed my door against Nigerian Girls! I know there are good ppl and bad ppl everywhere but i want to open my mind now to other persons. To Canadians, Americans, Britons etc. I used to have this mentality that an African man is not complete if he doesn’t marry an African woman but hey, that has changed now! Am now open to love from any continent. My deal breaker in any relationship is Cheating! We can work other things out but you see cheating?? NO NO NO
So my fellow Guys shine your eyes o! That soft spoken and calm looking wife material girl may not be what she seems to be. She may jus be a devil incarnate
Whatsapp bro.. Sorry abt the whole drama.. Please im on this canny route too for 2020 can we link up?
IHate9jerianss: Well some people are actually into that kind of stuff.There is even a great documentary about one of the popular videos in that subgenre of porn.The link is provided below but be warned,there are what can be considered by many as highly disturbing scenes in it.
Moralgladiator: Nigerian women are really trashy. I have also given up on any possibility of marriage with them.
Point of correction : it's your babe that's trashy! Not Nigerian women. Because your babe cheated on you, doesn't mean all women are the same. Even the white women you are even counting on , not to cheat on you, will still cheat! Haven't you watched cheaters in dstv? You think it's only Nigerian women that cheats? See you! White women cheat as well with no apologies. And they will tell you to your face it's over, while they run after the new guy they cheated on you with, saying baby its you I want honey, let's get the fucvk outta here, he's nuts! And I'm done with him. How dare he do this to us? It's over!!!
So better get your act together and pray for your own God given wife, she can come for anywhere in the world.
If with my bitter experience with some unfortunate exes in my past, do u think I will now create a thread and say all men are scum?
Yea initially I wanted to dump Nigeria , dump Nigerian men, and relocate abroad, and settle with a white man but the more I try, the more I couldn't even get my visa approved. I had no choice but to stay back.
Me, that want to cut off from everyone and including my roots. Is now deeply in love with a guy from my roots. I have vowed before I will never date or marry a delta man. But hey! Here I am, back to my roots with a Nigerian and a delta guy.
So deal with your heart break , lick your wounds in peace, travel to Canada but don't u dare say all Nigerian women are trash!
Cause u are trash yourself in dating and sleeping with a trash called gf.
lilmax: Before now, say like 7months into the relationship, I bumped into her whatsapp messages and i read her chat with a guy where they were discussing different sex positions and our sex life. I drew her attention to it and she cried all night begging me for forgiveness. I told her point blank that i forgave her because it was only whatsapp chat and there was NO SEX Involved
This is how stupid Nigerian guys are
They will always tolerate nonsense, even when they know the product of it.
The idiot said he forgave her because it's only WhatsApp
Point of correction : it's your babe that's trashy! Not Nigerian women. Because your babe cheated on you, doesn't mean all women are the same. Even the white women is really counting on not to cheat on you, will still cheat! Haven't you watched cheaters in dstv? You think it's only Nigerian women that cheats? See you! White women cheat as well with no apologies.
So better get your act together and pray for your own God given wife, she can come for anywhere in the world.
If with my bitter experience with some unfortunate exes in my past, do u think I will now create a thread and say all men are scum?
Yea initially I wanted to dump Nigeria , dump Nigerian men, and relocate abroad, and settle with a white man but the more I try, the more I couldn't even get my visa approved. I had no choice but to stay back.
Me, that want to cut off from everyone and including my roots. Is now deeply in love with a guy from my roots. I have vowed before I will never date or marry a delta man. But hey! Here I am, back to my roots with a Nigerian and a delta guy.
So deal with your heart break , lick your wounds in peace, travel to Canada but don't u dare say all Nigerian women are trash!
Cause u are trash yourself in dating and sleeping with a trash called gf.
Madlov3: like seriously?? She wasn’t married to me yet so she’s a free bird? Ppl like you are ppl that go ahead with wanting to sleep with a lady even after telling you she has a boyfriend. Smh
Wait, you mean folks shouldn’t be sleeping with single girls that claim they have a boyfriend?
Oh...its paining you? Let it not pain you my dear because its a norm. Why? Now listen..
