LordAzubuike:

You're just insane for having the thought of throwing a gift away. Thats someone's sweat. Next time if you don't want, return it. I will hapilly collect my property back and give it to someone who needs it

Exactly ..it's insane to throw ones gift away..return if not in use

Charleys:
I have a small poultry,
My chicken had grown to an enormous size because I fed them well.

Come 24th of December. I sold some and decided to give some to my neighbour because I thought I will be a greedy person if I don't do so.

I felt something when I gave a particular neighbour. She accepted but the happiness wasn't genuine because I saw it in her eyes.

Fast forward to the afternoon, I suspected.

Later went to the dustbin to see my lovely chicken dead and thrown in the dustbin. My mind just told me.

At least she should have thrown it elsewhere not the general dustbin

The chicken that I would have sold for #7000 and make money from it.

Why didn't she kindly reject it, rather than take my Christmas chicken, kill and throw it into the dustbin.

Ooh, I am so angry right now.

I don't know what to do if I should confront her or I should just foam in anger just like that.

If I knew I would have sold it and take my girl out this Christmas,

you would have sold it 7k. You wanted to take your girl out with just 7k?

I have a similar experience years ago, was coming back from journey as all the children round me for oyoyo, I decide to give them some money collectively to go and buy some biscuits for them the share within them self, there was this my course mate wife and her children, she collected her children own and put it away inside dustbins, you could feel the pain that I was feeling that day.
But I come to understand that some people because of the bad life style that they live in, if anything that just happen they begin to feel that every body is bad as they are.
So please so long as your mind is clear on what you do just forget it and let it go.

Abeg me too I need person wey go give me gift o
...

That is too bad. She should've just gently rejected it if she didn't want it.

NuissancePolice:
Why would you think it wise to give someone a live chicken?

Nothing bad there

OgogoroFreak:
you would have sold it 7k. You wanted to take your girl out with just 7k?

Na your girl?

May be OP has exhibited some fetish behaviour in the past that makes her very suspicious of him or may be the person has not forgiven you from the last quarrel.

The person suspects you alot, he feels u are not clean, it calls for some worry, check yourself @op.

chigoizie7:
Confront her.

When next you see her and she greets you, accept the greetings and go like this.


Amaka:- neighbor good evening.

You:- good evening ooh. I saw what you did to the chicken, thank you ooh.


Do not say anything else.


Let her know that you knew what she did.

Do not cause quarrel with her.

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It is usually all those wrongly indoctrinated religious fools that behave like that. Because in their churches it is all about enemies this and enemies that. Sorry Op it is not your fault, she will still do the same to your other neighbours and even family. They are always living at the edge. Whatever you do don't Confront her or else she will start telling everyone that you poisoned the chicken so when you didn't see the effects of the poison, you started monitoring whether they have eaten the chicken or not.

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr

Lets see the pictures of the chicken

That is how you people will be gifting people birds and call it chicken

I suspect so too, may be an unhealthy one however, i wont rule out Nigeria factor where a Pastor had predicted that your neighbors will give you chicken...dont eat it.

I have decided to mind my business full time.. I no dey give anything again and i no dey expect anything either. Na only for joint i dey share beer with friends, outside joint, i am a very stingy man.

it's a pity that you felt hurt by her reaction just as everyone would likely be.
Just take it as one of those lessons of life and be more sensitive to your disposition to do good.

consider the following
1. Charity home is a general place for such.
2 Close friends in need will accept you n ur gifts
3. Asking someone before giving them is always cool even when led to give.

so just. smile and delete the pain from your emotion as u already earned yourself a credit with God.

cheers

Yes I can politely reject gifts. But there are people you can't reject their gifts, especially people who are close, but whom you know you cannot trust.

ogorwyne:

See talk o. You know you can politely reject gifts right?

If I were you, I will definitely bring it up with her but in a polite manner. It will be difficult to get it off your mind if you don't confront her. And that will be the last time I will offer her anything.
Personally, I don't like being offered food by neighbors but I will not accept it and turn around to dump it.
Instead I will politely decline. If the giver insists, I will collect and give it out.

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SirLakes:


Na your girl?

But you sef think am.

No wonder his neighbor throway the chicken them know am well. Stingy man like that come carry life chicken give you, it's suspicious na.

LegendaryLover:




Maybe she feels it'll look bad if she reject ur gift

Why didn’t she throw it far away?

uboma:



There is nothing wrong if you ask her why she thrashed your gift to her. It's better you have the discussion with her than bottle it up and hold grudges.

Exactly.

Charleys:
I have a small poultry,
My chicken had grown to an enormous size because I fed them well.

Come 24th of December. I sold some and decided to give some to my neighbour because I thought I will be a greedy person if I don't do so.

I felt something when I gave a particular neighbour. She accepted but the happiness wasn't genuine because I saw it in her eyes.