Before you condemn someone, be sure you yourself are 100% perfect. I'm not saying what she did was right but hey both of you are guilty cos you initiating and subscribing to sex before marriage already opens the door for such women to come your way. Any girl you ask to sleep with during dating or courtship and she doesn't kick against it, you shouldnt expect any better. The problem is most of you always rush the girls that open their legs for you and then you'll say aahhh...this one na Sorji babe, I'll marry her but look ignore some of us who say no sex in courtship. But then as she doesnt see anything wrong in giving you to test, that is how she'll not see anything wrong in giving another guy to test as you guys are a testing spree. Also as these days nobody sees anything wrong in premarital sex cos the rate at which every tom dick and Harry engages in it and have the boldness to come discussing it openly shows it has become a common thing and hence not regarded as sacred even among married people flirting. As long as you consent to premarital sex, those are the kind of girls you'll continue to meet. Like begat like. So why are you angry.
Keep yourself and You'll get yourself a decent woman.
HOW TO KNOW AND AVOID THEM
You dont need to tell them you dont want sex otherwise they'll pretend and play along. Just make sexual advances at her, you'll easily know those ones cos they'll not put up any resistance and will let you have them but the disciplined ones will say no. Even from your discussion with them you will know those that will allow you and other men to test. But men...una long throat nor go gree una get sense as you feel the one who give it to you is the best for you. Learn from your own lesson and zip up before you make the mistake of your life.
I dont pity you. I know its the mention of abstenance that is eating you up. Las las na people like you, after testing round will end with a test tube of a woman that will continue to teat other men to know "how it feels with other men". Since you guys met on that basis. Continue. A word is enough for the wise.
Trex4: But the thing is we were very close to the fact that people thought we were dating.... And also she went with me to our dinner night.....
Brah forget about that thing. She telling you she isn't ready the first time should have made you to back out and look for another girl. Simple. If you think I am lying, or I don't know what I am saying, go and get her, but you won't get her, if eventually you get her, you'd see that it was not worth the chase. Don't waste your time, it's not as if she's gold and would treat you right.
The main reason why guys will continue falling victims. If she claim to have a boyfriend, there are many fishes in the sea....
And to the Op, you disvidisvirgined her, you must marry her.. No excuse.....
No pre marital sex, no heart breaks.....
I don’t personally consider girlfriend a serious relationship. If you like her and want to remove her from the market then propose and put a ring on her finger.
Women, of age, with good things going for them should have many boyfriends and suitors. They then accept a marriage proposal and remove themselves from the market.
Bro, forget what happened and take her back. My instinct tells me you had wished somehow you were free, so you will have the opportunity to try other ladies abroad since you will be moving to Canada.
I am well traveled, overseas is overrated and doesn't seem the way many people portray it to those back home. You will understand this after you travel
JONNYSPUTE: .. We can only try but can't force it down their throat.Can you imagine somebody opening a thread that his wife has been refusing him sex and he doesn't have the balls to put a stop to it? He comes here nagging. Has he not being following all those teachings or he is just stupid? And he expect me to admonish the wife whereas he is the problem.Like I told you earlier,I don tire for their constant complains here.
As in you hear things like : 1) "I caught my girlfriend cheating, what should I do?" 2) "How do I get my ex back?" 3) "I asked her out, she said NO. I am down, what should I do?" 4) "my wife won't have sex with me, want should I do?" 5) "I scolded my girlfriend/wife for doing something bad, did I over do it? Did I do something wrong?"
And many more nonsense. Some will be in a relationship, they are not benefiting anything from the girl (not even sex) yet they are spending on her because "it is what men are supposed to do". How can two youth corpers be dating yet the boy is deducting from his allowance to give to his girlfriend as monthly upkeep even though both are getting allowance? What sort of mental retardation is that? Some, after being dumped by their ex, still give their ex money when the she is stranded financially. There are hosts of other stupidity I could list out.
Though I am not against them bringing their stories to nairaland because they can get help and we can see the extent of the cruelty of female manipulation when a man, by becoming a doormat and fool, gives them boundless opportunities to manipulate. However, it is sad that this is what men have become. I ask myself, how do these men effectively lead their homes when they get married? How can these men be the leaders of tomorrow if they are this weak? Imagine someone feeling proud that he is a "real man" because he is a woman's ATM. I don tire.
Madlov3: like seriously?? She wasn’t married to me yet so she’s a free bird? Ppl like you are ppl that go ahead with wanting to sleep with a lady even after telling you she has a boyfriend. Smh
that is just the bitter truth ,she is still free let her enjoy her young age many Nigerian relationships are just too toxic (no space, no freedom) Op dont take it too seriously let her explore and know there is nothing out there .That is why you see alot of married women cheating all over the place cause they dont even know when and where to set the boundaries .I have a friend that broke up with his ex girl cause he discovered she was cheating now he has a new babe and flaunts her everywhere i was so shocked when i met the new girl at my cousins place(she practically was begging not to let my friend know) so all these things sometimes it is not worth it ending your relationship cause of what she did in her past and all that .NA WHO THEM CATCH BE THIEF
Martinez39: How can two youth corpers be dating yet the boy is deducting from his allowance to give to his girlfriend as monthly upkeep even though both are getting allowance? What sort of mental retardation is that?
Martinez39: As in you hear things like : 1) "I caught my girlfriend cheating, what should I do?" 2) "How do I get my ex back?" 3) "I asked her out, she said NO. I am down, what should I do?" 4) "my wife won't have sex with me, want should I do?" 5) "I scolded my girlfriend/wife for doing something bad, did I over do it? Did I do something wrong?"
And many more nonsense. Some will be in a relationship, they are not benefiting anything from the girl (not even sex) yet they are spending on her because "it is what men are supposed to do". How can two youth corpers be dating yet the boy is deducting from his allowance to give to his girlfriend as monthly upkeep even though both are getting allowance? What sort of mental retardation is that? Some, after being dumped by their ex, still give their ex money when the she is stranded financially. There are hosts of other stupidity I could list out.
Though I am not against them bringing their stories to nairaland because they can get help and we can see the extent of the cruelty of female manipulation when a man, by becoming a doormat and fool, gives them boundless opportunities to manipulate. However, it is sad that this is what men have become. I ask myself, how do these men effectively lead their homes when they get married? How can these men be the leaders of tomorrow if they are this weak? Imagine someone feeling proud that he is a "real man" because he is a woman's ATM. I don tire.
I tell you women are really winning Niggas feel because they have numerous girlfriends they think they are winning when they are the ones who are really loosing giving the dicks and the money, and endangering thier lives to make we women happy
Your definition of wife material is wrong. How can a wife material be discussing sex positions with another man when she is already in a relationship. That alone is enough to call it quits in that relationship. You are also to blame.
[s]Point of correction : it's your babe that's trashy! Not Nigerian women. Because your babe cheated on you, doesn't mean all women are the same. Even the white women is really counting on not to cheat on you, will still cheat! Haven't you watched cheaters in dstv? You think it's only Nigerian women that cheats? See you! White women cheat as well with no apologies.
So better get your act together and pray for your own God given wife, she can come for anywhere in the world.
If with my bitter experience with some unfortunate exes in my past, do u think I will now create a thread and say all men are scum?
Yea initially I wanted to dump Nigeria , dump Nigerian men, and relocate abroad, and settle with a white man but the more I try, the more I couldn't even get my visa approved. I had no choice but to stay back.
Me, that want to cut off from everyone and including my roots. Is now deeply in love with a guy from my roots. I have vowed before I will never date or marry a delta man. But hey! Here I am, back to my roots with a Nigerian and a delta guy.
So deal with your heart break , lick your wounds in peace, travel to Canada but don't u dare say all Nigerian women are trash!
Cause u are trash yourself in dating and sleeping with a trash called gf.[/s]
Madlov3: I broke up with my EX some 2 weeks ago, But I feel like sharing my story with y’all guys so y’all will learn and be careful especially with Nigerian girls. So i dated this girl for roughly 1 year and 10months. She appeared as a wife material but i never knew she was a devil incarnate. Am a young guy living very well, own a nice ride and have my own apartment and work in a very noble profession. Am relocating to Canada very soon and my plan was to get married to her before traveling abroad then send for her after settling down. There was this guy in her former lodge I was always warning her about. According to her they were just friends but my instinct wasn’t comfortable with him. Before now, say like 7months into the relationship, I bumped into her whatsapp messages and i read her chat with a guy where they were discussing different sex positions and our sex life. I drew her attention to it and she cried all night begging me for forgiveness. I told her point blank that i forgave her because it was only whatsapp chat and there was NO SEX Involved and i would never have accept her back if Sex was involved Because i met her as a virgin.
Fast forward to few weeks ago, I discovered from my sources that she was actually having Sex with the guy in her lodge i warned her about. I Initially confronted her but she denied but after showing her sufficient evidences, she confessed it was true because she knew i was already well informed and she said they had sex multiple times.