Fast forward to the afternoon, I suspected.

Later went to the dustbin to see my lovely chicken dead and thrown in the dustbin. My mind just told me.

At least she should have thrown it elsewhere not the general dustbin

The chicken that I would have sold for #7000 and make money from it.

Why didn't she kindly reject it, rather than take my Christmas chicken, kill and throw it into the dustbin.

Ooh, I am so angry right now.

I don't know what to do if I should confront her or I should just foam in anger just like that.

If I knew I would have sold it and take my girl out this Christmas,

U should av gone 2 her n explained y u gave her.. u should let her know that she can actually refuse 2 accept gifts politely rather than waste them.. let her know I could av gotten N7k for that lovely chicken..

OnyeEurope:
Not for the part of the country I came from

Really? You mean your people still go about on Christmas day, visiting and eating at neighbors' and relatives' houses?

Juliearth:






I can relate with this story of yours and I feel your pain. Trust me, God knows your heart and your reward is sure.

I've done such before o. Many years ago when I was still with my family, this woman that doesn't respond to greetings from any of us in the compound was always in the habit of bringing biscuits and food whenever she returns from a journey, or during Xmas. Everything always ended up in the dustbin.

You can't ignore greetings and scorn people, then offer us something to eat. Geddifork!

I'm not saying OP is bad o, I'm just saying sometimes it's the fear of your intentions that pushes people to do such.

OP please retrieve that chicken and do something to it.

lilwetdick:
are people crazy here in this forum

see stupid comments

how can someone throw a gift in the dustbin, that is rude and pure wickedness

pls avoid that woman by all means, do not greet or talk to any of her family

avoid her family, even if you see them dying, do not help them.

throwing a gift in the dustbin is pure wickedness, she doesnt mean good to you. she hate you.

Very childish comment

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tobicool:
"Okwa ndi ka ona eze" pls don't blame her too much. Just cease giving her gifts. But she would have packaged it and send to a orphanage Home along side a carton of indomie or tubbers of yam. She would even feel blessed doing so.
Very painful!

You need to work on your Igbo. I developed headache trying to figure out what you were really saying in Igbo.

OP...see as I Dey vex sef as I Dey read the story. For this kind economy na e person do that wicked act? Kai! Are You sure the woman hasn’t been throwing advances at you?

Just be calm when confronting her, but do, let her know u found out her wicked act.

LegendaryLover:
some years back, that's how a neighbor gave my aunt fried rice and meat on a christmas day. My aunt threw the food away. The neighbor later found it in the bin and took offence. Lol...
This is someone that the children will come to our house then and play with us ooo. But fear no allow my aunt eat the food.

OP no vex. I'm sure it's nothing personal. It's just the times we're living in.

Just learn say that one no dey accept gifts. Then next time don't give am, unless she change towards u.

food is different, this na life chicken, it's very easy to say no. Plenty excuses dey, why not release d chicken to d wild. U killed it nd put it inside dust bin, some countries will prosecute u for dat

OgogoroFreak:
you would have sold it 7k. You wanted to take your girl out with just 7k?

Ologogoro talking...do you expect him to take his girl out with millions?

mastermaestro:


Another angle to the story. But sincerely, was the op monitoring her to make sure she ate it? He needs to amend his ways.

Abi o...everyone is a suspect,biko!

Mac2016:

The woman in question is more angry than you could ever get and she's so bitter about something. I doubt if it is religion based!
My guesses: possibly your fowls where hosted within her proximity and they gave her a hellish time during their rearing period.. Foul fowl poop, odoriferous environment etc to mention little! She might have complained at a point to you before, most probably, and you felt unconcerned..
You completed the rearing and the poultry was successful.. And made you richer while she's poor (now she's thinks it is all at her expense/detriment). She could also not reject your gift to your face possibly cos you're an influential figure or a mouthed fellow (with some sort of community followers/supporters supporting you "unduly".. "Unduly" to her)
You have just two choices about her but don't make it messy.. Maybe to take steps to endear her or totally ignore her.. Don't accost her! My opinion tho

release d chicken to d wild den. it's better dat way, y kill an animal nd throw away?

RaptorX:
What would she think you would have done to a live chicken. I can understand cooked food but a bloody live chicken.

exactly if dey can do something to live chicken, then he can also do something to thier water or just hand contact sef

nairalee:
I smell lies.

Small poultry big enough to sell and remain enough to SHARE for neighbors

7000 chicken. How much is small goat?

I don't know what I'm seeing o. But it smells like lies

i sold a male turkey for 18k, no lies. nd I'm sure d sellers will sell fr 25k

pelicanbeau:


Ologogoro talking...do you expect him to take his girl out with millions?

No let me fvck you o. Abi, you go gree make I take you out with mere 7k?