I asked her what i did wrong to her! According to her, she said this particular guy “Tries Childish stuffs with her and am too matured! Am senior to her with over 5years so am too matured to relate childish things with her. I asked her if that was a ticket to open her legs for the guy she said she actually did what she did because SHE WANTED TO KNOW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TO HAVE SEX WITH ANOTHER GUY. Honestly i felt disrespected and betrayed. This was someone that I was planning to get married to in 2020 and take to Canada o! She begged and begged and begged but i told her i will never accept her back even though i forgave her, i just can’t accept her back again.
I will be relocating to Canada in 2020 so i have officially closed my door against Nigerian Girls! I know there are good ppl and bad ppl everywhere but i want to open my mind now to other persons. To Canadians, Americans, Britons etc. I used to have this mentality that an African man is not complete if he doesn’t marry an African woman but hey, that has changed now! Am now open to love from any continent. My deal breaker in any relationship is Cheating! We can work other things out but you see cheating?? NO NO NO
So my fellow Guys shine your eyes o! That soft spoken and calm looking wife material girl may not be what she seems to be. She may jus be a devil incarnate
Your definition of wife material is wrong. How can a wife material be discussing sex positions with another man when she is already in a relationship. That alone is enough to call it quits in that relationship. You are also to blame.
Martinez39: As in you hear things like : 1) "I caught my girlfriend cheating, what should I do?" 2) "How do I get my ex back?" 3) "I asked her out, she said NO. I am down, what should I do?" 4) "my wife won't have sex with me, want should I do?" 5) "I scolded my girlfriend/wife for doing something bad, did I over do it? Did I do something wrong?"
And many more nonsense. Some will be in a relationship, they are not benefiting anything from the girl (not even sex) yet they are spending on her because "it is what men are supposed to do". How can two youth corpers be dating yet the boy is deducting from his allowance to give to his girlfriend as monthly upkeep even though both are getting allowance? What sort of mental retardation is that? Some, after being dumped by their ex, still give their ex money when the she is stranded financially. There are hosts of other stupidity I could list out.
Though I am not against them bringing their stories to nairaland because they can get help and we can see the extent of the cruelty of female manipulation when a man, by becoming a doormat and fool, gives them boundless opportunities to manipulate. However, it is sad that this is what men have become. I ask myself, how do these men effectively lead their homes when they get married? How can these men be the leaders of tomorrow if they are this weak? Imagine someone feeling proud that he is a "real man" because he is a woman's ATM. I don tire.
-There has been a lack of masculine role models in the daily lives of Nigerian males in the last 3 decades hence the confusion we see amongst males on what it entails to be a man today. -The popularity of Nigerian pop music,nollywood movies even the Nigerian comedies Nigerian men consume is filled with women worshippers and women worshipping themes.Western entertainment is a worse form of cancer. -The mother worshipping which is prevalent amongst Nigerian men (and which they carry like a badge of honour)is another issue Nigerian males have got to do away with because it indirectly leads to woman worship.
There are other issues to contend with but the lack of masculine role models is the main one.It's also a major issue in many societies and communities around the world
With 15 likes on this comment it shows how doomed the next generation is, so any single girl can fucq around cos they ain't married.
uruba23: Don't take this as an insult ,but if you want to play the moral game you should have waited before marriage to divide her red sea. More so you noticed tendencies you didn't address it properly,worst of is to think sex is the basis of the relationship. Tell me apart from sex and the fact you meant her as a virgin are there no other qualities you cherish.. Anyway congratulations at least you don chop clean mouth, and you do be expecting someone else to start where you finish... Well your life your decision and her body she isn't married to you yet,so technically she is a free bird.
-There has been a lack of masculine role models in the daily lives of Nigerian males in the last 3 decades hence the confusion we see amongst males on what it entails to be a man today. -The popularity of Nigerian pop music,nollywood movies even the Nigerian comedies Nigerian men consume is filled with women worshippers and women worshipping themes.Western entertainment is a worse form of cancer. -The mother worshipping which is prevalent amongst Nigerian men (and which they carry like a badge of honour)is another issue Nigerian males have got to do away with because it indirectly leads to woman worship.
There are other issues to contend with but the lack of masculine role models is the main one.It's also a major issue in many societies and communities around the world
